Why do people say these things?!?!
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Topic: Why do people say these things?!?!
Posted By: arohanui
Subject: Why do people say these things?!?!
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 6:03pm
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Hubby and I were looking at prams in Baby City today, cos I like to be organised and then if our parents offer to buy something, we can tell them exactly the pram that will suit our needs. And plus we're excited about being pregnant, so we like just going to look at stuff lol.
So we asked the girl in the shop to show us how one of the prams folded down (you know, being informed about what pram will be good for us!), and while she did she said "Well you are in your first trimester, so you do know it's recommended you wait until buying big items". 
Yeah thanks lady, for pretty much warning me of the immanent death of my baby!! I know some of the other ladies in early pregnancy have had things like that said to them too, which kind of puts a downer on things. Of course the worst is ALWAYS in the back of our mind, we don't need other people to remind us! *Here endeth the vent*  ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 6:04pm
Oops sorry guys in my venting I put this in the wrong forum  Could a lovely moderator please move it for me
------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 8:00pm
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To be fair to them, she may not have meant it like that. The other reason why you are often told to wait is because of the warrenties on items...if something has a 1 year warranty and you are buying with 8 months of pregnancy or more to go you won't actually have much cover once you start using the item.
I can imagine your frustration though. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 8:09pm
Yeah thats a good point paws - though I'm sure it would make it a lot easier on hormonal mothers if they say about the warranty thing!  ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 8:12pm
This is true!!! Lucky for me when they said it to me she qualified it with the warranty info but sounds like I got someone who had half a clue and tact!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 8:15pm
Topic moved 
And I remember my doctor saying when I was about 9 weeks pregnant with Maya that "sometimes miscarriage is inevitable."  Really reassuring that was!
With the gremlins they were too far the other way. Since I'd just had a loss, they were all "oh this baby will be fine" when I *knew* there was a chance it wouldn't. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 8:29pm
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You definately don't need people saying that to you. when i had the girls we put everything on layby at 8 week with paris, and i bought constantly from day dot with Ayja. I didn't with this one, i just would see things and think "nope, I'll buy that some other time" weird. but still i found it so ick for people to say that, and while now i see why they did, if anyone said that to me again i would probably sock em. lol. sure we all know the risks and yeah till we become one of the unlucky ones to experience there is some naivety.. but still, to actually say that, is just not ok.
------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 8:51pm
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I'd just hope she was meaning it because of the warranty! Because it is a very negative thing to say and I seriously doubt that someone who loses a baby in the 1st trimester has the first thought - 'well thank goodness I didn't buy that stroller then'! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 8:52pm
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oo that's pretty awful really. But it's good to go look in advance and see how much to save up - I guess not many people do that these days for the big-tickets ------------- |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 9:02pm
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We had put money down on a new portacot to use as a basinette for the first months till ayja was out of hers, but luckily our next door neighbour/friend works at baby factory and we managed to get the layby deposit back without having to go and explain anything. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: lil_miss
Date Posted: 19 May 2007 at 9:07pm
| that's rude - I would have told her what I thought of her - who said you were wanting to purchase something right then and there.. |