A bit confused
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Topic: A bit confused
Posted By: Jay_R
Subject: A bit confused
Date Posted: 28 May 2007 at 3:50pm
| Over the last few weeks I've been thinking a LOT about having another baby. As a lot of you know, I had a tough pregnancy with terrible hypermesis gaviardum (sp) and spent 42 weeks with my head down the toilet, popping maxolon like they were lollies, and the occasional trip to the clinic to have fluid pumped into my quickly dehydrating body. I have sworn black and blue that I would NOT be having any more babies, yet lately that maternal urge has kicked in massively. I guess my quandry is this - I love being a mother. I absolutely love and adore my wee man with all my heart, and would love to have another little one to love. But, I am terrified, beyond any words I can express, to go through another pregnancy like the one I had with Joshua. I know I need to make a decision and stick with it, but is my fear rational? Irrational? Irrelevent??? I need some advice! |
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 28 May 2007 at 4:47pm
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hey Clare,
Your fears are very real and are not irrelevant or irrational. You had a tough pregnancy and i can understand not wanting to go through that again...BUT in saying that, every pregnancy is different and who is to say that the next one will be like that...Have you thought about talking to your doctor about it, he/she might have some ideas that can help you during your next pregnancy...and yes i say next pregnancy cos i know you will have another one. sorry i cant be much help but good luck with whatever decision you make  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 28 May 2007 at 7:16pm
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I can understand your fear as that would really be horrible to be that sick again. Every pregnancy is different though and you unfortunately just wont know until you are pregnant.
My sister-in-law was very ill like yourself throughout her first pregnacy and vowed never to have another child. She is now 5 months pregnant with her 2nd and has been fine the whole pregnancy. I reckon you should go for it. You will have another gorgeous baby to adore and Joshua would have a brother or sister to grow up with. As Kazzle has suggested, it may be worthwhile to talk to your doctor about your concerns and for some advice. Good luck!!
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 29 May 2007 at 8:48am
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I agree, no fears are irrational, and certainly not irrelevant.
I felt exactly the same, I had an aweful birth experience with resulted in an emergency CS and I told DH that I wouldn't have anymore babies unless I could have an elective CS as I was petrified of having to put myself and my baby through that trauma again. My promblem was fairly easy to sort out and my old MW has agreed to be my LMC and can't see why I can't have another CS. ANYWAYS... (back to you) They say no 2 pregnancies are the same so I would just go with that and keep all fingers and toes crossed for the 9 months 
I totally understand how you feel. Part of me says I never want to go through that again, but the other part says that I would in a heartbeat because Caitlin is so fantastic and I wouldn't change her for the world. And no matter how bad it is you always end up with Lil' Miss/Mr Perfect  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: bookwyrm
Date Posted: 29 May 2007 at 10:52am
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It's not as simple as this but...
9 months of pure hell for a lifetime of happiness. I know the scale is completely different, and I cant even begin to imagine what you went through but everytime I got a tattoo (I have big ones) I said to myself... 10 hours of pain for a lifetime of beauty. I know you cant compare tattoos to your rough pregnancy. What I am trying to say is weigh up all your options. Good luck!!!!!!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 30 May 2007 at 2:22pm
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I can totally relate Clare, a lot of people say "oh I hate this morning sickness, it's horrible" but with HG it just takes it to a whole new level and it's really hard to explain to others exactly how debilitating it is to spend nine months feeling absolutely shocking every minute of every day and knowing that nothing is going to make it go away except giving birth.
My HG was probably about the same in both pregnancies, I don't know if my second continuing pregnancy would have been as bad had I not been having twins, it might have been easier, but both times I was sick the whole way thru. Yes it was horrible, I became very antisocial, some days I cried coz I couldn't get out of bed, but at the end of the day I have my two precious wee girls to show for it. My only real advice I guess is to have support systems in place before you fall pregnant again, that way you'll be prepared if you do end up with HG again. I was lucky that Maya was old enough to be fairly independent, days when I couldn't get up she would get herself out of bed and turn the TV on and watch cartoons until I could drag myself out, and also that she is at preschool four days a week which gave me time out. Don't sweat the small stuff (dishes, washing etc.), I found if I left the housework long enough Willie would eventually do it 
I also conned my GP into doing IV rehydration at her rooms so I didn't have to go to hospital coz I was determined not to end up in hospital. That's about all I have, except that I don't for a minute regret doing it all again, it's amazing how quickly you forget the bad bits. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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