The "no more babies" blues

I am going to sound like a mad woman lol.....unless I get a new husband we are finished having babies. Now after having Drew I had that feeling that our family was definelty complete, and my sanity couldnt handle having anymore, but as I clear out all the baby clothes and sell the capsule and various other little baby stuff, I feel sad! Also a wee bit of sadness that I will never be the mumma of a baby girl, I love all my boys to bits of course, see I told you I would sound a bit crazy lol!!

Can anyone else relate??

Yep totally going through that now. DH has had the snip and I got my appointment to get my tubes done in th epost last week, so...

I feel the same way.
I know I couldn't cope with another one and I really strongly feel that it would upset the happy balance of our family and marriage. I know we would manage and love another baby just as much as the 2 we have already, but it would be much harder a third time.
I subscribe to all of these reasons wholeheartedly and yet, the idea that we will never have another baby really makes me sad.
I still get mad yearning to have another one and damn all the reasons in the world. I'm still hoping it will go away!

me too - although everytime theres a hard part with rhyley (which reminds me why I don't want anymore) all those (and theres alot more good than bad) Good times with him makes you melt and thing - perhaps - till I slap myself again! I have 2 boys and a girl so the want for another girl has been there but not a crave as if I would have if I hadn't had a lil girl (or visa versa)

I guess what has made my decision harder and perhaps not a final decision is because DH would love one more. He does understand where I am coming from so he is happy with the decision and going along with me (except for the fact I want 'him' to get the snip) But I can't fully be comfortable with my decision until he is.

I think I just rambled on there but i am sure you know what I mean.

...my mother wanted a "fourth one " for years, ...so i gave her a grandchild to play with instead

Well, i still have a little while before i have to worry , we arent going to TTC #2 till nov/dec and we want Caitlyn plus two more, im lucky tho, i always wanted a girl and i got my girl first, so if its another girl next time, sweet, if i have a boy, lovely, im not fussed

....at least a girl will have a name ....

awww i know exactly what you mean!!!

i was an only child so swore id never want my kids to be a only child and now i have s & j i want 1 more (mabye 2) dh just agrees with me as i dont think he wants to start a argument. lol

but seems J was a bit of a miricle we may not even be able to have anymore. :(

I'm sad because I have to wait just over 2 years to have Number 2 lolz. I want to have at least 4 children ( I come from a family of 7 kids) I love having a big family with lots of neices and nephews, I want my kids to experience that as well. I do however want to have a a reasonable gap between them. I don't want to miss out on things happening with each child during their first few years of life and so I think when Kahtrell is around 4 will be a good age. I always had a thought of how would I be able to love another child when I have so much love wrapped up in Kahtrell, but then it dawned on me that all I had to do was double that love. I know that when it is time to give up the baby making I'll be extremely sad...sheesh I don't like giving away Kahtrell's things now even though he can't fit them anymore!. But knowing me I'll keep trying to make babies til I'm into my 40s!!....If my mum can have my baby brother at 40 it gives me hope lolz.

'Tis the hormones that ensure the survival of the human race

I remember when I was preg with the gremlins I was absolutely, 100% determined that I was never going to put myself thru another pregnancy, but within hours of them being born I started panicking at the thought of NOT having another one, and I could never shake that. We didn't plan on having this one so soon, but I would have had another baby eventually.

Now I'm terrified the same thing will happen again, I am again determined that there will be no more babies, I couldn't cope with another pregnancy, but I'm worried that I will get the same irrational urges once baby is born. We're not making any permanent contraception decisions at this stage (altho I'd love it if Willie would agree to get the snip) but I am getting a Mirena which will give me 5 years to make up my mind for sure, then hopefully by then this wee babe will be off to school and I'll be well and truly over my cluckiness.

I have them, I can't get over them, so much so that i still love it wheni pick up the girls clothes at the endo f the day and they smell like baby powder and all i think is "awww, i want another baby"

enough said.

I want another one... I always will.

Jennz wrote: I feel similar too- you're not mad at all! I DO NOT want any more babies- I am perfectly happy with my 2 and have no desire what so ever of having any more.... but I am sad that I will never again experience all the wonderful things that come along with TTC, getting that BFP, being pregnant, waiting for baby to arrive, having a newborn and watching them grow etc. Obviously there are alot of negatives that come with all those things but the positives are so lovely that it does still make me sad that I'll never get to experience it again. Not nearly sad enough to change my mind though!

Exactly how I feel