Your kids and their pictures on the net
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Topic: Your kids and their pictures on the net
Posted By: Plushie
Subject: Your kids and their pictures on the net
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 7:45pm
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Mainly i'm thinking of facebook when i write this!
What are your policies on your kids pictures on the internet? More specifically i mean do you put on facebook every picture you take? Only put on pictures of special events? Just pictures that are cute? Or none at all? Do you exclude certain pictures like naked bath time ones or dirty poop ones? Why - because you're worried about who will see it or because you're preserving your kids dignity? A combination of both or something else completely? If you don't have facebook - do you put pictures elsewhere (like OhBaby) or just share via email? I notice some members here have big picture siggys with names and DOBs and some only have a first initial and an age or even just a DD/DS and an age. A bit curious as to what you consider the line for sharing information about your children. Oh - and if you chose not to display any information about your child how do you stop other people doing it? For example i'm not sure i will put ANY pictures on the internet at all, but i know friends will take pictures of my baby having a playdate with their children and put them up on facebook. |
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Posted By: tiptoes
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 7:56pm
I put loads of photos up on facebook but always set them as 'friends only'. I'll probably start to put less on now though as am possibly over the top
Initially I put up first bath photos with it all hanging out but DH wasn't keen on having those shots on so I took it down. I took a few poo explosion kinda shots but don't think I put them up as probably gross out my friends that don't have kids too much. On OB I put Cooper's first name but that's all as it's a public forum and I'd be generally ok with it but DH isn't. I've got a friend that doesn't put many up on facebook but used to either email some or put them up on snapfish and send a link. I love looking at all the bubba photos of facebook  ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">  
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 7:56pm
Oooh, good topic! I'm totally cool with photos of Jacob being on the internet. In fact, I post a new one every day - my sister, who lived with us while I was pregnant, moved to Canada to get married, and was SO gutted not to get to know him. So every day since he was born I take a photo and put it up. That way, she gets to see him grow, and although it's a lot of photos, I find I avoid the floods you often see on FB (you know, multiple photos of a very similar pose). I could make it a private albumn, but other people like to see them, and, to be frank, I like to show him off 
I don't put nearly every picture I take on. The point is to keep my sister (and anyone else who cares) up to date, not bore them to tears. It helps me sort my photos, too. I've given it though, and can't see any harm coming from it. In saying that, I do take care what I post. For example, I took one of him with a blanket we lost (I mentioned it on the random acts of kindness thread) and the flier I made to get it back. It had our address and phone number, and I carefully chose a shot where his arm was hiding them. I also never include a photo that shows his boy bits. There's just too many weirdos on the internet, and I would hate his photo to get to one of them. I'm OK with his little tushie showing (you see countless baby adds showing baby bottoms, afterall, weirdos wouldn't have to resort to FB pictures), but I always make good use of a rubber ducky or camera flare to hide his bits. -------------   
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 8:13pm
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LOL strategic rubber duckies
I have a couple of friends who have seperate facebook pages for their children. In my opinion thats too far, but i'm still 'friends' with a couple of toddlers because they are dammed cute!! I'm curious to see what other responses come - i think i sound like a paranoid crazy when i say never putting baby photos on the internet. Or his first name. Or middle name. I undoubtably will though - won't be able to resist showing him off. And the arrivals list in my due date thread will look a bit weird with only a DOB to add! ETA: a bonus of facebook/the internet is that if your computer craps out then you have all the good ones online anyway so you don't lose too many! |
Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 8:26pm
I do put a few on FB but i take heaps so not many get onto there. In saying that my album with DDs pics has over 100 photos 
I use to put pics of DD on OB for my siggy but have since stopped. The main reason for that is because i dont want everyone knowing who i am. People i know IRL. Although i think her name is in my ticker 
I dont put up naked pics but i saw a friend of DPs put up heaps of her daughter playing outside naked which i thought was wrong. The girl was over 2 yrs so not a baby. I see no harm in putting pics on FB. Well so long as your page in private. Many people keep in contact with relatives that way, its easier than email. If my friends added pics of my child without asking id be pretty pissed off. Especially if i didnt have any on my own FB. -------------  
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 8:32pm
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It's a tricky one. I can't control people talking about where I live, IRL or on FB etc. Let alone photographing and showing it around. Same with the kiddies. I don't like to use our last name or district and I'm even careful with their DOBs at times. I don't like taking nudey pics as a rule because they can be very embarrassing when they get older and I don't see the point/need of doing it. Flannels in the bath are good But I've learned that when others take photos of my kids, they can literally go anywhere. At one point my sister even used a photo of me to create a false ID on FB - that got me very cross and I reported her, but only cause I found out. It was a while before I did.
All in all, I'm learning to lighten up a bit. Any pics I put on FB are "private" (and I'm very careful with my friend list) but people see my kids in shops etc all the time and there's not much difference there than with ppl seeing pics of my girls online. -------------  |
Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 9:01pm
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Thats a good point - if your FB is really private then its different again. I use mine in the broader term of social network - my 'friends' list includes people i knew in high school, girls i worked with at a part time job 2 years ago, friends of friends i met once at a party etc so none of them need to be involved in child-picture sharing!! TBH i have a couple of friends that i don't even know who they are, only our 40 mutual friends in common give me a hint i went to high school with them. May be time for a good clear out
Actually, it was one of those that started this thread - a girl i worked with for a few months part time about 4 years ago put up pictures of her newborn with a close up of his boy bits and the caption "Big boy like his proud daddy" and to be honest it made me go what the HELL!? Close friends don't need to see that, let alone an almost stranger!! |
Posted By: Whateversville
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 9:06pm
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My FB is private and I post lotsa pics coz I have friends & family all over nz & oz..Never put nakey boy bits on.
I post the odd pic on here and until today didn't have a pic on my ticker and infact I'll prob take it off soon lol |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 9:08pm
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Ah yea, that's something you just don't need to see! -------------
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 9:15pm
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DD is only 12 weeks old and she's had her photo taken pretty much every week since she was born our families and friends live all over the place so they go on FB so they can see, sometimes they are on Dh's FB page sometimes mine.
We have a few bath ones mostly cause DD looks so darn cute in her bath can't see her girly bits though. Being on the internet will be the norm for our children. My 14 year old niece has been photographed since she was born and is totally comfortable in front of a camera and is always posting pictures of herself and her mates on FB to share. I used to write letters this generation has FB. Don't have any photos on my ticker etc as I don't have photos hosted anywhere else. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 10:24pm
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My FB is locked down so any photos I put up are friends only. I have recently gone through my friends list and noticed I have been defriended by a few people. The way I look at it now is they don't have the privilage to see what I have been up to these days. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: fallen
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 10:56pm
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We have a facebook page for our son. For the sole purpose of choosing only family members as 'friends' so we can put photos up for them to see but no one else. In saying that my mil copied some of the photos and put them on her facebook. It annoyed the hell out of me and df told her off. ------------- |
Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 10:57pm
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Majority of my albums (esp the ones that have pics of kids in them!) are set to 'friends only' and the only time I put photos of DD in the bath up, she had a cloth placed 'just so' I cant remember if I posted the one of her being weighed at birth, that one showed her girly bits, I know its on my photobucket account though. I dont put up all the photos I take, generally the ones I think are really cute, or have a funny sequence to them. I usually wait til I have 5 or more to post, then do a bulk upload lol.
I'm getting to that age where most of my friends (esp the old school friends who added me just because they knew me back then) have babies, so its not really that wierd to post lots of kids pics nowadays (dammit that makes me sound old!) I try not to post my kids full names on here (first name s only most of the time, and never the last name as its not entirely common) as it would bring my username up in a google search. I dont have contact with my dads parents (my choice) but its definitely something they would try and do to find pics of my kids. I did at one stage have a siggy pic with both kids on it, but for some reason my oldests face was at an angle that he wasnt easily recognised unless you really knew him. One of the mums on here who used to see him every day at school didnt even twig until she realised whose mum I was! I only removed the one with DDs 1st birthday pics cos it was outdated and I needed room for the ticker hehe
Thats sooo wierd that your old school friend would post a close-up of boy bits! Maybe I'm a bit nana-ish, or really paranoid, but I try and avoid any part of my kids genitals being exposed in such a public manner you never know whos looking, and its pretty damn easy to copy photos if you can see them!------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 11:01pm
| Fallen - thats a really good point of view i hadnt considered re: kids having facebook pages. Thanks for that! |
Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 11:06pm
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I have my settings on FB set to friends only, and as for pics, I put up the ones I think are cute, there are a lot of my children, but there are worse ones than me.
I think (like every parent ) that my children are gorgeous and I love showing them off. I wouldn't take pics or put up pics of C naked (she would never forgive me ) but I have a few of Ty with his bare bottom showing, not the front part though. I have (obviously ) rather big signatures on here, and 2 have my children's photos in them,probably not the safest thing to do,but I naively feel like i've been here so long, know pretty much everyone and besides that, im so impressed by them,Lisa did a great job with them I love to display them ------------- 
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 11:15pm
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I have everything set to friends only, I don't just let anyone be a friend either. So have limited friends, I have a separate gaming profile set up too.
If I post pics of other peoples kids, I post them on their page or tag them so they know I've posted them. It's then their choice if they stay up there or not. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 11:24pm
My coffee group friends and I have an unspoken rule that when we take the photos that include their kids as well as our own, we check that its ok before putting up on FB, then tag the mum in them so we can 'screen' them. ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003
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AandCsmum wrote:Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 15 January 2011 at 11:49pm
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I put lots of pics on FB of Jackson. Mostly because my family are in NZ and cos its easier to post them there than to send an email with 50 pics attached every month or whatever. I guess I see it as a 'back up' if my computer dies and I loose them from the hard drive.
I have my friends put into categories of how I know them (i.e. OhBaby, work mates, family etc) and when I create an album I choose who I want to see the pics. I have a list for 'Others' which are where I put people that dont need to see any my photo's. I also have photo's that are only seen by specific people. All my privacy settings are set to Friends Only as well. I usually update pics of Jackson every 2 - 3 weeks. As for other peoples children, I never post them on FB unless I have their permission to do so. And I always tag them in it. I do get a bit worried when other people take pics of Jackson and then post on their FB page. Although, if I dont think the pic is appropriate I ask them to remove it  ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
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Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 2:10pm
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I have all my FB set to friends only. I put up loads of pics but have friends and family all over the world.
I don't post pics of other people's children without asking first and have made it clear to others I expect the same from them. I don't have a huge friends list and and fussy about who my friends are. I think there may be a few nudey shots on there but nothing with bits just bare bums. |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 2:15pm
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On FB mine is set to friends only & only really have family & friends I don't see, so not many on there. I don't tag my kids in photos either.
On here I had a photo of my kids for my signature but took it off. As this is the www & you never know who is lurking out there I did not want kids recognised at school or anything by someone unsavoury...yeah maybe I watch to much of the Bill, but better safe than sorry. |
Posted By: MrsEmma
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 2:20pm
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I have pics of DS up, I select the ones I like and there are none of him naked - DH wouldn't be impressed and I don't think I would want to put them up anyway.
All my family are overeas, parents, bother, sister etc so they only time they get to see DS is via photos. The settings are for 'friends only' though, my sister occasionally copies photos to her FB page and although she doesn't ask, I don't mind and I think it's nice that she likes to show him off
Also, as someone else mentioned all my friends are either having or have kids already so they do the same thing and don't think it's weird. I'm not OTT with it either though, I add maybe 5 per month. I wouldn't put pics up of other friends babies without asking first, I would like the same or at least to be tagged so I know what's going up. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 3:16pm
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My FB is locked down. Friends and family seem to be pretty good about tagging pics so I know what's out there. My BIL is really strict about it which means the rest of my family is cautious so we don't break their rule which is cool with me. I have the boys names on here but don't put my surname up.
And I dare anyone to recognise me from my avatar pic
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 3:24pm
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sorry haven't read replies...I post lots of photos:) I like to show my kids off ...but never naked shots ...i only set them to friends but i know other people can see them because i can see shots that my friends comment on on people's pages who aren't my friends.. in short i am careful in terms of what they are/are not wearing..but I say names etc as their dates of birth are on there anyway...i wish there were no crazies in internet land:(!
oh and I ALWAYS ask before i post other peoples kids on there ..i think it's only polite..my Mum doesn't want to be on facebook either so I respect that. (and get a lecture every few weeks about it:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: happymum21
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 3:33pm
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Hmmmm a friend of mine on FB just posted up some pics of his summer holiday. He doesn't have kids, but in the photo was the family he was staying with standing at the beach and one of the boys (aged about 9) was naked. So I commented that dignity would be appreciated. Totally unnecessary, the boy looked special needs as well and this guy has friends all around the world, from many many countries. Hopefully he will censor it or take it down. ------------- Becs |
Posted By: amme_eilyk
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 5:00pm
| Oooh good topic bowie, i need to do a friends cull to make sure only people I want to have access. I am against putting up naked pics, but am not so worried at this age about putting up photos as she is only with people I know/trust all of the time. I would never put up a pic of someone elses child without asking, I even hesitated to put up a pic of my grandma with the baby the other day. |
Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 5:45pm
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I have no problems with putting pics up of DS (or using his name online, DS is just quicker!).
All of my FB photos are set to "friends of friends" so DH's friends can see them, but the reason they are not open to everyone is not because of DS at all, it's more about photos from parties (and other embarassing events!) not being able to be linked to me professionally. ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 6:06pm
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^^ Thats another good point, i know my previous boss facebooks people when looking at CVs (is that even legal??) and you know that a profile picture of you half naked and throwing up in town isnt really what you want people to see as a first impression.
Am i to understand that you can make lists of people (so i could make a list of just family close friends and other baby-viewing worthy people) and set albums to be viewed by them only? Because that'd be handy...or did i read that wrong? |
Posted By: Limochick
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 6:43pm
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Bowie you can make lists on facebook but I don't bother cos only my friends can make comments, see pics and I've made it so they can't copy them either. Also if I get tagged into a photo it only shows on my page but my friends can't comment on it iykwim.
My older 2 boys did have there own facebook page but I disabled it cos I don't think they need it and there are lots of creepy people out there  -------------  
 
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 6:52pm
Off topic but the bank looked at a kind of friend's facebook page when she applied for a loan. Silly girl didnt tell the bank she was planning to leave the country but it was all over her FB page! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: HuntersMama
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 8:38pm
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I go through phases of putting up heaps of photos, then dont bother for a while. My albums of DS are friends only, and I dont let anyone copy them either. I did get one taken off photobucket because it was "inappropriate"!! It was DS in the nude,but yoiu couldnt see any rudey bits. I felt so bad, but when I looked at the pic I couldnt see anything wrong with it. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 8:42pm
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DH has a setting on his email account for work that when he gets an email, it searches facebook etc for photos of that person and attaches one to the email for him. (He got it cos it does other things too, but I think that's a bit creepy - I asked him what photo it gives him of me, but apparently it recognises me as someone he knows and doesn't bother). But still, creepy! And yes, it's pretty standard to look someone up on facebook when they apply for a job.
I put up select photos of DD, but no nakey stuff and only a handful that I think are especially cute or interesting. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 9:59pm
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Not just jobs - I work awarding scholarships, and I totally google candidates. I've never run into any real shockers, though, to be honest. But it helps you get a feel for 'who' a person is.
ETA that I think if you're putting your name forward for anything, you should just assume they'll google you. With technology today, it's a fair assumption, and if you keep that in mind you shouldn't have anything online to embarass you  -------------
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 10:49pm
Yep this is what I have done. Everyone on my friends is in a 'list' (or group if you like) of people based on how I know them. I do it because I feel that not everyone I want to social network with needs to see certain pics, particularly of Jackson. For example, when I set up an album this is how it 'looks' Album Name: Holidays Location: Everywhere Share album with: Click on drop down menu Click on Customise Make this visible to: Friends Only Hide this from: Others (my list of people that I dont want to see the pics) Hope that makes sense. ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 11:08pm
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I have heaps of pics of the girls on FB, and on here, and use their names. No nakie pics though (don't feel it's appropriate, plus usually if they're naked, I'm with them and the camera isn't with me anyway LOL). I tend to only put up pics I think are cute - I probably have over 1,000 photos all up of the girls from birth to now, but about 250ish on FB (a lot were from early days when they were in neonatal). Mind you, I tend to get pics of them separately rather than together, so twice as many pics as normal LOL
They get tagged in photos too - that's fine by me, generally if they're at someone's house where they can get a photo taken, there's nothing about the pic that would make me nervous having it up. I'm a pretty relaxed parent though!!! |
Posted By: M2K
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 11:10pm
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I was actually having this discussion with DH the other day, I asked him if he thought it was ok to post photos of our girls online, most of his friends are co-workers.
He doesn't think there's anything wrong with it but I am in two minds, I post them on facebook as our immediate family members are overseas (the girls aunty's and uncles) I feel proud of my girls so like to show off my pictures but then I feel almost guilty as there photos are "out there" in cyberspace and could they be googled searched?? is that fair on my girls who have no say yet. But then I really enjoy seeing the OB forum babies growing up through their photos, even though I haven't met them, I feel we have gone through so much together. Edited to add, when I take photos of my girls in public place such as lollipops, parks I try to take pics of just them, as I feel funny about having someone elses child who we don't know in the shot if I upload to fb. ------------- 
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 16 January 2011 at 11:15pm
| I should add - I have my FB albums set to friends only. |
Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 12:15am
If I am taking photos of my children at the park etc basically out in public I will do all that I can not to have other people in the shot but sometimes it cant be helped ie taking photo of your child in the swing and notehr child just happens to walk by and they endup in the shot. if a child happens to be identifiable I will just crop them out of the photo ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 7:06am
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My FB settings are friends only as well. Could someone explain to me how to set it so that people can't share and/or copy your FB pics? It is a great idea setting a list, thanks for suggesting that I didnt even know you could do that. I have a family member who constantly shares pics of mine and my sisters children on her own page and it really pisses me off, if I could stop her doing that it would be great! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
 
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Posted By: Kellyfer
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 8:41am
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I do post pics of DS on FB but only select ones and never naked ones. My profile is set to private and only friends can view my pics. My DH posts way more up and sometimes I ask him to take certain ones down (eg - he posted a pic of my placenta after I gave birth!!! Didn't think that was something the world would really want to see).
I do have reservations about it though - I just picture someone googling DS in the future when he applies for a job or whatever, and being able to see all his baby pics. Once it's up there, it never goes away (facebook legally owns all the photos that are posted) but I guess that's just the way the world's going. You do need to be careful with birthdates and full names, because with both of those pieces of information together it's quite easy to steal someone's identity. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kat_hutch
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 9:46am
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we put pics of our boys up on FB but our profile is private and the albums are 'friends only'. we have bath pics of them both, but none where you can see their doodles.
and like some of you, when in public places we try to only include other kids, and with other peoples kids i always ask before posting them on FB. ------------- 
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Posted By: kiwikt
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 10:40am
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I have a friend who posts the most inappropriate pictures of her children on facebook all the time. I am constantly reporting her photos and having them removed.
Her kids are at school now, but at home they seem to feel clothing is optional. No problem with that but when my friend is posting full frontal pictures of her naked 6 year old, on a profile that is not locked down properly, I think it is wrong. Facebook is always removing her photos for being inappropriate because I am not the only one of her friends who seems to think that naked pictures of her kids on the internet is just asking for trouble! ------------- Due 14/10/11 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 11:26am
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even though my profile is private I still dont put any naked photos of my children on there ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: millymollymandy
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 12:35pm
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I don't allow anyone other than friends to see pictures, I don't put a ticker on here or use my DD's name. IMO its inappropriate, although I might have something with just her age on it. She doesn't ask to be made public property. Any random person can view postings on here and I hate the thouhgt of her privacy being volilated in that way.
I don't have a problem with nude photos of DD, but I wouldn't expect anyone else to want to see then and wouldn't post them. That said a friends kids photos if taste wouldn't bother me. Its a small world out there and I did know some on here and it was very easy to work out it was then. I did the appropriate thing and let her know who I was. |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 3:20pm
| I don't have facebook, part of the reason being I'm worried about photo security. Found out recently that a few family members have pics of my kids on their facebook pages which does trouble me a bit as I have no control over them- some aren't private either. My kids have been in local newspaper a few times too- photos taken, full names & school included in caption- all without my permission, twice I didn't know til I read the paper, it doesn't seem like you can control things really. |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 3:27pm
| Having said that I would like to have a facebook page to keep in contact with people, & show them photos of kids but I'd want it really private, there are just some people I don't want to share my life with or regain contact with. As for the kids having facebook themselves, I really don't know, all fine & dandy when it's you in control, but what do you do when your 12yo wants control over her page? |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 3:38pm
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My 10 year old niece said to me on the weekend "I can't wait till I'm 13 so I can have a Facebook page"
What I don't understand is why do people make their pages public? I think they're crazy! Sure, it's great for stalking but damn dangerous!
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 4:17pm
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LittleRed my 9 year old has asked to have a FB page! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
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Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 4:35pm
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I think there is an age restriction isn't there? I guess it's not hard to get around it.
My 14 year old nephew has 250 friends, his page is public and he accepts friend requests from everyone!
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Posted By: kiwikt
Date Posted: 17 January 2011 at 4:35pm
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Little red and my 3 sons - I am so glad that neither of the underage children you know/have have FB pages already. My cousin allowed her son to have a page at 10 and they lied about his age to get it.
She has provided no training for him on how to protect himself on social networking and he had been exposed to things he should and did not have the maturity to deal with because of it. There is a R13 restriction for a reason and I wish some of my friends and family would respect that. ------------- Due 14/10/11 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 18 January 2011 at 10:28pm
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I started posting every photo but recently went through and deleted alot of pics I barely ever add photos of DD on there now, more because I can't be assed! DP's mum has asked that we add more as there aren't many on his and I have blocked his family from seeing them because I got angry at his sister hahaha.
I'll open them back up soon I just haven't got round to it. My profile is pretty locked down though you can't search me ppl can't see my pics without being a friend, you can't pm me if your not a friend etc. Only friends of friends can request me. I do hate when people add pics of DD and tag me or DP in it. Theres some on there that are tagged and made to view friends of friends as they are DP's friends. Gosh I'm going to be having DD be on lockdown with the computer and have to be so tech savvy. I know its going to have to be me as DP doesn't know much about it. Have already decided she is getting a profile on the computer that she can get into and its going to be so restricted, delete programmes etc from her having access to it. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: kriss
Date Posted: 27 January 2011 at 5:29pm
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I had a few albums on FB that I deleted once I saw that other family members had saved my pics and uploaded them to their pages, so I now have no control over those pictures
Also, my mum just told me that an aunty (whom I don't get along with at all, due to her creepy husband) is saving photos of my child and printing them out enlarged to go on her wall at home. Umm, what the..??! So now my daughter's pictures are in their home with that creep. I have now created a list of people who can view my photo's and I am going to put text on all my photo's so that hopefully no one will want to steal them, and if so I know exactly which ones are mine. I might go and weed the old friends list too.. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 27 January 2011 at 6:41pm
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The 2 girls i use to look after have just added me on FB. They are 5 & 10. There mum writes on there pages saying love you baby etc.
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 27 January 2011 at 6:59pm
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Well, like someone (fallen?) said the other page she has one for her son just so he can have family as friends and share pictures on his page instead of hers where they will be displayed to everyone, which isnt a bad idea.
Having a 5 year old on facebook and then writing on their wall is a bit naff, though!! Kriss, its situations like that that make me go ahhh, never, ever, ever putting pictures of my (soon to arrive) offspring online. Im sure not everyone does it but i've been at friends houses and they've gone "oh, you have to see a picture of this baby, its ugly/messy/wearing something weird/fat/too thin/breastfeeding" so even if only select people can see the pictures it doesnt stop them going viral, you know, your friends can copy/paste and share at will! Not bagging on anyone, especially since i do love to perv at your baby pictures myself, personal choice and all - just so we're clear i don't think anyone is *wrong* for how/what they put online. |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 27 January 2011 at 7:11pm
| Excuse my ignorance but what does it mean when someone "tags" a photo? |
Posted By: Limochick
Date Posted: 27 January 2011 at 7:28pm
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I had a facebook page for my sons who are 6 and 9 just so they could keep in contact with family and friends!! I think each to there own personally!! -------------
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 27 January 2011 at 7:41pm
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tictacjunkie - if someone 'tags' you it means they name you as a person in that photo and it then appears in your photo albums, and on your page and is displayed to your friends on their newsfeed.
(As in "Tictacjunkie was tagged in Limochicks photo" and normally, unless they have changed the privacy settings, your friends can click your picture and view the rest of Limochicks album. Even if they don't know limochick from a bar of soap and the album is 200pictures from her wedding and you're only tagged in one.) (Sorry Limochick, i borrowed you as an example  )
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Posted By: BessieBear
Date Posted: 28 January 2011 at 9:25am
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My MIL took photo's off my FB and printed them off and stuck them on her fridge. SHe took some form my mums FB too.
I don't put photo's up anymore, they take too long to load, being on dial up. and cause I don't want MIL to steal my pictures. OH in fact I de friended her a while ago. ------------- Sarah Mum to, Boy 07/2008, Girl 03/2010, Boy 05/2012, Angel 07/08/2014
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Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 28 January 2011 at 8:55pm
| Thanks for the explanation Bowie, so can you "block" tags? Also is there anyway of stopping people from copying your photos? Sorry for threadjacking, it's sort of on topic- I'd like to have a facebook page to keep in contact with people better but not sure if I want to put up pics of the kids if I can't "protect" them. (The photos that is, the kids are a different topic, lol- nervously.) |
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 28 January 2011 at 9:28pm
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I post almost all my pics on facebook, mainly for family but also as a 'back up' should anything happen to my laptop, camera etc.
I try not to post nude ones just because I don't take them mainly and also because I feel they are private, but I do have a couple up. I did display before a bit of information on my ticker, DP and I anniversary which had our names and then my ticker also had DDs name and how many days until her Bday but I've made that all private. I also used to have my name written too but took that out as well. When I had DD I made serious cuts to my FB page and now the only people I have added as friends are family, friends from college and OB mums/coffee group mums. All people I trust and I know half of the people I went to school with don't even go on my page except close friends. DP has only a few pics of DD on his, but his page isn't as private as mine so he is quite selective although I tag him in most of her pictures. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kriss
Date Posted: 28 January 2011 at 9:52pm
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Just keep in mind that once you upload photo's on to Facebook, they become Facebook's property..
A friend of a friend recently went to London, and at the airport saw a billboard with a photo of her child that she had put on Facebook. Though she fought out of anger for money or whatever as they were using her photo for advertising, she got nothing and the only explanation was that it was Facebook's property once she uploaded it, and that she should read the fine print ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MrsJMcD
Date Posted: 28 January 2011 at 10:58pm
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i post pics of our son on fb every week, but only friends can see them. I had a clean out of friends before he was born because I knew I'd use it for pics, but this thread has prompted me to have another look and I've defriended some more as a result. I've also taken off a couple of bath pics that weren't pervy or anything (and taken when my boy was just a few weeks old) because I realised I wouldn't want pics of me in the bath on FB!
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Posted By: Delli
Date Posted: 28 January 2011 at 11:14pm
I used to post heaps and heaps of photos of Jude on Facebook all the time - this was because it was an easy and convenient way for both of our families to see Jude growing up when we lived at the other end of the country to them. Now that we have moved closer and they see Jude more often, I don't put up as many photos. We never put up any shots of Jude naked from the front. Photos are not safe on Facebook, no matter how "private" your settings are..... And have heard of things like Kriss posted happening before, so have been meaning to go and clear out a lot of photos even though I've tried to make the albums and photos as protected and as private as possible. Even then it may be too late! Have always been aware that this is the case (once on the internet, any low key hacker etc will have access to it!) but didn't care as much about it before. Now, I don't like the feeling that someone could be using any of my photos for anything they liked. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 29 January 2011 at 10:49am
You can't block tags as far as i know, but when you're 'tagged' it will notify you and you can remove the tag. Once you've removed it on that photo you can't be retagged in it, but you have to do it in each individual photo. Jeebers, Kris thats terrifying! We've all seen news reports of a missing/dangerous/injured/sick person or whatever accompianied by pictures the news people have taken from facebook as well. |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 29 January 2011 at 11:36am
Same here my 9yr old want one. DH has got rid of his & I hardly use mine, just to keep in contact with a couple of family members I don't see...so once in a blue moon. So its not as if he sees us using it. No way will he be getting one, may reconsider when he is 15yr or 21 lol |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 29 January 2011 at 11:43am
wow...now that's scary, think I will rethink photos on FB as I don't want my family photos to be other peoples property. I back up photos & I load them to my snapfish account....so might go get rid of some of FB now. |
Posted By: BessieBear
Date Posted: 29 January 2011 at 3:09pm
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Oh I remmeber now I had something to say. We caught up with some family end of last year and my mum kept asking if any of them were on FB, (she is obsesed with FB) but they all didn't have one because they think its all connected up to thc CIA or something. ------------- Sarah Mum to, Boy 07/2008, Girl 03/2010, Boy 05/2012, Angel 07/08/2014
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Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 29 January 2011 at 11:53pm
I didn't think on Facebook you could do this (bebo you could) please tell how! You can make a setting so the photos you are tagged in - you can only see and not your friends (I have this setting and know it works as DH doesnt see them) My 12 year old Daughter has a FB and I know her pass word! That was the condition - same when my son got one - although now that he is 17 nearly 18 i have let him not tell me his password. I do photgraphy so have posted alot of photos on my FB - as most have said I have them locked down to only friends and you can set individual albums on different settings - so ones I only want Family to see I set it to that group. I don;t put nudey pics on FB and I don't share photos on Ohbaby photosection very often now as its got so darn popular lol
i do however have my ticker with a photo which I change now and then - and I don;t put my kids whole names - although I am sure someone from the town i live in would work it out! And yeah I have been culled from a few FB - and some I understand and others I think huh I was just 'talking' to them - this is OHBABY people I am meaning - but oh well if they dont want to be on mine so be it - I am not too bothered. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 30 January 2011 at 12:14am
Sorry just saw this - and as I commented above my 12 year old daughter has one - yes she had to put a different year of birth but we talked alot about it and I agreed she knew how to keep herself 'cyber safe' I have her password and ANYONE who asks to be her friend she okay's it with me first. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: QTMum
Date Posted: 30 January 2011 at 8:40am
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I put pics of DS up on FB mainly because we live a long way from any of our family so it's an easy way for them to stay in the loop. I probably only update it twice a year and then the odd special occasion so I'm pretty selective with what I upload (def no nude ones).
I used to have my settings so that friends of friends could see just so DH's friends could see too. However when we were on honeymoon we made friends with a British celeb and spent quite a bit of time with him so he was tagged in loads of our photos. One of his 5,000 friends sent me a message to let me know that they could all see them so I might want to make it friends only. I'm much more cautious now ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Limochick
Date Posted: 30 January 2011 at 8:43am
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I just did it through my settings when I set everything up and I also go and check the settings regularly. When we had our baby dh tagged me into the pics but for some reason no one could see them so it must be something to do with our settings. -------------
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Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 30 January 2011 at 10:38pm
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the ones i am tagged in no one else see's bar me - but I didn't think there was a setting so no one could copy (ctrl C) and paste from them - I did ask a while ago to FB to do this and they told me not to put my photos on if I didn't want someone to copy them!
I now put alot of my photos on with a signature so if someone copies them they know they are mine. fustrating when MIL copies them with out asking! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 31 January 2011 at 7:36am
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Yup am aware of FB and photo's, that's another reason DP doesn't post his pictures there and he uses other sites, I used to use another site, forgotten the name though... I know quite a few use it on here! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kiwi2
Date Posted: 31 January 2011 at 12:12pm
I look up my kids teachers. Not a good look when there are tonnes of drunken party photos. I have locked mine right down especially now that I am training to be a teacher. It is all good to have a fun night out every now and then (or more often) but you don't necessarily want everyone to know about it. |
Posted By: kiwi2
Date Posted: 31 January 2011 at 12:25pm
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As for the age we held out until my daughter was nearly 13. All her friends had them earlier. What made me relent was she came home from school saying that her friend accused her of lying that she didn't have a facebook page. They had been posting stuff on her page and had been friends etc.
So we went on FB and found her page with many friends from school already friends with her. I asked to be a friend and whilst my daughter was sitting beside me it was accepted. I then reported it to facebook and sent a message saying I was her mother and you are impersonating a child and to remove this page immediately before I contact the police. (not sure I could have but made the threat) and it was deleted in minutes. I think it was a kid from school doing a trick and not a sicko. So we then gave her her page as an early birthday present two months before her birthday. We had to lie about the DOB. If she was going to be on there then we at least wanted it to be her. She can then moderate some of the posts etc then. We have strict rules about swearing etc and a lot of the stuff comes thru our email. I must ask her to tighten up her photos and check she doesn't have her mobile number on there like so many of her friends. |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 04 February 2011 at 8:08pm
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Posted By: sbeach
Date Posted: 07 February 2011 at 9:35am
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this is such a good thread... I have gone through my privacy setting and friends list since reading all the posts...
For those worried about prospective employees etc seeing your account you can set it so when non-friend google you all they see is your name and profile pic, so not too bad. To do this you go Privacy settings > Apps and Websites > Public search Does anyone know if you set up photos and block certain friends from seeing, if a mutual friend comments/likes a photo can the blocked person see this and then realise they are blocked?? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Mucky_Tiger
Date Posted: 07 February 2011 at 10:01am
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you put them on the blocked list and it stops them seeing that photo, or all photo's depending on how you set it up.
but dont click "Block this person" as that forever blocks them from even seeing your page...unless thats what you want
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Posted By: RedHeadDuck
Date Posted: 07 February 2011 at 10:35am
People can still right click and then "save as" .... Or even take a screen print and voila! They have your photo. No matter how tight your settings are, theres still very, very easy ways to copy photos..... |