What do you do when your DH misbehaves??

I have just sent my husband packing for the night because of his raising his voice and swearing and carrying on at me OVER NOTHING... and waking up the baby. Off he goes to his family's place. I just said to him "this is unacceptable behaviour"... I am soo angry. Sometimes I feel like I'm putting a child in time out! I'm not sure sending him to my in-laws is the right thing to do but I just can't tolerate him here when he's like that.

What do you do when your DH/DP misbehaves? Or are they not as bad as mine??

I also just give silent treatment and would probably just bark back and leave it at that and probably go to bed. I wouldn't kick him out though, it's his house too!

mmmmm...silent treatment here too.
its no use me arguing back as that is just what he wants (hes a pro..haha) so not taking the bait is hard for him to understand.

i would be worried if i said leave for the night and he DID!!!

remember...men age, but they dont mature much past 18yrs..haha (shhhh..past it on )

I don't think yelling and swearing is acceptable either but Its usually me that yells first! I hate silent treatment and will needle DH into a fight if I think he's got the sh*ts with me ;)

I'd never kick him out after/during an argument though, I hate going to sleep on an argument and would rather make up first.

My DH is passive aggressive I am the one who gets fired up, it would more likely be me swearing or yelling but not within earshot of DD. If we have an argument I would not kick him out, for me it would just not feel right since its his house to and I would just feel like it was not solving the issue. I get over stuff pretty quick but DH sulks a bit so silent treatment is usually the go here, plus our bed is a super king so he might as well be in another room anyway lol!

Yay I'm glad you talked about it have fun making up

We're anti leaving when you're angry in this house. DHs cousin died in a car accident coz he'd taken off after an argument; obviously drove according to his mood.
In saying that if DH has upset me I usually go to the mall and have an affair with my eftpos card. We just don't leave when we're angry.
We hardly ever yell though and neither of us really like the silent treatment. We don't discuss our 'issues' in front of Harper so by the time he's gone to bed we've had time to mull it over and usually by then have decided it wasn't such a big deal in the first place.

Is there another area of the house you can go to and give him time to get it together? We all have those days and as time goes on in your marriage you'll find a way between you that'll work in these situations.

Beloved we have a super king bed and my DH STILL has problems with staying on his own side

I can easily go to sleep on an argument, and wake up on it too I have told DH to f&^% off before, a few times, and he has also told me to do the same. We try not to swear at each other, although we can yell. It isn't the best way to deal with things. So...what I do when he misbehaves, is treat him in the same manner to which he treats me. Which usually makes things worse anyway.

Glad you got it sorted. Getting married and having kids is not easy in the early years. You just start getting used to being married and along comes a baby to shake up the mix.   Making mistakes is part of it and I think the biggest thing is to realise when you have taken it too far. (Both sides) Often a bit of space and then a chat once everyone has cooled down sorts it all pretty quick.

Sometimes I also hold DH to a higher standard. I think how dare he come home grumpy when I have had a hard day with the kids.   Whereas it is perfectly fine for me to throw a tanty quite regularly.   Sometimes I just need to realise that he can have a bad day too. I just don't expect him to throw one as he is normally so together.

Also you don't want to fall into the mother role in regards to DH as that is a real relationship killer. So easy to do and I quite often find myself saying things to DH that I say to the kids. Got to stop myself every now and then.

As for the going out for a drink there is a bit of mindplay there. After a few hours he is normally out of his depth with the kids (or he was when they were younger) and looking forward to my return. Those nasty words before I left are soon forgotten out of sheer joy to hand them over again.

Good luck.

Gosh I'd never even consider kicking my DH out, IMO that would only be for really really proper horrid stuff like cheating.

In saying that a) he wouldnt have anywhere to go as no family here and b) i dont think we've ever had that kind of fight before.

When he acts stupid like throwing the remote when the SKY box breoke I just tell him disdainfully that his behaviour is ridiculous and what kind of example does he think he setting, grow up its just the TV - he only did it that once and hasnt again!

If we are arguing about personal stuff (finances / parents etc) then its usually silent treatment, we dont yell at each other and definately no name calling / swearing at the other person.

Not that he cares tho, he can out silent the best of them and very rarely conceeds the argument, not very healthy as it just remains an unresolved issue!! I do remember saying to him once that I couldnt bare to be in the same room as him but our flat was a postage stamp so he could still see me fuming in the bedroom LOL shoulda gone out for a drink!!!