Friends
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Topic: Friends
Posted By: _H_
Subject: Friends
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 4:47pm
These is kind of embrassing but how do you ladies make new friends? 
I moved a couple of years ago to be with DP and even though its only 1 hour away from my home town I dont really see much of my old friends. I dont have any really close friends and I really miss having some  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 4:52pm
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I attend lots of meet ups with other OB ladies, AN group and activities with my little girl. Anything that's a chance to get out of the house and see other people.
Most of my friends are working or have older children having DD is a great opener for meeting people. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 5:00pm
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I think you are right CJ babies/children are a great way to meet new people, but I dont have any yet ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 5:18pm
Ive got some good friends through OB also 
But i dont really talk to any of my old friends if they dont have babies. Well not often. Its hard because your life changes so much and it seems you have nothing in common. Most my non-mum friends i see once a month. But my friends with kids i see weekly if not daily for coffee etc. I dont really have a best friend anymore. I have grown apart from alot of people. But your welcome to come hang with me Waiting. I get super bored at home and at night  -------------  
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 5:57pm
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Yeah my kids are the reason for my close friends now
What about a sport or craft? Can you join a group where you will be able to meet people that have similar interests? ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 6:57pm
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It's not a silly topic. My school mates I hardly ever see, though I don't live in my hometown anymore. Might see them once or twice a year. Other mates I have are my classmates. But no real close mates. I use to attend coffee group back when DS was a baby. Maybe when I'm more confident in myself I'll make friends who I see regularly. ------------- 
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Posted By: BriAndOlisMum
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 7:02pm
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I have no friends either. Where do you live? -------------  http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 7:22pm
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Most of my new friends (ie the ones I didnt grow up with) are through the kidlets or the gym. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: SBM
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 7:34pm
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Yup what those ladies said! ^^^
Put yourself out there, don't be discouraged if you don't click with people instantly, no one gets along with everyone! I made most of my post-baby friends by going to local playgroups, library story times, a local OB coffee group, meeting people from my due date thread who live in the same city, going to meetings where I might find like-minded people (like for me this was La Leche League), and I even started my own "group" (babywearing) which has opened so many doors for me! Find something you love, and do it! It won't happen overnight, but it will happen
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 7:37pm
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Im in the Hutt Valley. I have just joined the gym and started playing netball so hopefully I might meet some people there
I would like to go to an OB meet up but feel a bit strange as i dont have any kids, maybe when you have 2 SMS i can borrow one ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 7:44pm
You sure can. You get the older one who will talk about Dora non stop and run off -------------
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_Waiting_ wrote:Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 7:45pm
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Meh I'd been going to OB meet up for years before I had my daughter. Everyone I've met from this forum is really lovely and just as easy to talk to IRL as they are online. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 7:56pm
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We had a pretty large gathering at the domain one year and quite a few forum people who hadnt had kids yet came along .. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: MuppetsMama
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 8:37pm
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I think it's harder to make friends as an adult, mainly because at school you could pick and choose who you hung out with and if you didn't like a certain group, you'd just join another one! But you sort of get stuck with people when you're older.... anyone else get what I mean, or am I on my own here??
I still meet up with 2 of my school friends fairly regularly, but don't really have any other friends. I'm happy though, I'm starting to get more involved in various things and meeting new people. I think that is the secret - just join a club! join a group, a playgroup for the kids, or hey why not go to church ;-) |
Posted By: newme
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 8:45pm
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I also don't have any really close friends anymore, and I really really miss it. So I am also on a bit of a mission to make new friends this year. I go to Le Leche League and i have made some friends there.
I am also planning on going to the local MOPS, or Kiwi Mums I think it might be called now. You do crafts etc and church ladies look after your children. I am not religious though (this program is run through a Church), so hopefully this won't be a barrier to forming friends there. Plus I am being proactive about forming relationships, which is something I haven't really done before - like if I meet someone who I quite like then actually making an effort to get in contact again and catch up for a coffee. I would suggest that you get involved with an activity that you like doing. If you like to read, join a book club. If you like to sew, find out about attending a sewing class/group etc. Then you will have something in common to begin with and then you can move on from there. Good luck, I know it is hard. |
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 9:33pm
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Come to the Denny's meet ups! We're lovely ladies! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 9:41pm
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It's hard, but it's really valuable too. We moved a similar distance about a year ago. I made a point of joining a church and playgroup right away and most of my friends are based there. If you don't work or enjoy sports, you'll probably enjoy hanging out with those types even if you don't have kiddies and they'll love having you there if you enjoy having little ones around or making coffees!! Mainly Music is another place where littlies abound and you can often team up with another mum - say one who has 2 or 3 preschoolers and feels like she's out of hands or energy.
If you don't want to hang around with little kids, join a sports or church group in the evenings. -------------  |
Posted By: escadachic
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 11:07pm
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I meet new people mainly through ohbaby meet ups/coffee groups or other coffee groups through online forums. -------------   
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Posted By: RachFizz
Date Posted: 05 February 2011 at 2:07am
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We should start a childless OB meet lol. Or maybe there is one? I haven't checked.. I live in Palmy but am in the Hutt quite often (like now
Random time to post I know
edited to mention that it's not that I don't wanna meet ppl that do have kids! just meant a few of us who aren't there yet could hang together without feeling left out ------------- TTC#1 since Apr11 On hold for study! |
) and would love to meet some of the OB ladies 
I have trouble sleepingPosted By: _Lou_
Date Posted: 05 February 2011 at 10:36am
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Waiting, it is so hard. I totally agree that when you get older, it does become harder to make good friends. I moved away from my home in CHCH up to the north island. I wouldn't change that for the world as it was the right move for us and we love our life here, it has meant I have left behind a solid network of good girlfiriends. I have been here for 2 years now, and I have made a couple of good friends, but my thing is that it takes a long time to build those friendships. They don't happen overnight! Its natural to grow apart from some people as your life changes as well. So i too decdided for 2011 that I needed to be more proactive and ask others to do stuff and not just wait to be asked. I can't say I am doing hugely well so far, but its always in the back of my mind. I am going to do a few new things and some girls from OB in central NI are going to meet up in April from the TTC threads.
I also think its hard when you have DH/DP too. I know I am guilty of not making so much of an effort cos I know I always have someone to do stuff with (well not shopping etc!!) but YKWIM
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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 05 February 2011 at 11:18am
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I'm in the hutt, due to drop in a couple of weeks but would would love to meet up with some of you, with or without children. Are there any regular meets? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: rorylex
Date Posted: 05 February 2011 at 5:27pm
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Playcentre, open coffee groups, music groups, playgroups.
Plunket well our plunket run quite a few things for parents and children. dont be put off because its plunket, the nurses have nothing to do with these groups they are all run by other parents who also want to make friends. ------------- Mummy to 4 boys Samuel - 18.6.05 Rory - 15.7.06 Mason - 13.06.08 Emmett - 24.01.10 Baby #5 - cooking |
Posted By: escadachic
Date Posted: 05 February 2011 at 5:31pm
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Denny's meet ups are somewhat regular Clover. But not sure when the next one is happening. Keep an eye on the meet up thread. Also, I try and have a coffee group every now and then. Am in the process of arranging a date for that.
And anyone is welcome, you don't need to be pregnant, or a parent to come along. -------------
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Posted By: millymollymandy
Date Posted: 05 February 2011 at 6:05pm
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Before I had kids, I'd do heaps of stuff, like book groups, go out to lunch with girls from work, quiz nights etc. I meet some great people and made some lovely friends.
We moved when DD was 6 months. Since then I have made one good friend thru having kids. I have met people thru playcentre etc, but I do struggle to take that next step and suggest something outside of the group activity I always think they are busy etc. I know how you feel I so miss my old friends sometimes. |
Posted By: snugglebug
Date Posted: 05 February 2011 at 8:48pm
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I am in this situation too. I have a couple of close friends still in the country the rest have gone overseas on their OE. Of the ones who are here none of them have kids and work during the day and have busy weekends clubbing etc, so it's a bit isolating. I also don't have a car so it's hard to get out to coffee groups but I really want to try. It's easy to get stuck in your own little bubble and not make an effort as it's scary but I agree that you have just got to get out there and make an effort. You could start a thread in the mums meet up section maybe for TTCers to meet up? Or anyone in your local area? Also joining some kind of class or group is a good way to meet people. And online groups/forums for common interests. It seems more people than I realise have this problem ------------- Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 06 February 2011 at 7:12pm
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I cant find the thread for the meetups in Wellington, can someone bump it for me? are the meet ups normally on the weekend as i work.
Any Hutt ladies be keen for our meetup? It can be everyone not just TTC ladies but would need to be on the weekend  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: escadachic
Date Posted: 06 February 2011 at 10:15pm
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Waiting. Here's the http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=32943&PN=1&TPN=11 - wellington coffee group
And here's the http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=27762&PN=1&TPN=61 - denny's meet up And this one is the http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=36091&PN=2&TPN=2 - no friends club -------------
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Posted By: RachFizz
Date Posted: 07 February 2011 at 1:23pm
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We could go to the Trentham carnival! teehee. It's a bit hory but I'm very loyal to Trentham haha ------------- TTC#1 since Apr11 On hold for study! |