Is your’s a blended family?

Well I totally disagree, I have been with my current partner for 10 years, we started dating when DD1 was 6 - and had our first child together last year.

It can be done, I guess it depends on the guy and if you are both prepared to make it work - it is harder with children but not impossible.

well im sure you have heard my story before nathansmummy as im a regular in single parenting too but mines a good story with a happy ending When i was pregnant my boyfriend at the time and i broke up , he was not a nice person and cheated and basically ran away from me and bubs , all good tho , im stronger for it now! . when dd was just 4 months old i met my current dp and we have been together over a yr and a half and we are very very happy and very much inlove . my dd (who is now coming up 2 ) calls him a combination of daddy and sometimes calls him his name too as i dont want to force anything on her so have given her the choice . My dp also has a 6yr old daughter and we have shared custody of her and have her half the time so both our dd's are very close and act like sisters even tho biologicaly they are not . we are happy with our 2 and at this stage, we do not want anymore children (altho we are only 25&26 so may change in some years to come ) eventho we do not share a child together does not mean we love each other any less or treat our existing kids any different . Blending a family is very hard at times but it can definatly be done! dont let others tell you that you wont find a man or that you should wait until your child is older , in my case i think things worked out alot better that i met my dp when dd was so young as she does not know any different and in her eyes he is dad .

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Thanks Julz I needed that!! That's the kind of situation I would love and would be happy to not have any more children on the basis that I gain someone else's - ideally. I'd like a family for my little boy - he loves children, both older and younger.

DS1 was 21 months when I met current DP, hes 7.5 now, you do the maths lol... We now have 2 together as well as my one, and hes better at being a dad to my oldest than his bio dad is, I think it helped that it took a few years to have his own child, so he had that time to bond with DS1

My only advice would be to not introduce anyone to your toddler until you are both comfortable, but also make it clear to any guys that your child comes first.

It can definitely be done

I separated from DD1s father when she was 5 months old. I met my [now DH] when DD was 11 months old and we started dating when she was 16 months old. We are now happily married with another 2 little monsters , DD1 is 7.5

Keep your chin up hun, don't listen to the negativity. You will find an amazing partner

I just tried to post something to make you understand there are decent caring men out there! My husband is one of them, I had two children aged 3 & 5 when I meet him and he has taken them in as his own, he has raised them as their father for the past 6 years and now we have been married for 18months and have a child together.

Don't let anyone tell you that no one will want you, that's what my ex always use to say to me. You are a beautiful mum who will met the right man when they are ready to be your life

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We have a blended family and ours hasn't worked out so well, although in this situation I am the step parent. IT is a very hard job. There is lots of give and take in a blended family and often the childless person feels like they are compromising alot and that can cause issues.
Lots of happy step parent stories out there but also lots of not so good.
I think women with children may find it a bit easier than men, as I think it's "accepted" that women who have children put those children first and perhaps little interferring from the ex. Being "the new woman" has certainly had some very unplesant pitfalls as has being a parent figure to a child that isn't mine and one that I have no bond with.
A friend of mine who is a single Mum once asked me "how can I make *new boyf* fall in love with *my daughter* and love her, regardless of how she behaves.. as a step parent you must know"...and unfortunately thats the thing..as a parent you love your child unconditionally regardless of some of their less pleasant attributes, unfortunately those rose colored glasses aren't given out to steps...
That said it has its challenges but if you don't force them on each other and set the rules/boundries/expectations (for each of them) from early on things should be much easier. Its much easier if you are both reading off the same page IYGWIM?
Lots of men won't get involved with a mum with a child, and thats a shame, but at least they are being upfront, not letting you met them, like them then have them dump you because they can't be bothered with some one elses child.
Good luck!! There are plenty of good men out there!

I'm part of an extended blended family. My Dad re-married and so I've gained a brother and a sister, sister is married with 2 children cousins to my girl.
Brother's partner has 2 children from a previous relationship and one on the way.

My brother is divorced and about to get remarried he has 2 children to his ex-wife and his new wife has one of her own.

Families come in all shapes and sizes doesn't matter.

Dh and I are unusual in that we waited till we were married before having DD and neither of us have been married before or have children from previous relationships. It seems a very old fashioned way to be.

Babe,what was the poem your dad wrote to you about being his daughter?you posted it once and I always loved it

aww the kelly you almost made me cry in public what a lucky wee girl you have