the ideas i have gotten on IVF has made me a live
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Topic: the ideas i have gotten on IVF has made me a live
Posted By: fatma224604
Subject: the ideas i have gotten on IVF has made me a live
Date Posted: 20 July 2017 at 12:01am
sometimes people perish because of lack of knowledge. i can attest to this as i was a desperate woman before joining the forum. though still new, i have managed to collect just enough information to be able to face my infertility battles.
it has been a long fight. 7 years to be exact trying to find the appropriate place to find help. with a few ideas here and there, i went to great lengths. i even went for an IVF cycle in Ukraine in a dingy clinic.
little did i know that the place i had my help was just within reach when i was in Kiev. this clinic called biotexcom has been cited by many people around and seems reliable.
its time i faced the world again, this time i will win!
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Posted By: Wikq225913
Date Posted: 27 September 2017 at 6:03am
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Hello! I want to share our joy! We could not conceive for many years, we were treated in different clinics. Did 4 times IVF. Very poor spermogram oligoastenoteratospermia. Nothing happened. Most of the embryos did not survive until 3 days. The rest died in the first weeks after planting. We were examined in the clinic and it turned out that my husband had problems. Our wonderful doctor advised us to use donor sperm. First, my husband and I took it with great doubt, thought for a long time, then we realized that the other way is not how. Also have reconciled. The manager helped us find a donor very similar to her husband by description. And they carried out a new IVF program. And a miracle happened!)))) I got pregnant the first time !!!!! I can not believe it, but now I have a child! My little dear little man! We are already 4 months old and I decided to share with all this joy! THANKS to everyone who was with us! Thank the doctors and the whole clinic! I want to tell the girls - do not be afraid! This is a real chance to become a mom! My husband is also very happy and does not doubt for a moment that he is all OUR !!!
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Posted By: luha226083
Date Posted: 28 September 2017 at 11:20pm
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Hello, I'm very happy for you, but you know, it seems to me that your husband is a very good person. You see, men do not so want children than women and the fact that your husband agreed to use donor sperm is very good. It seems to me that my husband would have refused me in such a situation. He would say that we can live together without children. But we will use the services of a surrogate mother. Right now, we choose where we go. We are very upset, because we live in Europe. And then commercial surrogate motherhood is prohibited. But the non-commercial surrogate motherhood is completely unacceptable for us. We do not even know how we can ask my sister or girlfriend about it. I do not even know how they will react, I think they will think that I'm crazy. And anyway, I will feel that I owe someone something and it's disgusting. Moreover, I do not believe that someone can do their job well by doing it for free. Therefore, we decided to look for a clinic in another country. We read a lot about Ukraine and America. We also considered Russia before, but later we refused Russia, because it is expensive there. Of course, we would very much like to go to America, simply because I really love this country, there's the ocean. But we decided that this is a huge amount that we do not collect, flights, clinic, the American surrogate mother. Tell me please, and in what clinic did you use donor material and did IVF? Probably, we will go to Ukraine, because many people write that they addressed exactly there. But we have never been to Ukraine, we would like to go there for a consultation. Please tell me, and you have after IVF had any impact? Simply, we decided that it would be more reliable to use the service of a surrogate mother. Because we already had many attempts at IVF and everything is unsuccessful. And you think, because you also had unsuccessful attempts of IVF. You were very worried? For example, I received a severe depression. Because it seemed to me that it was not necessary to continue anything, that we would live only together. I was only afraid that my husband would leave me. Tell me please, have you decided for a long time about the use of donor sperm? Did you have to persuade your husband or did he agree? Do you think it was hard for him to agree to this? He did it for you, or it is also like a child, even regardless of whether he is a native?
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Posted By: Wikq225913
Date Posted: 28 September 2017 at 11:52pm
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You know, I saw that it was hard for my husband to agree to this. Of course, I saw that he was trying to hide it. He asked me for a few days to think about everything. It was clear to me that for him this is not an easy decision, he always wanted his children. But I have a very strong husband, he never complained to me, he did it for me. I asked him many times, is he really ready? He replied that yes, but you know, then I already had doubts. But after a few months of reflection, we still decided. As for the clinic, we were in Ukraine. First of all, because we read a lot of positive reviews about it in the Internet, by the way on this forum. So now I'm not ashamed, also leave my positive feedback. In addition, in our country we were simply denied the IVF procedure. They said, we do not fit the age, you can not imagine how much it offended us. Well also that, that to us not 30 years, but after all we feel well, we pass medical inspections and we conduct a healthy way of life. We were so upset, it seemed to us that we were like people of a lower grade. As if we are not citizens of our country. In Ukraine, IVF cost us cheaper and Ukraine has no age limits for patients. As for the clinic, we were in biotexcom. And I'm very grateful to the doctors and the entire team of the clinic for their professional work, patience, for human attitude. You know, after we were refused in our country we had anger at the doctors). I do not know why, it was just unconscious. But we were glad that Ukrainian doctors could convince us by their example. They treated us very respectfully, they paid attention to us, did not put us without support. Quite frankly, the procedure of IVF is not so long as a surrogate maternity. We were in Ukraine not too long, but we liked Kiev. You know, we met a lot of foreigners in the clinic and even met some of them. We were very pleased that we could feel free, no worse than young people. Therefore, I can advise you to go there for a consultation. I'm not strong in matters of surrogate motherhood, but it seems to me there will be able to help you. The clinic building is new, the equipment is also new, the chambers are spacious and bright. The staff of the clinic speaks foreign languages, so there was no language barrier. Plane tickets to Ukraine are also not expensive. I do not know in which country you live, but we did not fly for long. I would like to say that you need to be very responsible in this matter and then everything will turn out well.
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Posted By: Simona07226269
Date Posted: 03 October 2017 at 10:52pm
Hi, girls. Your problems are so similar to mine. So I decided to join the discussion. I already have one own baby born but it was a huge problem to get him. I mean the delivery was just awful. We didn't TTC for a long time, I got pregnant very fast. I was hoping that I will have several kids. But after the first delivery I was told that I should never get pregnant again. My body was unable to give birth again. I had a lot of surgeries to save my reproduction system, but nothing helped. I was completely frustrated. In 5 years after our son was born we decided that we have to find the solution for having one more baby. My husband has a lot of friends, which are connected with the medicine. So, he made some calls and we had an appointment with a doctor from the Ukrainian reproduction center. He was so nice to us, so we were ready to start the treatment immediately. Actually, I didn't need the treatment. We decided to try the surrogacy. The reproduction center offered us a huge amount of surrogates to choose. It was quite a hard task, but we did it. My husband was trying to calm me down, because I was extremely nervous. I just couldn't imagine some unknown woman being pregnant with my baby. I just appreciate God that my eggs were fine. It helped us to get a baby, which is genetically related to us. Our doctor explained that we could also use an egg donation. But in this case the baby would be related to my husband only.
As a result we have our baby girl now. Our son is her Big Brother. He loves her so much. We are thinking of having one more baby in a couple of years! I just wanted to share my joy with others. I wish every couple could have their babies as soon as possible.
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