if you don’t like me sod off i could not
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Topic: if you don’t like me sod off i could not
Posted By: ButterflyMum
Subject: if you don’t like me sod off i could not
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 2:01pm
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This is a thread for people who have decided to not let other peoples opionions matter.
I will start we are planning a big family and everybody who think we shouldn't can sod off. Yes I can talk too much but if you don't. Like me for who I am can sod the people that matter like me |
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 2:14pm
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If you really didn't care what other people thought of you and your decisions, then you wouldn't have started this thread.
It kind of screams insecurity, immaturity and attention seeking. Just saying. |
Posted By: ButterflyMum
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 2:27pm
| Lol it actually branches off anther thread. Sometimes when you write stuff it is easier to start to believe it |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 2:33pm
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I just went and read that, so I apologise for my comment, I got the wrong end of the stick. I went away and thought about what I said and realised that it was quite rude.
And yeah I agree, you do start to believe things when you write them down. |
Posted By: escadachic
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 3:09pm
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Oh I'm curious, what other thread? -------------   
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 4:32pm
yes it was - i couldnt believe you had been so rude! luckily butterflymum probably didnt give a sod!  ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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mamanee wrote:Posted By: ButterflyMum
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 5:19pm
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Exactly bizzy I really didn't lol
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 5:25pm
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Your thread Kelly.
Good group! It's a hard thing to learn to not care what others think of you but once you do... It feels great!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 5:49pm
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my mother was always going on at me about "what will they think of me". and really it did her no good... she eventually learnt that what "they" thought didnt matter. Some peoples opinions do matter but you shouldnt let what random strangers on a message board say affect you deeply. after all they are judging you only on what little you show of yourself or what they choose to see. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: escadachic
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 5:53pm
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Yeah thought so Nicky. Was just confirming my suspicion. Figured it probably was. -------------
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Posted By: ButterflyMum
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 6:01pm
Kelly it is not a dig at you I really do think people who have social issues blame other people when in reality it is often how that person feels about themselves I think it would be so a better place if we learn xtra be comfortable in our own skin at not let what others think control how we feel about ourselves. Someone said treat others how you like to be trated that only works if you know how to be happy about you and treat yourself right
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Posted By: escadachic
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 6:03pm
LOL! It's ok ButterflyMum  I knew it wasn't a dig at me. I was being nosey. LOL! My last name is 'Parker', so I can't help myself. I have to be a nosey Parker LOL!-------------
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 6:29pm
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I like the saying I dont care what people think about me because that is their problem! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: LJsmum
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 6:42pm
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I agree with _ Waiting_
and i only think about and care what people say if it's my closest family, DH and close friends. Nobody else knows me well enough to pass judgement. -------------  
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 7:39pm
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wow so you all really don't care what people think??!! I would love to not care at all but I do... not to the point that it rules my life, and I'm a happy, friendly person who is comfortable around people... but I do still care what people think of me. I mean I buy clothes to try to look nice, I do my hair when I go out even when I can't be assed, I make sure the kids are clean and polite, I'm friendly to people even when I'm in a bad mood, I am too embarassed to buy wine when I am pregnant incase they thought it was for me, I'm not a public speaking fan incase I stumble on my words or say something dumb etc etc... I can see life would be much easier not caring, but what a hard place to get to IMO... ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: escadachic
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 7:48pm
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Yeah Freckle I agree. It would be nice not to care. But I'm not at that place yet either. -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 8:04pm
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freckle its not that hard... once you realise that what they think doesnt matter!
essentially though you are giving a stranger power over you... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: ButterflyMum
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 9:04pm
| See. Like to be clean And tidy and dress nice hair and makeup cause it makes me feel good not to impress anyone. I do still do care but I won't let that rule me. Think. That is the secect don't change who you are to impress someone else. Just learn to be you not who people expect you to be |
Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 9:06pm
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The best advice my dad ever gave me was "you can't please all of the people, all of the time. You can only ever please some of the people, some of the time". And honestly, that advice has been liberating for me. ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 22 January 2011 at 10:20pm
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Exactly JadeC and tbh it was when I overcame my darkest days that I realised it.
All you can do is be yourself and if people don't like it then it's there problem and they clearly aren't the right people for you! Like Bizzy, my gran has spent her whole life worrying about what 'the neighbours will think' etc... No point worrying about it... It ends up ruling your life as someone mentioned and for me personally I'd rather be enjoying my life, my dd etc than worrying about what someone (I may not even know?!) thinks! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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