Sex?
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Topic: Sex?
Posted By: Maya
Subject: Sex?
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 10:41am
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I've got my 22 year old sister staying with me and she likes to talk about sex. Not in a dirty slapper kind of way and not in front of the kids or anything, but just in a way TMI kinda way that makes me feel a tad uncomfortable.
I've never thought of myself as particularly prudish, but maybe I am? Or am I just getting old and boring? Is it normal to talk about this kinda stuff all the time? (And resident males, I already *know* what you're going to say!) -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 10:53am
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LOL in my younger days me and my friends always ended up on the subject of sex - how do you do, have you done, whats the best etc... I think it was just a way of learning what to do without feeling stink about it. Now being an old hand (LOL yeah DH wishes) don't talk about it unless its to say the lack of need/want of it to know you are not alone.
------------- Ann 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 11:00am
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I used to talk and joke freely and openly about sex all the time, but I think, maybe it's age, maybe its cos I've "settled down" or grown up, but I just don't think its appropriate now? I don't think you're a prude, maybe you've just "grown up". ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 11:13am
how can any of us be prudish when we post on here in the TMI questions??
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 11:17am
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I don't think you prudish maybe it's more of a case that been there done that so you don't feel the need to talk about it all the time anymore. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 11:38am
| I agree with the "grown up" concept, I am far from prudish but now know how to use my discretion with these kind of topics. |
Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 11:44am
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Yeap, definately an old, boring prude Emma
Just kidding! I've never been one to discuss those types of topics and probably never will. It is probably an age / stage thing for her and now you are settled with a man and babies you're in a different stage. ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 12:38pm
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Maybe it's the novelty factor? Maybe when the novelty has worn off and sometimes reading Harry Potter, watching a movie or just plain old sleeping seems more attractive than sex then talking about it is also not the amazing topic it once was....
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 1:06pm
LOL Emma I don't think guys wanna sit around and talk about sex anyway!
Not sure about the answer to your question. I guess she's starting out, maybe?, and still has lots of questions... who knows! I certainly talk about sex a lot more on here than anywhere except my bedroom!! haha ------------- |
maya wrote:Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 1:58pm
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Im not a huge fan of talking about sex openly, but i dont mind it with my close friends.
My cousin is like that. Shes very open and i sometimes find myself going "UUmmm TMI!!!" lol. ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 2:10pm
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I used to be very open about it when I was young and 20. Mostly with fellow 20 somethings who weren't getting any either. Now we are old and retired from the single dating game, with partners/husbands and children. We all know who we're sleeping with each night and the novelty has worn off.
When she finds someone she cares about she wont want to openly discuss it. I would enjoy living vicariously thru someone younger, they seem to have far more exciting lives, than me.  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 3:43pm
Same! 
and I agree with what was said before re. novelty. There's only so much you can talk about after you've been with the same person for the last 10 years (or maybe I'm doing it wrong? )
And like I said at lunch... I'd like to think that if I had a problem in that area that I would feel comfortable enough to talk to my close friends and seek advice/support and would certainly turn to the "old hands" in the first instance. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 3:45pm
Ive always been embarrassed when people are talking about details  . Im not so embarrassed by any TMI topics now since having Isla tho.
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 3:54pm
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I used to have a friend in CHC, on our 1st meeting she asked the group of us in the pub what was our fav postition........she was a very over the top person. I think it depends on the individual, if they are comfortable with the person maybe they are seeking advise/help? I have been with my DH now for 11 years and we have plenty to talk about |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 5:29pm
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i was just about to say "whats that" lol maybe shes want ing to know from a old hand (not that i,m calling you olod emma lol) ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 7:17pm
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It maybe that it's just your sister and that aint comfortable for you to talk with her I know it's true for me I would never talk about it with my brother or sister but can with a very close friend ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/"> 
I love my wee girl - Gabriella |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 7:18pm
Haha I thought you meant something else there for a minute, LOL!! ------------- |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 9:04pm
| I am sorta comfortable about talk about sex, but sorta not. Probably way too over the top for some of you... but then I guess I'm selective about who I talk to about it. Actually, probably just my friend Niamh. She's the only one I'd even vaguely mention something about it to! |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 9:08pm
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depends who i am with i guess....a close friend and i can talk about it, people i dont know so well it would depend on what in particular it was about = and since being married I dont have the real personal conversations i used to have...
eg the one i had quite a few years back when i told a GF that the guy i was dating was hung like a porn star! - Yep married life changes your conversations somewhat!
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 10:42pm
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I'm happy to talk about it and i actually think there should be more talk about it. The young ones get in trouble because we dont talk about it enough. Talking about it doesn't make you want to do it. Open and honest, that's what I think.
However in saying that, I understand that many people feel uncomfortable about talking about it so I respect that (mostly) and dont talk about it. Mostly. ------------- Defending the male species since 1980 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 July 2007 at 11:19pm
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So maybe I'm normal after all. I guess we did used to talk about it more when we were younger. Maybe it's just not such riveting conversation when it's always with the same person? Or maybe we have less to prove now that we've settled down and had kids. Or maybe we just have more important things to talk about ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 12:09am
Gasp! Shock horror! "more important things to talk about" than talking about sex??!?!?!??! How could you??!? ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 12:13am
What I wanna know is why we're still awake at midnight?! I thought I was all alone here (altho I spotted Sterryn a few minutes ago). I so need to go to bed! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 12:30am
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Because we are mad DH and Sam are both in bed sleeping and I am wide awake darn it!
Emma, my DH and I are quite happy to joke about sex but have a rule about the TMI. The rule is that he can't say anything he wouldn't be happy to say to his mother. Works a treat!
------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: BSDH
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 8:52am
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Oh hell you all sound like a bunch of old farts!!! "Oh I can't talk about that"
man it happens all the time it's how you discuss it that makes it hard or easy  ------------- *Act your shoe size once in a while!!!* http://www.baby-gaga.com/">
I love my wee girl - Gabriella |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 2:40pm
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obviously it's more "private" when its with someone you love? As opposed to some random from the weekend before who you might hook up with again and "sort of see" if you see him the next weekend? ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 6:43pm
amen - chovy here btw. ------------- |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 8:04pm
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Mikes family are very open.. so much so that mostly it's alot of talking and joking and a fair few off-the-cuff kinda comments.
Ie.. imagine being 17, your boyfriend boarding with his aunty, who obviously put 2 and 2 together the 1st time you stay overnight there.. later that day you go to meet his grandparents with him and to have them make jokes about "finally getting his end away".. omigod talk about wanting the earth to seriously open up and swallow me. Nothing is sacred. I think you have to have a very open mind, definately have learnt not to take things to heart and to laugh about it as a funny subject, not something to be all staunch about.. It's not TMI kinda talk, but definately am happy that they don't have the big family get togethers often and are usually adults only. They keep it relatively clean talk around the kids. In saying that, my family kinda jokes around as well.. a few years back me and mike got my older sister and her hubby some love dice and flavoured condoms and a joke gift for xmas (we did get them some other gifts but they had been both complaining about the lack of "it" so we thought it'd be funny) ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 9:23pm
Well me and my friend can talk about anything and everything and we do go way TMI sometimes. But when it come to my sister no I don't go there, I so don't want to know what my sister gets up to  .------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 9:41pm
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hmmm the one that grossed me out was when Mum told me what possy Dad prefers and she most hates... and then my sis (who was in the same conversation) told me what she thought about the same possy! Yuk! ------------- |
Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 25 July 2007 at 10:20pm
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I talked about it once.
Then I hit puberty. Found my wife. Now we talk about it all the time! ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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