Jealous
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Topic: Jealous
Posted By: YellowBrickRoad
Subject: Jealous
Date Posted: 18 October 2011 at 10:31am
| The other day my best friend told me that she is pregnant with her third child. And while i am so so happy and excited for her i can't get rid of this horrible pain in my heart. We have always been pregnant together with only a few weeks separating us. I am blessed to have two beautiful children that i adore but have been wanting another one for a long time. My husband and i (or more he) decided that we need to wait a while longer until he's earning more money which is completely logical and i do understand and accept this but my heart longs for another baby. I've talked to my husband but he doesn't understand and tells me to just be logical. And i have no one to talk to now since i would normally talk to my friend, and obviously i can't. I don't want to take away her buzz from this blessing. I just don't know how to get rid of my stupid feelings. I feel so sad, almost like I'm grieving. And i know that one day it will be my turn again, and that i am already so blessed with the wonderful children i do have already. I just don't know how to make these feelings go away so i can just be happy for her and content with my current situation. I sound so selfish |
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 18 October 2011 at 12:56pm
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Awww, I do understand! Even when we know that realistically we're making the right decision (or in your case that there's two of you in the marriage and it has to be the right decision for both of you), that doesn't mean that you won't sometimes WANT to be able to make another decision. And I totally understand baby envy, I struggled with that when we were trying for Jacob.
Have you told your hubby how you feel? Not in a 'why won't you agree to have another one' way, but just that you're finding it hard. It helps to talk about stuff like this if you've got someone who can listen. -------------   
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Posted By: BessieBear
Date Posted: 18 October 2011 at 1:59pm
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Aww, thats not fair aye. ------------- Sarah Mum to, Boy 07/2008, Girl 03/2010, Boy 05/2012, Angel  07/08/2014
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Posted By: mummymonster
Date Posted: 18 October 2011 at 4:16pm
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Awwww, I feel for you too. DH and I have agreed a longer gap before trying for #3, but I'm sure I'll want another one first.
Mine's not even 6mths and I've got baby envy for 3 pregnant friends. Your time will come  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: YellowBrickRoad
Date Posted: 26 October 2011 at 9:43pm
Thank you guys so much. It's amazing; as soon as i wrote this and read your comments i felt so much better. I think i just needed to tell someone. I still want another baby - eventually, but now i don't feel sad anymore. Thank you again for your kind comments. 
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