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my2angels 
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Posted: 12 February 2007 at 7:18am |
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I am totally at my wits end with all the wingeing and grizzling from Kobe. Its constant all day every day. He doesnt even talk to me nicely half the time its just a whining voice. And I dont know why cos its just me he does it with, when his dad comes home he is fine, when we go to other peoples houses he is fine but the minute he is home alone with me it starts. Im at the point where im thinking of putting him into preschool every morning or something cos Im just not being the type of mother I wanted to be. I cant stand it anymore, its doing my head in. We have tried telling him to talk nicely to me and not giving him what he wants till he does but that doesnt work, Ive tried ignoring him and all he does is start pulling on me till i physically have to pry him off. He still uses his manners and says please but its just the constant at me and moaning. Any suggestions?
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Maya
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Posted: 12 February 2007 at 8:59am |
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No suggestions - but I sympathise! I was soooooo glad to get Maya back to preschool last week for a break from the constant whinging! If you believe her, she is always hungry - every five minutes "I'm huuuuungry" - either there's something wrong with her and she's not digesting her food properly or she is jst bored!
I do find it helps to shut myself in my bedroom, coz if I tell her to go to hers she hangs around and whinges some more about how she doesn't want to go to her bedroom, so I find it easier just to take myself away then she has no one to whinge at.
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Posted: 12 February 2007 at 9:16am |
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I've tried playing - super-cheery-mum-voice says "okay, now let's say that in a happy voice" but if things don't improve (or revert) in the next time or two, I say "If you are going to keep talking like that, you must need a rest"... followed through with choosing # of books per year of age and being shut in the bedroom for 1/2 hr or so ("I'll come back and get you at afternoon tea time" etc).
I think it's important for kids to learn this one as no one likes to deal with a grizzler, and it's really draining on a mum, so it will help them a lot in the future.
PS You suggested day care or something. Do you think he's bored? Toy library, movies (we limit it to one per day), library visit could help.
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Posted: 12 February 2007 at 9:37am |
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i remember gabriel going thre that stage...he still does sometimes but mostly he has stopped. You have to decide how you want to deal with it and stick to that. i think i used to use my firm voice and tell him it want acceptable...etc etc...now tho if he does whine at me i tell him he must be tired and he can have a nap and that always changed his attitude.
its so hard to not let it get to you - i dont think daycare would help cause he would still whine at you when he got home.
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Posted: 12 February 2007 at 3:01pm |
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that is so true, he would whine when he got home I guess. We do go to things, music and movement today, coffee and play groups etc... but he probably is bored with me. I said to hubby the other day i dont think he likes me cos he is horrible with me but happy with everyone else!
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Posted: 12 February 2007 at 3:11pm |
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It's probably just that he's around you the most and you cop it when he's tiredest too. It could also be that he's feeling rather attached to his dad at the moment (male thing) I guess.
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Posted: 12 February 2007 at 11:43pm |
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LOL - i spent the first two years and a bit of gabriels life convinced he didnt like me ...
somebody once said that the reason he is grumpy with me and nobody else meant he felt comfortable and safe with me.?
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Posted: 13 February 2007 at 7:30am |
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thats a nice way of thinking of it, I'll go with that so it at least makes me feel a little better. Today I am being super nice mummy (yes the grizzling has started already and Im just a little tiny bit hung over)
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Posted: 13 February 2007 at 8:16am |
i run away mum said we did the crying thing with her aswel but when dad came home it was all nice and sweet  i put james in his room or trow him at his nana or aunty and go and rest sometimes he fine somtimes not on the days hes not i take to the flide down the road ad let him chase the seagulls lol
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How do you deal with the grizzling