Surnames for your baby

Some people I know are due to have their bubba soon. They aren't married so don't have the same surname and are currently debating about naming bub when he/she arrives. His/hers/hyphenated/brand new?

So I'm curious to know- for those who don't share the same surname as their other half (for whatever reason), how did you go about choosing which surname to use? And when did you make the decision?

my oldest is hyphenated and younger two have dad's name...

Mine has my name - his father and i are seperated - but before we split i had decided on my name anyway. Mostly for practicality as it'd be me taking him to appoitments and everything and thought it sounded easier. Besides i like the sound of my surname better. And the name i wanted to use sounded crap with his surname. And if i'm totally honest because he assumed we'd take his name and it got up my hormonal pregnant nose that he'd make that assumption so i rebelled. *blush*
I don't know that its actually easier that we have the same surname but i have heard of people having trouble travelling when the kids have a different surname on their passports - they had to have birth certificates as well.

Oh - a couple i know used the fathers last name and gave the mothers surname as a middlename (or vice-versa i can't remember).

Bowie wrote: I don't know that its actually easier that we have the same surname but i have heard of people having trouble travelling when the kids have a different surname on their passports - they had to have birth certificates as well.

I travelled with DS1 quite a bit before I got my new passport (with my married name) and have never had an issue with us having different surnames

On the original topic, all my friends who have kept their own surname or aren't married to their baby's father have given him their father's surname.

Actually, that's not true. One of my girlfriends recently gave her baby boy HER surname (she is married to the father but kept her own name).

We gave our daughter a hyphenated version of both of ours, tbh were she a boy I probably would've quite happily just went with his but it didn't sound right with her name and I actually like the individuality of my surname.

Therefore all subsequent children will have the same for simplicity.

My sister gave her DD her partners surname as they were engaged and planned to get married. she told DP they had to be married before DD got to school so they all had the same surname by then!

kiwisj wrote: Bowie wrote: I don't know that its actually easier that we have the same surname but i have heard of people having trouble travelling when the kids have a different surname on their passports - they had to have birth certificates as well. I travelled with DS1 quite a bit before I got my new passport (with my married name) and have never had an issue with us having different surnames

Same here.

Can't really comment on the OP as my kids have DHs surname, but then I took his name when we got married.

We are married but I went hyphenated as I wanted to keep my maiden name but also wanted DH's. DD has the same surname as me then but it ends on DH's name IYGWIM mine-his. When making booking for the family I use DH's name as it is shorter and doesnt require spelling...

DH did say he would go hyphenated too but it requires a change by deedpoll and he only got as far as printing off the forms 2 years ago!!! I have stopped asking.

I'm married with same surname, but I would like to give the next baby my maiden name as a middle if its a boy as the are no boys in my family this generation (11 girls tho).

SIL is married kept her name and gave the baby her name too. The possibilities are endless.

Our boys have hyphenated surnames.

We decided long before trying to conceive as it was an important issue for me. They are both our boys, so it made sense that they should have both our names. I would keep my surname if we ever got married.