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astral_monkey 
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Posted: 11 January 2011 at 4:45pm |
I don't really like judging people I don't even know, but... seriously?
http://www.nzherald.co.nz/health/news/article.cfm?c_id=204&objectid=10698646
You want a girl, sure fine, I have no problem with that, it's the 'aborted twin boys' part that leaves me speechless. I'm all for freedom of choice - I think it's just after 2 years of TTC with no success the thought of people wanting a 'certain' child so badly they would abort two perfectly healthy fetus's just... I can even find the words......
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Tiff8ny
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Posted: 11 January 2011 at 5:03pm |
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that makes me sick :-( dont they realise ANY of us TTC girls would LOVE twin boys!!! we arent fussy!
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Posted: 11 January 2011 at 5:06pm |
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Thats pretty weird - you'd think that if they didnt want them they'd adopt them out at least
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Posted: 11 January 2011 at 5:28pm |
Its sick!!  aborting the babies because they are boys due to her wanting a girl.
What gets me is how far along in her pregnancy was she to find out they were boys ?
And who the hell let her abort the pregnancy in the first place? surely she would of had to go through some questioning due to them being IVF bubs?and or BEFORE she got IVF have some counselling to help her through the possibilty of having another boy, I mean its a 50/50 chance surely she would of prepared herself for this.
If they were allowed to choose their gender( and I hope they get thrown out of court) , Where will it stop? There will be designer babies everywhere!
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Posted: 11 January 2011 at 6:31pm |
there's a whole thread on this on in the news section.
It is shocking and should not have been allowed to happen, poor babies who never had a chance at life 
Shocking they are trying to have a replacement girl for the one they lost.
I also feel sorry for the 3 other boys who will find out their parents killed their brothers, just awful.
They could have adopted out...
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Posted: 11 January 2011 at 7:01pm |
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That made me cry. I can't stand this. Someone in the Charting thread mentioned that someone she knew someone who had previously had two abortions, was accidentally pregnant again. The world is a cruel dark place that is out to hurt us.
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Posted: 11 January 2011 at 7:35pm |
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disgusting
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Posted: 11 January 2011 at 9:41pm |
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I think it's disgusting - agree she could have at least adopted them out! Imo you get what you get. Regardless of how the baby comes out iygwim.
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 9:42am |
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People like that make me sick, they should be happy with what they have, you can't always get what you want but should make the most of what you get. Should people this callous (sp) seriously be allowed to have more children if they are just going to abort them for an unreasonable reason?
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 9:57am |
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OMG if they killed IVF babies they should NOT be allowed to do IVF again
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 10:48am |
I agree DTBW! That's what i thought! There are so many people waiting for IVF! How can they really do that!
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 10:53am |
I don't want to be too controversial here but surely it comes pretty close to being murder when you go to the trouble of IVF to deliberately conceive and then decide to give up on them an abort!
I just hope someone gets them some serious help as they clearly have deep mental issues that need to be resolved. Another child isn't the solution.
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 3:53pm |
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i know by the number of replies, compared to the number of people who have viewed this thread, that many are stopping and thinking before they reply.....
but please do. the comments made so far are not helpful to anyone. this is a complex issue and the media never give full coverage.
we are lucky to live in a country where IVF is available.
we are lucky to live in a country where abortion is available to those who choose it.
please don't judge other women for their decisions.
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 5:10pm |
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 6:40pm |
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I don't really care if my post on this thread was helpful or not!I'm just expressing my opinion which I have a right too and I totally think this couple are selfish,after over 3 years ttc#1 and having ivf in march myself I would NEVER even dream of aborting a miracle ivf baby when there are SO many people who can't get pregnant that desperately want too.
I'm sorry if you don't have the same opinion as me but hey everyone is different and theres nothing wrong with that.
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 6:45pm |
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I don't agree with abortion full stop, but even I think there is something even worse about choosing to abort babies you tried for just because the babies had the wrong genitalia. They must have known before they started trying that they were going to abort if they got a boy and that is just sick, digusting, and in my opinion inhuman to do something so calculated.
I don't care what they have been through it does not give them the right to end the life of two children.
I also worry for her mental health after doing this, I'm sure at some point she will realise the gravity of what she has done and we have three dead children to mourn instead of just one.
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 7:22pm |
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Also, they've conceived before. Heaps of people haven't and have to wait for, and hope that IVF works out.
I second Tiff, these are our opinions, and I feel like to me, it feels like a slap in the face. I'd have taken those boys and loved them so much.
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 9:26pm |
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to judge someone is to form an opinion after careful consideration.
so far all i have seen is raw emotion slapped on a page.
i have not stated my opinion on the matter. i just asked for some forethought.
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 9:28pm |
will be back later for some healthy debate 
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Posted: 12 January 2011 at 9:44pm |
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It is true that the media do not always give a balanced view on a topic, however I am struggling to understand what more information could be added to this story that would make it ok? These people have 3 healthy (or so it leads us to believe) sons and what attention is being given to them about how this may be affecting them? I agree with what the girls have said, in my opinion its not right and nor will it ever be right to abort a baby because it is not the gender the parents want!
And furthermore, there will be raw emotion in a TTC thread where some women here are experiencing difficulties concieving and a blimen hard time on any given day without reading about people like this. This just rubs salt in an already sore wound for a lot of women. Judging or not, I don't agree at all. But that woman needs some serious help.
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