Just looking for reassurance....

they do bounce back and it is definitely normal toddler behaviour. some people have good results by giving lots of snacks instead of 3 main meals and others find making lunch the main meal helpful.

Oh hun hugs!!!!!

I have not suggestions but didnt want to read and run.

While I cant sympathise wholly with your situation I do understand how easy it is to get caught in the situation of offering foods that WILL be eaten only to have it backfire as the ONLY things that will be eaten.

Will keep fingers and toes crossed its just a silly phase and he will go back to trying new foods!

You have been through enough already!!!!!

Thinking of you hun.

(oh and Jake has slipped back under the 3rd percantile weighing in at 8.5kg and his paed wasnt happy about it but wasnt too concerned just yet.... we are hoping its because he started walking a couple of months ago).

Thanks for the posts guys!

Anna - I remember that post!!! The thing is I don't want to be constantly giving in to Jackson. He's very aware these days. He eats well at day care because he knows that what is put in front of him is what he's getting - nothing else. So, we're trying to recreate that at home. Although.... do you remember the cornflakes? He used to have to have a cornflake on every single spoon to eat at all. We got rid of them sucessfully about 3 months ago. Tonight we were really keen for him to try something, so brought out the bag. His eyes lit up!! I couldn't believe that he remembered after that long! And, yes, it made him try it, but he spat it straight out. Quite amusing.

Newlywed, we had options with strategies. Either the "tell him what he has to eat in order to get yoghurt" or "present everything he's getting and leave him to it" options. In the end we are going with the latter after several recommendations (including our Starship Child Psychologist who is NZ's leading specialist in child eating issues - we're so lucky to have her on our side!). We're still in the first few days, so I am hoping it's just him getting used to the way we do things now. As for social eating - he does eat 2 snacks and a main meal at day care every day, and definately does better with the other kids. We always have dinner at home together, and that also helps. He's just seemed to revert all of a sudden again. We're very good (these days) at being really relaxed with his feeding, not pressuring at all and pretending we don't care if he doesn't eat. But, after all that has happened, I know I over-stress when he has down times.

Mel - great to hear from you! Thanks for posting. :-) I didn't realise that Jake was so tiny too. Glad you have a diplomatic paed though, makes a real difference when you're not getting pressured or blamed from the medical side.
Have you found out what you're having?

Bizzy - thanks, as usual, for your quick reassurance. I appreciate it.

Hoping he has a bounce back soon. I hate feeling worried like this again.

Yup, the paed is great even if a he is a little odd LOL

Nope we are keeping it a surprise but my instincts say its another blue one... I have been pretty spot on with everyone else lately so will be very pleasantly surprised if its a girl!

Congrats on another boy!!!

So sorry to hear that you are still having ongoing issues with eating. I don't expect you to remember me, but my DS2 is still tube feed and we have made little but steady progress with his eating.

A few weeks ago, DS took to not eating at all. As you can understand it was an extremely frustrating time. I decided to try something completely different and have an afternoon tea party with teddy bears. I brought a tea set, sat all the teddy bears down, and brought out a variety of foods that were cut up very small. DS1 LOVED it (but he's always been a great eater). DS2 seemed to really enjoy it and even tried a few bits and pieces Definitely not enought to say he had a meal, but at least he was putting food to his mouth again. From then on, he started taking pureed food off the spoon again (even if he thinks he's feeding himself ).

I think it worked because it was a very relaxed atmosphere where play was the focus not food. I know we couldn't do this for every meal time, but if it works.......????!!!

Anyway, I thought I'd just share that with you, just in case its something you haven't thought about doing.

Good luck. I really hope Jackson starts eating better soon