dont know what to do
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Topic: dont know what to do
Posted By: Kazzle
Subject: dont know what to do
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 3:10pm
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Oh my god, ive turned into the phycio bitch from hell, you only have to look at me and it sets me off...
I was never like this with my first pregnancy and i dont know how to handle it...i have even got to the point were i almost packed my bags and went to stay with mum and dad for the night...but would much rather Kent and Rhiannon left so i could have the house to myself. I feel so horrid, yet i dont know how to tell Kent how im feeling, its hard enough with him constantly going on and on and bloody on about not getting any special cuddles...and i think thats my main problem is he is making me feel like im being a useless wife cos im not putting out at the moment, but i dont know how to tell him i dont want him touching me without hurting him...arrggghhh ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 3:23pm
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I think i remember being like that too in the first stages lol.
Of course i didnt actually know i was pregnant at the time. My ex was always asking me why i was in such a foul mood. I treated him pretty badly sometimes too. Felt bad afterwards of course but now i think he deserved it hehe. He just put up with me somehow.. also, i was the opposite and was the one wanting him to put out all the time lmao. Course he never said no seeing as he is a bloody male after all. Heheh. Sorry im not much help at all. Im crap with this sort of thing seeing as im not married or even in a relationship. Plus all my relationships turned out sh*t in the end lol. ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 3:50pm
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I was the same and turned back that way at the end too. Maybe just try and explain you are feeling like crap so he doesn't expect too much from you. Or seeing if he could take rhiannon out on the weekend so you can have time by yourself.
Ooo maybe your having a boy? |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 3:52pm
i was a horrid bicth when i was preggers with james big hugs hun and i relly hope it settles soon ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 3:53pm
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hi...i was exacly the same... till about 8/9 weeks i was a cow...I don't know how he put up with me...he started off going on about not getting any but when we talked about why and stuff since then he has been really good.. which is great even though he used to make stupid jokes that I don't find funny!
Nothing I did made me any better mood wise except eating and sleeping I can only imagine how hard it is with another child too..rest assured you are not alone:) I am 13 weeks now and am in a much better mood most of the time provided I get enough sleep... once I spoke to DH about how what he said made me feel he did stop it..so that was great...and only occassionaly let me have it when i was being a total cow...! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 3:54pm
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rachandjack why would moods mean you are having a boy? ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 4:05pm
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Just cos Kaz said it wasn't like this when she was preggy with Rhinanion. I think it is a phase, I went through it but once it passed and I was the one wanting it all the time I remembered what I did to him and got over it. I did do the little nagging thing for a bit but it soon all passed. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
kawwww wrote:Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 6:03pm
Big hugs, chic, sorry to say I was like this my whole pregnancy with char, and am still off "special  cuddles". My OB/GYN said my "psychosis" was because was becasue I was probably pregnant with a girl (and I was, but hadn't told her, and it wasn't in my file as the sex scan was a shifty one organised by the hospice) and the extra oestrogen was making me nuts, kinda like how I get on the pill but WORSE!! Things seem more pronounced with each pregnancy I am told, so big big hugs and if it continues, I'm betting GIRL!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 7:29pm
I was just about to suggest you talk to annie (fattartsrock) about it but I see she got in there first  Hugs Kazzle, hope you feel better soon. Oh yeah tell Dh to go suck eggs, pressuring isn't going to suddently make you feel like "doing it"  Typical man, mine is no different ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 7:46pm
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I totally understand what you're saying kazzle, I was exactly the same in the first trimester. MS & pg hormones made me not want to be touched by anyone! Dh would try & cuddle me & I couldn't wait to get away!! And I was pretty grumpy too, but was pretty darn sick!
You'll get through this phase & I'm sure your Dh will forget all about it. Just let him know how you're feeling, even if he doesn't seem to understand, its better than not telling him at all. Men can go a bit silly themselves when they're not getting any  .------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 04 August 2007 at 9:17pm
Hi Kazzle I don't have any words of wisdom sorry but if it helps I was also very moody first trimester (mainly weepy but I did throw things too  ) and then a week ago I got a bad bout of hormones and was very depressed and weepy and couldn't cope with anything. From what I understand it's very normal.
For what it's worth I think starting this thread is a good thing. Being able to share with others helps heaps.  -------------  
 
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 7:20am
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thanks guys, it really helps to know im not the only one that feels/felt like this...i am so hoping that that it passes soon as i really hate feeling like this.
for the first time in about 4 wks we actually went to bed at the same time and snuggled and giggled and laughed and then went to sleep...lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 4:45pm
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I was totally like this but didn't have a partner so my poor flatmate took the brunt of it. Actually, I was like that with my second pregnancy too, right from the start. I was sooooo close to kicking the crap out of Zeke every time he opened his mouth. Ohhh I'm so sweet.
Hate to think what'll happen next time...  Maybe I'll just put in a disclaimer.
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 5:24pm
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yup im exactly the same with my seccond!!
one second im fine and the next im either yelling or screaming or crying or all of them at once! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 6:03pm
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well today its been great, went back to bed at 7.30am slept till 9.30am, did some housework, hubby took Rhiannon to the park, he cooked lunch, and dinner tonight and he bathed rhiannon so ive had a relaxing day...its been good. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 05 August 2007 at 6:52pm
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I was also a mean bitch, yelling at poor DH and little Lucy! Don't beat yourself up over it, it will pass ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MyMinis
Date Posted: 06 August 2007 at 1:43pm
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i snapped all the time when i was preg with james, I think Nathan & Boo had had enough of my moods.
well im sticking to my guess of it being a wee brother for Rhi
hope things get better from now. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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