1 year old with another on the way
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Topic: 1 year old with another on the way
Posted By: Sharyn101515
Subject: 1 year old with another on the way
Date Posted: 13 December 2012 at 4:58pm
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Just wondering if anyone has any tips for me.. I have a son who recently (last weekend) turned one and I am due to have my baby girl in April. As he is still very young and still doesnt quite understand what we say let alone what is going on..was wondering if anyone had any tips for getting him used to having a baby sister around? I saw a few suggestions, like having story time while baby is feeding etc, but most of the suggestions are a little "grown up" for him. I just want to be able to care for little miss as best as I can without my lil man getting upset and jealous (as he already gets jealous if his father or I hold another baby). I want him to know that he is still the light of my life lol |
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 14 December 2012 at 10:50am
At that age, I just don't think there's much you can do to prepare them really. I've got a 15 month gap, and while I told DS that 'there's a baby in mummy's tummy' and he even knew where to point if we asked where the baby was, you could tell he just had no clue as to what it all meant in reality. He worked it out  . It can be a big adjustment for them, but they do adjust (and it's so much fun when they start interacting, totally worth it!)-------------   
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Posted By: Guest_87892
Date Posted: 14 December 2012 at 4:59pm
I just had my baby girl and her older brother is only 18 months I thought it would be hard when she finally arrived as my son was jealous of sharing me with his father let alone another little one but he has adjusted really well he loves his little sister to bits and always wants to hold her. While I was pregnant we started getting him used to having another little one around by babysitting my little niece and just involving him in my pregnancy by letting him rub or kiss my tummy and telling him there's a bubba in there, it was cute he would always yell bubba to my stomach and try hug or kiss it. Now that she's here we make sure not to make him feel left out, if i'm holding or feeding baby he'll come and sit next to me or his father will hold/play with him and vice versa if daddys got baby i'll play with him just so he doesn't get jealous. Hope this helps and goodluck when your babygirl arrives. 
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Posted By: MrsEmma
Date Posted: 18 December 2012 at 6:32pm
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I have a 15 month age gap also and like Hopes said, there wasn't really much I could do to prepare DS for the arrival of his sister. I just made sure I made time especially for DS and I (and DH & DS) 1-1 time was really important for us. We would each take him to the park on his own, go for walks etc it was really special for all of us. Just having a lot of patience and including him in everything we could seemed to work really well. And he took to DD amazingly well - it went so much smoother than I ever thought possible! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 22 December 2012 at 1:08am
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I had a 19 month gap,my son didn't understand at all,even once I bought his sister home from hospital he didn't really gather that she was ours and we were keeping her.He looked confused to find her there the next day. However,now they are 3.5 and 22months and are the best of friends,so it hasn't had any impact on their relationship ------------- 
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Posted By: Stoked
Date Posted: 30 December 2012 at 12:24pm
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We have an almost 17 month gap. DS didn't understand that he was getting a baby sister, however we talked about it a lot and always referred to the baby as his sister and his baby. I made sure I didn't hold her when he first met her in the birthing unit, he sat on my lap the whole time while everyone else had a look at his sister. He was very good (normally) while I was bfing in the early days and would always bring me a book to read him. I did however make sure that the house was well toddler proofed. If I was busy with DS and DD started crying, I'd tell her she needed to wait because it was his time and vice versa to help him understand his needs were important too. He has adjusted very well and like the others have said, it's lovely watching them interact now. DD has just started crawling and follows DS everywhere. When she can't follow him, he comes and asks us to help her. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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