Wishing well- Wedding
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Topic: Wishing well- Wedding
Posted By: RedHeadDuck
Subject: Wishing well- Wedding
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:34am
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How much would you put in?
We've got wedding on Saturday, and they have been together a while, own their own house and all that so I totally understand that.... But how much would you put in? When we got married last year, we had a big combination of cash, vouchers and gifts from people. I can't remember for the life of me how much cash people were giving, but I remember most vouchers were $50.... Is $50 enough for a cash gift? Was just reading in another thread most people would be $50-$100 .... ?? |
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Posted By: kiwikt
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:48am
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I think it is all about what you can afford.
$50-100 is appropriate for a wedding. I think if you are in a duel income household then probably closer to $100 is more appropriate. But it depends on what you can afford. ------------- Due 14/10/11 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:58am
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We are going to a wedding 2moro and I thought about $40-50 cos we are on one income. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: gypsynita
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 12:20pm
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I usually budget $50 for friends, $100 for close friends/relatives (ie: brothers & sisters, not distant cousins!) ------------- Anita Mum to Cian (Aug 08), Josh (Jun 10) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 12:45pm
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Me too, gypsynita. I've spent a little more on my brothers and sisters, and while I'd always aim for about $50, I wouldn't feel bad about giving a present worth a bit less if I really couldn't afford it. I know we got presents that would have been worth less at our wedding, and we still really appreciated them and weren't in the slightest put out. -------------   
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Posted By: tiptoes
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 1:10pm
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When on 2 incomes we were usually spending around $100 but since being on one income (and with 4 weddings this season) I've been spending around $60 instead.
We got lots around the $50-60 mark for our wedding and also lots around the $100 mark so that helped make me feel comfortable with the quantities we spend. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">  
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Posted By: mrsturtle
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:19pm
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Posted By: sem
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:23pm
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I think it depends on how well you know the couple and how much you can afford! ------------- Here we go again, another baby on it's way! 
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Posted By: Princess_Bubs
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:37pm
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Interesting thread! We went to a wedding last night (Old work colleagues of Df's who moved to Australia 2.5 years ago and we haven't spoken to/seen them since but they came back here to get married)
We're going to do Myer's vouchers online for them and df was saying $100(AUD) I was definitely thinking much more like $50 is more than generous as we hardly know them. It was a family/rent a crowd affair 
(ie aside from family the rest of us were complete randoms who hardly knew the people) Weird. I wouldn't invite people who didn't know and love me/df to my wedding - I'm sure most of you didn't either?!? I know it's off topic but I just couldn't work out why we were invited ? Also bumped into a high school friend of mine there. She flatted with the groom 3 years ago and hasn't spoken to them since either!? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Two Precious Angel Babies 2010 / 2011 
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Posted By: londonbaby
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:39pm
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TBH I think $100 for a couple is appropriate....I would give $50 if I was attending on my own as weddings are very costly to the bride and groom! :) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:49pm
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I would say $50-70, the range at our wedding was about $50-100 from couples. -------------  
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:51pm
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I would agree with the above - $100 if they are family or close friends, otherwise $50. But at the end of the day it should be whatever you can afford, I am sure it will all be appreciated ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
 
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 2:53pm
People dont have weddings for the gifts/money. Well at least they shouldn't. Its often expensive just attending a wedding when you factor in travel, outfits and often childcare, you shouldn't have to get yourself into trouble financially just to "keep up with the Joneses" so to speak. -------------
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apriletta wrote:Posted By: chelles
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 3:48pm
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Yeah, I think $50-$100 is good, also depending on what you can afford.
Another way to look at it would be to think how much you and your DH would spend on a night out, dinner, drinks etc... it would definately come to more than $50. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: RedHeadDuck
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 4:02pm
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It's actually DH's work mate, they get along GREAT!!!!!! And the bride and I are just kinda starting to get to know each other a bit more, I can see us being good friends in the future, if that makes sense??
I'll talk to DH, but we might go about $60. They know what kinda wages etc we are on, so I'm sure they won't care. Would just hate to be a really tight a$$ IYKWIM??? |
Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 4:28pm
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I think $60 is good MC.
I like the idea of a wishing well because nobody needs to know how much you put in  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: londonbaby
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 4:34pm
That is true....however, I just don't feel right giving less than that when I know how much it can cost per head to have you attend....also its a 'once' in a lifetime (well hopefully!!!) occasion so in the scheme of things not a HUGE expense if you can budget for it! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 5:15pm
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We always give $100.
I agree with apriletta about giving $50 if I was going on my own, so $50 each seems appropriate. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Richie
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 5:22pm
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I'd normally go with closer to $100, especially if two of you are going. I just figure, that they will be spending $50-60 each on you for meals so it's only fair.
Interesting to hear peoples thoughts as we are getting married in Nov and will probably have a wishing well  -------------  
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 03 February 2011 at 11:47pm
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It depends on who it is but we would usually give what we would spend on a gift. So usually about $50. ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
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Posted By: Mucky_Tiger
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 10:41am
| we went with $70. DP put in 50 as they were his friends from his uni hall of residence, and i put in 20 as im a poor student and arent as close to them as he is |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 10:46am
No but I always think if the bride/groom are paying to feed me which can easily be $50-100 a head then that's what my gift/money helps to cover. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 10:48am
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We had a wishing well, and some people gave money and some vouchers, and those that wanted to gave gifts.
In the end its only a suggestion and guests are able to do what ever they wish. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: naysgirl
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 11:13am
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We usually give about $80 to $100 and work it out on roughly how much a meal would cost and drinks as well.
We are going to a friends wedding in March and ended up buying a gift that was $100 (a bit more than what I was going to pay, been on one income but that was on their wedding register) but they are providing transport to and from the reception venue and its a sit down meal so I figure that $100 is probably about right. I think it depends abit on if you know the bride and groom really well. When we got married, we were just thankful to get anything, as I know everyone has different financial cirumstances etc. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 2:02pm
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Depends on what you're comfortable parting with. I'd say $50-$100. Though what if you're having to pay for your own meals, and they're also having a wishing well. ------------- 
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Posted By: fairy1
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 2:12pm
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We're going to a cousins wedding and they have set up an account. They have asked for money as its her 2nd wedding and they have everything they need. We will give $50 due to being on one income and I don't really know her and we got the invite a month after the RSVP date so think our family is more rent a crowd, its also cocktail food and not a sit down meal.
If we were on 2 incomes I would give more. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 2:28pm
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See, I quaver a bit at spending a lot on weddings.
Yes, the bride and groom often pay $60+ a head on food and drink, but that's their choice. I've been to lots of different weddings (formal sit-down dinners, beach BBQ, spit-roast and buffet salads) and all have been awesome! So if the bride and groom choose to spend a lot (or a little) on their own wedding that shouldn't dictate how much you should spend on them for a gift. I say $50 if you don't know them well (or don't socialise with them on a semi-regular basis) and around $100 if you are great friends/family. Especially if you're having to travel and cover all the costs involved. You're choosing to go (it's not the law to attend every thing you get invited to) so I think you should get to choose how much you spend on gifts. That's just my two cents ------------- 
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Posted By: Angs1982
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 8:26pm
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I like nice tidy numbers. $100 is too much for me so I tend to go with $50, plus a small gift.
Most people gave $50 - 100 for our wedding. |