Who am I..??

I don't know, it could be??

But I so hear you....I was like that after my first. I then watched a program with women in trackies & slippers going to the supermarket & I though eewwww & then realised that was me!!

I don't wear trackies, I only wear jeans, they make me feel a little more "Dressed up" I only put on jeans cause as much as I'd love to slouch around in trackies, I don't need to get changed if I want to go somewhere. My clothes don't represent who I am either but they look tidy.

My hair is always pulled back in a pony tail & I wear glasses...my skin was crap & I made no effort, still do some days. But I try to cleanse/tone/moisterise my face, only takes 2 mins & in doing that my face has cleared up. My hair is still back in a pony tail but I got a bit of a side fringe cut so it's not so plain. The other thing I do is put on waterproof mascara cause then I don't ahve to worry about panda eyes.

Don't get me started on my hairy legs! That's what trousers are for

So I'm a bit like you too.

Discover savemart...decent clothes at a decent price.

Hugs Hun...you are not alone

Oh and just to add - I really appreciate your honesty - hard to do even here on a forum!!

Same as High9, here. Although lately I've spent a bit of money on myself and I feel GREAT!!!! I'm only 21, so want to dress nicely. I've ended up buying skinny jeans which are quite tight but very comfortable, and long tops considering I can be up and down all day (playing with baby, changing, picking baby up, etc) and I wear a lot of dark clothes. I had to find something that was practical, comfy, and made me feel good- oh and easy to breastfeed in, what a MISSION!!!

I find spending 20min each morning to have a quick shower, do my hair (be it a nice ponytail, or straightened REALLY quickly), rub on some moisturiser, foundation eye liner and mascara and I feel heaps better for the day.

I live in jeans, singlet and hoody. I wear trackpants at home if I know I'm not going anywhere, but they're sporty ones, not the classic ones LOL I find jeans are good because you can dress them up or down, and there are some mega comfortable ones out there. I also take the time to have a shower in the morning when the girls have a sleep - 10 mins max, but it makes me feel "normal" again. If I'm going out, I'll chuck on some light foundation and eyeliner, if I'm not, I just moisturise. It takes me about 15 min max, including my shower and brushing of teeth. I have made sure I have done this every day since the girls were born, just to make me feel better about the day, and about myself (I shave my pits and legs in the shower as well).

As for shoes - I have jandals, but I also got some cheap casual shoes that were easy to put on and take off....mainly because it's winter, my feet were cold, and it doesn't matter if I'm wearing odd socks cos no one can see

Hey, thanks for such an honest post as I know it must be hard when your feeling so run down and tired.

Its good to feel great on the outside and I agree with the girls on going to savemart or something and getting some jeans that fit nicely (you can find some bargins there!) and some easy t-shirts and a cardi will make you feel a little less frumpy but still so comfy. The number 1 shoe warehouse has some great style shoes for so cheap as well, I think I just paid $20 for a pair of look a like converse chucks!

Finding a little time at the end of the day to do something for yourself is also a great idea, maybe when kids are in bed having a nice relaxing bath or painting your nails or just going to bed early and reading a good book.

Its also Important to feel good on the inside though and my suggestion would be to look in to taking some vitamin B6 or evening primrose (both are safe to take while BFing) just to help with your low moods.

I really hope you start to feel better soon but don't be too hard on yourself, you have three little ones to take care of and unfortunatly mum often takes the bottom of the cake

Q: Who am I?
A: An amazing mum!!!



As for if its depression, it possibly is, can you talk to a close friend? I know i needed the help of my best friend to seek professional help, & start to feel better about myself & everything I did etc.
Big hugs hun
Take care of urself. x

I know how you feel , i went through a bit of a stage recently like that , i didnt care what i wore when i went out, always in jandels and 3 1/4 trackie things with a singlet top (in summer) then a hoodie over top when it was cold , i do tend to go through these phases tho , phases where i dress nice and phases when i dont , before last month i had hardly any winter clothes but one of my friends (who spend hundreds on clothes every month) was cleaning out her closet so she gave me a whole lot of her dresses and well i have done nothing but dress up lately and it feels great! its pretty much my "uniform" these days to chuck on a black long sleeve top, black tights, boots and one of many dresses and it is just soooo comfortable! my boots were $35 from kmart , tights about $12 a pair  and tops about $10-$15 each so not too expensive and easy to change with a different dress , i have even started buying a few from glassons, cotton on etc and they dont cost too much ($50 max, sometimes pick up a bargain for $20) . i find that if i put nice clothes on then i feel that i have to chuck on some makeup and put a brush through my hair or else i look a bit weird in nice clothes and the rest a mess.

As for the depression side of things , have a chat to your dr , It may be depression but it might just be all the things happening in your life at the moment,  you have just had a bubba and have other children too and i can imagine its not that easy at the moment , your hormones will be all over the place and breatfeeding can take alot out of you , i know i felt a bit like a milking cow in the early days of breastfeding a newborn , sometimes it feels like they are on you all day long so i can imagine its not your main priority to be looking your best, but at the same time if you look in the mirror and like what you see , if you think you look smart and pretty then you may start to feel a bit better inside too . I personally know that if im out and about and see my reflection in a shop window and i look nice then i feel great inside too , if i walk past and look like something the cats dragged in then i slump down a bit, trying not to make eye contact with anyone and go and do what i need to as soon as i possibly can so i can get home and hibernate .

I think you are so brave to be honest about how you feel. I have felt like and sometimes still do feel exactly like you feel at the moment, it is kind of nice to know you are not the only one.
I suppose we tend to put ourselves last when we are mothers when in some ways it should be the other way around, if we don't look after ourselves we can't look after our families; kind of like on the plane when they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first before you help others. Gosh does that make sense or just sound morbid??

All the other posts have been so great and I actually feel a little inspired now myself.

If you are still wondering about PND then as others have said, speak to your mw or GP, it did me wonders when I spoke to my mw after Ben was born. Alternatively check out Mothers Matter, maybe even have a look at the Edinburgh test/questionnaire

I had terrible pnd. Since then I've been looking for ways to work on some of my issues with anxiety and calmness. I brought a book called buddhism for Mothers. (Am not religious, but the buddhist mothers I do know, seem beter at taking stuff in their stride.)


There's a great quote in there that talks about the changes we all go through...

"unnoticed, a non-earner, the epitome of everything I never wanted to be...I find that there are many gifts in this space of quiet pausing between who I was and who I will become".

I like it cause it reminds me that nothing is permanent and that sometime out the other side I'll come out a new and probably better person. On those yuck days I remind myself of this.

Thanks for your posts everyone.. I'm somewhat relieved to read that I'm not the only one feeling this way..

I do have to remember that I have an extremely busy life - my DD#1 is 2, my DS is 1 and then my DD#2 is only 6 weeks old. I guess I'm putting too much pressure on myself to be looking like miss wonderful.

I do still feel a bit down but had a great day yesterday of pulling out all my clothes that I own and disgarding anything with pulls or holes and putting together a huge bag of clothes to sell. I'll stick them on TM and then hopefully can buy myself some new threads.

I just booked in to have my hair cut - I will wait till Xmas time to have it coloured (to much $$) and that should help me feel a bit better.

I took your advice and had a shower this morning and got dressed straight away instead of mo-ping in PJ's and put basic makeup on and felt loads better - so this will be my new vice now.

I often preach a quote to people - and I love what you've all been quoting as well.. I guess it's time to start practising what I preach.. It's the serenity prayer "God, grant me the serenity to change the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and Wisdom to know the difference"..

(It basically for those looking for peace at a time of turmoil, despair, or uncertainty in their lives)

I am so blessed to be a SAHM when so many of my friends have had to return to work - and I love my kids so very very much - I just wish I can snap out of my little rut so that I can be a more positive role model to them..!

I have spoken to my GP a few years ago after I had DD#1 (I felt a bit depressed then) and he said to go out on date nights and go for a walk etc.. I would like to talk to him again but not sure he'll understand how hard to get out with 3 little ones.. (he has no kids).. But too, don't want to just be given a prescription willy nilly.. I may go to a woman doctor instead. Just have to find the time..

I'm glad my post has reached out to many of you and even though I was heavily embarrased about posting it, I'm glad I did..

PS. Love the $20 a week savings idea Millymollymandy.. I might work out how we can fit this into our budget..!!

Right, off to write out all those quotes and positive affirmations and stick them around the house..! xx