Very early miscarriage
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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: Very early miscarriage
Posted By: arohanui
Subject: Very early miscarriage
Date Posted: 31 March 2013 at 8:40pm
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Keen to chat with people who've experienced very early miscarriage, or so called "chemical pregnancy" (I hate that term, sounds like there was never anything there). I had one early mc before my youngest (I only knew for 2 days before bleeding, and then conceived DS the cycle straight after). A month ago I had another early mc, I knew for a week before I started bleeding. It's just happened again this cycle, I knew for 1 week and 2 days. So that's 3 now. This time I'm finding myself wishing that the baby had grown for even a week or two more, like somehow then I'd have more right to grieve... like people don't see it as a loss cos it was so early. Because of the timing this mc I've had to just keep going really, when emotionally all I want to do is stay in bed for a couple of days. ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 31 March 2013 at 10:14pm
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Arohanui, I am so sorry for all of your losses. And they are losses, no matter how short the gestation. It is really important that you know this is happening as there are some things they can do to help. I remember with my last pregnancy people telling me I shouldn't have tested so early (11DPO) because if I lost it early, it might not have been any the wiser. But I think that is rubbish. It was still going to be a baby, my baby, no matter how early I lost it. As it was, it hung in there a bit longer, but I did eventually lose it. I hope you find some peace, rest and time to grieve - a little life, not a little loss. xxx ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: Orca1
Date Posted: 03 April 2013 at 2:19pm
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Hi Arohanui I think we might have been in the same due in thread for January 2008. We have been trying for 5 years to have #2 and I have had 4 m/c and like you I hate the term "chemical". I don't think it matters at what stage you lose your baby, you know you are pregnant and the minute you find out its all the hopes and possibilities for that child that you lose as well. Not sure that makes sense but thats how I feel. My thoughts are with you, take time out to grieve when you can. -------------  DD born 2008 Oct 2009, April 2010, Dec 2010, June 20117 x IVF/ICSI/PGD = BFN |
Posted By: Mrs Mac
Date Posted: 06 April 2013 at 3:53pm
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You're right, it's a really demeaning term. It wasn't a "chemical" (imaginary) pregnancy, it was a pregnancy, be it ever so short. -------------   Jan '13
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