Tips for coping with Toddler after C sect
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Topic: Tips for coping with Toddler after C sect
Posted By: snooze
Subject: Tips for coping with Toddler after C sect
Date Posted: 12 April 2011 at 7:45pm
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Hi,
DS was born via C section and it may happen again. Any tips for coping with a toddler during recovery? I am finding it hard already (physically - sore back etc...) so goodness knows what it will be like afterwards!! Thanks  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 12 April 2011 at 8:09pm
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Ooo I started a thread on this just before I had my daughter hang on I'll find it for you!
ETA - Here it is http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27129&KW=kids - Link My Son was 14 months when my daughter was born via elective CS(son was emerg CS), this thread gives lots of good tips! ------------- |
Posted By: MrsEmma
Date Posted: 13 April 2011 at 7:17am
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Great topic, thanks for asking and thanks Sheza for bumping your old thread. Hopefully I won't need the tips but there are some great ones there if I do ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: snooze
Date Posted: 13 April 2011 at 8:43am
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Awesome, thanks guys!! Will go have a look now ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bobchannz
Date Posted: 13 April 2011 at 11:01am
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Those are great tips in that link. If you can get your toddler to sit on a little chair at a low table then you can avoid the highchair problem. I had to bath my daughter once when I was home alone (she vomitted) so I got the step stools that we use for her in the bathroom and put one on the floor so she could step up into the bath. I brought lots of bribes (bubbles, little books, little toys) wrapped them (wrote on the outside what it was) and then used those for toxic times. I still have a few left!
We gave my daughter a 'big sister tiara' that she wore while discharging her big sister responsibilities (like sitting quietly on the couch, bringing over the change mat). We had some DVDs which were useful while breastfeeding (but this may be for older kids). I made sure that there were some prepared snacks available all the time so it was easy for me to grab some. I turned the dining table into a change table for a couple of weeks as it was the right height for me to change my daughter on, and too high for my other daughter to get stuff off. I made a book that we read to my daughter a lot of times explaining what it was like when she was a baby, so that she would understand why Mummy was busy. We read it a lot. ------------- www.makedomum.blogspot.co.nz |
Posted By: Rainbow
Date Posted: 13 April 2011 at 1:24pm
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I am currently in this situ! It is so hard not to lift them up and hard to tell when it will be ok to do so again. The highchair is my biggest issues - we are using a clip on one attached to the dining table. When DH isn't around my toddler either has a "picnic" on the beanbag or he gets to sit on the big chairs with a cushion under him.
My biggest issue is more to do with his behaviour - coincidence due to his age or perhaps due to the new baby, but he is really testing the boundaries at times and is throwing amazing tantrums. I guess he is just trying to make sense of his new world. Feel sorry for him cos he is always hearing "no, don't do that..." etc. 
Will go to that link to look up new ideas to help..... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 13 April 2011 at 1:38pm
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it's hard !:) Ethan was 2 years 4 days so at least could do some things.. but he knew because for last few months he couldn't climb on me or be lifted up anyway.. be harder if they are younger than him..i found the pregnancy super hard though as he was 16 months in the beginning..
that thread has great tips.. i also found spending time with ethan one on one helped as he was less needy and wanting to jump and be carried all the time.. both times i had labour first so think recovery took a bit longer (and tubes tied and scar tissue taken away) but I had help too...support is also a massive thing to help:) and we had a few sets of things he could climb and ways for him to climb up places safely.. the cot i found the hardest though... esp cause hubby had knee operation at the same time lol.. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Rainbow
Date Posted: 13 April 2011 at 1:46pm
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I got my DS settled into a bed a few months before new baby due. That has been great cos he can climb onto with only a little shove from me and he wriggles up to the head of the bed on his own. (thankfully he hasn't realised he can get out on his own...yet!).
I think your advice Elfsmum about having one to one time with your toddler is very important. That is where I feel guilty and I need to make more of a point of doing things just him and me. He loves it when we do. I have heard of people making up a box of special toys/activities only to be used when mum is feeding. Things that are safe and that can be done on the sofa beside you. I might go down that road if his behaviour continues to be difficult during these times. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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