How do you say Thanks!
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Topic: How do you say Thanks!
Posted By: Isabella
Subject: How do you say Thanks!
Date Posted: 14 June 2011 at 1:42pm
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Just feeling a bit guilty at the moment and wanted to get some ideas off people - my DH works his butt off at his job which he HATES so that I can look after our wee girl at home, all his friends have loads of toys (bikes, boats etc etc) but he has none of those because he has been paying the mortgage himself while I was studying for 5 years, and now because I look after bubba..
So anyone have some nice, cost effective, baby friendly ways to say thanks to a DH who needs a bit of a pick-me-up on life in general!? |
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 14 June 2011 at 2:01pm
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Every now and then I'll make DH a really scrummy dinner and make sure we have all his favourites. Set the table, light some candles and get dressed in some yummy lingerie.
Otherwise a nice massage at the end of a long day. A weekend away, if finances can stretch that far. ETA - even simply just telling him how much you appreciate what he does and gives up for your family. Sometimes I think we often forget to say it. -------------  
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 14 June 2011 at 2:38pm
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A weekend 'pass' to go fishing or play golf or whatever he likes to do in his spare time but probably misses out on a little now they baby's here? -------------   
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Posted By: MrsMac
Date Posted: 14 June 2011 at 2:42pm
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Sorry if i go off on a slight tangent here, but have you heard about the 5 languages of love book? My DH and i read it and it's soooo interesting - basically there are 5 languages of love - words of affection, gifts, touch, acts of service and quality time, and everybody has one or two main languages with which they give and feel love. The trick is knowing your partner's language (which may not be the same as yours) and learning to speak their language to show your love so they recognise it - my language is mostly words of affection so i need to my DH to tell me stuff, whereas other people might feel more loved if they're given gifts - hope i'm explaining this so it makes sense!!!!!!!! Anyway, reason i thought i'd mention it here is that if you know your DH's love language it may help you choose the best way of showing your appreciation ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 14 June 2011 at 2:45pm
Can you arrange something with a couple of his mates, like what Hopes suggested above (fishing etc)? Maybe ask a close mate of his what he would really love to do and arrange it all with him as a surprise. Then he's got a weekend pass and doesn't need to organise a thing  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 14 June 2011 at 3:29pm
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Sometimes its just the little things like making him coffee in the morning or putting the toothpaste on his toothbrush. Asking him what HE wants to do in the evening or the weekend... Maybe you could encourage him to get a different job that he does enjoy more. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: _Soda_
Date Posted: 14 June 2011 at 3:52pm
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im totally in the same boat hun, DH works sooo hard and i appreciate it so much. if you dont mind the mess you could make a cute card for him, use some of that students acrylic paint or childs poster paint (totally safe for bubs) and get babys hands and squish the paint around on a bit of card, then write inside "Dear Daddy, thank you so much for all you do and for working so hard so the Mummy can take extra good care of me, we both love you very very much x x love, (insert babys name here)
that or do you have a friend who could take a nice photo of you and bubs and get/make a little frame for it- if DH works at a desk job he can take it to work or just keep it at home or wherever. its the little things but just make sure you say thank you lots and let him know how appreciated he is ------------- My little miracle 6/1/2011 My angel in Heaven 9/5/14 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Delli
Date Posted: 14 June 2011 at 5:11pm
I know how my DP would like to be thanked...  
Haha sorry, that's a bit crude. But a baby free night would be awesome once in a while. Other than that, if he has any hobbies etc - when you have been without for a while it's nice to just have something NEW, no matter how small or inexpensive that something new is. For example my DP would probably be stoked with a t shirt, mountain biking shorts or some new part for his mountain bike. Probably the best (tangible) gift I could give him though would be a packet of m&ms - he's a bit of a romantic and associates the candy with some of our first dates. Lol. ETA - Oh, and I know it's probably not possible but what cheered my DP up immensely was an end date for his job (and he used to work in the same industry as your DH) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Isabella
Date Posted: 14 June 2011 at 7:49pm
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Thanks so much for the suggestions guys!!
Haha Delli you are right - I know what would work as well!!  
Soda I absolutely love the idea of the card and frame.. I will do this tomorrow - you have gotten me all enthused :) I like the suggestions of a trip away fishing or something - but another problem is that since moving he has not made any new friendships here, the guys he works with arnt the same age as him and he doesnt really have any hobbies 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 14 June 2011 at 7:52pm
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Awww, not having hobbies makees it hard on you - I love knowing that if I hit the bottom of the barrel when it comes to presents, I can always resort to fishing gear.
Is he into sports at all? Encouraging him to try and find a social team could give him a good break and help him make some friends too. Our gym arranges social sports, and if you want to play but don't have a team you can let them know and they cast around to see if anyone needs another player. ETA for a laugh that my hubby plays social sport for his work, and a chap on his team there said they needed an extra in another social league he was in. DH, who isn't a particularly huge guy and is decidedly a pakeha, ended up playing the rest of the season with this team of huge beefy Maori chaps, I bet a few people wondered where they dug him up from -------------
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