Introductions........
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Topic: Introductions........
Posted By: Salifer
Subject: Introductions........
Date Posted: 20 January 2007 at 5:49pm
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Hi everyone
After coming across your posts and realising it was just like NZWP I thought I'd join up. I was a regular member of NZWP back in 2004/2005 when I got married in March 05......so I see some familiar names in this forum. I found the NZWP forum amazingly useful, friendly, helpful and it kept me sane over the many months of wedding plans.......so hoping I might get the same from OHbaby. BACKGROUND DH and I have been married coming up 2 years and have been TTC for 4 months. I'm a Draughtsperson and DH is an environmental compliance officer.......we're both really looking forward to becoming parents (soon hopefully!!!). This website has made me feel supported and "normal" in my desire to become a Mum (all the irrational thoughts/tears/tantrums are feeling normal now I've found you guys!). Thanks to all those that regularly post on here, your thoughts, tips and support is in-valuable and makes me feel so happy knowing there are loads of girls out there wanting to become a mum - JUST LIKE ME. Look forward to getting to know you all......... |
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 20 January 2007 at 6:05pm
Hi Salifer 
I hope you do like our little community here, and that we *can* be a support to you during your TTC journey. DH and I have been married just over 5 years - he is an aircraft engineer with Air NZ, and I've just chucked in being a legal secretary about 6 months ago (after 8 years!) for a less stressful office admin position. I was hoping that this would help my TTC journey [insert mirthful snort here!] At the end of last cycle I'd actually lost count how long we've been TTC - I'm either on cycle 20 or 21, and cycle 22 or 21 kicks off next weekend, assuming AF arrives ...which, at this stage, is a bit of a no-brainer! I have endometriosis, which I had surgery for in September, and DH has some doubtful areas with his fertility - motility and abnormal sperm heads. That's pretty much our story - so now I suggest just kicking back, relaxing and waiting for the others to rock on up and introduce themselves!  ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: Fene
Date Posted: 20 January 2007 at 6:06pm
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Hi Salifer
I was a member on NZWP site also and I found it very helpful too. Looks like this site will be the same with everything you need to know. DH and I have been married nearly 6 months now. I am a production co-ordinator at ACP magazines and DH is a sports reporter at Radio Sport. We are so excited about the thought of becoming parents. Currently we are living in Auckland but we will be moving to Nelson before the baby is born. I have heard Epidural's may not be available anymore in Nelson which is a bit scary! I hope that is not the case. Best of luck to everyone
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 20 January 2007 at 6:23pm
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Hi everyone
I too was a member of NZWP! Although under a different name. DH and I have been married for a year. I'm a primary school teacher. DH and I really feel that we're "ready" (even though I believe you can never actually be ready) to be parents. I'd be a young mum but I think it's just a number!! Salifer - you articulate things so well... you've pieced together what I've been thinking (but I haven't been able to put it into words very effectively)! Thanks for starting this thread. Ginger - hoping your day comes along soon. I haven't been there for that long, so I can't understand properly, but I can understand a teeny tiny fraction!! Here's hoping this one is your cycle where you can stop counting. Fene - I wrote in your other post already, but it's so good to hear of more couples excited about becoming parents. I've heard that "sunny Nelson" is beautiful - never been there myself but DH said it was gorgeous. Nice to "meet" you all.. |
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 20 January 2007 at 7:09pm
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welcome girls! I already know Ginger well. I am sure that you will find this site as useful as I have and wish you all the best in your TTC.
Salifer - didn't we get married on the same day? ------------- "> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 20 January 2007 at 7:32pm
Hi and welcome to all our new ladies  Obviously I'm not TTC at the moment but I do like to pop in and offer support when I can. Arohanui, I just wanted to say 'who cares if you're a young mum?' If you're in a stable relationship and prepared to make lifetime changes, go for it! I'm 24 now but I had just turned 20 when I got married and then had our first baby about a year after. (And we all know peoplke in their 40's who seem younger than others in their 20's lol)
All the very best to everyone -------------  |
Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 20 January 2007 at 8:00pm
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hello and welcome to ohbaby! it is a great site and fene- i live in nelson nice place to live
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Posted By: Fene
Date Posted: 21 January 2007 at 9:12am
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Thanks mum2emj
Which area in Nelson do you live in? Hubby's family live in Richmond so we are planning to by a house there hopefully. I have heard it is such a friendly place with loads of sunshine! |
Posted By: Salifer
Date Posted: 21 January 2007 at 2:03pm
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Hi Ginger, Fene, mum2emj, busymum, Sarah Beth & arohanui.
Nice to be welcomed by you all. Sarah Beth I have sent you a PM as yes we did get married the same day.....starting to feel so long ago these days and its only coming up 2 years ago!!! Ginger your post brought tears to my eyes. I can't imagine TTC for nearly 2 years, so my heart really does go out to you. I will be sending all my baby dust thoughts to you............may you be blessed with your desire to become a mum (now that you've stepped down from your legal career) really really soon!!! I guess I thought getting pregnant would be so much easier. Doesn't help that we live in an era of "MAIL ORDER". What I mean is if you want anything these days, you just go out and get it.....clothes, mobiles, cars, good times......and I thought if I "got engaged, married, house, career" that family would just fall into place. Man was I STOOPID!!! Its a real lottery. I've planned my life around starting for a family for the last 18 months and now that I'm "READY" (if one can ever be!!!) its taking longer than I ever imagined. If there is one thing to learn - its that life has its own path, you can't be in control of EVERYTHING and that what will be....will be. Easier said than done though - heh!!! Can't wait to learn more from you all............xox |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 21 January 2007 at 9:50pm
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Hey ladies
Im Jess am married to Cory and we have just had our 1 year anniversary in December. We TTC #1 for 1 year before using clomid and getting pregnant with our little Ella Grace who has just turned 6 months. We are TTC #2 now and GAH its not going so well. I hope you graduate to the pregnancy side very soon
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 21 January 2007 at 11:38pm
Hi new ladies, Karl and I (Kerryn) have been married since 2002 (seems for ever-in a good way), we were still living in Sydney when we got married (back here) and moved back to "home" while pregnant with Ashlyn. It was great to be home. I only started posting on this site a couple of months ago and everyone has been great. Enjoy your journey ttc and hopefully for those not already preg it will happen SOON  ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: Nikki
Date Posted: 24 January 2007 at 8:31pm
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Hi ladies
I was also on the NZWP forum! My husband and I got married March 2006. We are in our third month of ttc. This is only my second post...as I'm a little bit shy! However, I have read a lot of the posts and have found it very reassuring to know that others are going through the same emotions (and boy, are there plenty of those!!) while ttc. The one thing I don't understand is, we spend most of our teenage years and early 20's being so careful not to fall pregnant (not the right time, place etc)....and when we start trying, its no where near as easy as you think it should be!! I guess thats what makes life interesting.. Anyway, I wish each and everyone of you the best of luck! And I look forward to sharing stories, reading shories and making friends
Nik |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 January 2007 at 8:38pm
Hehe up to 26 now, you must be warming up ------------- |
nik wrote:Posted By: Nikki
Date Posted: 24 January 2007 at 8:42pm
To be honest with you, I don't know where the other 24 posts came from?! Unless there is another Nik out there???? 
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Posted By: kiwigal
Date Posted: 24 January 2007 at 8:59pm
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I'm Cheryl and married to Peter we have been married for 3.5 years but we have been together since Feb 2000.
We have got one son Jacob Benjamin who will be 4 in April.He has a mild form of autism.Jacob was conceived with the help of IUI and now we are planning on #2 and hoping to have it done in the next month or two. |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 24 January 2007 at 9:04pm
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I'm too scared to join NZWP, I spend far too much time on the net as it is~!
I am Annie, engaged to Rod, evil wicked stepmum to a 15 year old boy, and mum to Jacob ( aka fatty, JJ, Jake )and no 2 any day now... I'm a "rock and roller" struggling with being a "soccor mom", I live in hope that my next rock and roll adventure isn't accompanying my kids to a concert in 15 years or so...! lol! I live in Blenvegas, committee member on Parents Centre, avid pro Breast feeder and all those un rock and roll things, having a very traditional wedding and christening for the children in october this year. Welcome to Oh Baby! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: sparkle
Date Posted: 24 January 2007 at 10:39pm
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Hi ladies
I'm also one from NZWP, although under another name. DH and I got Married in March 2006. We are expecting our first in August. I'm a teacher and DH is an engineer. I guess I was one of those lucky ones and didn't take too long to conceive. Definitely made it hard for the shock to die down and reality to settle in! However, in between severe bouts of morning/afternoon sickness, I am beginning to get excited! Good luck to all those TTC. This is a great site!------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 25 January 2007 at 9:15am
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Hi, I'm also from NZWP under a different name.
My husband and I have been married for almost a year. I went off the pill at the end of July 05 and we have been casually TTC since then. I think it has taken a while for my periods to come back into order, but I think we are right now I will be testing in the next couple of days to see if we have been successful this cycle, otherwise I am pretty confident about next cycle (what else can you be )
I have been quite a lurker on here for a while and have found all you ladies to be very helpful with answering those random questions that float around in your head
Good luck to the rest of you ttc |
Posted By: sparkle
Date Posted: 25 January 2007 at 10:01am
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I'm intrigued to know everyone's other names on NZWP now so I can match everyone up!!!
I'm Fussy1, now everyone else's turn! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: catie
Date Posted: 25 January 2007 at 1:49pm
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Hi
I'm fairly new - joined last month. I'm older than most of you guys - 41. DH and i have been married for 4 years and have been trying since his vasectomy reversal in Sept 2004. It's a bit of a battle as, as well as our ages, DH has a low sperm count still, and I have a structural condition which means an increased risk of miscarriage (altho no-one can tell me how much of an increase). But we're battling on! We live in Pukekohe, I work in Hamilton and DH works in Auckland. |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 25 January 2007 at 3:44pm
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Hi Catie,
Welcome to OB!
What measures are you taking TTC? Are you considering fertility treatment - bearing in mind your situation? ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 25 January 2007 at 8:23pm
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Hey Everyone,
I'm also a NZWP old girl, and it's been interesting to lurk here and on Better Living and see how many of the brides to be are now either mums to be or mums already! Very exciting for everyone. I am 27 and my DH is 28. I am a Banking Advisor and DH works for an electricity company as a team leader. We've been TTC since June, once successfully but sadly with a miscarriage at 9 weeks. That was in September, and I just last month got to the point where I am a bit frustrated by not getting what I want so easily!! Some of the ladies on here have already given me some fabulous kind words and support. Amused to just read about Robitussen though.... never heard of its effects, but was taking it just over a week ago for a cough, just before ovulation, so my hopes have gone up just a little more. I am keeping my fingers crossed for this month. Hope to chat with you all a bit more. :o) Laurie |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 25 January 2007 at 8:39pm
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I forgot to say I'm 32 in march, and DP is 43. I am an office manager at michael hill and DH has his own business, servicing and repairing and installing AV equipment. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 26 January 2007 at 8:21am
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Office Manager at Michael Hill huh jacobsmama ....?
[ginger looks thoughtfully, sideways at jacobsmama and wonders what jewellery she could do with at a really good discount ...] ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: catie
Date Posted: 26 January 2007 at 1:23pm
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Hi Ginger
to answer your question, we've gone down the alternative route now, having had some tests that show that I seem to be ovulating fine etc, but DH has a low count and motility ...went to a specialist to see what could be done and was basically told the only option was IVF & ICSI. given that she said it would cost $11,000, had about a 20% success rate, and I would have an elevated miscarriage risk, we're pretty reluctant to do that. I've heard and read good things about herbal treatments and acupuncture so have been charting and (both of us) taking herbs for about 8 months and acupuncture (just me) for about 3. Just found out about the robitussin thing, so we'll give that a try too! We're going on holiday for 3 weeks next week, nothing to do but relax and BD, so maybe that will be the lucky one! Sorry this is so long - but you did ask !
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 26 January 2007 at 1:43pm
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You're quite right, I did! But, I *am* interested.
Have you considered giving IVF a whirl through the public health system? I imagine that you'd be pretty high priority, and appropriate candidates ...and of course there is no charge for 2 goes at it, and still a 20% chance of success. How elevated is your miscarriage risk? Worthwhile taking the step, or too risky? My DH's motility is classed as 'doubtful' (50%) and he is also doubtful as far as abnormal heads goes (56% abnormal), but luckily his count is quite good (91 mill/ml). Have a wonderful holiday and all the best!! My Mum is into herbal things and swears by them for most things - especially chinese medicine. She has a chinese herbalist who she sees regularly and who has made a huge difference in her life (health-wise). Good luck! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: catie
Date Posted: 26 January 2007 at 3:05pm
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Thanks Ginger
Actually,, the cut-off age for free IVF is 38 (didn't find that out until it was too late  ).
The trouble with the miscarriage thing is that no-one knows how much of a risk it really is. I have a sub-septate uterus which basically results in there being less room in there. But because no-one knows how many women have it (i.e. if someone has recurrent miscarriages it would likely be discovred by a special ultrasound, but it may be that lots of women have it to some degree but don't have any problems, so it isn't discovered), there's no way of knowing. But I'm trying to take a positive outlook - if women can carry twins and even triplets and more, then I should be able to make room for one! 
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 27 January 2007 at 10:26am
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Oh, that's not great - I didn't realise that there was a cut off!
I know of someone (wife of an ex from way, way back!) whose uterus was actually split almost in half - there was a wall dividing it, and so the space in there was tiny. She fell pg naturally, and had a healthy baby - they just had to deliver early because of the space issue. All the very, very best!!!!! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: catie
Date Posted: 30 January 2007 at 1:16pm
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Thanks Ginger!
Sounds like the person you know has the same problem, maybe even a bit worse - I also have the 'wall' but it only comes down about half-way. Apparently in some cases it can completely divide the uterus, cervix, and in really bad cases, vagina, into two. Anyway, good to hear some +ve stuff! |
Posted By: Salifer
Date Posted: 30 January 2007 at 10:32pm
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Hi Laurie
Nice to have yet another NZWP ol' girl in here with us. I was feeling like an old maid having got married nearly 2 years ago and still no "OFFSPRING".....sure doens't help that everyone keeps reminding me that its "ABOUT TIME" and "YOU'RE NOT GETTING YOUNGER".....sometimes I wish I could just tell them to P#$$ off......sure had NO IDEA that TTC would take us this long as my sister's first baby was a COMPLETE accident (their withdrawl method didn't work!) and second baby on the way was discussed 2 weeks before BDing and hello - preggers again. I'm really struggling with the fact that she's so fertile and I"m not. The green eyed monster is a killer!!! |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 31 January 2007 at 8:20am
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It's really hard isn't it Salifer? DH is the oldest of 2 brothers, he's 30 and his brother is 26, I'm 28 and my SIL is 21. She decided she wanted a baby and whammo, she was pg ...and then of course everyone turns around and looks at us, the oldies, and say "What about the other two?" (meaning us). The inference amongst my inlaws friends is that DH and I are so caught up in our "Auckland life" (they are small townies - no offence to small townies of course, I'm from one myself, but there are certain attitudes to Aucklanders out there that can't be denied!) and don't want to fit kids in.
It really rankles though. My SIL and BIL are about to start TTC for their second and I have to not think about the fact that we have been TTC since around the same time as they started TTC, and they have a 10 month old child! ANyway ...what I *meant* to say, was, I understand Salifer, and hugs!  ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: Salifer
Date Posted: 31 January 2007 at 7:02pm
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Thanks Ginger, hugs returned.
Didn't realise all of your background, nice to hear it, thanks for sharing. I really sympathise with your situation. Can't imagine your turmoil after TTC at the same time as SIL & BIL........I just know how much you want to start your own family (just like me) and the constant reminder of how they have a child and "we" don't really does your head in. |
Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 31 January 2007 at 7:16pm
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Yes Salifer, I understand. It's our 3 year anniversary today and when I look at all the other NZWP girls from my era, the vast majority have had bubs. Awesome for them, but makes me a little sorry for myself. And then I feel guilty and mean for even feeling like that!!
Luckily we don't seem to have too much pressure from friends and family. That said, my Mum often looks at me sideways since my MC, like I am not telling her something!! I wish that were the case. Ginger, your situation is a tough one, and no wonder you feel fragile at times. Life can be unfair and it must be hard with the constant reminders. I hope your SIL & BIL are supportive of you. I also get what you mean about the big city thing... I know some of my rellies just assume I have no interest as I am too busy living life. Again, not true! |
Posted By: Salifer
Date Posted: 01 February 2007 at 8:07pm
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Hi Laurie
We may have been on NZWP around the same time......rings a bell......I feel a little pressure from friends and family only cause they just can't wait till we have a baby (me too!!!) but mostly they don't know we've been trying for a wee while now so keep hinting or asking. I should just really say yes we've been trying to nearly 6 months but want the BFP to be a SURPRISE when the day comes. I feel if I tell them we're trying it'll ruin the excitement of telling people. Silly really as I didn't let on to my mum until a few weeks ago and seriously its been the best thing. Now that she knows, she sympathises more and actually told me it took her about 8 months when she began trying so I feel so much better knowing that fact. I'm all geared up to lay the flood of tears on my mum if we don't succeeed this month so she can feel my diappointment too. Im' sick of putting on a brave face and PRETENDING all is well when each month slips by and we having got the BFP yet. My doctor actually suggested opening up to my mum and its been great advice. |
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 7:20am
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It is kind of funny both you girls say that, as some thought our pregnancy was a mistake and not planned at all and I have no idea why. My step mum even said to me "I presume it was planned or it wouldn't have happened" and was quite scathing about the whole thing which was upsetting. Mum and Dad however were over the moon, but others reactions did shock me a little ------------- ">
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 8:20am
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Salifer - did you know that the average for falling pg is actually 9 months? I can give you the statistics if you'd like - it might make you feel better As in x% fall within 1 month, x% within 3, 6, 9 etc
Also, every month, you only have a 20% chance of pregnancy! It's such a delicate process! (The intention of this post was to make you feel better ...I hope it doesn't work the other way!) ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 8:25am
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Ha Laurie! You must be joking My SIL is of the 'rub it in variety!' and my MIL is of the 'I never think before I speak/act' variety! I had a m/c in March last year, and my SIL was pg at the time ...2 days after the m/c I got a pxt from my MIL of my SIL posing with her pg tummy with a 'Look how she's growing' message! Imagine how *that* felt.
I also get pxts every day of my niece from my SIL saying things like 'Just so you don't forget I'm so cute" and "Aren't I cute?" etc etc. At Christmas, when I got a photo of my niece with Santa, and then another mounted one as an xmas present, I said to my MIL (SIL is prone to tantrums, and I just can't be ar*ed dealing with her a lot of the time) to pass on that I've had enough and to show some sensitivity for our situation. Of *course* we love our niece, but having her shoved down our throats when we face what we face is terribly hard, and I don't see why I should always be the one being the 'bigger person'! (Woops ...I ranted  )------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 2:05pm
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Ginger now that you have posted your DH's fine details, I have this crazy urge to send my own DH off for comparison samples! Sometimes I'm just too curious ------------- |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 2:57pm
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I'm sure your DH would *really* appreciate that! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 4:24pm
 Somehow I doubt that very much! ------------- |
Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 6:08pm
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Stink to hear Ginger - I don't understand why people would be so insensitive? Sounds like she feels she needs to be in competition with you, obviously there are some insecurities there. Good on you for being the bigger person though. As hard as that is, there has got to be a lot of self respect in that.
It's horrible to think that trying to conceive can have such an impact on other areas of life - it's unfair that something so natural is so hard at times. |
Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 6:21pm
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Sarah Beth, it's so bizarre people thought your pregnancy was unplanned. I wonder why? Sorry to hear your in-laws were a bit unpleasant - your parents are the people you expect to be the most excited. At least your mum and dad were though.
I actually wish people wouldn't make so many assumptions. I've only told a few people that we are trying and of the miscarriage, but I've noticed people make insensitive comments at times. For example, a couple of weeks ago I mentioned some wine tasting I did, and the person responded "so I guess that's kids off the cards for a while, eh?" It probably wasn't meant to be insensitive, but it upset me a little and I felt like I was being scrutinised. And a few days earlier I had turned down a glass of wine as I was driving, and I got raised eyebrows and winks from another person. Butt out people!! Sorry, just a bit sensitive and ranty at the moment! |
Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 6:49pm
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I can't believe someone would say that to you Sarah Beth!
Actually, reading the posts from all you ladies - I can't believe people would say the things they do to you all! Mind you, if there is one thing reading about people's struggles to concieve on here and EBB has done, is that it has changed the way I ask people about kids. I always try to phrase it in such a way that they can answer something like 'hopefully one day', or they can tell me their experiences (people tend to tell me stuff, I like that), without being too stressful a thing. At least I hope I do! We avoided a lot of the 'when are you going to have kids' from most people (together 7 years, married 3) by simply responding that we weren't going to have any. That way we were able to ttc without too much pressure from others. -------------  
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 02 February 2007 at 8:20pm
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Ginger that totally sucks that your SIL is like that!! My SIL got pregnant when we were TTC and i was really heartbroken but shes really lovely and didnt rub it in our faces it was actually the inlaws that kinda did without knowing. I dont think i can even count on both my hands the amount of times i came home crying coz of it all.
It really does suck but ur such a strong women!!! An inspiration thats for sure
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Posted By: Salifer
Date Posted: 03 February 2007 at 9:44am
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I thought I was being totally insensitive to my sister who is due in April by not sharing in her pregnancy (doesn't help that she lives in France though!!!) but its just so hard, I'm so envious and just can't face talking to her about how hard we are finding it. Time on the phone is so prescious I don't want to blah blah on and on about our TTC.
And I'm shocked to hear your experiences of TTC and pregnancy achievement. Arn't some people just horrid. I will now be wary of strange comments and definately make an effort to not take them to heart now that I've heard your stories. |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 03 February 2007 at 10:22pm
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People just don't understand how hard it is to TTC and then for plans to not work out as expected. I have been married 4 years, wanted to get pg within 2 years and got pg within 2 months... now I have three little girls. In the meantime my sister got married 2 years ago and has been secretly TTC for more than a year of that time. She has received many many comments mostly from her parents about having kids - people just expecting that they would straight away because we did - and now has given up (because they would rather accept things as is than go all medical).
It makes little sense, especially when they don't want to see a Doc about it, why they would have trouble considering high fertility rate in the family and that they are both in their 20's... so people just presume and then let them know how they feel about that decision. Very frustrating!! Hmmm that was a bit random. ------------- |
Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 18 February 2007 at 3:29pm
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Hi there
Just taking the opportunity to introduce myself to all you lovely ladies! We are from Auckland and I am 29yrs and am a Regional Account Manager for a Small Appliance Co, DH is 28yrs and owns digital print business in Parnell. We got married on 3rd Feb 07 and are no longer using contraceptives, so we are officially ttc! I have been off the pill for over a year now, but have been using other forms of contraception (condoms - eeww!) until now, just to give my body a long break. I am VERY new to this and know absolutely NOTHING about ttc (apart from the obvious BDing)! Look forward to chatting with you all in the future..... |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 18 February 2007 at 4:04pm
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Congrats on your wedding, Peachy! ------------- |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 04 March 2007 at 2:46pm
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Hi all,
I've been lurking around and thought I should really work up the courage to introduce myself. We've been TTC for 5 months (just starting on 6th cycle)and just started charting for the first time last month. (still getting the hang of that) We're in Akl too - I'm 30 and DH is 33. I imagine I'll be popping up in a few threads ( I have my beady eye on the 2ww one already!)
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 04 March 2007 at 2:48pm
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Welcome Bobbie, hope your wait will not be a long one! ------------- |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 04 March 2007 at 3:02pm
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Thanks Busymum - I hope so too! (temping at 0630 in the weekend is a bummer so I'd be glad to see the back of that!)
Just adding my 2cents on the tactless comments - very few people know we're TTC and we've been married for ages so we do tend to get the questions as well. But surprisingly the worst offender is a close friend who knows we're TTC and fell pregnant first cycle. I know she means well but comments like "oh well at least you can drink" and "there's always next month" don't always help. I guess because she hasn't ever experienced the BFN she doesn't understand that some months it really gets to you. |
Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 20 March 2007 at 2:40pm
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Hi All
I have done a few posts now and thought i should introduce myself
DH and I have been TTC now for 18 months i have PCOS and really long cycles because of it and DH has got poor count and motility issues aswell. so hi to all and lots of baby dust to those of you who need it!!!!
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Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 20 March 2007 at 4:30pm
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Hi all, guess I should introduce myself too.
DP(29) and I(almost 29) live in Akl have been together for 11 years and we have just decided to start TTC this month. I have wanted a baby for many many years but waited as DP did not feel ready. We have had a lot of other family members either become pregnant or have babies within the last few years and he is FINALLY at a point where he wants a child. I don't need to be told twice
We are in our first cycle now and have our fingers crossed. Good luck to everyone TTC -------------  
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Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 28 March 2007 at 9:58am
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Hi all,
I am 30, DH is 31. We have been married for 6yrs. Have one son who is four. ttc#2. We live in West Auckland. I wish that I had found this site sooner..... to all you lovely ladies on this site.
B ------------- formerly known as "Bee" Ethan ~ March 2003 Big 6 year old school boy! Micah ~ Aug 2008 ~ Smiley pants who loves telephones! |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 28 March 2007 at 11:17am
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I've been lurking for a few months, and feel rude not introducing myself.
I am currently a member of NZWP and planning our March 08 wedding, after which we will be TTC. and BC free yay. I feel i am in the pre-planning stages, I am 33 and apart from being 20kgs overweight there are no other medical issues. DF is 31, and we both live in Feilding. I am the Aunt of two wonderful nieces 10 and 5, and my BFs are all mums several times over, so now it will be my turn. I am still a little anxious about becoming a mum, I keep being told it will change my life completely. Its nice to have the wisdom of other mums.
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 28 March 2007 at 11:46am
| Ok, I should introduce myself as well. I've been lurking for a few months, same as fleury. We are not actively TTC at the moment, but at the same time aren't taking any precautions either (came off Depo in November 06). I'm also a member of NZWP with our wedding in Jan 08. We don't know for sure, but there may be some medical issues on my side, I'm currently being tested for various things. I like to read the posts by other mums, especially the charting posts, although it goes straight over my head usually!! I will probably look to chart after the wedding and be more active in the TTC journey. |
Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 28 March 2007 at 1:18pm
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Hi, I've been lurking for a little while too (maybe nearly a couple of months). I too am ex NZWP (I recognise some names here!) and we have just recently stopped contraception and will wait and see what happens. DH has been talking about babies for AGES and I am pretty nervous but found this site and am now starting to get excited - this is going to be one amazing journey! Hi everyone!!
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 28 March 2007 at 5:22pm
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welcome to you all I hope your TTC journeys dont take too long and good luck for the up and coming weddings
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Posted By: JenKH
Date Posted: 25 May 2007 at 12:28pm
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Hey everyone,
I'm new here too! Was on NZWP as Jenna-Kate, married DH on Jan 27th 07, I'm 21, he's 25. I've had two operations to remove endometriosis so we are not using contraception at the moment and just seeing what happens. I have no idea about charting etc so I'll be watching and trying to pick up any tips about how to go about it and hope lots of baby dust comes my way!!! DH is currently in the Navy but is home for a while at the moment. Nice to meet you all:) Glad to see some faces from NZWP as well
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Posted By: Parki
Date Posted: 30 May 2007 at 10:28am
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Hi Ladies,
Well I thought I would introduce myself also..... I was a member of NZWP too, under a different name though.... My Husband and I are starting the whole TTC journey and I have NO idea where to start! It all seems so technical! We suspect there may be medical issues with my husband due to an operation he had resulting in him being on meds since he was 8 years old. We have not been using precautions for the last year and nothing has happened, although we haven't been actively TRYING to get pregnant. I have managed to figure out the ovulation part so fingers crossed and wish us luck!
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 31 May 2007 at 5:41pm
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hey, seem this tread is near the top, I thought I would add my stuff here too!
I'm Emma from Chch. Got married in Jan 2007 and conceived straight away on honeymoon, only to miscarry at 12 weeks (some of you may have seen my earlier posts on pregnancy thread). We're now trying again - AF arrived promptly a month after my D&C/ERPOC so, hopefully we'll be lucky again this month - wish I could go back to Fiji to conceive again though! Fingers crossed for us and all of you wonderful ladies out there!
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Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 01 June 2007 at 5:21pm
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Good luck emachan! Well I'm Erin and my DF is Anthony, and we have been TTC for nearly 13months. It is getting a little tedious what with all the 'could it be this month?' and all that, but we are hanging in there. We live in Dunedin, and I am studying Psychology, Theatre Arts and Law at Otago University. Im loving it there, and Anthony hopes to join me there soon. What else. um, oh did I mention Im in a wheelchair? Doesnt stop me tho, I have my partial pilots licence, Ive been skydiving 3x, and Ive been a nanny for 5yrs. It doesn't hold me back. Good idea this thread, good to know who you all are, in a manner of speaking! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 02 June 2007 at 7:25pm
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Hey wow, bumblefoot! You sound like one busy girl!
Good on ya for doing all that cool stuff even though you're in a w/c! You put people like me to shame when I can't even say I've done 1/2 of what you have! Awesome!
Good luck with TTC - I just read your latest post, fingers and toes are crossed for you and your DF! emma ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: tarn22
Date Posted: 07 June 2007 at 7:43pm
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hey guys i have just joined today and it is so lovely to see people in the same situation
Me and my DH have been TTC33months and starting IVF soon so been thorough alot of the same as everyone else,fertility tests, bloodtests ops etc. I am sending lots of massive baby dust to everyone and hope to make some great support buddys soon tan  ------------- IVF#1 BFP :) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 09 June 2007 at 11:09am
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Hey Tanz - welcome to Oh Baby! You'll find lots of support here!
33 months - good on you for hanging in there girl, I hope that your IVF works 1st time! What a lot to have gone through - all the best! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 09 June 2007 at 12:22pm
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Hi everyone,
I hang out on the "Coping with Infertility" thread mainly. DH and I are both 33. We have been married 2 1/2 years and trying for almost 2 yrs. Have had a lap and dye through public system - nothing wrong so classed as unexplained.
We are going to our first private appointment in 2 weeks to get a second opinion and see what next steps can be taken. Hey Catie - I was told the cut-off for public treatment/IVF by F+ was 40 not 38. Maybe you should query it if you can. |
Posted By: solgirl
Date Posted: 25 June 2007 at 1:02pm
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Hi Everyone,
I thought I would introduce my self. I'm Gaylene. My DH and I have a 16 month old DD called Emma and were married in Nov 2004. Have now decided it's time to start trying for #2. We got pg with emma very easily so am hoping it will be the same with #2 (only time will tell) Have been reading the forums for the last few months so I feel I know most of you already. Hope to see you all in the TWW thread some time in the next week.. Good Luck to everyone who are ttc |
Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 25 June 2007 at 1:08pm
hi solgirl  welcome to OHbaby hopefully your time on the TTC threads will be short lived and you can graduate to the pregnancy threads! Good Luck ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: solgirl
Date Posted: 25 June 2007 at 1:36pm
| Thanks Noodle....here's hoping |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 29 June 2007 at 2:05pm
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I'm Fleur (34) DF is Phil (31) and we are getting married in March only 8 months away now, we are taking our honeymoon in June by which time I will have finished my course of BCP.
When did people start charting? Did you start as soon as you stopped BCP or when you are actively TTC? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Onyx
Date Posted: 05 July 2007 at 3:54pm
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Hi ya
Im Kelly, I have just moved from a weddings forum on to a baby forum as we got married in March and now trying for #1 baby, (sorry slowly understanding the abbreviated jargon) anyway thought I was pregnant (not confirmed) but felt pregnant until last night when AF arrived!! So round two this month i suppose!! Kells |
Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 05 July 2007 at 10:29pm
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Good luck onyx!!!
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Posted By: Salifer
Date Posted: 13 July 2007 at 2:18pm
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Hi Onyx.....welcome to Oh Baby.......great website full of tips....ideas.....support just like the wedding websites. I've been using this website for over 6 months now and it keeps me topped up with the latest news on TTC......pregnancy.....what to expect......etc.......has been a god-send for me. I'm sure you'll find all you need to know about TCC........good luck for next month. -------------    
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Posted By: Leelee
Date Posted: 13 July 2007 at 5:13pm
| Hi I'm Lea(25) and DF is Adam(33) we are getting married in Feb and plan to start ttc about 3mths after the wedding. I came across this site when searching things for my sister who recently had a baby. I felt a bit weird posting on this forum when I dont have any child and not ttc yet but I have learnt heaps so no doubt this site is going to be very useful when we do start ttc. |
Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 13 July 2007 at 6:23pm
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Welcome Leelee - don't feel weird posting - its all about learning more about TTC and getting pg on this particular forum and then of course, pregnancy!
Good luck with your wedding next year and TTC! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: MelandBri
Date Posted: 18 July 2007 at 2:34pm
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Hi all, I've posted a few times already, but just realised I haven't actually inroduced mysel properly.
I am Melissa and have an amazing DH and beautiful daughter Brianna. We live way down south in Invercargill. I have been on medication, being diagnosed with epilepsy 1 year ago. We are really wanted to have another baby and have just decided now is the right time as I think I finally have my health under control. Hopefully we will be starting ttc this month, or maybe next. But it won't be too much longer, I'm really excited about becoming pregnant again and having another beautiful baby. |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 18 July 2007 at 2:53pm
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Welcome Leelee there are lots of refugees from NZWP on here. You will see a few familiar names, and yeah we will be TTC after our wedding too.
Wont it be strange if we all get married and become mums in the same years. Good luck to everyone with their BDing. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 22 July 2007 at 8:12pm
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Hey Lea!! welcome nice to see you here, just think ladies without the bubs, long before you get to have your own you'll be well versed in all things nappy, poo, spew and sleep, leakage, mess, love and tantrums too. lol.. although theres plenty more to learn on the job, lol. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 01 August 2007 at 2:39pm
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Hi, I'm Helen I used to post heaps on this site almost two years ago when I was pregnant with my second daughter and to be honest I'm sure this site was part of the reason I stayed sane during my very difficult pregnancy. So now we are trying for number three so I thought it would be a good time to join again.
Anyway about me... I'm 21 and my husband and I have two daughters, Chloe 4yrs and Miya 21mths. My last pregnancy was horrible so it's a bit scary thinking of doing it all over again but our family just isn't complete without baby number three. I concieved easily the last times but during my last prenancy I had to have an op to remove a growth on my fallopian tube and now I'm told I only got 50% chance of concieving so I trying not to get my hopes up, after all we do already have two beautiful children, maybe wanting a third is being a bit greedy. |
Posted By: KirstyT
Date Posted: 03 August 2007 at 4:37pm
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Hi, my name is Kirsty, I have a daughter whos 8 months old. My husband and I are trying for #2, hopefully its not a too long wait
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 13 August 2007 at 8:16am
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Hi - I'm new here obviously so thought I would introduce myself.
DH and I met 3 and a half years ago and got married in April. We've been off contraception pretty much since then but haven't been actively trying but have now decided to get on with it. We can't wait to be parents, we're almost at the point of dressing up the cat and pushing her round in a pram (she would actually like that). We've just moved into a new house and we both agree that it 'needs' children. We were going to wait for several reasons but we can't. It's almost becoming a need rather than a want. I have no idea where to start with TTC but thought signing up here would be a good one so hello and I look forward to getting to know you and picking your baby brains for tips and advice. |
Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 13 August 2007 at 5:26pm
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welcome aprilfools! good luck TTC fingers crossed you are not on the TTC boards for long! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 13 August 2007 at 10:35pm
| Thanks - I'm looking forward to the day we get that BFP. This is certainly the weirdest but at the same time the most exciting thing we've done. |
Posted By: josephnia
Date Posted: 17 September 2007 at 7:48pm
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Hi, I'm Jo (31) married to Phil (32) and we've been together almost 11 years and got married this year in January. I was on NZWP and heard about this site from the lovely ladies on there and have been lurking for a few weeks and learning lots! We weren't sure we would ever have kids but a couple of months ago brought it up and a bit surprising to both of us I think we decided that we actually did. I had my implant taken out 3 weeks ago so just waiting for my cycle to regulate and then it's all on! Exciting and scary because it seems such a big decision to make so quickly but it just feels right! Look forward to chatting to everyone
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Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 17 September 2007 at 8:26pm
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Welcome josephnia, it might be a big decision but it will probably be one of the best decisions you have ever made! I'll look forward to reading your posts
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 9:44am
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Welcome April Fools and Josephnia great to see some 07 NZWP Brides coming on here. Good Luck with TTC.
There are a number of NZWP members on here whom you may recognise. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 18 September 2007 at 9:44pm
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Hi Josephnia. Good luck with TTC.
Thanks fleury. I've seen quite a few NZWP brides on here. |
Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 4:28pm
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Welcome Josephnia, I remember you from NZWP, nice to see you here and good luck for TTC! I got married in Feb this year! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: josephnia
Date Posted: 19 September 2007 at 4:38pm
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Thanks everyone It all seems real now that I've written my first post!
Not long for you now Peachy
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Posted By: ItchyFeet
Date Posted: 27 September 2007 at 8:40pm
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Well I've been lurking for ages now and feel it's probably time I joined. I'm an ex-NZWPer too (Josephnia may recognise me I think). I'm 35, DH is 38 and neither of us ever wanted kids. We had a few family events crop up earlier this year that made me re-evaluate what I wanted out of life, and when I raised the possibility of trying for a family of our own, to both my and his complete shock, he not only agreed, but is quite keen to try and see if we can make it a reality. I wouldn't want to go down this path if it was only something I wanted, it had to be something we both wanted, so you can imagine how nervous I was when I realised I'd changed my mind.
There are some complicating factors for us. I'm on medication that I have to take for another 6 months, and then the specialist advice is to wait another 3 months after that before trying. DH also had a vasectomy last year and now we're saving to have to pay for the reversal. It wasn't a decision made lightly and I don't regret it, but if only I'd known this was going to happen we would have waited. Some other factors mean it's not likely to occur naturally even then anyway. So we're looking at a few rounds of IUI and following up with IVF. And then specialist care because of my age and medical conditions. So it's all very scary and exciting. I'm trying to stay positive and hope it can all happen for us. We've decided not to tell our friends and family so I think this site will prove very helpful. |
Posted By: josephnia
Date Posted: 01 October 2007 at 8:38pm
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Welcome ItchyFeet! He he, I think I may know who you are It was a bit of a surprise to DH and I as well when we came to our decision, and there are some times when i just think it's all a bit scary and are we really going to go through with this, but the other times it just feels like the only thing to do and so natural. We're not telling anyone either - we've spent so many years telling people we're NOT having kids and I don't want to be explaining our decisions or going through diappointments with others (hopefully this won't happen too often though!)
I really hope your TTC journey is as smooth and trouble free as it can be and that we get that BFP we're all hoping for! |
Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 01 October 2007 at 8:44pm
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welcome along to ohbaby itchyfeet - it gets pretty addictive - just as NZWP probably was for you too!
Post away and everyone will be so supportive whatever you're going through - I may have only been on Ohbaby for about 8 months - but everyones so awesome! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: Joscia
Date Posted: 03 October 2007 at 11:56am
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Hi Everyone,
1st post - wahooo! So, I'm an 'ex-NZWPer'too (under a different name there). Got married in March this year. I've been kind of lurking around for the last few months, since DH and I had intented to start TTC early next year. However, as of last night we've had a bit of a change of plans; looks like my work situation is going to change & DH has just had a payrise, and since both of us believe that 'everything happens for a reason' I'm going to stop taking my pill as of this Friday (like 2 days away!!!) - and see what happens! It's all a bit scary and seems really quite surreal - i can't quite believe we're actually going to do it! DH is even quite excited! We're not telling anyone yet that we're going to be TTC - so it's kinda cool that this place exists, otherwise I'd probably either explode with excitement or drive DH completely mental!
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Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 03 October 2007 at 3:03pm
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Thats great joscia! Welcome to OhBaby
I only came off the pill a few months ago and found I was really clueless about cycles etc and everyone here is so supportive and full of useful advice. Goodluck with your TTC adventure!
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