Partner/husband after birth?
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Topic: Partner/husband after birth?
Posted By: Alice77
Subject: Partner/husband after birth?
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:26pm
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Hey everyone i was just wondering how long your partners or husbands were off work after you gave birth??? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Lucky apple
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:30pm
| 5 and a half weeks. It was AWESOME. |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:36pm
| 2 weeks, so needed it too as I have C Sections so needed the extra help, especially after baby 2, cos DS was only 14 months when DD was born. |
Posted By: rorylex
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:37pm
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after i had ds1 he had a few weeks off work(though i actually got a little sick of him being around all the time lol)
after ds2 he didnt have anytime off work, my mum, sil and dh juggled ds1 while is was in hospital so he didnt have too. he had a week off after we got home. after ds3 he had a week off then had another 2wks off when he was 8wks coz ds2 broke his leg. ds4 he had a week off. ------------- Mummy to 4 boys Samuel - 18.6.05 Rory - 15.7.06 Mason - 13.06.08 Emmett - 24.01.10 Baby #5 - cooking |
Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:44pm
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Mine had 2 weeks ------------- 
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:46pm
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My DP only had 1 week off.
DD was overdue and born during his Xmas time off so he had already had nearly 2 weeks off before she was born. Amazingly i had no issues with him going back to work and coped fine. I think with 2 kids it would be a different story -------------  
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Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:53pm
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about 11 days (7 work days and the weekends)
i was in hospital for 6 days (thursday to wednesday) then he had thurs, fri, sat, sun extra off. next baby i will want him off for a extra few days to help out, but depends on if i manage to have a VBAC or if i have another CS. but his boss is pretty good about it and told him to take what time he needed. but DP is our only income and the business closes down at christmas time, he needs a certain amount of holidays kept for the end of the year. but had lots of family support around most days to help with housework and give me a break to sleep. |
Posted By: RicKer
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:59pm
| Two and a half weeks. He was only allowed two weeks but his work was really good about it and said he could start his leave from the day i went into labour instead of trying to figure out dates. I ended up going into labour on the Wednesday so they counted his two weeks off from the following Monday to give him longer. |
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:05pm
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1 week but my mum also took a week off and they both helped to look after me but my mum mainly cooked and cleaned so we could enjoy Lily, more so DP because he studied all of last year and the day his course started was the day DD was due but she came a week early (lucky for him!)
He ended up taking a week off when she was 5 weeks old and his 2 week holidays too because she got very sick. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MrsEmma
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:15pm
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Two weeks here, his work let him take off from the time I went into labour which was great, however I had to spend the first week in hospital so that was a bit frustrating that I only had week with him and DS before he went back to work. I coped though and it wasn't as bad as I thought it might be on my own. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:23pm
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DH was off for a week, and then I was on my own. That was fine by me, although I'd have been more than happy for him to have longer off if he'd been able to.
While I was totally happy with a week, and was fine when DH did got back to work, I'd say take as long as you can afford to - it's such a special time, you might as well enjoy it  -------------   
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Posted By: HuntersMama
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:24pm
2 weeks, then my mum had 2 weeks then MIL had 4 weeks so I was well and truly looked after  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: SquishysMum
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:24pm
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None, but DH is self employed and would just go to work, do what had to be done and come home again.
Not sure if he'll take time 'off' this time either, although he will probably have a few days to look after DD. |
Posted By: monkey33
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:27pm
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4 weeks - I found by the 3rd week I wanted him to go back to work so that I could start trying to do it on my own! Was so great to have the help though.
I was in hospital after c-section for 4 nights, so DH started his leave from the day DS & I got home and he came to visit us at the hospital in his lunch breaks and after work (he works in AKL city right near the hospital). ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Alice77
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:29pm
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Oh thats cool my partner seems to think hes only having a day or 2 off, which to be honest I think is bull crap!!! I told him he is having at least a week off. ( our parents are not going to be involved in the first few weeks so I am gonna need him!!!) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: shadowfeet
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:33pm
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2 weeks with a few extra days for the stat days over christmas ------------- 
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Posted By: happymum21
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:41pm
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My husband didn't have any time off work. He didn't even bring us home from hospital, my mum took a day off work, drove 1.5hrs to Auckland and picked us up and brought us home.
He's no longer my husband  ------------- Becs |
Posted By: Keleho
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:44pm
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DH had a day off immediately after the birth (while I was still in hospital) but after that, went straight back to work.
Hes a dairy farmer though and as it was the quiet time of year, he didnt have to do a whole lot on the farm. So it was pretty much a few months of him being home for most of the day - it was awesome. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 10:03pm
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I think I would have managed with out DP which would have happened had DD come one her due date or later but tbh it was nice having someone there to cook and watch baby while I showered! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kandk
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 10:23pm
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Mine had three 'days off' but was then able to work flexi hours, so would stay home for a few hours if I needed him, or come home early. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: rorylex
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 10:40pm
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we had it so dh's time off didnt start til we came home from hospital. I found it pointless him having the time off while i was in hospital, i didnt actually like dh being at the hospital as my babies sleep and eat just fine from birth so he just got annoying lol. id want to sleep and he'd just be hanging around or sleeping on the sofa(snoring). ------------- Mummy to 4 boys Samuel - 18.6.05 Rory - 15.7.06 Mason - 13.06.08 Emmett - 24.01.10 Baby #5 - cooking |
Posted By: Happy lady
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 11:04pm
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1 week, then Mum took over to help as I had C section ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 11:30pm
| Ex took a few days off when I first had the girls (had them on Wednesday morning, he went back to work the following Monday) and then a week off when we came home from the hospital (we were in hospital for 4.5 weeks). I was fine by then (I had a CS) but couldn't drive, which I found was the only frustrating thing, because after being in hospital for so long, all I wanted to do was get out of the house LOL |
Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 12:35am
B's dad took time off from the day i went into labour til several weeks later... but thats because he got stress fractures running down the stairs at Waikato Hospital trying to get to theatre in time for DS to be pulled out (crash c-section 3 days after labour started) so his 'time off' had nothing to do with looking after me while I recovered from a traumatic labour and delivery! 
DP took 2 and a bit weeks off, elective c-section meant he was able to schedule the time off, but the hospital bumped me from Wednesday to Thursday, so we got a day to just chill before our lives changed drastically! His work set it up so that the first week was sick leave for a dependant (seeing as I was in hospital, and someone had to do school pick-up/drop-off for B) and the remaining 8 working days as holiday pay. I imagine he will do the same again this time... I honestly dont think he would have gone back any sooner had I managed a VBAC, he WANTED to have that time to get to know his first baby (much to his fathers horror! In HIS day he just carried on working, he wasnt even home when any of his kids were born!) ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: Kalimirella
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 5:31am
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Only 1 or 2 days, but in saying this he works part time mostly nights, and we live with his parents. My MIL was pretty awesome and helpful, I didn't have to do anything really for the first week. So for us DP would leave to go to work and FIL then MIL would come home from work, so I'm almost never alone and had lots of hands to give a screaming (or quiet) baby to. ------------- Kiara is 3 and Teagan is 2, now we're expecting our long awaited 3rd! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 8:17am
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he took around 4 weeks off after botth children were born.
with #2 he was going to take from the 7/12 off but he decided to change it to the 30/11 and well what do you know #2 arrived on the 30/11 and he did actually help out was great especially when #2 came along as he would keep #1 entertaiend and I could sleep when baby slept ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 8:45am
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Mine had 2 weeks both times. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 9:12am
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Two weeks off the first time around. I ended up getting PND so the second time around DH took 6 weeks off to help look after #1 while I got a handle of things with #2. ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 10:18am
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Hope your DP can take longer off Alice!
My DH had two weeks. I had our bub on a Friday so he didn't go to work that day, then I was in hospital over the weekend, he picked us up on the Monday and had two full weeks (his work didn't seem to count the Friday I was in labour so he got that for free!) He's already pencilled in two weeks for this time too, hopefully I can swing it so I give birth on a Friday again ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: boys.boys.boys.boys
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 11:35am
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DS1 was 2 days including the birth day, he went back to work as soon as we left the hospital.
18months later... DS2 no time off, went back to work the day after he was born (he was born at 10.30pm the night before), also worked most the day the day of my labour!. I had no other help although I think someone gave us a couple of meals that was it. It's amazing what you can cope with without to much long term damage!!! ------------- 4 boys!! 7 years, 5 years, 2 years and 8 weeks... |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 12:25pm
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DH took 4 weeks off, just cos his work closed down over christmas and much of January, so there was little point being at work when everyone else was on leave anyway. In retrospect, it would have been better for him to go back after a 3 weeks or so, and kept the rest of his leave for later, because DD had awful reflux and then ear troubles, and it would have been really nice to have him take a week off when I was exhausted from not sleeping in months, rather than at the beginning when I was relatively fresh. Was a nice first month though ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tiptoes
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 12:36pm
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DH had about 5 weeks off as his work closed down over xmas so he just took a few extra days in between the planned two weeks and the holidays. It worked out really well for us, especially since I'd had a c-section.
I think this time he'll only be able to take a couple of weeks. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">  
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Posted By: Kazper
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 12:47pm
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DH took a week and a half off and then went back for a week before his office closed for two weeks over Christmas. So it worked really well. ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/545141" rel="nofollow">  |
Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 1:51pm
Wow, I would be spitting tacks if my DH thought he would only take 2 days off!!! 
I had my DH for 2 weeks, and my mum for 2 weeks. I'll echo what someone else said, if they can't have tons of time off, get them to work while you're in the hospital, so you have more time at home with help. ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: hannibal
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 4:28pm
| None! He runs his own business and we don't have family here in the S.I. It wasn't too bad doing it by myself got us into our own rountine. |
Posted By: blossombaby
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 4:58pm
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dp had a week off when baby was born his work was flexiable but i didnt want him home for too long as i wanted to get used to it without him iykwim then has it happens he had 3 days off when she was 3weeks old .. and then again when she was 8weeks old he had a week off on acc then 2 weeks off when she was 3.5month 4 xmas etc so ive been super lucky having him around etc he is amzaing too and now understands why somedays i haven't cooked tea yet and that i was infact right ths baby hardly sleeps during the day!!
next time round i think hell again have a 1 week when babys born and maybe another week at about 6 weeks .... hes really enjoyed being home and watching her at different stages! sorry bit of a ramble there from me!! haha |
Posted By: LJsmum
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 6:34pm
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after DS1 was born he took 6 weeks off i had a c section. After Ds2 was born he took 7 weeks off as it was over christmas so had all the stats off as well.
huge support and was sad when he went back to work! we have no family support so he needed to be there! -------------  
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 6:38pm
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First time around 4 weeks.
The 2nd time around he had 2 weeks and after a week I was ready, and wanting, for him to go back to work so I could get back into my routine. |
Posted By: mothermercury
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 6:59pm
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Two weeks, I think? But he spent most of the time sleeping while I spent all day on the couch by myself constantly feeding the baby (and going mad from lack of sleep). I was not impressed.
I had my mother too, she brought food around every night, then we moved in with my parents, so the help is ongoing (thankfully!). |
Posted By: LG
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 9:36pm
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DH is a dairy farmer too so didnt take time off but would pop in as much as he could during the day. This time it will be the sameish as we're a worker down so there will be less 'popping in'. I'd really love him to be able to take time off though, i found it really helpful to have someone else around -------------  Angel Baby Aug '12, Feb '13 |
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 11:59pm
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Just 1 day here. Albeit, he had just started a new job 2 weeks before DS was born and didnt have any leave to take. Didnt help DS was a little early through. ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
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Posted By: M2K
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 12:27am
DH had a month off with our first, second time round he had only 2 days off  So it was hit the ground running, luckily our 2nd bubba is such a relaxed baby, very cruisy. Our 1st however does not sit still all day so she keeps me on my toes!------------- 
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 12:53am
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DS1, DH took a couple of days while I was in labour/on bed rest and then 2 weeks off after DS came home from hospital at 10 days old.
DS2 he saved up nearly all his leave last year so that he could use it after DS2 was born (or earlier if I ended up on bed rest again). He had 2 weeks off after DS arrived mid October, mostly to look after DS1 TBH, and then I'm pretty sure he hasn't worked a 5 day week between then and now. This will be his first full week back at work  ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: Flossie
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 5:55pm
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DH took one week off work which was fine I then had my mum come around for a week and then my MIL for another week so I had 3 weeks help in the end and was fine when they finally left me to it!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: pudgy
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 6:26pm
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With DD DH had two weeks off but ended up being slightly longer as he had to go inot work a few days of that.
Ds was born whilst he was off over Christmas and I think I had him for 3 weeks after DS was born. |
Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 6:33pm
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DD was born on the Sunday of labour weekend (quite appropriate really!), so DH just had the Monday public holiday off and back to work the next day. There was nothing he could do for me anyway, I preffered him to be earning us money as we own an extremely demanding company. He just came home at about 3pm each day for a week or so. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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