feeding problems

ok my 10mnth old refuses to be spoon feed.......and only puts alittle finger food in mouth......she also refuses to drink milk from bottle or sipper....she will drink ooooodles of water from sipper...........i need to go back to work so with her not eating solids well and not wanting milk unless from me.....im at a loss as wat to do or how to get her to feed well. and how do i go about dropping BF? my boy just wanted bottle at *9mnths and didnt want me at all............im stressing majorly especially with a boy who is in and out of surgery

nah this has been happening since day dot

she wont be in daycare...she will be with grandparents......i was thining daycare but i wont be able to concentrate if i know she is screaming for a feed

as soon as i find work and all day

she is having what we eat but you cant give it to her by spoon...so you give her chanks of veges but most of that iis on the floor...she isnt gaining weight the way she should

TysMummy I think you should try the Plunket Family Centre. I'm not sure whether they have them in the Waikato - so if not, try Plunketline. They have been SO helpful to me when I've got stumped with my baby (both Plunketline and the Family Cntr).

A couple of suggestions you've probably already tried. Offer solids FIRST, BEFORE offering milk. Give your soft food that needs to be fed to her, then finger food, eg. fish fingers, pasta shapes and THEN give her milk or water in a cup. If you give milk or water first, she will get full and not be interested in solids. But I'm assuming you're already doing that. Many babies prefer finger food as opposed to being fed so see what you can do with that.

Really feel for you. Sounds like you're trying everything you can think of and I doubt I've got anything new to add.

Different foods? My DS loves greek yoghurt mixed with mushed fruit (banana/prunes/pears). Smoother food? Chunkier food? Some babies prefer fruit, some veges. DS prefers watties meat meals to home made.

He prefers it when I wipe a little on his lips then give him a minute to lick it off and have a think about whether he wants to eat it. (open mouth is yes, closed mouth is 'have you got a better offer?')

Have you tried letting her have the spoon and guiding it to her mouth? (with suction bowl) Tried this with DS, but think he was a bit young.

Oh year, and if it's a weight thing your worried about. Milk (BF or FF) is better for putting on weight than solids (to spite popular opinion).

Have you phoned Plunketline for ideas/advice?