TTC 18 months or more

Hi Skylar,

After reading your post I thought I would stop in and share a little about my journey.

My DH and I tried for nearly three years to conceive and after so many false hopes and two early MC's we finally gave birth to a healthy boy last year.

I was much the same as you in terms of watching everyone around me have their babies and in the beginning not thinking it would take long at all.

Something I found helpful was to organise a little treat for myself around the time of my period, so when it came I at least had something to cheer me up .

Keep strong

Hi Skylar

I have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years
I had a m/c in 2008 and have been trying ever since

There have been times where I feel Im never going to get pregnant. But im trying to stay positive and I feel one day I will get pregnant. My partner has never been tested I guess he is scared to just in case he is the one with the problem. He started taking menevit last month which he says gives him more energy so more bding lol
I find it hard hearing people that have only tried for a short time and got pregnant. I think what the hell is wrong with me then We bd's at the right time chart use opk and still nothing. But I have come so far so I am never going to give up because one day I will get pregnant again. And finally get the baby that I have always wanted    

And I forgot to say welcome to ohbaby. You should come and join us in the charting thread if you want its not just for charting but also for chating about every thing and anything   

Edited by Oxy23

Well thanks for all your support...I guess it can feel like a long lonely road when you're TTC, my sister recommended this forum to help me with our journey...she unfortunately can not have children and said coming to this site helped her cope. She now has a lil boy of her own to take care of now...my younger sister had a baby and isn't capable of raising him, so my older sister took on the role of being his mum...which is fantastic :)

Mollymoo big ups for you on starting running !!! I have done exactly the same thing at the start of this year and really enjoy it, really makes me feel good after a nice run

I still find it difficult not to let TTC consume me, everyone tells me to relax and it will happen...easier said then done when your TTC...arghhhhh somedays I just wanna scream!!!

I def like you're ideas about treating myself when AF arrives...I think I am def gonna take that on board, starting this month!!!

A friend of mine is TTC baby #2, she took 18mths TTC #1 after numerous MC and she admitted to me other day she doesn't want to get BFP before me...boy that made feel bad, my emotions are all over the place.

Hey Skylar and welcome to OB,

I'm same as ladybee and mollymoo - starting ttc in Jan 09 so 16 months... I have long cycles so that is only 8 cycles for me... It seems like forever!

It has actually been a real shock to me as I have children already that were conceived very easily so just kind of expected the same... I have got to the point now where I am no longer letting TTC rule my life in order to preserve my sanity... but I do still have my utterly obsessive days... and I do still chart, do OPKs, and test obsessively in the TWW LOL...

You should def come join us in the charting thread as Oxy and LB said

That is sooo nice that your older sister is caring for your younger's baby!

Welcome to OB Skylar .

I think it took around 14 months to conceive our boy..Though we weren't trying...but we weren't not trying (if you get me lol) it was an extremely stressful year so I'm sure that contributed. I guess I always thought getting pregnant would be easy breezy considering my mum had seven of us..Genetically predispositioned to be a fertile Murtle lol...but I guess everyone is so individual, and every pregnancy journey is individual as well. Even now, when we're not actually TTC (but obviously the idea plays around in my head alot since I'm in the TTC forum lolz) I look at pregnant bellies and new born babies and think....my gosh I just can't wait to experience that all over again....I wish I was experiencing that again..and when *ooopsies* occur there is a little bit of disappointment when AF arrives....even though I know that it wouldn't be ideal timing with studying and tryna lose weight. So even though we're not actively TTC, I still understand to some extent of what feelings you must be going through because that longing is still there..and has been for a long time.

There are many women who have been through this experience, you are definitely not alone, and though each month may bring with it disapointment, in the light of things it brings you one month closer to creating the miracle of life once again. TTC can consume the best of us, and at times it does feel like a race but it's a race that can be a 100m sprint or a marathon...no matter which one we are destined to run...the prize is well worth the hard yards.

 

 

 

Well as per my post on 9/5/10 friend at work got the BFP before me....at this stage in my TTC cycle I wasn't as upset or distraught as I thought I could have been. Initially I was numb but now I am really excited for her,   although I am not pregnant (yet) I feel excited because I am going to be able to observe and learn off her during her pregnancy which is a bonus really.

Eva I really like your analogy about TTC being like a run...how far I run before I get to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is all part of the journey - Thank you so much - you really changed my perspective on this process :)

It took us 2 years to get pregnant. I remember the month before I got pregnant. It was Anzac day and we went for a walk along the beach. I kid you not, every pregnant woman in the world was there, well it felt like that anyway. I was sooo upset.

I found the OB soo good. I couldn't talk to my friends or family so it was a relief to chat to the "OB family" with others who understood or just offered support.

Have you spoken to your dr about it?

Sending lots of baby dust your way

DH and I have been trying for about 18 months now, but we've had a bit of a casual 'when it happens it happens' approach. Late last year we started taking it a bit more seriously (putting a plan in place with a specialist) and I knew I was going to drive myself nuts if I didn't have something else to focus on, so I started playing hockey again. I used to play when I was a kid, and two of my sisters still play. I've committed to a team and I'm at every practice and every game. Now I've got a little voice at the back of my head telling me if I get UTD I'm going to be letting my team down. It's good because when I actually get UTD none of that is going to matter, but until then every month I'm not UTD is another month of hockey!

Hi Skylar - just wanted to add my two cents worth. It took five years to conceive our little boy and although I know you've probably heard it a million times, but once they're here you really forget about all the heartache it took to get them.
I wish you all the best. I'm not sure there is any good advice as every journey is so different. The only thing I would say is (from personal experience) choose carefully which well-meaning advice you choose to listen to. I know by the end of five years if someone had of told me eating 10kg of frog''s legs every day would help me get pregnant I would have tried it. The rollercoaster is hard enough without the added disappointment for every passing fad that doesn't work IYGWIM. I think as long as you are leading a healthy life and you are getting medical help then you are doing everything you can to make your dream come true. Good luck hun, it will happen (sorry - something else you have probably heard 100 times). But i think the stats of people that can't have babies with medical help is very very low - like 1%. So you have 99/100 chances of becoming a mum at some point - pretty good odds!

Hi Skylar hanks for posting this thread, it helps me to know there IS hope out there after TTC for so long.

I'm nearly 36 and my DH is 37 and we've been TTC our first baby for at least 2 1/2 years, but TBH I've lost track of how long it is, seems like forever. In the meantime all our friends have had their first and second babies and some weren't even trying which makes it very hard to deal with.

I'm now with Fertility Associates after finally admitting there might be a problem with us getting pregnant. I never imagined this would happen to us so it's been a hard road towards accepting this is where I'm at now. Have you thought of going to see a fertility specialist yourself?

I would definitely recommend going to see a naturopath as well, I've been taking pre-conception vitamins for nearly two months that my naturopath prescribed via an Australian clinic (check out http://www.fertility.com.au/) and they seem to be helping my hormone levels and general health. They are practioner-only prescribed tho so you would have to go and see a naturopath to see if they're right for you.

I've found charting my temps and other fertility signs have been really helpful, as are OPKs that I've just started using. You're very welcome to join us in the Charting Girls thread anytime!

Otherwise writing a diary, exercise, yoga, counselling and the support of friends and family and the lovely ladies on OB have been the best ways of managing the TTC rollercoaster ride for me.

All the best and I hope you get your BFP really soon