Evening unsettled baby

Its normal for young babies to be unsettled in the evening. She is too young to expect her to self settle all the time. Forget the books and go with your instincts. Go pick her up give her a cuddle and offer her the boob.

i agree with the others, give her a cuddle n a feed, i found that E would want to feed 3x between 5pm and 8pm at that age, sometimes more. they definitely grow out of it, very frustrating at the time though. E was also in a routine of feed every 4 hours etc from coming out of the neonatal unit, but that went out the window a few weeks after when she hit the evening terrors! personally i never left E to cry at 1 month, i only found her cries started to get more recognisable after 6 weeks, but every baby is different. even when i knew it was a grizzle i would rarely leave her for more than 5 mins till she was older. they change so much, go with the flow, cuddle her and give her food as needed and she will change again as needed, great you know she can do a 5hour stint though, it will happen again! could also be a wee growth spurt?

Jacob was like that too. It seems to be really common for little babies to want to stay up late and be grumpy while they're at it. Jacob just slowly grew out of it, and now goes to bed at a very respectable 7pm (and has for a long time).

Give her as much cuddles and help to settle as you can if its too much get your partner to help.

thanks for everything. I have been doing this - as you say above, but my hubby works nights so Im home alone plus have a 19 month old.....so I do get dinner ready early, but when I bath, feed and put the 19 month old to sleep I have to let the newborn grizzle...
oh and a noisey baby at night - wow my DS was silent but my DD sleeps so grunty, snuffly, noisey - sound like Anna Kournikova playing tennis...Im going to have to sleep with her in the spare room so my hubby can get some sleep, she is too young I feel to put in a room on her own

my DS is 19 months and have self settled on and off, but only now he goes down everytime every sleep - if I need I have to shut the door, he cries for a few seconds then will hop into bed and sleep/rest. But with 2 under 1 1/2 I can rock/feed them both to sleep!! DD seems to be ok 90% of the time self settling at day sleeps just that grumpy grizzly stage at night, which would be fine if I had no other kid!!! ;-)

Must be tricky managing two like that at the same time, obviously i have no idea what thats like so my advice is a bit lame, but i'd second the suggestion of a moby wrap - you can breastfeed easily in them, so you could feed DD while dealing with DS and dinner etc.

I had a baby that was exactly the same, evenings were a nightmare. Mostly I'd just feed her up till she crashed out!I would definitely get some kind of baby carrier put her in so you can manage your toddler and get them to bed. Oddly DD was a very noisy baby too and went into her own room at 2 weeks so we could get some sleep.

She grew out of it though and now at 2 goes to bed like a dream at 7pm and normally sleeps 12 hours.

Am full expecting number two to do the same thing as well, will be surprised if they settle.

They take some time when they are this small to get into the night time routine. My son did the same for a month or two. Figure out what makes her settle and do that. My son was keen on soft music and his dummy. Worked a charm. And when it was time to give up both it was only 2 nights of crazy. Be kind to yourself and baby and read the books and take what works and discard what doesn't. Don't let anyone tell you do this or don't do that. Find what works for you, the time goes by so quickly and when baby is 2 you won't even remember it.

My son was 20 months when my daughter was born,and thats what I did (Bizzy's suggestion)just changed a few things to make life easier for myself.
Sometimes a bit of grizzling from one or the other,or both...or from me ,was unavoidable.
I do agree that she is too young to expect to self settle,shes only a month old,still getting used to the big wide world,she'll get there in the end,these early days the change their patterns like Auckland changes its weather