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RedHeadDuck
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Topic: Wishing well- Wedding Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:34am |
How much would you put in?
We've got wedding on Saturday, and they have been together a while, own their own house and all that so I totally understand that.... But how much would you put in?
When we got married last year, we had a big combination of cash, vouchers and gifts from people. I can't remember for the life of me how much cash people were giving, but I remember most vouchers were $50....
Is $50 enough for a cash gift? Was just reading in another thread most people would be $50-$100 .... ??
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:48am |
I think it is all about what you can afford.
$50-100 is appropriate for a wedding. I think if you are in a duel income household then probably closer to $100 is more appropriate. But it depends on what you can afford.
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:58am |
We are going to a wedding 2moro and I thought about $40-50 cos we are on one income.
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 12:20pm |
I usually budget $50 for friends, $100 for close friends/relatives (ie: brothers & sisters, not distant cousins!)
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 12:45pm |
Me too, gypsynita. I've spent a little more on my brothers and sisters, and while I'd always aim for about $50, I wouldn't feel bad about giving a present worth a bit less if I really couldn't afford it. I know we got presents that would have been worth less at our wedding, and we still really appreciated them and weren't in the slightest put out.
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 1:10pm |
When on 2 incomes we were usually spending around $100 but since being on one income (and with 4 weddings this season) I've been spending around $60 instead.
We got lots around the $50-60 mark for our wedding and also lots around the $100 mark so that helped make me feel comfortable with the quantities we spend.
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:19pm |
I think 50 is a good amount.
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:23pm |
I think it depends on how well you know the couple and how much you can afford!
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:37pm |
Interesting thread! We went to a wedding last night (Old work colleagues of Df's who moved to Australia 2.5 years ago and we haven't spoken to/seen them since but they came back here to get married)
We're going to do Myer's vouchers online for them and df was saying $100(AUD) I was definitely thinking much more like $50 is more than generous as we hardly know them.
It was a family/rent a crowd affair
(ie aside from family the rest of us were complete randoms who hardly knew the people)
Weird. I wouldn't invite people who didn't know and love me/df to my wedding - I'm sure most of you didn't either?!? I know it's off topic but I just couldn't work out why we were invited ? Also bumped into a high school friend of mine there. She flatted with the groom 3 years ago and hasn't spoken to them since either!?
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:39pm |
TBH I think $100 for a couple is appropriate....I would give $50 if I was attending on my own as weddings are very costly to the bride and groom! :)
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:49pm |
I would say $50-70, the range at our wedding was about $50-100 from couples.
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:51pm |
I would agree with the above - $100 if they are family or close friends, otherwise $50. But at the end of the day it should be whatever you can afford, I am sure it will all be appreciated
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:53pm |
apriletta wrote:
TBH I think $100 for a couple is appropriate....I would give $50 if I was attending on my own as weddings are very costly to the bride and groom! :) |
People dont have weddings for the gifts/money. Well at least they shouldn't.
Its often expensive just attending a wedding when you factor in travel, outfits and often childcare, you shouldn't have to get yourself into trouble financially just to "keep up with the Joneses" so to speak.
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 3:48pm |
Yeah, I think $50-$100 is good, also depending on what you can afford.
Another way to look at it would be to think how much you and your DH would spend on a night out, dinner, drinks etc... it would definately come to more than $50.
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 4:02pm |
It's actually DH's work mate, they get along GREAT!!!!!! And the bride and I are just kinda starting to get to know each other a bit more, I can see us being good friends in the future, if that makes sense??
I'll talk to DH, but we might go about $60. They know what kinda wages etc we are on, so I'm sure they won't care. Would just hate to be a really tight a$$ IYKWIM???
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 4:28pm |
I think $60 is good MC.
I like the idea of a wishing well because nobody needs to know how much you put in
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 4:34pm |
MamaT wrote:
apriletta wrote:
TBH I think $100 for a couple is appropriate....I would give $50 if I was attending on my own as weddings are very costly to the bride and groom! :) |
People dont have weddings for the gifts/money. Well at least they shouldn't.
Its often expensive just attending a wedding when you factor in travel, outfits and often childcare, you shouldn't have to get yourself into trouble financially just to "keep up with the Joneses" so to speak. |
That is true....however, I just don't feel right giving less than that when I know how much it can cost per head to have you attend....also its a 'once' in a lifetime (well hopefully!!!) occasion so in the scheme of things not a HUGE expense if you can budget for it!
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 5:15pm |
We always give $100.
I agree with apriletta about giving $50 if I was going on my own, so $50 each seems appropriate.
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 5:22pm |
I'd normally go with closer to $100, especially if two of you are going. I just figure, that they will be spending $50-60 each on you for meals so it's only fair.
Interesting to hear peoples thoughts as we are getting married in Nov and will probably have a wishing well
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Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:47pm |
It depends on who it is but we would usually give what we would spend on a gift. So usually about $50.
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