Trying to conceive after a miscarrage
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Topic: Trying to conceive after a miscarrage
Posted By: Guest_51044
Subject: Trying to conceive after a miscarrage
Date Posted: 22 June 2011 at 7:29pm
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Hey guys,
so im new at this .. but figured that i would give it a try .. Me and my partner are trying to conceive but having no luck .. on the 12th it was a year since i miscarried our last baby .. my partner has a son who is 8, i have no children .. i recently had a false positive and i was so sure that i was pregnant, got all my hopes up .. just to have them all crushed! .. im having a hard time as everyone i know is getting pregnant or just had kids, and playing aunty is hard when all i want is to be a mother .. and to have that joy .. but having my hopes crushed is making me wanting to give up trying .. just wanting to know i guess if anyone has any tips? or anyone else has still had a hard time a year on from a miscarrage .. Thanks ..Hey guys, so im new at this .. but figured that i would give it a try .. Me and my partner are trying to conceive but having no luck .. on the 12th it was a year since i miscarried our last baby .. my partner has a son who is 8, i have no children .. i recently had a false positive and i was so sure that i was pregnant, got all my hopes up .. just to have them all crushed! .. im having a hard time as everyone i know is getting pregnant or just had kids, and playing aunty is hard when all i want is to be a mother .. and to have that joy .. but having my hopes crushed is making me wanting to give up trying .. just wanting to know i guess if anyone has any tips? or anyone else has still had a hard time a year on from a miscarrage . |
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Posted By: jessm
Date Posted: 24 June 2011 at 8:32pm
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This TTC business it tough, isn't it?
I just went to a natural fertility practicioner / medical herbalist / naturopath (same lady did all of it) because I went to a seminar which said she had great results with infertility (inc miscarriage, which I haven't suffered from yet). Other than that, sorry, not much help, but there are a lot of people here who are very helpful, knowledgeable, and have been there before. Come join us in the charting thread if you want to give that a go, or I'm pretty sure theres a TTC after miscarriage thread. Thinking of you. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: luvmylittlies
Date Posted: 25 June 2011 at 12:56pm
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I don't have a great deal of advice, but just wanted to reasure you that things can work out.
We had 2 m/c's one after the other at the start of out TTC journey. Then it was an extremely depressing almost 2 years before I conceived again. I think what did it for me was that my boyfriend took me on a wonderful holiday that made me stop thinking about things and unwind as this is where we conceived my daughter. Everyone always tells you to relax and I agree with them but I don't have any good advice on how to do it and I certainly wasn't able to in my day to day situation. This time I fell pregnant the 2nd cycle of trying and I attribute it to having a month off all caffeine and alcohol. Not something I could do long term though (you need your treats when things aren't going along the path you want) but maybe worth a try the week you Ov? Good luck. I hope things work out for you soon. ------------- Adoring Mum to Talisin 8/9/11 and Kiara 18/01/10 |
Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 25 June 2011 at 8:26pm
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There's a lot of us who have been in a similar situation. DH and I have been trying for almost 3 and a half years and have had three miscarriages.
I recommend seeing someone about it. I don't know where you live but I found ShoreWomen to be very helpful if you live in Auckland. I also recommend acupuncture, I don't know if it was coincidence or not but I got pregnant shortly after starting acupuncture. I also recommend charting (on sites such as FertilityFriend) if you aren't already to make sure you're doing the bad thing at the right time. Even though no one has posted for a while, if you post in here, everyone's been through it and are super supportive - http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=30708&KW=kelzie%5Frose&PN=0&TPN=60 - here Also, not too sure how old you are but these girls http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=31901&KW=kelzie%5Frose&TPN=187 - here are the most amazing people and I'm lucky to have had their support on my long journey. Best of luck xx -------------  Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: Atiamuri
Date Posted: 28 June 2011 at 8:40pm
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Hi,
I'm so sorry you've had to go through this journey, it is certainly a devastating, frustrating, upsetting and life changing experience. I have lost 2 babies in 12 months. The innocence and excitement of pregnancy has certainly been jaded. I have felt very alone throughout most of it as none of my friends have been through anything similar, but the Oh Baby ladies (as Kelzie said) are the reason I am so informed, educated and in control. Knowledge is power and helps rationalised the completely irrational thought process your brain puts you through while you go through the grieving process and the trials and tribulations of trying to conceive again. I also recommend getting help early if it isn't happening. I went to Fertility Associates in Hamilton and also recommend them. Even if it is reassurance that everything is normal so you can move on without doubt. I have really REALLY struggled with friends getting pregnant and having babies around me. Insanely jealous to the point that I isolated myself for a good 9 months and am only now, over 12 months later, really starting to get back into life and friends. I still can't 'goo and ga' over babies and am not all that comfortable around pregnant people but on a superficial level I am feeling more able to have those friendships again. Throughout this journey I have found out that this is normal, people just have it in different extremes. Telling your closest friends that you trust about it is good once you're ready. At least then they understand why you're 'absent'. OhBaby is a safe, anonymous (well as much as you want anyway!) way to vent, cry, ask. Good luck on this rollercoaster of a journey!! |