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    Posted: 28 June 2009 at 10:23pm
I stumbled across this on the internet... I thought I might share it as I have thought many of these thoughts recently.

To all those TTC I hope your wait for your precious bundle is short, and your life with your bundle is long and happy.

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What Nobody Told You About Trying to Conceive...

That unprotected sex doesn't necessarily lead to pregnancy.

That your sex life would start to resemble a science experiment.

That you would see your OBGYN/RE more often than your DH at O time.

That the longer you TTC, the more PG women spring up around you.

That deep down inside, I can be a very jealous person.

That one day you wouldn't mind checking your CM or CP to see if it is your fertile period.

That I should have gone to medical school like my mom wanted, because I've had to do so much medical research by now just to figure out what was wrong with me, I might as well be an M.D.

That I would know more about the female reproductive system and menstrual cycle than most of the doctors I go to.

That living your life in 2 week increments would be the norm

That you never knew how much you wanted to see those 2 pink lines......until only one shows up every month

That simply relaxing will NOT get you pregnant. (your dh has to do some work too)

That you have no control over some of the goals you set...

That wishing really hard for something doesn't make it happen, and staring at your chart doesn't make it change!

That one day my DH would know so much about how my uterus functions and what it looks like from the inside (thanks HSGs).

That a pregnancy doesn't always equal a baby.

That miscarriage is so common.

That I would wish we had started TTC earlier.

That my friends' pregnancies would start to make me sad instead of happy.

That it would help bring a group of wonderful, caring, funny, empathetic women together like this.

That I'd EVER be willing to stab myself in the stomach or @ss every day in the hopes that it will help get me PG.

That it wouldn't happen the first time you didn't use birth control like we were led to believe in school.

That you wouldn't know how important a baby was to you until it took so long and you realized what you were willing to go through to make it happen.

That family would act like getting pregnant was a competition between all the young couples in the family, and the first one to get pg "wins".

That my DH is the most wonderful and caring man!

That it is insensitive to ask people when they are having a baby!

That women who do get pregnant are so very blessed!

That I could have been rich saving money on condoms and BCP, which were obviously unecessary.

That I would be happy to see abundant cervial fluid and tell my DH about it.

That other people's "good news" of pregnancy makes me sad and when they tell me they have good news, I hope that they just saved a bunch of money on car insurance by switching to Geico.

That medicine and procedures are not a sure fire way to get pregnant but it is a sure fire way to lose money fast.

That had I bought stock in Clearblue Easy I'd have my mansion on St. Pete's Beach in FL by now.

That docs should prescribe Zoloft with Clomid.

That having flo show up makes you cry, no matter who's bathroom you are in.

That it does not get easier, each cycle is harder than the last.

Feeling like you wish your life away in 2 week increments.

That I wouldn't want to hold or see someone's baby because it just hurts way too much.

That a group of "strangers" who I will probably never meet, have now become my "best friends" when it comes to ttc.

That I would splash urine on my face while taking apart an hpt in the hopes there really was a 2nd pink line hiding in it.

That talking about sex with fellow TTCers would be so easy.

That infertility is more common than you think.

That DH would get used to doing his 'thing' in a jar.

That one day all of this will make us stronger.

That there is sometimes darkness (infertility) before the light (a baby).

That no one I know (in my non FF life) would have any understanding as to how I feel.

That my temper and patience are much shorter than I ever thought.

That infertility is not as rare as I was led to believe.

That I would find it extremely difficult to be happy for other people's pregnancies and I would burst into tears upon hearing their news.

That I would make so many new, wonderful friends who totally get how I feel because we all suffer from the same affliction of infertility.

That it could hurt so much to lose your innocence.

That I am very bitter towards unmarried accidental pgcys, and slightly bitter towards married accidental pgcys.

That there is nothing to aid conception in the water at work, despite what some may say.

That I am so glad my neice was born when she was, early in our ttc, because if she were born now I don't think I could deal with it.

That someone I thought to be my best friend would hurt me by saying that she was sick of hearing about my efforts at ttc.

That I'd discover who my true friends are, both IRL and online.

That I'd ever be able to bond with my step-sister (also infertile).

That I'd be glad to know that I have PCOS - because at least I know what's wrong.

That I would know about other peoples' BD, CP, CM but not know there real name, their DH's name, or their occupation.

That I could spend so much time and money on figuring out what my body is doing (or not doing).

That I would have to rely on doctors to give me the final say-so on what I can or can't do (on a med/procedure break forced by my RE against my wishes)

That foreplay would consist of DH asking "How's your cervix today"

That an HSG will tell you more than just whether or not your tubes are blocked. I had no idea your uterus could be misshaped.

That one person could be "cursed" with so many different fertility problems.

That I should have become a gyno-which I think at this point I know more then some.

That some people just say the wrong things.

That a simple blood test costs $648!

That sex would ever become a chore!

That actually having a miscarriage would allow me to understand the loss that others have felt.

That miscarriage would make me want a baby even more than before!

That I would resent someone who has been trying less time than me telling me "I know how you feel..."

That DH would be overly concerned that our BD positions were the most effective ones!

That I would become NUMB to the wonderful world around me that I already have (DH, DD, family, friends, dogs, fun, etc)!

That I would become addicted to POAS and not sleep at night because I couldn't wait to POAS in the morning!

That I would be so sad, and ashamed.

That I would learn to speak in code
Like I checked Cm which was EWCM but when I will POAS who knows, dh won't let me for fear of BFN

That when AF showed up you would feel broken and disfunctional.

That your friendships with your real life girlfriends would suffer because they got pregnant after being off the pill for 3 weeks.

That this would be, by far, one of the hardest things you will ever have to go through.

That you HAVE to have sex even though you don't feel like it, but because your FM says high or peak.

That people would pity you and feel sorry for you.

That I would meet such wonderful group of people that I can share my sorrow, frustration and fears with.

That I would be going to a psychic to find out if there was a baby in my future (she told me twins in 3 to 5 months!)

That I would dream about taking my temperature and be disappointed if I woke up at 3am and it wasn't time yet.

That I would stop fantasizing about having a baby because it stopped making me happy.

That I would buy herbs and otc creams like vitex and progest, use them for two days, and then chicken out.

That I would hear well-meaning questions like: "Have you thought of taking your temperature?" (and this is after 20 months TTC...)

That my brother, who started TTC at the same time we did and whose wife got PG three months later, would go on and on telling me how tough and tiring life with a baby is, and then finish with: "You have no idea what it's like!"

That the two little words of "just relax" uttered by everyone I know would enfuriate me beyond belief.

That someone would suggest adoption to me in order to get pregnant (because it happened to a friend of theirs) before I had even had any testing done.

That we would have to schedule a BD session so DH could do it in a cup a few days later.

That I would have to help DH do it in a cup. (Just this morning!)

That my friends who started TTC 1 around the same time we did would already be pregnant with 2 before we get pregnant with 1.

That I wouldn't be able to attend my friend's babies 1st birthday parties because of the quesiton, "So, when are ya'll going to have children."

That the people around me would become more insensitive as time goes on. "It is so hard having a new baby, you just wouldn't understand." or "Be happy you're not tied down."

That I would watch a Baby Story every day... only to cry every day.

That it puts this much strain on a marriage.

That I spent years trying not to get pregnant, and praying for my period. Now I can't seem to lose the witch!

It's good to know I am not alone.

That I would have to listen to people complain about their children as if they were burdens while a child is the one thing in the world I want the most. Also, they sound as if they are trying to talk me out of having kids, like it is the absolute worst thing that could ever happen to me.

That being overweight would cause people to ask when I'm due, which in turn could cause me to cry.

That I would have to stop watching TV shows with babies in them because it just hurts too much.

That every girl should go to the gyn as soon as she gets AF the first time. If I had, I would have been dx with PCOS a lot faster.

That a friend would hid and ignore her own pregnancy to try to keep me from being upset. (we found out when she gave birth)

That sex does NOT ALWAY equal pregnancy or STD every time

That your body has its own mind.

That you would be keeping it a secret from everyone.

That you would cry your eyeballs out b/c AF showed.

That you would be jealous when everyone around you get pg including your 16yo cousin.

That you would tell everyone you're not ready for a child when they ask what your waiting for.

Life as you know it will be interrupted for two weeks.

That the broken heart you feel each month that is equal to the pain you feel when you lose a loved one.

That all of a sudden nursing other people's babies becomes a depressing NOT joyful feeling

That you feel useless as a female

That you will soon be lying through your teeth telling people that you don't want children

That you feel that your body has betrayed you by not delivering a regular cycle, the right about of the required "hormones" or doing what it should now how to do.

That you feel stupid and naive for thinking a pregnancy would occur "when it was supposed to".

That answering questions (and usually lying) about pregnancy or family plans would hurt so bad.

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Wow Emmi that was SPOT ON!!   Some of them gave me a tear and others made me giggle.

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oh so true sooo true. sme were kinda funny.

ewwww pee splashed on your face from pulling apart a HPT, Im glad I haven't gone that far to see 2 lines.... yet!
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wow SOOO true
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been there - thought that!!!!   So true it's freaky.
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Like someone jumped inside my head and stole all my ttc thoughts.

How sweet of her friend to hide her pregnancy.

Hope all you lovely ladies get UTD very very soon!!!!!


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that made me want to cry! its reduculously accurate to my own thoughts and im not even TTC (officially) yet!
its crazy how something so natural for a woman to experience can be so hit and miss, and therer be so many barriers to it- and it can be so depressing!!
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Yeah, now we know DF has next to no spermies why did we bother with fricken condoms? We ask ourselves that so much now!
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Glad you all enjoyed it. It made me laugh and cry and cringe, that pee flicking is gross, but I am so desperate to see that BFP that I wouldnt put it past me atm!!
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So so true! And same with me tears (threatening) and giggles but most of all my heart goes out to everyone on here and IRL who has to go through the heartache of TTC for so long
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Awwwww, that is all SO true!!! Made me cry, and smile. Hugs to all of you ladies and lots and lots of baby dust. Some people will never understand and some people will never know. A lot of people IRL have no idea we went through a fertility clinic to get our little man.   Thank god (admin?) for OHbaby!!
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Originally posted by Emmi_ Emmi_ wrote:



That simply relaxing will NOT get you pregnant. (your dh has to do some work too)
Or a drunken shag while on holiday etc...

That I would wish we had started TTC earlier.

Too true! We waited for 2 years to have our lives sorted out financially and live in a niceer home before we started TTC, I ended up forking out thousands in rent on a 3bdrm house, and never got to use the 3rd room as the nursery!! We ended up moving in with FIL and baby has to share a room with us until she goes into a cot, then its room-sharing with her big brother

That it would help bring a group of wonderful, caring, funny, empathetic women together like this.

To be perfectly honest, the ONLY people I could honestly feel happy for when ther announced they were PG were the ones off sites like this, where I knew they had been trying, and waited a long time for it, and truly deserved to be blessed in such a way!

That you wouldn't know how important a baby was to you until it took so long and you realized what you were willing to go through to make it happen.

Again... to true... I look at my little girl and thank the universe on a daily basis for allowing me to have her... yet with my first (accidental pg at 19 years old) I took him very much for granted!

That a group of "strangers" who I will probably never meet, have now become my "best friends" when it comes to ttc.

haha I now have more TTC buddies on my FB friends list than RL friends!

That there is nothing to aid conception in the water at work, despite what some may say.

and no such thing as the 'chair' in whatever corner of the office!

That I would know about other peoples' BD, CP, CM but not know there real name, their DH's name, or their occupation.

LOL! I once said to DP that a friend of mine was PG after trying for so long.. he gave me an odd look when I called her by her username cos I suddenly realised I didnt know her REAL name!!

That your friendships with your real life girlfriends would suffer because they got pregnant after being off the pill for 3 weeks.

I avoided so many friends while TTC as they had suddenly all (so it seemed) to start having their babies, it was all they wanted to talk about, and they would come asking ME for advice as I had done it all before, not realising that it hurt me to talk about something I wanted so badly

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Thought I might just bump this up, incase anyone feels like a bit of a chuckle


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Hahahahahahahaha that is brillant thanks heaps for the laugh love it!
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Here's my question - How the hell did the human race manage to get to where we are today when conception is such a cow?
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That is great and so true!!

DH ask last month if I was a "Spring Chicken yet" and just this morning asked if I was "going all free range" on him. Can't believe we've gotten to the point where my DH who hates anything "gory and internal" makes up his own code to find out if I'm OVing. Thinking about it that makes me a little bit sad.

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This is such a fantastic list - I've talked about TTC with a friend who's reply was 'it'll happen straight away, after you get your IUD out you wont get your next period' - but it seams its not always the same as DF keeps reminding me

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