Am I or am I not?
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Topic: Am I or am I not?
Posted By: Emmecat
Subject: Am I or am I not?
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 3:16pm
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Hi everyone
I've been lurking here for a couple of months and have thoroughly enjoyed everyones different journies into motherhood. It's s trip my DP(34) and I(33) would like to take ouselves one day soon and that's what's prompted me to post! We were planning on trying next year but now I'm wondering now if I am pg sonner than expected.. My (regular, 28 day cycle) period was due last Fri so am now about 4/5 days overdue. Have the PMS sypmtoms of sore breasts, mild tummy cramping (nothing like PMS cramping), but no AF...yet! I've also been unbeliveably moody (waaay more than usual PMS)! My poor DP! lol Anyway, I am too scared to test as I think I've been building my hopes up and will be gutted if its a BFN. I've been under quite a bit of stress lately too with a new job and new study etc so this may well be the reason for the late AF. The other thing that makes me doubt I'm pg is that we've not actively been 'trying'- i.e we've been using protection (although we have BD quite a bit the last month and there was one or two occasions where we thought the condom slipped). 
What are your views? Is it possible for this to happen even when using condoms? I know I sound naive, but this is all new territory for me. Your help would be great. Thanks ladies. |
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Posted By: Konagirl
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 3:24pm
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Welcome Emmecat!
I'm fairly new to the ttc and not sure how much I can help but it seems to me that some people get preg without even trying and for some it takes months/years of ttc before it happens. If it happens at all. So it's all very arbitory. From what I've read, there is a window of about 12 hours - when the egg is avaliable to be fertilised, but sperm live longer then that. So, if, if, if you bd at the right time, and the condom slipped at the right time then yes, you might be preg. But you also might be late. There have been a lot of very late AF's going around (6 days for me). So, if you can hang on another few days I'd wait till your over a week over due then test. If it comes back neg, wait again - say 3 days, then get bloods if still no AF. Bloods are more accurate. That's, of course, just my opinion. If I was you I'd test now, but that's cos I want to be preg! Goodluck which ever way this turns out. ------------- Angel babies Mar '04, Oct '08 and Sep '09. |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 3:34pm
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Hi Emme, it definitely is possible, whether the condom has slipped or not they are not 100% effective and there have been holes known to occur as well. For me, I don't really get cramps when I'm pg - definitely stretching soreness but it's quite different from period cramps. And you're right that stress can put things off. 5 days is a long time for AF to be late but not unheard of.... I guess since you've been around on here for a while you already know what we're going to say: either test or wait another week.
When you want to be pg but get a BFN it's really hard emotionally but it may be best to get a test anyway, just so you know for sure, and put you out of your misery so to speak. Also if you are hoping to TTC a bit earlier than previously, you might want to talk to your DP  -------------  |
Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 3:35pm
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Hi Konagirl
Thanks heaps for your reply. I'm just not sure what to think. It's very unusual for me to be late and I know we were quite, um, 'active' the last month or so
The town things that make me wonder if I am pg are: I was pg once nefore about 8 years ago and I lost the baby at about 14 weeks. But I did get pg the first time we tried- ie I came off the pill and didn't even get a period in before I concieved! Also, I was using Canestan at the start of my cycle- just after my period finihsed and I didn't think of this until today BUT the pharmacist told me to be careful using condoms if we cont'd to have sex while I was using it as it damaged them quite easily.We held off until about day 5 of the 6 day course so now I'm just wondering if there was any truth to that?! 
Also DP has been known to not play it entirely safe if you know what I mean.... I know the easist way is to just test... I can remember though from my first time I waited until I was about day 43 or so and even then it was just a very faint line! And at the Dr's then it took ages to come up too. I also wnat a baby very much so don't want to set myself up for failure is all 
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 3:43pm
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Hi Busymum
Thanks for your advice. My cramps aren't like period cramps really- that's why I'm confused! They're more like mild twinges/cramps, not the full on 'aaargh I'm giving birth to a rhino' kind of pains
I checked back on my calendar to see what my cycle's been doing the last 6 months or so- and it's been really regular. Am I right in thinking that day 1 is your first day of bleeding (so the start of your period- mine are very light btw, only about 3 days long)- and then when you start your next period, do you count the day before as the final day of your cylce before counting day 1 first day bleed etc? Hope that makes sens. If this is right then my cycles have always been 27-28 days long for at least the last 6 months. I know before then I was tending toward 33 days long cycles but I was working long hours in shift work so think that might have affected them. Sorry for all the questions but you all seem to know what you're talking about.... 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 5:36pm
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emmecat....test!
i have no patience at all so i'll be constantly checking here to see what the outcome is so please put me (and alot of others i can tell you) out of my misery
it sounds like you could be pregnant, the symptoms are promising. my cramps i got before i tested for charli were just like period ones, i was so sure AF was coming, but no. so everyone is different. oh yeah...welcome to ohbaby posting  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Gwen_
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 5:38pm
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Ditto what vanessa said, Im waiting for your BFP. fingers crossed for you that it is. Welcome to OhBaby ------------- We're in America for 3 months with Mummy and Daddy! http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 5:50pm
Test. We want to know!! Oh, and I'm sure you do too 
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Posted By: jamesmum
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 6:42pm
Ditto
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funlvn wrote:Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 10 July 2007 at 7:06pm
Yep that's right! I think you need to test LOL. Even though you don't want to set yourself up for it, well think about it, you already are! (Can you tell I've been in your shoes before lol) About the m/c - do you know why you m/c? If you are pg it may pay to get an LMC (doc/mw) asap for extra advice on that side of things. ------------- |
Posted By: emmaohara
Date Posted: 11 July 2007 at 7:37am
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Fingers crossed you will be joining the March Baby post soon...!!!!
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 11 July 2007 at 9:15am
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Wow! You guys have been busy!
Thank you all so much for your support. Still no sign of AF although the stress levels are still waaaay up so perhaps that's why. I start my study today so think I'll test tomorrow if nothing has turned up! Didn't want to have the result on my plate either way today! Still just feel like AF is very late....so hard to tell when the sypmtoms are exactly the same *mutter mutter* My boobs are about twice their usual size, I'm moodier than I think I"ve ever been in my life, weepy, no sign of AF type cramps....aaargh Busymum- I think it was you who asked about my previous m/c? No, never found out why it happened- just I know that I thought I was 16 weeks (due to knowing when my ex and I had BD!)and the Dr thought about 13/14. Just had gone for my 2nd scan and they said oh no the baby's dead. Pretty gutting. They told me I could wait to m/c or have a D&C. I chose the latter, it was horrible. Although I must admit, I felt like something had gone badly wrong about a week before my scan and all my friends just brushed my fears off as me being a first time mum. But it felt 'wrong'. If that makes sense?
The whole thing just put me off trying again really, hence my hestitation this time. EIther way its going to be hard. At least my DP is being supportive, albiet a little confused as we've been pretty safe! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 11 July 2007 at 12:22pm
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It's pretty tough having m/c, you should join some of the ladies in the post-m/c thread. I didn't have a D&C or a later type m/c so they can be more supportive.
Anyway about 25% of pgs end in m/c which is very sad but hopefully means that you were just one of the unfortunate ones who start off that way, rather than meaning you're susceptible to them. Big hugs and all the best for testing tomorrow - remember to let us know! ------------- |
Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 11 July 2007 at 2:22pm
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Hi everyone
You guys are great and so supportive- thank you
Survived my first day of study, so feeling better about that at least! I am stressing out a bit about the whole pregnancy thing though. Will definately test tomorrow. Would that be better/more accurate than testing later this afternoon do you think? |
Posted By: emmaohara
Date Posted: 11 July 2007 at 2:30pm
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Your first wee in the morning is the best apparently, strongest concentration of the hormone so try to wait until then!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Konagirl
Date Posted: 12 July 2007 at 7:56am
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Goodluck Emmecat ------------- Angel babies Mar '04, Oct '08 and Sep '09. |
Posted By: ezza
Date Posted: 12 July 2007 at 8:50am
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GOOD LUCK!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 12 July 2007 at 9:11am
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WEll I gave into curiousity and tested late yesterday arvo.... BFN!
So I have no clue what is going on. Still no AF, boobs still sore...those cramps come and go- but they don't feel like PMS ones. aaargh I just wonder if I tested too early? I think ladt time I waited until day 43 or something adn even then it was very faint. And I recall going to the Drs a couple of days after that and testing- the nurse actually said 'sorry, it's a negative'...but then it came up positive when we aited a little longer! So perhaps I'm just not one of those women who show up on tests very well? Or of course I may not be pg. My mother thinks it's stress. That's very possible, it's been a huge couple of months altho I don't think my periods ever been THIS late! Certainly the last 6 months it's been bang on time, regardless of job moves, domestic issues (like we all have)....
What do you ladies think?? |
Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 12 July 2007 at 9:12am
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PS: Please excuse my typo's. That's pretty shocking altho it is first thing in the morning!
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Posted By: Gwen_
Date Posted: 12 July 2007 at 9:13am
Aww hon im sorry to here that You could way a few day or go to your dr for a blood test------------- We're in America for 3 months with Mummy and Daddy! http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ezza
Date Posted: 12 July 2007 at 9:21am
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stink news
there is nothign worse than no period and then BFN! I agree wtih LillyandElla - wait a couple of days or go to dr's for blood tests ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 12 July 2007 at 9:49am
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I think I'll wait to see the nurse next week. I have to go for my regular B12 shot anyway, so maybe she can do another pg test then for me. Or send me for bloods. I just didn't know that stress could put off your period for this long?
Actually another thing that's occured to me... since my period has been so late, DP and I have been BD minus the condoms- if my period is this late, is it likely I'll get pregnant in the interim? I thought def not, but now am wondering? God I feel like I don't know anything...sorry
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 12 July 2007 at 10:01am
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Hey Karen, I would go get bloods done, if af doesnt show up soon, and yes being sick or having lots of stress can delay getting your period.
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Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 8:43am
| I am very very confused. Okay, so I am on the pill, BUT usually things are very regular, will start bleeding on the Mon or Tues and then by Saturday it has finished. Well, started a bit on Wednesday night, and this was just darker blood, not normal blood and not enough to use a tampon, only one of those thin pads, stopped and started a bit yesterday and a bit today. Totally don't know what to think! Cos with been on the pill everything always runs on a set routine every month. So last night caved cos I wanted to know what was going on and took a POAS, nothing. Don't know whether I should go and see doc so this just does not seem right ..... The thing is that is also sitting in the back of my mind is that I took some antibiotics a couple of weeks back, but then waited one week like they say to do, but it would have only just been 1 week .... |
Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 11:22am
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Hi red, I was in exactly the same situation almost 5 years ago, but had a lot of spotting during my sugar pill days but not enough to use a tampon but I knew something was up although I hadn't been on anti biotics or ever missed the pill by more than an hour. Anyway I waited until I finished the sugar pill but still had nothing so being paranoid I did a pg test and it was negative so I just put down to stress but when I happened the next month I went to the dr and had another negative test but had bloods done and sure enough it was positive. Anyway since then the injection has also failed for me and I was told I have and over active liver that processes that hormones a lot faster.
So my advice would be just go to the dr and get a blood test done just to be sure either way. At least that would put your mind at ease. |
Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 11:39am
| Thanks for that Helen. I kind of think it is highly unlikely that I would be, but there is still that "WHAT IF" sitting in the back of my mind cos period still has not properly eventuated, when you have been on the pill for nearly 10 years and when things aren't how they usually are it gets you thinking. |