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jazzy 
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 Posted: 29 July 2010 at 7:48am |
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I would take this as an opportunity to set the ground rules.
I would send her a card wishing her well...blah blah & say that since she has swine flu & has been sick on several occasions around your baby you & DH have decided to make sure she & other visitors only has contact with baby when well....no sick visitors. Really how hard is that...some people are so stupid.
I would ring health-line or your Dr & get information from them so if she says the Dr said blah blah then you can say.....(as she may want to visit before she should).
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Posted: 29 July 2010 at 8:56am |
Nope not at all, however asking for a medical cert to say she is clear is a little OTT.
Stick together and if you have a chain on your door keep it on and if she arrives unannounced you can say sorry you are meant to be at home you are high sick go away please.
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Posted: 29 July 2010 at 9:40am |
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Nope not at all, however asking for a medical cert to say she is clear is a little OTT.
Stick together and if you have a chain on your door keep it on and if she arrives unannounced you can say sorry you are meant to be at home you are high sick go away please. |
thats a good idea.
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Posted: 29 July 2010 at 9:52am |
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I just can't believe anyone would put a child at risk like this! Why would you WANT to visit a child when you're sick???
Having said that my BIL did the same when Toby was only a couple of weeks old, came over for lunch and announced when he got here that he had a terrible cold. He "stayed away" from Toby but I was really annoyed - what if he'd given it to me or my husband? We can't keep our distance (esp me as I was BF) so if we'd got it, Toby would have too. Plus with something like swine flu, if I had got sick there would be no one to look after Toby so my DH would have had to take time off work (all our family was overseas until recently).
People just don't THINK!!!
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Posted: 29 July 2010 at 10:42am |
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Bit like people going to work when they are sick and spreading germs...do they not think that maybe other people don't want to get sick...drives me mad...but it is also typical kiwi attitudes huh, tough it out blah blah! People need to remember that not everyone has great immune systems and that they may not know what the home life is like for someone (work mate might have a person at home with poor immunity). GRRR.
If she comes round to your house and DH lets her in you should just go for a walk with baby! Or go for a drive and have a coffee somewhere.
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Posted: 29 July 2010 at 12:08pm |
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Totally fair! She is the one being unfair as you eventally have to deal with a sick child and she can just go home.
You can't be too careful with things like swine flu, and if she's been told to stay at home anyways, well, she should be listening to doctors advice.
I HATE people who go out and about spreading their sickness! I work in retail and the number of times people have complained to me "I have the worst flu/cold/chicken pox/etc" - it's like "thanks for sharing"! I have a pretty good immune system anyways, but am a bit paranoid lately being pg. Just stay at home people!
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Posted: 29 July 2010 at 4:42pm |
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I think the medical cert is a wee bit OTT.
Personally I'd just say, no, you rest up! We will see you after you're better, rather than putting her on the defence by setting rules etc. TBH if you do that she is more likely to "break them" to pee you off.
I know a few people who had the swine flu last year (It went round work) and they were too sick to even leave thier beds, so chances are you won't see her till shes better anyhow.
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Posted: 29 July 2010 at 5:15pm |
I hope not. Ill just enjoy knowing she wont come over.. usually i never know 
DP just text to say he just went to see her... Grrr
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Posted: 29 July 2010 at 9:20pm |
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DP just text to say he just went to see her... Grrr |
Ask him when he gets home if he put his DUMB brain in this morning!
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Posted: 29 July 2010 at 10:21pm |
RicKer wrote:
I hope not. Ill just enjoy knowing she wont come over.. usually i never know
DP just text to say he just went to see her... Grrr |
Oh lordy I hate the "silent assassin" visitor. lol. What on earth was your husband thinking???!!!
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Posted: 29 July 2010 at 11:47pm |
Oh it is hard to keep a man away from his mother 
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Posted: 30 July 2010 at 7:26am |
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And you will appreciate that when yours grows up ..
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Posted: 30 July 2010 at 9:14am |
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I would hope no woman ever tried to keep my boys away from me! I would be gutted if they married someone like that.
In saying that I am also a sensible person and wouldn't be visiting a grandchild if I was sick.
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Posted: 30 July 2010 at 10:26am |
ditto what peanut said.....
i wonder if thats how we get to be the horrible MIL. when our sons grow up and the women they date/marry want them to spend all their time with them and us mummies still want contact too. 
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Posted: 30 July 2010 at 10:44am |
Bizzy wrote:
ditto what peanut said.....
i wonder if thats how we get to be the horrible MIL. when our sons grow up and the women they date/marry want them to spend all their time with them and us mummies still want contact too. |
In no way am in inferring that the op has mil issues .. however Bizzy that is a very good theory.
Thats also why I always wanted a daughter .. because when a couple marry its common for the couple to spend more time with the womans family than the mans.
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