TTC 18 months or more
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Topic: TTC 18 months or more
Posted By: skylar
Subject: TTC 18 months or more
Date Posted: 08 May 2010 at 3:35pm
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Hi ladies,
Just thought I'd start a new topic more so about those of us who have been TTC for 18months or more. My DH and I have been TTC for just going on 18months now, and in this time I have seen many of our friends conceive and have their babies  unfortunately for us we haven't had the same luck.
We got pregnant after TTC for 6months, unfortunately to MC at 6weeks - apparently the egg did not implant hence MC. Now 12 months later we have still had no luck, every day is a struggle trying to keep positive and keep all my fingers and toes crossed that it will be our turn, as each month passes it seems as though it's just a never ending battle that we don't seem to be winning. I think when we ventured into this I was quite naive thinking that getting pregnant wasn't hard, after all I have seen so many family and friends get pregnant so how hard could it be for me. Little did I know how much of a battle it was going to be. I was just wondering if anyone else has been TTC for the same amount of time or more and how you keep positive? I am wondering if there is a light at the end of the tunnel. |
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Posted By: LadyA
Date Posted: 08 May 2010 at 3:57pm
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Hi Skylar,
After reading your post I thought I would stop in and share a little about my journey. My DH and I tried for nearly three years to conceive and after so many false hopes and two early MC's we finally gave birth to a healthy boy last year. I was much the same as you in terms of watching everyone around me have their babies and in the beginning not thinking it would take long at all. Something I found helpful was to organise a little treat for myself around the time of my period, so when it came I at least had something to cheer me up  .
Keep strong 
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Posted By: ALittleLoopy
Date Posted: 08 May 2010 at 4:11pm
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I wasnt trying that long really (6 months) when i got preg with this one but i certainly know how the disappointment feels and to feel it as long as you have would be agony so keep up that strength hun itll get you through to your baby in the end....anyway i was going to say we decided that wed start keeping a bottle of wine and a block of choc in the fride when AF was close....the cycle we got the first bottle of wine i got UTD!! Of course I couldnt drink it so its still there and will be sipped on after the birth by family...every time i look at that bottle i smile.
sorry that was a ramble i just couldnt read and run and thought id share what helped me through :) BABY DUST!! -------------    CHEM 6/12+ |
Posted By: Oxy
Date Posted: 08 May 2010 at 4:32pm
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Hi Skylar
I have been trying to get pregnant for 2 years I had a m/c in 2008 and have been trying ever since There have been times where I feel Im never going to get pregnant. But im trying to stay positive and I feel one day I will get pregnant. My partner has never been tested I guess he is scared to just in case he is the one with the problem. He started taking menevit last month which he says gives him more energy so more bding lol I find it hard hearing people that have only tried for a short time and got pregnant. I think what the hell is wrong with me then We bd's at the right time chart use opk and still nothing. But I have come so far so I am never going to give up because one day I will get pregnant again. And finally get the baby that I have always wanted And I forgot to say welcome to ohbaby. You should come and join us in the charting thread if you want its not just for charting but also for chating about every thing and anything ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/250ed1" rel="nofollow">  TTC#1 Jan 2009 |
Posted By: mollymoo
Date Posted: 09 May 2010 at 9:44am
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Hi Skylar- a great idea for a thread! My DH and I have been TTC since Jan 09. I'm on my 15th cycle. Coming up to 18mths but not quite there yet. We have had no joy at all. We've both been tested and everything's supposedly looks normal so there's no reason why we shouldn't be able to conceive. I am on a Fertility Spec books but she won't see me for another 6 months. I know how frustrating it is though. We have had sooooo many of our friends not only have their first babies but some are onto their second now aswell. It can be pretty disheartening. I guess I try really hard not to let our TTC journey encompass ALL of our lives and DH and I try make the most of being able to go and do things we wouldn't be able to do easily with a bubba. I've also started running since Jan this year so I'm doing something positive for me. It's important to have other positive things happening around you. Anyway I hope you get to your cross road soon and your life gets to follow the parent path. xxx.
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Posted By: skylar
Date Posted: 09 May 2010 at 12:43pm
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Well thanks for all your support...I guess it can feel like a long lonely road when you're TTC, my sister recommended this forum to help me with our journey...she unfortunately can not have children and said coming to this site helped her cope. She now has a lil boy of her own to take care of now...my younger sister had a baby and isn't capable of raising him, so my older sister took on the role of being his mum...which is fantastic :)
Mollymoo big ups for you on starting running !!! I have done exactly the same thing at the start of this year and really enjoy it, really makes me feel good after a nice run 
I still find it difficult not to let TTC consume me, everyone tells me to relax and it will happen...easier said then done when your TTC...arghhhhh somedays I just wanna scream!!! I def like you're ideas about treating myself when AF arrives...I think I am def gonna take that on board, starting this month!!! A friend of mine is TTC baby #2, she took 18mths TTC #1 after numerous MC and she admitted to me other day she doesn't want to get BFP before me...boy that made feel bad, my emotions are all over the place. |
Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 09 May 2010 at 6:19pm
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Hey Skyla, welcome to Ohbaby
TTC is a rollercoaster of emotions esp when you have been TTC for so long! For me its been 16 months and evey cycle it gets harder and harder. It is so comsuming I feel like I have put my life on hold 16 months ....so now Im going to focus on something positive for me 
Gah I could go on and on but Im all down and out at the mo with AF knocking on my door so will leave it at that
Do you chart or use OPK's etc? Come join us in the charting thread, we are a chatty bunch but there is lots of support and laughter and if you need it GL I hope your BFP is just around the corner xx------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 10 May 2010 at 8:27am
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Hey Skylar and welcome to OB,
I'm same as ladybee and mollymoo - starting ttc in Jan 09 so 16 months... I have long cycles so that is only 8 cycles for me... It seems like forever! It has actually been a real shock to me as I have children already that were conceived very easily so just kind of expected the same... I have got to the point now where I am no longer letting TTC rule my life in order to preserve my sanity... but I do still have my utterly obsessive days... and I do still chart, do OPKs, and test obsessively in the TWW LOL... You should def come join us in the charting thread as Oxy and LB said
That is sooo nice that your older sister is caring for your younger's baby! ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 10 May 2010 at 8:46am
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Hi Skylar, welcome to OB
I got pregnant back in '04, accidentally, which ended in m/c. DH (who, at the time, was my DF) and I decided to finally get our butts into gear and get married, so we did at the end of '05. We then tried for 17 months to have a baby. Every month was a kick in the guts, considering how easily I got pregnant the first time around. Hannah was born at the start of '08. We then decided in October last year to try for #2. I came off the BCP and settled myself in for another long wait, but I got pregnant straight away. So it just goes to show how random (and, at times, cruel) TTC can be! I don't really have any words of advice on how to cope, cos I didn't really cope all that well. I just continued on and hoped for the best each month. I wish you the best of luck, I hope it happens for you soon ------------- 
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 10 May 2010 at 12:03pm
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Welcome to OB Skylar I think it took around 14 months to conceive our boy..Though we weren't trying...but we weren't not trying (if you get me lol) it was an extremely stressful year so I'm sure that contributed. I guess I always thought getting pregnant would be easy breezy considering my mum had seven of us..Genetically predispositioned to be a fertile Murtle lol...but I guess everyone is so individual, and every pregnancy journey is individual as well. Even now, when we're not actually TTC (but obviously the idea plays around in my head alot since I'm in the TTC forum lolz) I look at pregnant bellies and new born babies and think....my gosh I just can't wait to experience that all over again....I wish I was experiencing that again..and when *ooopsies* occur there is a little bit of disappointment when AF arrives....even though I know that it wouldn't be ideal timing with studying and tryna lose weight. So even though we're not actively TTC, I still understand to some extent of what feelings you must be going through because that longing is still there..and has been for a long time. There are many women who have been through this experience, you are definitely not alone, and though each month may bring with it disapointment, in the light of things it brings you one month closer to creating the miracle of life once again. TTC can consume the best of us, and at times it does feel like a race but it's a race that can be a 100m sprint or a marathon...no matter which one we are destined to run...the prize is well worth the hard yards.
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 14 May 2010 at 11:00pm
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We tried for 18 months for our little fellow and had gotten to the point where we had tests etc and there was 'nothing wrong' but still nothing happened so we decided to get married early so we could save for IVF. Also went on Jenny Craig so I could look fab for my wedding day...and what happened..I got pregnant....so totally random.
It can drive you nuts when people say relax and it will happen when it happens, I wish people knew that was the wrong thing to say!! The only thing you can do is try heaps lol because there ain't no other way to make a baby naturally... Good luck, hope you complete your journey with a little bubs soon. ------------- 
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Posted By: skylar
Date Posted: 05 June 2010 at 4:19pm
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Well as per my post on 9/5/10 friend at work got the BFP before me....at this stage in my TTC cycle I wasn't as upset or distraught as I thought I could have been. Initially I was numb but now I am really excited for her, although I am not pregnant (yet) I feel excited because I am going to be able to observe and learn off her during her pregnancy which is a bonus really.
Eva I really like your analogy about TTC being like a run...how far I run before I get to the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is all part of the journey - Thank you so much - you really changed my perspective on this process :) |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 05 June 2010 at 10:53pm
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Yay skylar, it is good you can see the positive in your friends BFP.
I think one important thing to remember when seeing people with babies, is that you don't actually have a clue how hard it has been for them to get to that point..sometimes when the jealous feelings come out when a pregnant lady walks past or a lady with a baby...I always thought to myself...I wonder how long it took them, I wonder how much trouble they had...ended up actually feeling sorry fot lots of people lol, who probably concieved first pop...but it made me feel better! Oh and being on here is great esp when you can talk to others who have had trouble conceiving -------------
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 08 June 2010 at 9:40pm
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It took us 2 years to get pregnant. I remember the month before I got pregnant. It was Anzac day and we went for a walk along the beach. I kid you not, every pregnant woman in the world was there, well it felt like that anyway. I was sooo upset.
I found the OB soo good. I couldn't talk to my friends or family so it was a relief to chat to the "OB family" with others who understood or just offered support. Have you spoken to your dr about it? Sending lots of baby dust your way ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
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Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 08 June 2010 at 10:20pm
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Hi skylar,
DH & I have been trying since early 08. Fell pg Jan this year but miscarried shortly after. I'm finding it very hard to stay positive. I'm 24, I didn't imagine this would be hard at all. I feel some guilt atm after realising I am at risk of contracting toxoplasmosis because I work with animals, and also use a lot of harsh chemicals which could be bad for me. DH & I started saving up $$ for going to Vegas next year, we went the year before last and it was just awesome. We've said that if we do fall pg then money will go towards baby stuff and setting up a house, but if not, Vegas it is. I'm lucky in the sense that none of my friends are TTC or have kids so I don't have to deal with that. Not many workmates are trying (to my knowledge) so that's easier on me too. I'm trying not to give up!! -------------  Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: astral_monkey
Date Posted: 09 June 2010 at 10:06am
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DH and I have been trying for about 18 months now, but we've had a bit of a casual 'when it happens it happens' approach. Late last year we started taking it a bit more seriously (putting a plan in place with a specialist) and I knew I was going to drive myself nuts if I didn't have something else to focus on, so I started playing hockey again. I used to play when I was a kid, and two of my sisters still play. I've committed to a team and I'm at every practice and every game. Now I've got a little voice at the back of my head telling me if I get UTD I'm going to be letting my team down. It's good because when I actually get UTD none of that is going to matter, but until then every month I'm not UTD is another month of hockey! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  |
Posted By: CarleyRose
Date Posted: 09 June 2010 at 1:56pm
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Hi Skylar
I havent been on these forums long, but have found that there is heaps of positive energy and friend to helpyou through the tough times. Me and my Husband have been trying for nearly 2 years. We are currently waiting for a Specialists appointment - we are goin private for the first one to get the app. as soon as posible. Its really tough when each month goes by not conceiving, i have started charting, the best way to know what your body is doing! - come on to the charting thread, theres heaps of bubbly people on there to keep you positive and happy when TTC!! ------------- TTC Sept08 July10 FS APP ICSI#1 BFN-No frosties ICSI#2 BFN-2 Frosties FET-8th August - BFP 20/8/12 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: mountaingirl
Date Posted: 09 June 2010 at 7:32pm
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Hi Skylar - just wanted to add my two cents worth. It took five years to conceive our little boy and although I know you've probably heard it a million times, but once they're here you really forget about all the heartache it took to get them.
I wish you all the best. I'm not sure there is any good advice as every journey is so different. The only thing I would say is (from personal experience) choose carefully which well-meaning advice you choose to listen to. I know by the end of five years if someone had of told me eating 10kg of frog''s legs every day would help me get pregnant I would have tried it. The rollercoaster is hard enough without the added disappointment for every passing fad that doesn't work IYGWIM. I think as long as you are leading a healthy life and you are getting medical help then you are doing everything you can to make your dream come true. Good luck hun, it will happen (sorry - something else you have probably heard 100 times). But i think the stats of people that can't have babies with medical help is very very low - like 1%. So you have 99/100 chances of becoming a mum at some point - pretty good odds! |
Posted By: CarleyRose
Date Posted: 11 June 2010 at 4:24pm
Thats good, i feel a bit more positive about that ------------- TTC Sept08 July10 FS APP ICSI#1 BFN-No frosties ICSI#2 BFN-2 Frosties FET-8th August - BFP 20/8/12 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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mountaingirl wrote:Posted By: Anja22
Date Posted: 17 June 2010 at 9:04am
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Hi Skylar hanks for posting this thread, it helps me to know there IS hope out there after TTC for so long.
I'm nearly 36 and my DH is 37 and we've been TTC our first baby for at least 2 1/2 years, but TBH I've lost track of how long it is, seems like forever. In the meantime all our friends have had their first and second babies and some weren't even trying which makes it very hard to deal with. I'm now with Fertility Associates after finally admitting there might be a problem with us getting pregnant. I never imagined this would happen to us so it's been a hard road towards accepting this is where I'm at now. Have you thought of going to see a fertility specialist yourself? I would definitely recommend going to see a naturopath as well, I've been taking pre-conception vitamins for nearly two months that my naturopath prescribed via an Australian clinic (check out http://www.fertility.com.au/) and they seem to be helping my hormone levels and general health. They are practioner-only prescribed tho so you would have to go and see a naturopath to see if they're right for you. I've found charting my temps and other fertility signs have been really helpful, as are OPKs that I've just started using. You're very welcome to join us in the Charting Girls thread anytime! Otherwise writing a diary, exercise, yoga, counselling and the support of friends and family and the lovely ladies on OB have been the best ways of managing the TTC rollercoaster ride for me. All the best and I hope you get your BFP really soon ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2b4a60 - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: skylar
Date Posted: 18 June 2010 at 3:38pm
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Hi ladies,
Well I have been reading all your posts and I decided that if I and when I got my next period I would do something nice for myself as a treat, at that point I decided that I would cut my hair short!!! I have very long thick hair and well to cut a long story short (no pun intended) tomorrow I am venturing to the hair dresser to get my hair cut short! I am very nervous, given that it is winter and I am now wondering if I am going to walk out of the salon very cold hehe Thank you ladies for your wonderful ideas about some sort of treat, no matter how big or small it def has taken my mind off the fact that this month was yet another unsuccessful attempt at TTC Wish me luck xox Anja22 - I really like your idea about going to the naturopath, I think I might try that :-) DH keeps talking about going to see the Dr - will they do anything for me given I have been TTC for less than 2yrs? Heard you have to be TTC for 2yrs+? The thought of going through that process scares me? Don't know why it does, maybe it's just the fact that I have to admit there could be a problem with me? and actually asking a stranger for help??? |
Posted By: mountaingirl
Date Posted: 18 June 2010 at 6:11pm
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Well done for treating yourself Skylar - hope your hair looks fab and you love it!
A doctor should definitely take your concerns seriously - anything over 12 months is determined as "infertile" in the medical system (not that you are - it's just the term they use - statistically speaking if a couple had sex on average once a week they should fall pregnant within a year). It can't hurt to get the ball rolling - things often take a long time so the sooner you get on top of it the sooner you will have your baby in your arms. Good luck! |
Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 18 June 2010 at 6:31pm
Hey Skylar, good luck with your hair cut. I have long hair and Im way to chicken to cut mine 
My GP after one year TTC did all the BT's and got DH to do his SA - all were fine and I have no other problems except getting UTD lol, but she cant refer me as we have not been TTC for 2yrs if the tests revealed Im not OVing or DH's lil boys are not swimming she could refer us to a FS through the public system. I wanted to keep the ball rolling so I have set up a private appointment but its going to cost. I know how you feel about seeing a GP and admiting something is wrong but all I would think was they see way more embarrassing situations than mine - kinda helped thinking that way
GL ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: skylar
Date Posted: 20 June 2010 at 12:44pm
Well...took the plunge and now have my short hair , the poor lady in the chair next to me could not believe I was cutting my long locks and their were a few gasps of disbelief! I'm sad  to see it go but onwards and upwards I say....although next month I don't think I'll be splashing out as much as I did there!!!!
Can't help but feel sad, as it was about this time last year that I got the BFP only to have it stripped away so suddenly! I guess the next step for me is to go and see my Dr....oh so scary (I don't know why I am scared though?) |
Posted By: Anja22
Date Posted: 20 June 2010 at 2:49pm
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Wow good on you Skylar, hope you're enjoying your new look
I know what you mean about being scared, for me it was exactly what you said, being scared to admit that there might be something wrong with me and they might not be able to fix it. But I felt so relieved when I'd been to see our GP and got the referral to the specialist and now they may have finally found something that would explain why I haven't ever been UTD! If I hadn't gone through all of that I might never have found out, coz I'm otherwise in excellent health. So as much as it's scary, you will be fine and it'll all be worth it to have your dream come true in the end. Be brave and keep us posted! Good luck ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: trouble35
Date Posted: 20 June 2010 at 7:00pm
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Hi there
I am in a similar boat me and my DH have been TTC for 2 years - not seriously in beginning. We are in aussie and finally got but into gear and am seeing specalist next week. Over here Medicare pays large portion of the $$$ required if you need treatment. Other thing you could exagerate and say you have been TTC for over 2 years??? I am now 35 so that is why we are taking action. Best of luck. |
Posted By: trouble35
Date Posted: 20 June 2010 at 7:02pm
| PS also over here in aussie you can get referred to fertility clinic and have appointment within 10 days as long as you have referral from dr within last 12 months - so hopefully will get that in the next week or so after they run initial tests. |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 21 June 2010 at 3:04pm
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Oh short hair aye Skylar There is definitely no harm in seeing your Dr. We can't tell what kind of weird and wonderful things are happening in our bodies, and any kind of insight into what is happening can only be a good thing. It gives you something to work with, and work from. I also like the idea of naturopaths and chinese medicine. Alternative medicine can do wonders, well from some of the stories I've heard on "From here to maternity" on Vibe and other baby related programmes I make myself watch!. So I'd say explore both avenues...medical and alternative medicine, if you think you're at a point where maybe a little extra help might do the trick. Asking for help is nothing to be ashamed of, and it's not such an uncommon scenario for people to go through so don't ever feel like you and your husband are alone, there are plenty of people to support you...just look at the wonderful ladies who have posted. -------------
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Posted By: skylar
Date Posted: 11 July 2010 at 8:32pm
Well, I have set myself the goal of visiting my Dr this month ladies...having finally drawn the courage to admit there could possibly be something wrong 
god that sucks....I asked DH last when is it my turn? I feel mean to ask that of him, when he wants a baby just as much as me :( |
Posted By: _Lou_
Date Posted: 11 July 2010 at 8:45pm
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Hey Skylar, just wanted to wish you luck for your Dr's appointment. I have only just started on the TTC thing, so I don't have any advice, just wish you all the best and hoping you get your BFP really soon!
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 12 July 2010 at 12:25pm
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Awwww Skylar . Try not to think of seeing the Dr as there being something wrong...but try to reframe your thinking to the fact that this is bringing you a step closer to having your own beautiful bundle of joy. Sometimes mother nature needs a little bit of help, and that's ok...she doesn't mind . I'm here for you whenever you wanna talk. All the best for yours and Hubby's Doc appointment (if you're going together)..fingers crossed for some joyous news in the months to come. -------------
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Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 20 January 2011 at 10:10pm
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I'm starting to think this thread needs to start up again!
There tend to be a few newbies who come on, upset that they haven't got UTD after one cycle and fair enough, but it's not fair when they get a BFP three months in and I'm still trying after almost three years. Am I bitter? Yep. ------------- Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 7:49am
Oh im glad im not the only one thinking that! We have been TTC for since Aug 09 so i guess i can join in here now. it isnt going to happen for us without IVF but its still hard to see all the BFP ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 7:58am
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I mean, I am glad that some people don't have to go through what us poor people have to deal with, but coming into a TTC thread, complaining that it's not worked the first month, then gets a BFP two months later... It's hard to be happy for them to be honest. ------------- Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: skylar
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 8:03am
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Hey ladies, well as for me it's been 2yrs since we started our journey for TTC and still no success since our M/C, in that time I have seen so many of my friends get the BFP, have their babies and then get a second BFP, I have shed tear and tear every time that time of the month shows up too and still my journey continues.
I went to see Dr towards end of last year, who told me I had to wait until it had been 18mths since my m/c before he would be able to refer me to specialist - so that time has finally come! INterestingly he told me I needed to relax and it would all happen! hmmm tell that to a woman fretting about not getting the BFP over the last 2 yrs! However I have since decided to look at some other alternative therapies, spoke to my physio about acupuncture which helps to "relax" you and she suggested a colleague who specialises in helping woman conceive and a good friend also gave me a card for a naturopath that has helped her get the BFP so I am looking at going down the road. Still at times it feels like a lonely and sad journey, month to month. I feel for DH he has to put up with my tears and all the rest of the baggage as this journey continues to drag on! |
Posted By: monkeys
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 8:05am
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I know what you mean Kelzie - for me it is only 15 months, so Oct 09 so not as long as you, but I feel bitter too at times, at how easy it is for some people.
For me it's a bit all over the place - I always expected to have dificulties conceiving (with the PCOS) but it never crossed my mind that once I had there would be issues with MC, don't want to speak for you but you are probably just the same. Feeling positive this week though, after making the appointment with FA, bring on the treatment, and FX it only gets easier. Big hugs ladies, I really hope this year is the year for all of us -------------  3 little Angels July 10, May 11, Apr 13
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Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 8:18am
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Kelzie you have totally read my mind only I just didn't have the guts to say it! I've got to the point now where anyone who gets UTD 'just like that' doesn't feature on my radar as having any idea what its like and just makes me more focussed on my own journey. I just know that if I continue to focus on everyone elses it just upsets and frustrates me (and I'm a bitch to live with lol).
Monkeys..we started ttc in Oct 09 too but have just started investigations to see if anything is amiss. Skylar - I just started reading this thread this morning and when I realised that the posts were from last year I was REALLY hoping it was bumped because you were announcing you were UTD...dammit! All the best on your journeys girls! |
Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 8:32am
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Actually Skylar, I went to acupuncture for about two months and then got my second BFP! Sure it didn't end well, but it did get me there. I was a little nervous at first but it doesn't really hurt, and it was like 35 minutes of being in a nice quiet room, that smelled nice and had nice relaxing nap-inducing music.
Also, I am currently going to a naturopath (Mother-Well in Auckland) and hopefully that works too. Good luck with all appointments in the next wee while!! ------------- Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: astral_monkey
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 10:32am
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This is a very good thread! I posted when it was originally put up. Sometimes the sub-12-monthers get up my nose. I don't want to be a witch, but just as an example the person on the previous page that posted it was only 6 months for them, but they can imagine the heartache we must be going through. Yeah, nah, you really can't! (FYI, I'm not targeting the person from the previous page, it's just an example. I've seen this persons messages elsewhere and she is lovely and her support is appreciated.)
For me, it's now been 2 years, and 2 months. I really feel for anyone that has had to wait like me for their BFP, only to MC once they get it (though I can't imagine the pain of going through that). One of my biggest fears is that it will happen to us. My DH keeps saying that the important thing is we stay positive. This is going to sound strange, but sometimes I read the Due In thread of whichever month it is, read peoples birth stories and imagine what my own labour will turn out like. (In one daydream, my contractions were so bad I had to pull over on the side of the motorway and ended up getting a lift in a cop car to Middlemore.) Told you it was going to sound strange. Anyway, in the grand scheme of things I know 2 years isn't that long, and we probably still have a wait ahead of us, but my fingers are crossed for myself and everyone here, that this will be our year! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> |
Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 10:34am
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Lol Astral, I imagine my "birth story" too, but mine goes to plan and doesn't involve a road side birth, you strange girl :p ------------- Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: astral_monkey
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 10:38am
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Haha, Kelz! I have all sorts of different ones. I think that one might be because when, if, when I do get UTD I will probably end up giving birth at the hosp in Pukekohe, but Mum had all four of us at Middlemore and DH was born at Middlemore, so I feel a bit of a pull towards there. (Plus it's part way between work and home and in that daydream my water broke at work. Haha. I'm so not normal.) ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> |
Posted By: skylar
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 12:00pm
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I have my fingers and toes crossed for all of us ladies this year...made it my goal that this is going to be my year!!!!
I think what is stressing me out the most is that I feel like by biological clock is ticking, I turn 31 next month and DH 34 on Monday it's not really that old in the scheme of things but I feel like it is! can't explain the feeling but no matter how I try and talk myself out of it, it seems to be what is making me freak out. I think if I was 27 I wouldn't be feeling quite so bad. I also find that people seem to tippy-toe around the subject with me, like it's taboo maybe cos they feel sorry for me or just cos they're trying to be nice, it does drive me crazy a little bit and sometimes it would be nice for people to just come right out and ask. At least I can say all the questions about when are we starting a family that are typical after you get married have dried up. Heard acupuncture is expensive so am going to try natruopath first. Are you gals going to give anything similar ago this year? |
Posted By: monkeys
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 12:41pm
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I hear you on the clock ticking skylar! I am 32 in April and DP is turning 33, we both want more than 1 child so I feel the clock ticking louder every month!!
I have considered acupuncture etc, however am going to go to my FA appointment and then decide from there what to do. ------------- 3 little Angels July 10, May 11, Apr 13
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 12:53pm
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Im glad we havent really told anyone that we are TTC, I think it was make me feel worse if people didnt talk about it. There is one person on here that worked out who i was but i dont actually mind her knowing. even though she is pregnant she still takes about it but is really understanding
Sometimes i feel so different from everyone else (on here) that cant get pregnant because ours is MFI so there isnt much that we can actually do. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Orca1
Date Posted: 21 January 2011 at 9:16pm
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I can totally relate to how you are feeling. Whilst we have been blessed with a gorgeous daughter we have been trying for #2 for 2 years now and I have had 3 miscarriages. You guys think your biological clocks are ticking at your ages, I am 40 this year so I have alarm bells ringing!!!!
I found acupuncture really good, regulated my cycle and although it didn't turn out well I did get a BFP whilst doing it. ------------- DD born 2008 Oct 2009, April 2010, Dec 2010, June 20117 x IVF/ICSI/PGD = BFN |
Posted By: skylar
Date Posted: 23 January 2011 at 5:51pm
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Orca1 that is so horrible to have got the BFP 3x only to m/c, it was horrible enough for me to get 1 BFP and then m/c I couldn't imagine how hard it must be to repeat that twice over!
Went to a 1st bdae party yesterday, god it just made me feel soooo awful to be probably 1 of 2 women there who didn't have a kid! it made me just want to leave!!!!!!!!! on the other hand while talking to a good friend she told me about a friend of hers who had been trying for 5 years and finally got the BFP just before they were about to start IVF, those kind of stories just make my heart warm. Sometimes there is a light at the end of the tunnel huh? |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 30 January 2011 at 9:23am
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I'm sure 2011 will be your year ladies. Hope all goes well with the naturopath too. I think they can work wonders! -------------
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Posted By: skylar
Date Posted: 30 January 2011 at 1:47pm
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Hey Eva...yep I def think 2011 is our year :)
Think we're long overdue for a catch up! |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 31 January 2011 at 10:38am
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Definitely!...will probably be in March -------------
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 08 February 2011 at 5:56pm
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Hi Skylar, just found this thread and I was wondering whether you had tried Vitex? I think it is fantastic!! I suffered from secondary infertility and it took us 2 years, 7 rounds of clomid and a miscarriage to have our second. I thought I would be looking at similar with #3 but after taking Vitex for only one cycle I was pregnant! Maybe a fluke but it is worth trying ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
 
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Posted By: skylar
Date Posted: 16 February 2011 at 7:56am
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Thanks My3Sons, I haven't heard of Vitex, can you fill me in on what it is?
I am heading to the naturopath this weekend, she practices iridology and was recommended to me by a friend, who had previously had a lot of trouble TTC and holding pregnancies - friend highly recommended visiting her, she saw her before each of her pregnancies and got BFP within 3months...so also something positive to look forward to :) |