TTC 2013 - First Baby
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Topic: TTC 2013 - First Baby
Posted By: Jellybean87
Subject: TTC 2013 - First Baby
Date Posted: 07 January 2013 at 8:45pm
| Hi all, is anyone else in the same position as I am with trying to conceive their first baby? My hubby and I married in November and have only just started trying, I was on the pill for 9 years prior to stopping in December. I had no idea about ovulation, charting, folic acid etc luckily my Dr prescribed me folic acid which I started taking in December and I am slowly educating myself on topics such as ovulation to try and conceive. Would love to hear from someone else who is trying for their first baby or anyone with advice they can share :) By the way I have signed up to Fertility Friend to chart everything and have purchased a BTT (Thermometer). |
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Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 07 January 2013 at 8:51pm
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Hi jellybean. We're trying for our first although we started 3yrs ago and have met a bit of a hump along the way. Hopefully it'll be soon for us and hopefully you guys won't be in game for long. Anything you want to know you're in the right place to find out lol there are heaps of helpful people here. Good luck :) ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: blondie23
Date Posted: 07 January 2013 at 9:36pm
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I'm in the same position. We have been trying for over a year now and have been referred to fertility associates as I have poly cystic ovaries and have irregular cycles. I thought it was because I'd been on the pill for 13 years but unfortunately not. I hope your stay here is short. Come and join us in the 2 week wait and the charting girls. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Jellybean87
Date Posted: 07 January 2013 at 10:32pm
Thank you both for your replies babycrazy and blondie23! I wish you both luck with trying to conceive 
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Posted By: LozzyLou
Date Posted: 08 January 2013 at 11:50am
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Hi everyone! We're trying for our first this year too! I've been off the pill since June and gave myself 6 months of eating well and preparing for pregnancy. I am in my late 30's so older than most first time mums and wanted to give myself the best possible chance of conceiving and sustaining the pregnancy. I have been seeing a naturopath since August who has helped me with my diet and also been going for acupuncture sessions each week since the beginning of December. Looking forward to the journey ahead - I hope we all are blessed with what we want this year! |
Posted By: kalika
Date Posted: 10 January 2013 at 11:21am
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Hi jellybean welcome to the forum! My husband and I are ttc our first too. I haven't tried temping but a lot of women have good results with it. We conceived last year with help only from fertility friends forecasted ovulation dates and that was from only putting in my Af dates and it was really stress free. The more methods you introduce the more stressful it gets in my opinion but we have to do what we have to do lol ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3c5768" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart   Sept '12< |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 10 January 2013 at 12:07pm
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Totally agree Kalika - I never temped because I knew it would just send me over the edge. I've tried OPK's and saliva scope in the past but I'm also lucky that I get obvious ov pain and have a pretty regular cycle so gave up on all that and just used ewcm and the pains as my tracking. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: brittany13
Date Posted: 10 January 2013 at 12:22pm
| We got married October last year, and are trying to conceive our first. This is our first month of trying, currently 14DPO, I have a 32 cycle since having my IUD out. It used to be every 28 days, so not sure what happened there. We used the OPKs this month, and I also get cramping around ovulation. Using Fertility friend to track ovulation, so hopefully all this will work! Took an internet cheapie this morn, a BFN :( still holding on hope that AF doesnt arrive this week |
Posted By: kalika
Date Posted: 10 January 2013 at 2:38pm
How did you find the saliva scope? I'm really looking forward to trying one. I don't like the idea of temping mainly because it seems really unreliable, certain things can change your temps and it may not be ovulation. At least with the saliva scope (as long as you follow directions 100%) there should be no ambiguity. It is either ferning or ir isn't!  ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3c5768" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart Sept '12< |
babycrazy wrote:Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 10 January 2013 at 2:49pm
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I tried the scope for a couple cycles but didn't really take to it that much. I've got other friends who've used it and think its great. Evidently none of that mattered for me because when you're guy has no sperm it ain't happening lol, tried all that stuff back when I was in the dark about our fertility issues. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: kalika
Date Posted: 12 January 2013 at 9:05am
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babycrazy - that must be so hard for you, I suppose though now that you know you can try and overcome the problem I was reading articles online last night and read that at age 27 your eggs start deteriorating in quality. How is that fair!? Obviously when our average lifespan was 50 this would have acceptable as women got married and had children in their late teens/early twenties but surely with evolution this should have righted itself? Must write a letter of complaint to somebody.. not sure who lol  ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3c5768" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart Sept '12< |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 12 January 2013 at 1:27pm
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Yeah kailika it is hard but I've been more focused on finding a solution. We're the donor list and just found out we're nearly at the top after about 4mths of waiting so its not too bad was just a long road to get to this point cos my DP fluffed around getting tested. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: kalika
Date Posted: 12 January 2013 at 3:15pm
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Did he cope with the news ok? Must be awful finding out something like that ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3c5768" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart Sept '12< |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 12 January 2013 at 9:46pm
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He seemed ok kailika. At first I thought we would get some via biopsy but turned out the odds were that low that he decided not to bother looking. It's taking some time for him to get his head around using a donor though and he probably wouldn't go through with it if it didn't mean so much to me. ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Supra34
Date Posted: 15 January 2013 at 5:02pm
| The only advice I have for couples that are wanting to get pregnant within say a year is get your hubby tested first. Especially if you haven't been that careful in the past like us. I was on no birth control & we were using the withdrawal method for years before we married. It doesnt hurt them & its completely non invasive, at least then you will have a better idea where you stand. We found out about 2 years into our marriage that we had a 1% chance of natural conception. Hubby has a very low count & motility, had we known this earlier, we probably would have lined up for IVF sooner. Thankfully ours was bought forward from 15 months to 10. We were prepared to pay if it was 15 months no doubt. He would have nearly been 40 by then. |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 15 January 2013 at 6:10pm
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Agree supra. Considering it took me over a year from my first trip to the doctor to get him to do the test as it was and its only been about 6mths from initial diagnosis to nearly topping the list I wish we'd got that done earlier. But can't change that now can only share my experience with others. All the best to you :) ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: Melanie103798
Date Posted: 18 January 2013 at 11:22am
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My Husband & I got married in December and Jan is our first month trying. I ovulated 5 - 6 days ago and for the past week i've had diarrhea - which in the past 2 days have turned into constipation, cramps, a little bit of nausea(just certain smells make me feel really ill) and itchy breasts. Fingers crossed :) I have to wait another 10 days to test tho as I have 34 day cycles :( The wait is agonising |
Posted By: RachFizz
Date Posted: 20 January 2013 at 10:34pm
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Hey everyone, guess I fit in here, although we've already been trying for most of 2011 and 2012 as well lol Just at the first stages of getting some investigation done as to why nothing's happened yet (we're both 24) but still hoping that it's gonna just happen. I have suspected endometriosis but not bad enough to be on the public waiting list for surgery. Went through a phase of charting and everything but it just made me too obsessed. Showed clear ovulation each month so I pretty much know when we should be timing it. Good luck to all you guys! Hope it doesn't take long ------------- TTC#1 since Apr11 On hold for study! |
Posted By: a-jo
Date Posted: 04 July 2013 at 2:54pm
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Hi Jellybean87 and others, It feels strange to be on this forum at all - funny how things change so quickly. At the beginning of this year I had no idea what TTC or TWW or BDing was! My hub and I are now 2 months into TTC. I've only got one ovary + one tube so I am hoping it doesn't take too long + that my remaining vital organs are all working as they should. It's funny, I kind of thought it might happen straight away, so I've quickly descended into googling every little tweak or cramp. Expecting AF (haha another acronym) this weekend. I don't FEEL different at all this month + have none of the symptoms described by others. Ah well, another month will come around - and this time I might grab some ovulating tests to be sure I'm timing it right! It's kind of nice that this forum exists - such a sweet community of women. Love + encouragement to all of you! |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 04 July 2013 at 6:06pm
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A-Jo wishing you a speedy time ttc. Just read back over posts in here. Didn't think I'd STILL be ttc by July but here we are in the midst of our 4th iui! ------------- TTC since Oct 2009 4 x DI's failed IVF1 CP & MC IVF2 CP IVF3 Angel baby born 22.3wks |
Posted By: JuniorO
Date Posted: 30 July 2013 at 10:40am
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Hi ladies, hubby and I got married in Dec '12 and have been TTC since March this year (after honeymoon!). No luck so far - I have to admit, I get really sad when AF arrives (and then angry at her!). Got pretty excited last week when AF hadn't arrived - took three tests but all were BFNs ... yet I still convinced myself I was UTD. Then AF arrived last night, 7 days late ... I was gutted  But oh well, gotta keep positive and happy  and got to keep trying (doing the BD as you ladies say!). I think I'm going to buy a thermometer and get a better idea of exactly when my ov is. Hubbie says "I think we should just have sex every day this month to make sure!". Boys huh?! 
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Posted By: Lease243
Date Posted: 12 August 2013 at 8:01pm
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Hi Everyone!! DP and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and we started TTC in June, so only a couple of months in, but we really want to get pregnant!! and didnt think this would be hard. Im a little over weight and have been working on that for almost 2 years. have lost 24 kilos so far. I am thinking about either getting OPKs or Thermometer testing? What does everyone else do? ------------- Angel Baby Nov '13 BFP Dec '13 DD1 born July 2014 at 35 weeks http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Mrs. Sinclair April '17 TTC #2 since May '17 |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 12 August 2013 at 8:46pm
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You will probably see my answer in the TWW forum, but I temp and use OPK's when TTC. That way you have two things to confirm when you're oving. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: Monkeydee
Date Posted: 12 August 2013 at 9:24pm
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Hi ladies we've been tcc since January after being on the pill for nearly 15years so it's taking awhile to get that out of my system and get a baby growing in there. We've used a number of things charting mainly but I get so consumed by it that this month we are going to do it without temping and just use opk, I'm taking pre concieve pills and fish oil and going to start evening primrose also. Looking for a bit of fun, relaxation and some time off work just before Ov. Only thing that sucks is my cycles are so long! Like the last one was 43 days!  ------------- TTC since December 2012, Unexplained Rainbow baby due May 18 :) |
Posted By: JuniorO
Date Posted: 13 August 2013 at 4:31pm
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Can I be naive here and ask a question? Is there any point in putting so much time and effort into finding out exactly when you're ovulating? I mean, we have a rough idea right... so why not just make sure you have sex at least every second day throughout the middle two weeks? And maybe at least every 3-4 days at other times? My Doctor told me that Fertility Clinic says 2x week during ovulation is enough anyway?! Or do you have sex more than every 2days when you're ovulating? If so, how often? I don't mean to offend anyone, I genuinely want to know if it is worth the effort? And does it add extra stress and/or take away any fun related to making love to your partner? Thanks :) |
Posted By: a.girl
Date Posted: 13 August 2013 at 5:04pm
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Good question JuniorO! I've wondered that myself a few times. The every second day thing does cover it, so why am I tracking temps, opks, etc??? The main reason I do those things is it's helping me understand my cycles better so that (touch wood!) if there is a problem, I'll have lots of cycle history to help figure that out. For example, my last chart showed I Ovulated (good to confirm with temp as OPK's don't actually confirm it). Also, it showed how long my LP was - which could be helpful if it's too short. A few months down the road, if things still aren't happening, I can go to the doctor's with a starting point rather than waiting a few cycles to figure that out what's been happening. Long story short... the more you know about what your body's doing, the easier it will be if things don't happen as quickly as you had planned. I also found with the temping that it helped me this cycle when I had a funny spotting-like AF. I knew straight away it was AF rather than implantation because my temp dropped and stayed down. This took some stress off of me during that "up in the air" time. But it's up to you. I can see how some people would rather not have the stress, but I'm a very scientific person and like to understand things. To each his own! ------------- 6 Angels...5/13, 11/13, 4/14, 9/14, 4/17, 10/17 (ectopic) Balanced Translocation b/t 13&14 IVF #1 - no blastocysts IVF #2 - 2 failed FETs IVF #3 - 1 failed FET IVF #4 - Donor eggs, no luck |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 13 August 2013 at 5:41pm
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Hi JuniorO - I would say the same thing as a.girl. I started charting to have information there if I needed to get help for fertility. Also, it is very stressful when TTCing. You may be fine but it had a huge affect on us. It became a chore - something we HAD to do whether we liked it or not. Now, I use OPK's and temps to get a closer idea of ov day, so that we only need to BD twice that week. I have conceived twice before using this method, so it works for us. We did lose both babies, but it still worked for conception and when we are TTCing again, I will use this method again. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: tan73
Date Posted: 13 August 2013 at 5:42pm
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Oh, also, if you have a reluctant husband in the bedroom department, then timing BDing helps to cut down the demands on him. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 2 Angels - Aug '12 & Mar '13 Always in our hearts. |
Posted By: Wynn
Date Posted: 13 August 2013 at 6:32pm
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hi there! we are pretty much the same... had been on the pill for over 13 years. Came off it over a year ago and had no clue about ov etc! Actively trying since January with no luck... I have pcos. Went to the Dr and had a test to see if I had ov and I had but Dr still advised me to go to Fertility Associates. Only using the OPK at this stage, and have just bought the digital one.. expensive but worth it. Find the red lines just too hard to read. My DH is not worried about it and just thinks it will happen when it happens (argh!)... He is very against getting himself tested so everything is falling back to me at the moment. Also I hadn't planned on telling many ppl that we are trying, but have told my mother and sister, and wow the reaction hasn't been quite what I thought from my sister.... now whenever we talk all I hear from her is don't be one of those woman that get obsessed, just don't become one of those!  and yet funny enough she's got kids and didn't have any issues... much easier to go on these forums to read and chat with people who are going through the same thing! Keeps me sane
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Posted By: JuniorO
Date Posted: 04 October 2013 at 11:20am
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Hey girls, thought I'd pop in and say hi and give an update... not great news unfortunately. Had gone to Doc a couple of months back, just to talk about TTC and she was really great and suggested just getting all the fertility tests just so that if we needed a referral to a Fertility Clinic then we'd be ready. Seriously didn't think we'd need them but I like to be organised so agreed to it. FYI, tests are sperm test for him, STD blood tests for both (incl HIV), smear test for her, ovulation test for her (on day 2-4 of cycle and day 20-22 of cycle) and rubella immunization test for her. Rang Docs to check on test results and were told that we had to go in. It turns out my ovulation test was negative That was a tough afternoon with lots of tears and emotions. That was a few days ago and I've now been able to come to terms with it. I know it's not the end of the world and there are so many women who have fertility problems (I just didn't want to be one of them!). Anyway, now that 'grieving' is over, I'm all into action... 1. Getting 2nd blood test just to check 2. on a mission to lose weight as I have BMI of 31.7 and you have to have BMI of "less than 32" to be eligible! Joined a Spring into Summer 8 week challenge at a gym. Logging food intake with MyFitnessPal, got support of hubby and family, buddying up with my bestie who lives in Wellington (our motivation: 'prize' for first to lose 10kg is a visit from the other, and 'prize' for both losing 15kg is a pampering weekend together in Taupo - so good reason to motivate the other!) 3. bought ovulation prediction kit from Baby Works as recommended on here 4. have booked in appt with Fertility Clinic (Doc appt was Tuesday, Fertility + rang me today - pretty quick!). Was told public waiting was 8-12wks but private appt was only $150 so made appt for 11 Nov, so glad to have a date. 5. doing lots of research and staying positive. Have learnt that - 10% of ovulating women will not get positive ovulation tests - with drugs 80% of non-ovulating women successfully conceive - friends with babies was non-ovulating and took drugs Anyway, my advice to anyone TTC is to visit your Doctor asap and ask for fertility tests. The sooner you know if there's an obvious problem or not, the better. And stay positive. I'm determined not to make this about having sex with my husband just to make babies |