Boys and their behaviour

I am fresh out of ideas and Andrew is really getting to me.

He nearly got suspended yesterday for his attitude and they way he acts after things happen in the classroom.

He lost it at his teacher because he lost the maths game, he was doing well untill that happened. His teacher tried everything and ended up having to get help from the office to get him out of the classroom to cool down.

After he cooled down he wsa fine but it is now becoming a joke. I think he is being bullied at school at lunchtime (he has some bullies in his class), and after school as I pick him up just after school (usually there by 3.10pm).

His teacher is lovely but when I came down to see the school and enrol him from Waiouru I said he needs a very strong teacher that isn't going to take the crap he sometimes give - we were told we would get it but I don't think we have.

Anyone got any bright ideas before I start looking at asking the school to see if he can have a male teacher (I personally think he needs that male dominate figure), or moving schools.

What Freckle said, we have been through this with my boy as well, he is very disruptive in class, will hit/scratch other kids and will sit there and cry if he doesnt get to do what HE wants... we are currently in the process of family therapy through the local district health board's child therapy people, but for a few terms last year he had a resource teacher come in for an hour each day to take him aside and work through what needed to be done that day, mostly to give the teacher a break, as he can be a very full-on demanding kid!

I wish I could just turn up at school but because I work that makes it quite hard to get down there. I struggle to get him from school at 3pm cos that is when I finish work. But it is a brillant idea that maybe I could try whenI am on leave next.

Does your school have after school care? So that way you both aren't stressed about getting there in time..?

If he is getting bullied you need to speak to the teacher and possibly the team leader and see if the duty teachers can watch out for him for a couple of days. If you "think" it's happening then you need to stop asap! Most schools have a Zero Tolerance so I'd say if you voiced your concerns they really have to act on it?

I also agree with Biz, sounds like the teacher also needs some stategies. I don't agree with moving schools just because he cant' control his temper... he needs help with this and an RTLB would definitely be the way to go, you just have to get a referral from the teacher or possibly a team leader.

Have you sat down with him and talked about what is going on?

resource teacher of learning and behaviour.

ETA - I meant to say... RTLBs and special education behavioural specialist often work alongside each other... the school should know how to access both these services. SE can provide more specialist behavioural support than RTLBs. All state schools have access to these services.

Edited by freckle

No not yet Liz, I would hope they are this term.

Spoke to my mum last night who said getting in an RTLB would be good so I am finishing work a little earlier today and going into school to ask for one.