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Topic: HT: Baby in your bed
Posted By: Renata85
Subject: HT: Baby in your bed
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 12:27pm
| Do you let your baby sleep with you? |
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 12:50pm
When we had our twins we decided very early on that we wanted to keep them in a strict routine and do everything we could to get them sleeping through the night in their own beds. But in saying that in the first few weeks we did let them sleep with us a few times just out of pure exhaustion 
I do understand why some people co-sleep. It's a lovely feeling having a sleeping babe next to you & it can be so convenient for those breastfeeding. But personally it's not for me. -------------  
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Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 1:07pm
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Controversial question much ?
It's not that we 'let' them sleep with us. That adds a negative conatation to it. Bedsharing has been done for thousands of years and it's mostly just Western Society that has moved away from it. We have this weird idea that for some reason, we think babies will sleep much better in a cot in a room by themselves after being inside us and hearing our heartbeat for nine or so months. We do with both kids and have done since ds was born. Bed sharing can be done safely . http://www.kellymom.com/parenting/sleep/familybed.html - Safety guidlines That link also names quite a few benefits of co-sleeping/bedsharing. It means we all get much more sleep than if we didn't especially as we still bf. Virtually all of the bedsharing deaths in the media involve unsafe sleeping practises. But it seems instead of focusing on safety they simply blame the bedsharing. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kay8805
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 1:14pm
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I have tried for a long time to keep my daughter in her own bed, but after a very up and down time i always wake to her in my bed with me.
she obviously feels more secure being close to me but its not something i am going to let go on for ages or i will end up like my mother in law with a 13 year old girl that wont sleep alone - use your descretion with this but be aware of the long term effects of not teaching a child some mild independance in life... |
Posted By: bubalys
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 1:14pm
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Bed sharing/co sleeping is not something we have done. Got no problems with others who do it but its not something for me. I know its a strong part of the Attachment Parenting approach and I understand their ideas, I guess we just decided we would prefer to keep it separate, and its nice for DF and I to still have a space of our own.
However there have been nights when shes clearly unsettled that she's come and slept in our bed, DF loves it, I personally have a horrible nights sleep! ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: bubalys
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 1:19pm
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Out of curiosity how do parents who do co-sleep for quite a while deal with issues when the kids are a bit older. example, my sister in law had her son fairly young, they co slept for years, still shared a bed at age 12 more often than not, she was single but is now in a steady relationship and her son is petrified of sleeping in a separate room. Related? Or unrelated? ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: JudyH
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 1:29pm
I wanted to have my DD sleep with me but since 3 months as soon as I put her in bed with us she thinks its play time and wont sleep! put her in her own room and shes out like a light! 
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Posted By: newme
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 1:30pm
I think this is a very unusual case. Most co-sleeping families I know end up doing a gradual transition and the kids sleep in their own beds, in own rooms, usually very well, by the time they are about 3. But all families are different. We co-sleep with our 10 month old, for part of the night - he starts out in his own cot, but comes into bed about midnight. Our 3 year old sleeps in his own room now, but we have a spare single bed in our room for the odd occasion he wakes in the night and wants to come into our room. If you follow the 'rules' it is very very safe. |
bubalys wrote:Posted By: bubalys
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 1:38pm
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Thanks for clarifying, I dont know enough about it to know when they generally sleep in their own bed. I think for these two it was the company and probably convenience ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: ChikkyD
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 1:42pm
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I let DD sleep with me from when she was newborn until we moved her out of our room about a month ago due to repeated wake ups and DF needing more sleep!
I can see things from both sides of the fence.. co-sleeping was lovely and when she was little was very handy for breastfeeding, but in the end it caused her to wake up more then necessary causing tired grumpy baby and tired mum and dad! She is now STTN (well.. she did last night anyway!) in her own room and very happy and fully of energy in the morning TBH i don't see the problem with co-sleeping if thats your thing or the problem with cot sleeping if that's your thing!!! -------------   
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Posted By: Jelly
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 1:50pm
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For the first few months I was co sleeping just because he slept so well when he was lying across my chest with a nipple in his mouth. It wasn't the most comfortable way to do it, especially since it meant I only had a blanket over me from the waist down while he was all snugly swaddled, but at least he was sleeping.
When he got too big for that a found a much more comfortable position, feeding on my side! I got some decent (but still broken) sleep. The next step was him starting the night in his own bed before coming into our bed for the rest of the night. He still does this now, although I can give him a bottle and put him back to bed I find the extra liquid makes him wet through his pjs by morning and it's just so much easier to bring him into my bed for cuddles and sleep. I'd love it if he was sleeping through the night regularly, he does do it occasionally, but night time cuddles are not a problem. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Jelly
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 1:56pm
Oh, and I was one of those kids who had trouble adjusting to sleeping on my own. It wasn't unusual for me to sleep in mum's bed when I was 13 ( ) but it stopped very quickly after that. Looking back it was probably related to depression and anxiety issues, undiagnosed until I was... Well, 13.------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 2:17pm
| Full time bed sharer here. Ds has a cot, but its used only to contain him, awake while I put his clothes away for example. Wouldn't have it any other way! |
Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 2:27pm
The general theory is if the children know you are there and they are able to come to you ifthey need to, they will grow up being more independent. Because they know you are there for them and have conidence to be independent Rather than them protesting at being put in a room alone to sleep and becoming clingy because they don't know where mum/dad is iygwim ? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 3:17pm
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Well written Pudgy.
We co-sleep and have done from the start. I never intended too, but DS wouldn't sleep unless he was cuddled up on my chest at the beginning and that is how we continued until I learnt to BF while on my side. For us, co-sleeping means a much less broken sleep (despite the hourly wakings DS was known for most of his life). -------------  
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 3:40pm
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Agree with Pudgy.
We did/do cosleep. Have done since birth! I coslept as a child until I was 7 then I felt 'big' enough to go to my own room. Though it was helped with a 'new' bed that I got to pick out! Anyway, cosleeping was something I didn't think I would do. Sure I loved it as a child but being pregnant all I heard was how it was 'so dangerous' and such a 'no-no'. However when I was in hospital after having DD. I had her at about 8pm and by about midnight when I was all alone and had already paged the post natal staff half a dozen times in 2 hours the nurse just said 'Here, I'll show you how to safely cosleep if you like?' And I said ok and we haven't looked back. DD has been the worst sleeper by herself. One thing though is the not sleeping through the night... It bugs me that parents thing babies need to by a certain age whereas myself... I still wake several times a night for various reasons and always have so when DD was born I was prepared for sleepless nights for at least 2 years and was not expecting her to sleep much! (She did better than I imagined though!). We cut cosleeping about 2 weeks ago now. We were sleeping with the cot sidecar style next to the bed though DD didn't sleep in it haha so we started by just pushing her cot about 1m from our bed and made up a little story about a girl getting a new bed etc and she's been in it everynight for the last 2 weeks. Out of about 12 days she has done 2 full nights in her cot/bed and the other nights she has woken maybe about 4/5am and jumped into bed with us. As someone else said, cosleeping/bed sharing, whatever you want to call it has been done for thousands of years. It's not for everyone but there are safe ways to do it. And it is mainly an eastern thing rather than a western thing! But when you look at the way it's done in say Japan where I have seen it first hand then you can see differences like they sleep on mattresses on the floors in some places (I was in an apartment) so no chance of the baby rolling off a high bed... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 3:45pm
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Also we don't let DD sleep with us... We choose to because we all enjoy it.
In the 2 weeks that DD has gone from sleeping with us from when she goes to bed until she wakes she has gone from a happy girl who would run into the bedroom and sleep well over night and wake happy and not cry much if at all during the day to walking into the bedroom, crying, a bit of a rough sleep, waking unhappy and crying during the day... I agree that it helps make them more independant in the sense that they know you are there for them and they can rely on you if need be but there are other ways to make your children independant... Letting them help in simple everyday tasks rather than saying no because they'll slow you down or whatever. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: elwood
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 4:52pm
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I personally could not sleep with our baby in our bad- I was soo terrified of SIDS if I had breast feed her in bed during the night I would wake up in a panic and search for her through the bed- although she was always safe and sound in her cot. Now she's a bit older she will somtimes come into our bed in the mornings to have cuddles but its such a novelty she wouldn't consider going to sleep!
I think it is lovely to snuggle with them but I prefer her to sleep in her own cot where I know she is safe and I dont have to break a habit years down the line 
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Posted By: becky
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 4:59pm
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I co-slept with DS1 as he was the worst sleeper and would not settle in his cot it was also easy to feed on my side and get some sleep. This time I have not manged the lying down feeding twins position so can only feed one at a time when lying in bed so the bubs dont co sleep with us as much they go down together in their moses basket however they have each other for comfort. In saying that they sometimes end up in bed with me after their 530am feed.
My mother used to say that DS1 would be in our bed forever and would be coming in when he was 12 etc he has slept in his own bed for a year and a half for 12hours overnight. Before the twins he would occasionally sleep with me if he had a rough night or was sick DF would take off to the spare bed as he takes up all the bed LOL ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bky
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 5:08pm
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Didn't intend to at all. My husband was really against it. However, after DD proved to be a co-sleep or no-sleep baby we started doing it safely after about 3 weeks. Probably me walking into walls while holding the baby (having not slept more than 4 hours out of 48 for the past 3 weeks) and warning him of how much more dangerous it was for me to be passing out on the couch swayed things some.
We took the side off the cot and have a sidecar arrangement which I think is the best of both worlds. She's still in there. I'd rather like her in her own bed these days but she hunts for me in her sleep and if she can touch me she'll sleep more than if she can't find me. Next time I'll be instilling slightly more 'own space' sleep habits between 4 and 6 months. ------------- 7/2010, 10/2012 and 1/2015 |
Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 5:08pm
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I never thought we'd co-sleep. I'm a routine person plus I love my sleep and hate sharing my bed (even with DH sometimes lol) so I never really considered it with DS1, though of course he was always a great sleeper by himself and never slept with well with me anyway. DS2 on the other hand was born with no fat stores and fed constantly so in desperation we co-slept. When it got to the 'you absolutely have to sleep more than an hour at a time stage' he got put in a cot in another room but once he started sleeping through somehow we ended co-sleeping again til he was almost 1yo lol it was lovely too. I'm interested to see what we'll do with this bub. -------------   
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Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 5:11pm
You'll find me in here a bit  it's something I'm paasionte about, especially seeing as there is soooo much misinformation and scaremo gering out there.
Elwood co-sleeping bedsharing done safely can reduce the risk of SIDS. I have never rolled on or squashed either of the lo's. You have an awareness of them and where they are in the bed. As I said above there are safety guidlines and generally common sense prevails. This is taken from the Dr Sears site Always put babies under six months to sleep on their backs and not their tummies. Don't sleep with your baby if you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol or any substance that could diminish the awareness of your baby. Don't sleep with baby on soft surfaces, such as bean bags, water beds, and couches. Avoid crevices between mattress and wall or mattress and side rail. Avoid side rails, head boards, and foot boards that have slats that could entrap baby's head. Avoid putting your bed nearby curtains or blinds that have dangling strings that could strangle baby. Only one baby in bed at a time, please. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: elwood
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 5:24pm
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Pudgy- I am aware co-sleeping can be done safely, and is done so by many parents, I'm just saying its not for me. Our baby was born with a heart murmur so I was even more paranoid about SIDS so we bought a breathing monitor for her cot which would set off an alarm if she stopped breathing. Thats why I felt the safest place for her was her cot.
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Posted By: Bky
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 5:33pm
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Wanted to add I don't think co-sleeping, or attachment parenting for that matter, necessarily 'makes' children any more clingy. I guess I have that view as I feel I'm doing things like bed sharing reactively rather than proactively. So in response to what DD needs rather than part of any type of plan on my part. She started out somewhat (apparently) extra needful of being touched and cuddled and I think she's more confident now because of how we responded to that issue. ------------- 7/2010, 10/2012 and 1/2015 |
Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 5:43pm
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I know its all personal preference
We wont be co-sleeping, even though one of my sisters did... we have 2 cats that take up AlOT of space in our bed, and one will be quite jealous of bubs so we will not be co-sleeping, just so there is still 1 place that the cats have that is 'theirs'. But time will only tell ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: fallen
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 7:04pm
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I co-slept with my older daughter. It wasn't something I planned, but it just kind of happened.
I haven't and won't co-sleep with my younger two. My husband sometimes thrashes (hes woken me up many times) around in his sleep so I don't feel it is safe. ------------- |
Posted By: Kalimirella
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 7:56pm
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We co-slept with our oldest daughter for the first 3-4 weeks of her life as she caught a cold within week 1 and was just miserable. However it was waking up my DP and in the end I compromised and she went back in her cot.
We don't co-sleep as such with our youngest daughter, but shes in the bassinet which is right up against my side of the bed. She def sleeps better with me right there beside her (I'm happy to say shes sleeping 7 hours at night at 7 weeks old :D) I also have a partner who sleeps diagonally and moves around a lot so whenever we've had a baby in the bed (on very sick nights our toddler has come in) shes always on my side of the bed so he can't accidentally get her. Pudgy we've never had issues with the safety of co-sleeping its just not for us long term as our bed is our only "us" space, which has a lot to do with living with the in-laws. Just saying so you know its not always cause of misinformation and scaremongoring :D ------------- Kiara is 3 and Teagan is 2, now we're expecting our long awaited 3rd! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 8:03pm
Fair enough. I do beliieve do what works for you ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 21 October 2011 at 9:54pm
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When we were in NICU with our twins we were told cosleeping was a main factor to SIDS. Even babies sleeping together was strongly discouraged. So no, it was never an option for us as it just concreted our personal opinion on it. I like my bed space too much
I still can't believe that hospital midwives/nurses encourage cosleeping to new mothers. Regardless of whether you're just exhausted from labour, and/or still have drugs in your system after a c-sect, I hardly find that a safe environment for co-sleeping |
Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 22 October 2011 at 4:27pm
Yup surprised here bout the hospitals encouraging Co-sleeping, my cousin was sent home with her son a month ago, co-sleeping  Considering I thought it would be something they'd discourage.... After their first night at home (and her & Her husband took turns sleeping) they introduced him to the bassinettee.------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Panda289
Date Posted: 22 October 2011 at 11:06pm
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I had no intention of co-sleeping, I was terrified of rolling on my baby..
but sleep won out and within the first few weeks we were co-sleeping all the time. We started putting him in his bassinet for the first part of the night and when he woke in the middle of the night he ended up spending the rest of the time in bed with us. Now I am trying him in his cot for the first time tonight and hoping he sleeps okay in it but definitely needed to co-sleep for those first couple of months it was just the best way to breastfeed when tired and easier to get more sleep. As long as its safe I think it is great for those who want to do it. I wish I hadn't felt so guilty about it (with all the negative views I had heard on it) but will definitely not hesitate with the next baby ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 23 October 2011 at 8:20am
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Co-sleeping (when done safely) is actually very safe for the baby. It helps to regulate babies body temperature, the mothers body temperature will rise or fall as appropriate to regulate that of her baby, baby breathes safer as the rise and fall of mothers chest helps regulate babies breathing and often mother and baby breath in synchronisation.
Studies have shown that co-sleeping babies are more Independant than their non-cosleeping peers. Co-sleeping is also beneficial to developing breastfeeding and to maintaining it. Mother and baby will also synchronise their sleep cycles and as one stirs so will the other, often without even waking. Studies have even shown that a cosleeping infant will rouse less frequently than their counterparts. I remember waking up one night to a little guy with a soaring temperature, 40C. He hadn't woken, it was purely for the fact that he was next to me that I knew he wasn't well. After that night I became even more of a cosleeping advocate. Of course there are plenty of situations where you wouldn't e safe to cosleep and it is something you have to be comfortable doing, but I believe people need to be aware of the information and safety guidelines so they don't end up doing it out of desperation and it results in a risky situation, or worse -------------
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 23 October 2011 at 1:21pm
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I was also surprised that the hospital suggested that DD and I co-sleep while I was there since she wouldn't settle any other way. We don't full time co-sleep but she has spent many a night in our bed, especially when shes sick as it gives us peace of mind that shes still breathing.
When she was little I'd sometimes spend 3 hours at some unreasonable hour trying to get her to sleep, it was so much easier just to tuck her in with me and we'd both get to sleep pretty quickly. If I was really exhausted though I'd put her in the bassinet. TBH there is nothing DH and I love more than to snuggle up in bed with our little two year old and go to sleep. Shes only little for a wee while and soon she won't want to sleep with us at all. I love taking naps with her! I'm not too sure how this next one will go though as trying to squeeze four in the bed safely might be a wee bit of an issue. Might be more a morning snuggle for the two year old rather than all nighters now! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 2:47pm
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Just wanted to add that after 2 weeks with DD in her cot we decided last night to let he sleep in our bed from start til finish and she has woken up just like her old happy/smiley self etc. So for us and with our daughter this is the 'right' thing for us to do which is why we do it. I'd rather have a happy baby than one that is clingy and cries a lot... (And trust me, I've been there and done that!) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 3:21pm
I think the effect of co-sleeping probably has more to do with the childs own temperament than anything else. DS1 has always been happy and independent and never co-slept, while DS2 was clingy from the start regardless of where he slept but its actually been since hes been in his cot fulltime that hes become more independent so the co-sleeping makes independent children link is questionable IMO, kinda like saying BFing makes smarter kids  It's just a thought I've had in the past when I've read about that particular co-sleeping 'positive' IYKWIM.-------------
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 4:58pm
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Never intended to co-sleep as I needed my sleep too much and yup got the fear of SIDS drummed into me by MWs and Plunket.
However since DD hit 10 months she ditched the dummy herself and started teething she's been coming into bed with us if she wakes any time from 5am onwards, it means she can have a feed and more often than not will sleep till 7am and her normal wake time. sometimes its been earlier around midnight, DD was in her own cot in her own room from the day she came home from hospital I won't do this with any subsequent children and will look at getting a bigger bed. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 8:32pm
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Sorry Babe I probably didn't word that right, you are right. Co-sleeping doesnt make babies more independent, just as breastfeeding doesn't make children smarter. It is a correlation. Studies have found that those children who co-slept are significantly more independent than their non-cosleeping peers. Just as babies who are breastfeed are significantly more likely to grow up more intelligent than ther non-breastfed peers. Whether independence or intellegance are caused by co-sleeping or breastfeeding isn't known, but, it is a factor in it.
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 24 October 2011 at 10:03pm
Y'know thats really interesting. I wonder if it goes deeper than that and somehow relates to the attitude of the parents who make those choices. I'm just thinking that AS A GENERALISATION people who co-sleep (and BF but to a lesser extent) are probably more likely use other, less 'mainstream' parenting techniques like no/less tv, more independant imaginative play, more outdoor play, different disciplining techniques, etc which as a whole probably result in more independent (and smarter) children. I know that with my growing parenting awareness (I'm only really getting into my groove) and our inclinations towards everything natural and holistic (where co-sleeping/BFing are relatively intertwined) our whole parenting style has changed. Its definitely resulted in a change in the boys for the better. Does that make sense? It caught my interest anyway -------------
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Posted By: shellgirl
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 5:55am
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A question for those that do co-sleep - Where does your little one sleep when it is not a time that you would be sleeping - e.g day naps or early evening?? (I don't mean when they are little and can easily/comfortably be worn in a carrier).
My DS has been sick lately and he and I have been sleeping in together at night, and now he seems to wake up whenever I try to put him in his cot (he usually falls asleep on my knee in a rocking chair for day sleeps and then I transfer him to bed). If I put him on the bed he usually stays asleep, but he is such a mover around when sleeping I'm reluctant to leave him alone. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: newmama
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 10:35am
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No co-sleeping here nurses put my son in with me at the hospital and didnt like it one bit im a thrasher sleeper the bed sheets never survive the thought that i would throw my baby out of bed scares me - but each to there own had i being a planker sleeper may have being a whole different story ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 11:14am
That makes perfect sense, as I think you are right on the money there. That is pretty much exactly what research indicates -------------
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 11:16am
I nurse DS to sleep and then gently roll him onto the bed. I guess I'm pretty lucky in that he isn't much of a mover. But, people do often have a cot mattress on the floor next the bed JIC or a rolled up towel under the sheet or even a pool noodle. Just enough of a barrier to stop them falling. -------------
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 25 October 2011 at 12:49pm
Nope, it’s not for me. I’m pretty sure that most parents on here who chose to co-sleep would do it safely, so I have no issue with people who chose to, but it’s so not for us. I am NOT a ‘cuddly’ person in bed, and have been known to boot DH in my sleep when he’s got to close  I don’t think I’d do that to Jacob, but I know I wouldn’t sleep as well with him next to me and I’m sure that the better night’s sleep I get, the better parent I am! Also, he seems to take after me in that respect, and even if I’d wanted to he just refuses to go to sleep being cuddled or next to me – the only time he does is when he’s sick so I have to make do with getting all my sleepy cuddles then.
Given that Jacob’s made it pretty clear that co-sleeping isn’t for him either, I don’t think he suffers any from my decision. He knows I’m only a call away if he needs me. On the hospital front, I was pretty weirded out by the fact they encouraged me to go to sleep with him – but not in a safe way or anything, I was totally bushed from having him, had a narrow single bed and could have dropped him off so easily. It didn’t feel safe at all. -------------   
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 11:39am
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DD during the day will sleep anywhere from the couch or in our bed... Sometimes I'll cuddle with her and other times she'll just hop up and go to sleep herself. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 3:32pm
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I have always let my kids choose really... DD1 slept in my bed until she was nearly 5, DD2 until she was 3 and a half, and DD3 usually sleeps in our bed, but sometimes cries to be in her cot, then cries to be back in our bed LOL...I much prefer co-sleeping as I find I get much more sleep, it's easier for feeding and it feels safe. I would really struggle with having my baby in a separate room - in fact I would probably end up sleeping on the floor next to them. Actually our near four year old in still in our room, but on a single bed now rather than in our bed I was VERY thankful we share our bed on the 4th of September, when the big quake hit and that has probably what's is making the idea of moving DD2 to another room even more unappealing ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: boys.boys.boys.boys
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 6:07pm
We dont co-sleep (I stress enough about rolling on the baby/baby falling out without co-sleeping!!), did BF, the boys dont watch any tv, play outside all the time, are always imaginatively playing etc etc.... Very very 'as a generalisation' in my opinion.... ------------- 4 boys!! 7 years, 5 years, 2 years and 8 weeks... |
Posted By: Alice77
Date Posted: 28 October 2011 at 10:42am
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Hmm this is a very interesting topic! so many varied opinions.. For me I co slept for 6 weeks and that was mainly because I am a single mum and had no help when DS was born so it was much easier.. I found I was able to feed alot quicker and got better sleep.. I also stopped BF around 6 weeks too. DS is 5 months now and sometimes co sleeps.. thats more for me or if I am really tired.. I love co sleeping but I love my space more and not having to worry about him rolling or getting under covers ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 28 October 2011 at 6:56pm
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I wasnt comfortable co-sleeping until dd was about 6 months. So from then we have sometimes co-slept. From about age 1 she has been in my bed everynight
DS is in his cot and he will not sleep on me or next to me. Unless he is spend out in his cot he wont sleep. But im sure that will change soon. When i had DD at hutt hosp i wasnt aloud to have her sleep on me at all. I had huge arguments and they made me put her in the bassinet for safety reasons. Then 2.5 yrs later same hospital i was told to keep ds with me in bed. 4 days at hosp and he was on me the whole time -------------  
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Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 28 October 2011 at 9:33pm
Me too, I remember sleeping wedged on my side, or rather not sleeping for the whole night a couple of times in hospital, and that totally put me off co-sleeping! We're more in the "when we need to" camp. DS would start the night in his crib during winter, then end up in bed with me because I froze getting up to feed during the night. But he was almost 1 by then, so it felt very different from sleeping with a newborn. ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Free2BeMe
Date Posted: 03 November 2011 at 12:48am
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Yes, co-slept with all three of my boys from day dot. My2.5 yr old (youngest) still sleeps fulltime with me as he still night nurses, the other two (5 and 7) pretty much please themselves...
I love it, and it makes life very easy when you are breastfeeding :) |