Money tree/wishing wells
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Topic: Money tree/wishing wells
Posted By: _H_
Subject: Money tree/wishing wells
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 11:16am
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Do you think they are tacky or are they ok for a couple that is already living together?
Also does anyone have a nice poem to add to the invite? We are thinking more of a money tree and giving people red envelopes (dont no if we should put it in the invite or have it next to the tree at the wedding) Any thoughts/ideas? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: monkeys
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 11:23am
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Hey there,
Here is one of my fav poems but is for a wishing well but perhaps if your creative you could adapt it! Our home is quite complete now, we've been together long. So please consider our request, and do not take us wrong. A delicate request it is, we hope you understand. Please play along, as it will give our married life a hand. The tradition of the wishing well, is one that's known by all. Go to the well, toss in a coin and as the coin does fall. Make a wish upon that coin, and careful as you do. Cause as the well's tradition goes, your wishes will come true. So on this special day or ours, the day that we'll be wed. Don't hunt for special gifts but give money is it's stead. And as you drop the envelope, with money great and small, Remember, make your wish as you watch your money fall. Submitted by Lisa & Daryl Stack -------------  3 little Angels July 10, May 11, Apr 13
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 11:30am
I think these days people are quite open to the idea of gifting money rather than presents. I actually prefer it, because often you really don't know what the couple already does and doesn't have, and there is nothing worse than giving someone their 4th toaster 
We ummed and ahhhed over it for quite a while at our wedding and decided in the end to ask for vouchers for Harvey Norman instead and purchased a new lounge suite with it. A lot of people gave money or cheques instead of vouchers though. We were then able to tell everyone what we put the money towards in the thankyou cards. We were going to do a wee poem to go in with our invites, but instead put the following on an info sheet along with directions, accommodation etc etc. "The best present is your presence, however, for those that wish vouchers from Harvey Norman would be greatly appreciated". -------------  
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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 11:55am
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Personally I don't like them or honeymoon registers but I get why people do it. I just think the idea of asking directly for money is a bit off. Just my opinion and I know they are generally considered to be standard these days. I think you'll find that even if you don't specifically ask for cash most people will give you cash or vouchers anyway. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 11:58am
I prefer it when given the option of giving money instead of adding to the couples collection of white platters, toasters and kettles 
Infact even if we dont get the option, we still give money! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mucky_Tiger
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 12:44pm
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If you already live together its perfect.
this is the poem on the invite our friends used: Because at first we lived in sin We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin A gift from you would be swell But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!! |
Posted By: Mucky_Tiger
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 12:49pm
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We lived together before this wedding
So we have a home, full of toasters and bedding So what to get for the bride & groom Whose house is set up in every room? To save you looking, shopping and buying, Here's an idea you might like trying! We need (new flooring) and (a new table) too, But registering for huge items ain't the thing to do So please put some money into a card, Now make a wish.... see, that wasn't hard! Now we've saved you all the fuss, We hope you'll come and celebrate with us! A money tree will be at the reception hall To deposit your wishes... Thanks and love to all. |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 12:50pm
Yep me too. We had a honeymoon registry and got to go on a familymoon to Fiji, we wouldn't have been able to do it otherwise. Our friends had a wishing well and we contributed to that (only a small amount) as we had to fly down to Queenstown and pay for accommodation etc on top of that. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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peachy wrote:Posted By: gypsynita
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 1:09pm
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love that poem monkeys! ------------- Anita Mum to Cian (Aug 08), Josh (Jun 10) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 1:29pm
i kind of like this one but it is kind of cheeky. In saying that though it does suit our relationship. anyone good with words and could change swell to a word that rhymes with tree????? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: crafty1
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 2:32pm
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No issue with it at all but some of the oldies will mumble and grumble. We had some people give gifts and that was great too.
We had some wording that said something to the effect that although any gifts given we would love, people were also free to leave money if they preferred. 95% gave the money. That wasn't how it was worded but it's on our comp that died. Another way to do it is to give your mum/his mum a list of a few things you would like for those who aren't comfortable with it and then you'll still get something you need. They will know who will feel funny about it. Technically in true etiquette you should not even refer to presents/gifts etc! Despite all this at our wedding we got a toaster. It is still sitting in the cupboard unused! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 4:30pm
Thats similar to us, we asked for Mitre 10 vouchers or Farmers vouchers and after we had spent the money we wrote in our thank you cards "thank you for your generous gift of a Farmers voucher, your voucher was put towards our new washing machine and dryer", same with the Mitre 10 vouchers but we put them towards outdoor furniture, so they knew what they had contributed to in the end and we didn't spend them on crap! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chickadeedoo
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 6:20pm
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have you thought of a register for a honeymoon / holiday? People can pay for a part of the honeymoon like an outing on a boat if you go to fiji or something like that.
We had a register and briscoes and stevens and briscoes register sux as we got 3 of the same thing there. |
Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 6:36pm
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love the little poems!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
 
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I think they are really common these days and I dont have a problem with them at all, would much rather give money that would be appreciated than a gift of something that they already have!Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 11 February 2011 at 8:35pm
Me too. I really dislike the poems, I think asking for money is tacky. I know everyone gives at a wedding, but I still think it's rude to ask for gifts (esp money) unprompted. JMO. ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 12 February 2011 at 9:02am
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I am not fussed on the poems, I would prefer something on the invitation saying included is a red envelope in case you would like to contribute to our wishing well instead of a gift.
I have no problem with giving money but would not write my name on it, I don't leave price tags on presents. There will be some who prefer to give gifts & bargain hunt so the cash present may not be much but then I don't think weddings are about what you may get in the way of gifts more about the day...money gets spent, gifts break but the day you will remember forever
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 12 February 2011 at 10:20am
I think we might do this because DP doesnt like poems either. I like the idea of a red envelope with no names on them because then people dont have to feel bad if they cant afford to give much(if they want to give anything at all)we hope to use the money for our honeymoon but a lot depends on when we will be starting IVF  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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