What did you say..?
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Topic: What did you say..?
Posted By: Hopes
Subject: What did you say..?
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 7:35pm
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Inspired by another thread - what did you say you'd *never* do when you had kids... and did you?
I have two - the first was that I was never going to let them eat food in the lounge (and thus drop it all over the floor). Um, yea. Come see our carpet, and you can judge for yourself whether we managed. The second was that I would *never* eat slobbered-on toddler rejects like I've seen so many Mums do. And I never have. So far! -------------   
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Posted By: catisla
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 8:07pm
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The big one was 'i will never use a dummy'.
And yup - big dummy convert here! ------------- |
Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 8:16pm
I honestly can't think of anything I was absolutely not doing, except for smacking (which I haven't)... but it was 15 years ago when I had my first so I'm sure there would be some things I changed my mind on... I do remember the reality of parenting being quite different to the expectation  ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: Delli
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 8:23pm
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We didn't really have any expectations per say as to what having children would be like, so didn't say we would never do anything, in case we had to eat our words.
However I do remember saying to DP (rather hopefully) before the birth of our first child that women had been going through labour and birth for millions of years so surely it can't be THAT bad, right? LOL. I now tell everyone who asks that evolution could have done a *much* better job of that process.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mizpix
Date Posted: 08 March 2012 at 9:27pm
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ummm yeah snap to the dummy
was going to have drug free birth, used every drug known to man! always used to roll my eyes when someones child went "off" in the supermarket and swore that I'd always have better control of my kid than that...yeah right was never going to use formula... the list goes on and on! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2920e5" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: andweknowthis
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 8:31am
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Me too with the dummy... and then I went to ok I'll use it but only for bedtime. Yeah right, I take it EVERYWHERE in public just in case, and in the car... because who can stand sitting in a car with a screaming baby?
I think that might have been it, I can't think of any others at the moment. |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 8:44am
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I was never going to use a dummy, would be a SAHM till all the kids were at school and never use daycare- have done all those things.
I thought it was gross eating slobbered on food leftovers, and wiping the kids face with spit, and wiping kid boogers on their clothes- guilty of all those things too! |
Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 8:49am
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I was never giving them junk food lol! And they were going to have fairly strict routines.
They do the snot wiping thing too. I have also never eaten their slobbered on leftovers, but Phil does  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: catisla
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 8:54am
Oh - and i was going to make all my own baby food and never buy a jar . . .  ------------- |
Posted By: minipig
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 9:22am
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Don't have my kid yet...
But I was never going to be a pregnant lady who only wore jandals. I was still going to wear pretty shoes! Haha, the only thing I can wedge my gigantic feet into is jandals! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: andweknowthis
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 11:40am
haha i wipe his boogers on my jeans all the time. i just never seem to have anything handy to wipe them on :s |
Kellz wrote:Posted By: snugglebug
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 1:00pm
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Dummies here too hehe. But also I wasn't going to work, I work part time now. I wasn't going to let the baby in our bed as a newborn, I did that at times when he wouldn't settle. I never specifically planned not to eat slobbered on leftovers and I don't but I have had them shoved in my mouth on occasion by my son hahaha. I was never going to formula feed either, but that didn't quite work how I planned. Nothing ever does. I had to laugh recently when my SIL who has a 3 month old previously said she would never ever use a dummy, then a photo popped up on FB with her child with a dummy. I have learnt to never say never anymore hehe apart from the obvious things like smacking, you never know what you'll do when you're desperate/nothing else works.
Oh I was also never going to do baby led weaning (too messy for me no other reason) but my son from about 8 months refused to eat any other way so Ive had to get over it hehe ------------- Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: fattykat
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 1:51pm
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I was never going to use a dummy....that didn't last too long.
I wasn't going to use formula....after 5 months of EB I started using formula. I was never going to use disposable....used them. I was going to be a SAHM....that really didn't work out as planned. My child was never going to be the one running through the clothes racks in clothing shops....unless she is strapped in the stroller, she is usually found with me trying to coax her out of the middle of the most expensive delicate stuff in the whole shop. Whew this list could go on & on
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Posted By: Danda08
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 2:03pm
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I was never going to co-sleep. Didn't see any reason for it. And here we are with one of my girls in our bed most nights - not that I want it that way but for the sake of us all getting some sleep I'm taking the easy road (for now).
And I was going to be a working mum, was going to go back to work when baby was 6 months. In actual fact I went back when they were 19 months and have already resigned  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 6:51pm
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I was never going to have a child who stayed up late...sigh.. ------------- 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 7:12pm
| Oh and I was never gonna bribe my kids with food,....lol do it all the time for peace now- ie- feeding them snacks in the buggy/car to keep them occupied and settled! An first day back at school- if u go into class when the bell rings without making a fuss I will buy u an iceblock after school- totally worked, shes been getting dropped of at the gate since and only needed the one iceblock, lol! |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 7:51pm
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Hehe, I eat pre-chewed toddler foods sometimes
I was pretty open for the most part, although I was definitely going to have my kids sleep sorted out by the time they were weaned. Sigh. I wish. I'm probably a bit slacker with her diet than I thought I would be, but part of that has been allergies etc restricting what she and I can eat at all. I was never going to let the kids watch TV, and so far I haven't. My 2 year old has probably watched less than 2 hours in her life and I've no idea who all these characters other parents talk about at playcentre are! I was going to breast-feed, that was my one non-negotiable and we've done that despite a few hiccups both times  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mattsmum
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 10:36pm
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Oh the best laid plans
I was never going to put a child in preschool - DS went to daycare at 5 months. Never use disposables - don't use cloth now Never use formula ( had to with both children) There are so many.  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 11:07pm
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oh yeah wouldl have to be the food thing lol dont really like bribing my children with food but at the end of the day when my 4 year old has whinged and whined for the last 20 minutes and you have a splitting headache hahahaha. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 09 March 2012 at 11:32pm
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no dummy - failed with number one, tried to with number two and she wouldnt take it lol
I eat slobered on food occasionally the little one feeds me but more often its just left overs - cause If I didtn I wouldnt eat somedays there just isnt time No co sleeping - didnt with number one - did for a little while with number 2 I definately dont wipe boogers on me I dont wipe with spit! yuk!! my mum did that to me and it was gross! ------------- http://lilypie.com] 
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Posted By: Febgirl
Date Posted: 11 March 2012 at 9:29pm
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I was never going to have any of that hideous tacky merchandised Disney cr@p in my house - fast forward 4 years and you can't go anyway in the house without seeing Dora lurking somewhere Have resisted the duvet covers, that's about it!
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 14 March 2012 at 9:16pm
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Posted By: SethsMama
Date Posted: 14 March 2012 at 10:01pm
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I was not going to be one of those mums who let their child run around naked or pants-less.
DS spends most sunny days naked (only at home though!) Nappy changes are just a huge drama at the moment. ------------- 
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Posted By: Stoked
Date Posted: 14 March 2012 at 10:28pm
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I was never going to let my child sleep in my bed. Sleep was going to be strict and no-nonsense - oops, it appears I'm a softy!
There would be no food grazing as he walked around the house, food was to be served in the highchair - yeah right! My house would not be taken over by toys - hmmm, it's starting to look that way...interior decorating by Fisher Price! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 15 March 2012 at 7:57am
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I was never going to allow junk food - now I carry a bag of crackers/biscuits/chips/lollies everywhere.
I would never co-sleep - then I realised I'd sleep standing up if it meant I'd get some sleep so co-slept for as long as needed. I would never have an unruly child in a mall/restaurant or on a plane. A few weeks back I was the mum with the screamer on the plane getting dirty looks from the other passengers. I'd never allow Barbie/Bratz/anything similar - so far we've stuck to this. I'd never eat my kids leftover food - have stuck to this. I'd have homebirths - ended up with 2 c-sections. Meals would always be eaten at the dinner table. In my defence, DH has commandeered it for his computers and we'd eat there if we were able. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 15 March 2012 at 8:04am
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DD wouldn't have junk food or watch TV ha ha she'd had both these by her 1st Birthday.
I was certain I'd want to return to work after the 1st year, now I'm doing everything I can to stay home till DD goes to school. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 15 March 2012 at 12:39pm
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I am sure I have soooo many of these... but I can't really remember anything specific... I do quite enjoy seeing people break their own rules though - it is good! You have to go with the flow sometimes!!
I remember my SIL always commenting on my baby proofing and how with her first two children she just taught them not to touch/get into things... baby number three came along and now EVERYTHING is baby proofed - all kids are different and so it pays not to judge!! |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 17 March 2012 at 8:19pm
Wow, that's a bit of an eye-opener, xXELAx - I had never thought to think that it's a good thing to do something you said you wouldn't. You're right, it is, you're showing your flexible enough to change your mind. My lesson for the day  -------------
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Posted By: nannikin
Date Posted: 18 March 2012 at 10:12am
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love this thread! my baby is due in May, and this is really making me think about all the things i have in my mind that are "set in concrete". sounds like i may eat my words at some stage, but y'know what? turns out that's ok too! nice to see there are some no-tv mums out there tho - that's one thing i am hoping to achieve but... we shall just see how it goes ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 18 March 2012 at 4:07pm
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I think you can do anything if it's important enough to you, nannikin (well, most things - some things, like natural births vs c-sections can end up out of your control). So if no TV is that important, I'm sure you can. It's just that it's surprising how many things you thought were so important suddenly don't matter as much in the face of the alternative -------------
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Posted By: nannikin
Date Posted: 18 March 2012 at 5:29pm
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yeh trying to keep an open mind re c-secs - MW thought baby was breech at my last appt so trying not to freak out about the possibility i may not get my natural birth! would much rather have a healthy baby and a c-sec vs the alternative though ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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