Girls nights out / me time

I am the mum of 2 kids 6yrs and 10 months and since the baby was born I have probably spent a total of 10 hours away from both the kids.

I am really in need of some time by myself, I find myself resenting my partner when he goes out by himself and I have to stay home with the kids.

I'm thinking of having a girls night out but don't really have any friends as I wasn't brought up in Auckland and don't know many people here only my partners friends. I have 1 friend of my partners who has said she will go out for a few drinks with me one day in Jan, but she is leaving for ausie on the 17th i think it is.

How often do other mothers get to be by them selves?

What do you do to get away from everything for a while?

What are some good things to do on a girls night (I've never had many friends so haven't had one before)?

Is there anyone else in Auckland that would be interested in an occasional night out, maybe a group of us out for dinner (not too expensive) then a few drinks or something sometime.

TIA

(man I feel like a dick for posting this but oh well)

I dont get a girls night out, but every thursday night when DP gets home from work, I go to a 'gaming' thing that some old (non-mummy) friends and I do weekly, its for about 3 hours and thats my 'timeout'. Unfortunately over the holidays it goes on hiatus, which is when I need that time the most!!

I think these days noone can really afford to go out regularly for drinks/dinner or both.

For a lowcost option you could have a fortnightly movie night on the tuesday nights when its cheaper??

I don't get out that much at the moment, DS is going through a terrible sleeping stage, so I use most of my "time off" sleeping!! But if money wasn't an object, I loved going to the mall and getting a pedicure, or even just going to a cafe and having a hot drink with a good book!


Edited by JadeC

Down here the pools have a ladies night every Sunday. So ive just started going to that. Even if i go for an hour its a hour out of the house.

Also cheap movie night can be a good one. Even going alone just to get out.

Or maybe join some activity group. Zumba or night classes etc. It gives you a break away form home & a chance to meet people

heya
I get out of the house by myself when ever i like.

I just went and saw narnia the other night with a childless bestie. we do the cheap tuesdays at the movies and depending on my budget we either have dinner in the delux lounge or go to dennys.
we do this very often.

last month i went and stayed at her place and we just watched movies ALL night i think we got to bed about 5:30am.

when dh gets home i often duck up to mums for some time out. especially with the kids on holidays now.

my time out is going to the movies or sometimes I get invited out to a party.

I probably go out more than my husband does :)

Hey Sheza we should go to the movies or something one day/night and leave the kids home with DP's

i used to do aquarobics at night and then a gym workout - for a while there it was three nights a week i was out exercising... a bunch of girls used to meet up at a cafe for hot chocs or sometimes movies - but we havent done it in a while cause the mainstay went overseas to live. i find so long as i give my husband enough warning then its fine... there are a couple of girls on here from down your way. and i'm sure if you organise a movie night next year then i'm sure a few of us would come along to that as well.

I go to work but outside of work I go to the gym or do some form of exercise each day, sometimes it involves taking the kidlets, but mostly its just me.

My DH who is a SAHD has time out each day at the gym, it has a creche, so he can leave the kids there and get in a workout and sauna.

I work 3 days a week which give me adult time along with going to the gym twice a week.
Each month I have a 'mummys date night' where about 6 of us go out for dinner using our Entertainment cards.
I also meet up for a wine with some local mothers of multiples once a month.
I'm a member of the WMBC committee as well which is another social outlet.

I found the first year of parenting was very hermit like for 'me' activities. As they got older it got easier to get out of the house.
Heck, I've even had 2 weekends away sans kids this year too.