Are you a planner?

Obviously you are to a degree if you are in here but just wondering if anyone is as anal as me! We have been talking about TTC #2 but trying to find the right time is difficult!

Can't be due in March as SIL is getting married so I don't want to be as big as a house and risking going into labour at the wedding! Spoke to my midwife the other day and she is on leave June/July so if I'm due then would mean having to have a different midwife.

So then I was thinking waiting but then what if it doesn't happen straight away and then the age gap will be getting larger than we had planned!

lol I think I think too much!

What factors did you consider when TTC?

I've never considered what events are coming up in my life in order to plan TTC around because I can't plan when I'm going to get pregnant (it could take 1 mth, it could take 2 yrs) and also anything I do I figure I can still do when pregnant. We plan most overseas holidays at least 6 months in advance and I don't take TTC into consideration at all.

The only factors we considered prior to TTC were that we were emotionally and financially ready for a baby. That took 8 years!

I don't believe in planning TTC in terms of not trying in a certain month in case you have a baby at the wrong time of year. I understand the logic behind that, but we starting TTC when I was 23 so I figured it would be easy enough, and it took us nearly a year. If I had skipped months who knows when I might have got UTD. Also I think there are some people out there who would kill to have a baby in any month or any time of the year, but can't so I didn't like to be fussy about when.

All we considered really is how much we wanted a baby, and decided we would make everything else work around it.

I think as long as the baby will have a roof over its head, food and people to love it any time is right, and if you plan and plan there'll never be a right time.

We didn't really plan anything, and now we have been waiting for 2 years to conceive. Wish we had started earlier!

kebakat wrote: lol Dal - you are a shocker for planning! .

LOL I reckon!

Been kicked up the bum now - so its all go and not planning on anything other than getting pregnant! LOL.

Everything else will just work around things, like right now would probably be the worst time if I did get pregnant - but who cares we will work something out when its due and we have no house LOL (building so living with inlaws), I have FINALLY realised that we cant plan it at all - along with the help of friends off here that have said enoughs enough you cant plan it! LOL

yep planner here, we delayed planning for 2 years because we wanted to be in a nice home, and both of us having steady, decent paying jobs, and I needed to be entitled to PPL. We also wanted to get the custody arrangement for DS sorted before bringing another baby into the mix... Then it took another 2 years to get our baby... so we could have started trying when we wanted to, and everything would have been fine... unfortunately crystal balls dont exist, and hindsight is a wonderful thing! At one stage while trying we talked about holding off for a few months so I woudnt be due during peak speedway months, but luckily Jae timed that beautifully for us without having to delay TTC... this time around we went with the opposite track, no point in holding off given how long it took... now I'm due right as all the finals are happening! Ooops! But as a previous poster has said, you will quite likely end up just planning around the baby, rather than trying to make baby fit around the life you already have

Yeah , I planned more this time, I planned not to get UTD in August or september so I didn't have 3 june babies .
I don't care if my children share their birthday month with anyone else, but june is getting expensive (C is 8th of June , Ty is 27th )

I was lucky , this ones due in Feb

I am a bit of a planner. Didn't plan at all with TTC Jack but did with Ben to the extent that I tried to avoid him being born in the same month as Jack

I have decided that I want to start TTC #3 after xmas but will call my mw first and see if she has any holiday plans so I can work around them and will also stop TTC in about March to avoid a Dec/Jan baby

Yep I am def a planner...and yet this one came much earlier than we expected (we weren't hard out trying but we weren't preventing either...I just assumed it would take us as long to get pg 2nd time as it did first time!). I don't think its a great idea to overplan TTC cos you just never know how its gonna work for ya

I'm a total planner and put off ttc for ages due to jobs, houses, money etc. I was very lucky in that I got pg the first month of trying but I now think that I probably put it off for too long and for the wrong reasons as had it taken us a year or longer I would have been gutted.

I figure you can't really plan for it, you never know when you are going to conceive so as long as you are ready for the idea that you might get pregnant then I think that is all that matters.