Boys and their behaviour
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Topic: Boys and their behaviour
Posted By: mummy_becks
Subject: Boys and their behaviour
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 11:25am
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I am fresh out of ideas and Andrew is really getting to me. He nearly got suspended yesterday for his attitude and they way he acts after things happen in the classroom. He lost it at his teacher because he lost the maths game, he was doing well untill that happened. His teacher tried everything and ended up having to get help from the office to get him out of the classroom to cool down. After he cooled down he wsa fine but it is now becoming a joke. I think he is being bullied at school at lunchtime (he has some bullies in his class), and after school as I pick him up just after school (usually there by 3.10pm). His teacher is lovely but when I came down to see the school and enrol him from Waiouru I said he needs a very strong teacher that isn't going to take the crap he sometimes give - we were told we would get it but I don't think we have. Anyone got any bright ideas before I start looking at asking the school to see if he can have a male teacher (I personally think he needs that male dominate figure), or moving schools. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 11:37am
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Sounds like a frustrating situation for you all! Have the school looked into behavioural support from the ministry of education? They can refer to MOE - special Ed for an assessment of his behaviour
and if he meets the criteria they maybe able to get a behavioural support worker to work alongside him during some of the more difficult times or if that isn't something you'd want, they could provide the teacher with some more strategies to help with his behaviour. I'm not sure if this is something you would consider but thought I'd mention it JIC... ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 11:48am
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What Freckle said, we have been through this with my boy as well, he is very disruptive in class, will hit/scratch other kids and will sit there and cry if he doesnt get to do what HE wants... we are currently in the process of family therapy through the local district health board's child therapy people, but for a few terms last year he had a resource teacher come in for an hour each day to take him aside and work through what needed to be done that day, mostly to give the teacher a break, as he can be a very full-on demanding kid! ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 12:33pm
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it sounds like the teacher needs some new strategies too. i would talk to the school and see if they have any suggestions. also is there any way you can pop in for a surprise visit and see how things go in the classroom or during lunch. I quite often pop up to the school earlier to pick them up and loiter around the class to see what is going on. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 12:56pm
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I wish I could just turn up at school but because I work that makes it quite hard to get down there. I struggle to get him from school at 3pm cos that is when I finish work. But it is a brillant idea that maybe I could try whenI am on leave next. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 1:54pm
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I think the school and teachers need to develop some strategies around his behaviour. It's not realistic to change schools each time he pushes the buttons. I think there is RTLB that the school can access if they have concerns. You can't really have consequences for something he did during the day away from you. The school needs to do that with your support. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 3:21pm
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Does your school have after school care? So that way you both aren't stressed about getting there in time..?
If he is getting bullied you need to speak to the teacher and possibly the team leader and see if the duty teachers can watch out for him for a couple of days. If you "think" it's happening then you need to stop asap! Most schools have a Zero Tolerance so I'd say if you voiced your concerns they really have to act on it? I also agree with Biz, sounds like the teacher also needs some stategies. I don't agree with moving schools just because he cant' control his temper... he needs help with this and an RTLB would definitely be the way to go, you just have to get a referral from the teacher or possibly a team leader. Have you sat down with him and talked about what is going on? ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 3:25pm
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After school care will start mid August which will be great cos he will be going in for 3 days a week and then there is only 1 day I am going to finishing work early to get to him at school. Dumb question but what is RTLB??? I can ask about it when I see her tomorrow, he is at a normal school so "should" have access to it. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 4:47pm
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resource teacher of learning and behaviour.
ETA - I meant to say... RTLBs and special education behavioural specialist often work alongside each other... the school should know how to access both these services. SE can provide more specialist behavioural support than RTLBs. All state schools have access to these services. ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 7:47pm
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have you just had the parent teacher interviews? if you have, call another one and I would ask specifically what they are doing to manage his behaviour. you can then decide whether you want to adopt something similiar at home to back it all up.
Jake was acting up at school as well. we made him a rewards chart and his teacher kept in close contact with us, letting us know (in a notebook) how his beahviour had been for the day. We also noted down if there was anything unusual happening at home. worked well and we've had no hiccups so far this term. (end of week two 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 30 July 2010 at 8:31am
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No not yet Liz, I would hope they are this term. Spoke to my mum last night who said getting in an RTLB would be good so I am finishing work a little earlier today and going into school to ask for one. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |