Im not sure what to do...

(I post on here regulary, I just didn't want to post this under my usual user name)

About the situation Im in right now, well what to make of it really.

DF goes away often, Im not the kind of partner that rings him constantly, I usually just wait to hear from him when he's free.

I have never had trust issues with him before, he gets along well with everyone he works with, I honestly believe he is a loyal family man, and I would like to think he wouldn't jeoperdise his family by doing something silly

BUT, Im finding it hard to get my head around what has happened, he went away with a small group of work colleagues on a training course, they are staying in a hotel (paid for by his work) there is one single woman out of 6. Well they have 2 single bed rooms and I found out when I rung DF on Tuesday night that he is sharing his room with this single woman. I told him straight away Im not impressed and in fact this could cause troubles between us, all the other work colleagues are single men except DF (so his explanation was she felt 'safer' sharing a room with him over the others) which I feel is total disrespect for me. Why he put her feelings before mine I have no idea.

He acknowleged that, yes I have every right to be upset, but I should trust he is faithful etc.

I wouldnt be as p!ssed as I am, but a week before he left, this woman and her friend were sending him text messages (as her name was taken off to go on this trip) to "please make sure I get on this course trip as Im having a hard time at work and need some time out" which I questioned at the time, but didn't think much of it, UNTIL I found she wanted to share a room with him.

I feel like he hasn't taken me seriously as he feels nothing is happening so its not an issue.

Im not sure what to make of the whole situation and I would like to know what you think from the outside looking in.

Exactly what Kellz said!!
If my DP wants to be trusted then he has to BE trustworthy ALL the time - that means making decisions that are transparent and obviously 'clean' IYKWIM. It certainly wouldn't be acceptable if the tables were turned - he'd pack a fit if I made a decision like that. If he wouldn't like me doing it then he doesn't do it - thats a kind of an unspoken agreement in our house for both of us.

Ask him how he would honestly feel , if it was the other way round and it was you sharing a room with a single male colleague
He should be respecting your feelings on the issue a lot more, not making light of them

That's exactly what I think too Babe, I thought that's the relationship we had, until now! I did say that to him also, he would pack his bags if I did that even if 'nothing happened' but he seems to think that because he told me, he is trustworthy.

But now it will affect me when he goes away again, I will be wondering 'what ifs" and looking for signs, and it will do my head in

Yeah I can't believe that they are made to share a room. As the others have said, I would be pissed at DH and the work if I was you.

I agree with everyone else and I would be pissed!

Even if he is loyal and everything I would still be pissed because I know how the female mind works!

I can't believe she didn't get her own room, I understand if she had raised that though she probably wouldn't have got to go, esp if the company or where ever was trying to save $$.

That said I understand why she would prefer to stay with your dh over other single men but I still don't like the idea.

That fact that she was texting your dh bout it is what gets up my nose.

Sorry no advice, but hope you sort it out.

It would drive me nuts too!

Are you able to complain? Because like you said, I've never known it to be any company policy to allow opposite sex to share rooms when they have to go away for business.

I would be completely pissed too.

I was in the hotel business before I went on leave and in 12 years, I have never come across a male & female colleague sharing a room. From big corporations on training courses to small business with limited budgets

The one positive side is that he told you which is a good thing, so shows that he is being honest about it?

It seems dodgy that he was sharing a room. Surely they wouldnt expect a female to have to share a room with a male colleague at all.

So i think it was arranged that they wanted it to be like that.

It sounds far to dodgy to me. I think there could be something going on.

He may have told you so he doesnt get snapped out.

Its quite likely nothing happened between them.

But it just seems far to dodgy!!

I would be totally pissed! You have every right to be!
I have been on a few out of town courses etc for work and have had to share rooms but only ever with the same sex as staff of the opposite sex in the same room was a company no no as they felt it was bound to cause trouble.