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Topic: friends/family input into your parenting
Posted By: AzzaNZ
Subject: friends/family input into your parenting
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:19am
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Just a spinoff from the "name you chose and reactions to it"
What things have your friends/family/strangers thought they'd have a say on when it comes to parenting? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:37am
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Hah...of couse i am here as well!
I got a couple (as in three) itti bittis to try out as i am keen to go cloth as much as possible. My dear mother, who no doubt is scarred from her years with the big white squares that required soaking, bleaching, hanging, folding etc is horrified that i would shun the mighty convenience of the disposable. Comments have ranged from plain "its not going to work" to "don't think you're putting some pooey nappy in my washing maschine" and "one wear and it'll be stained and ruined" OH, and "You'll have to soak it for a couple of days to get it clean again, and the bleach will ruin the fabric" I darent tell her that they don't need soaking at all. I also caught her trying to take one apart when i wasnt looking, probably trying to see how it unfolds 
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Posted By: stefany3
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:45am
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Haha, Bowie, most of my friends are against cloth nappies, but I still went ahead and used them, and I LOVE them. SHAME on them for trying to put me off! They are so easy to clean, and over summer the sun is excellent for them to get the stains off. One day Isaac spent the day at MILs and she soaked the nappies in Napisan for me to get the poo off *EEEK!!* I freaked out at her a little bit. Now I send him there in disposables as a precaution if he's there for the day without me.
As far as other parenting... The other day my parents were over, and Isaac (19months) was running around with the TV remote, and my mum tried to tell him to put it down, and dad quietly said to her "Well his parents don't seem to mind" LOL. I have read to pick your battles with the kids, and a TV remote is not worth arguing over IMO. ------------- 
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 10:20am
Aww, thats gorgeous of your dad, love a good bit of support from the sidelines 
We almost need a third thread: Genius Advice from our Mothers. Bless them, i'm sure there are some excellent old fashioned techniques they use that arent insane. Back on topic though, my cousin has a three month baby who has well mastered the art of rolling over, and over, and over even though she's young to do it. Her MIL refuses to believe such a young baby can roll and leaves her on the couch all the time alone because its IMPOSSIBLE for a three month old to be quite capable of rolling off. |
Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 11:31am
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Love your dad stefany3!
My latest was this morning as my mother coo'ed at my almost-5-month-old over Skype "you poor little thing! I cant believe your mother wont give you any food yet, you must be STARVING!". She says no wonder he's up all night, obviously my breastmilk isn't enough to keep him full. If she were here she'd no doubt be trying to sneak him food when I turned my back. Thank heavens we live on different continents. When she saw a pic of him in the Moby wrap she started posting me clippings from newspapers about babies who had suffocated (in bag slings incidentally). There's the name thing where she decided our son's name was going to be Eli and so referred to him as such throughout the pregnancy before having a complete fit about his actual name. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 11:53am
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Eeek Azza! How, errrr, *helpful* of her!
Love that comment by your dad Stefany! My sister, who has a dream baby that is fat and happy and sleeps, is full of useless advice for how to get DD to sleep better. Honestly, if the basic stuff she suggested worked, DD would have been sleeping through months ago!! That said, at least they care. I find it pretty disheartening how completely disinterested my inlaws are in DD  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 11:58am
Hehe I was told "My guess is you'll last three months tops of using cloth nappies then you'll get sick of it and go to disposables" but nup, up till last week DD was still in cloth, and now she's toilet trained at 22months  (still use cloth nappies at night time though)
And as for other people. Well we had some friends come over the other day who we hadn't seen in 6months. Chelsea climbed up on the couch and sat down, and my friend said "Off the couch Chelsea, it's only for grown ups" lol I didn't say anything, didn't want them thinking I'm a terrible mother for letting my child sit on the couch
And my step-grandmother (who is really lovely) has all sorts of strange advice, ranging from "don't feed the next baby so much, it spoils them" to "leave it to cry the moment you're home, cuddles spoil them" lol, hmm ok. ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 12:30pm
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Hrmmmmm my toddler is always on the couch
I could be here all day about things my MIL says 
-DD shouldnt be in a bed before 2.5yrs -I should let dd scream when its nap time -She should be on a 4 hr routine as a baby(this women has no idea about BFing) -She should be in bed by 630pm everynight - why bother with rear facing, mil never did why should i - baths should be in the morning - i offer her to much variety of food - we leave the house far to much - she is spoilt and we buy her too much Really it just goes on & on. My parents however are sweet, never said one thing to be about how i raise DD. -------------  
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 12:37pm
What the hell, its not like shes a dog up on the couch lol. DH's granny is full of "useful" advice - DD should be in a bed by now cos she's one, Im making a rod for my own back by getting up to her in the middle of the night and giving her water (I should just roll her over and tell her to go back to sleep) umm yeah she comes out with some pretty old school advice for me at times  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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rachelsea wrote:Posted By: AngieBabe
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 1:10pm
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Hmmmmm... thankfully nothing too much yet from my family or friends though it is starting with the rolled eyes and grimaces everytime I mention Baby-led weaning to my mother (I'm interested in learning about BLW and doing that or in combo with purees, but, well, Mum thinks I'm a little to even think about it).
Oh yeah, and my brother did poo-poo me getting a Radian carseat so Josh would be rear-facing for longer, telling me that he'll complain and want to forward-face sooner so it'll be a waste (or something to that effect) 
The one that really irritated me though was while preggy still I mentioned to some ladies I work with (who are older and already have kids) that I was planning on not using any pain-relief during labour if I could at all avoid it. They promptly told me that was silly of me, and 'just you wait, you'll be begging for everything going'... I'm proud to say I got through an induced labour with only accupressure and gas towards the end  (so there! you know-it-alls)------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 1:17pm
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OK, so I'm REALLY not getting these people telling your babies not to do stuff in your own home!! I could totally understand if it was at their place and they didn't want the TV re-programmed by accident... I could even kind of understand the couch one if it was at someone elses place (not really sure why... but it would be their couch...) but why on earth would they say something like that when the things involved are yours??? Weird.
We've had comments about cloth nappies too. Lots of people seem to think it's a bit weird to use them. Thankfully, no-one's tried to tell me I shouldn't... just acted like I was a bit strange . I think it makes lots of sense, although I'm not anti-disposable, he wears them at night. On the other hand, I some of the comments I get are from people who are just genuinly interested to see how I'm finding them.-------------   
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Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 2:06pm
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Angie - I had similar and it is nice to go back and tell people that you didn't need any drugs!
I haven't thankfully had anyone say anything about the way I do things. But I don't have any really old relatives around anymore so that is prob why! Mum thought it was odd I wanted to use cloth until she saw what they looked like. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kazper
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 2:16pm
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Funnily enough I have had comments about cloth nappies to, but its people telling me I should use them and not disposables.
Here are some I have had: Your poor child having to rear face. Her legs must get sore and she must hate not being able to see out the window (which she can and legs don't even get close to back seat yet). She doesn't have reflux and if she does you shouldn't give drugs (medication) to babies, so she will live. There is no such thing as dairy intolerant. Let the poor girl have cheese - even if it means she gets diarrhea and screams all night from stomach cramps. As a newborn - she is too hot. Take those clothes off her (MIL takes clothes off in front of me and then stands in front of door with a cold breeze coming in on a half naked newborn
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Posted By: shadowfeet
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 2:45pm
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My Mum tells me how I shouldn't waste my money on expensive things for DD (like a decent pram) and then told me she didn't like the buckle on the one that we got instead ------------- 
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Posted By: shadowfeet
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 2:56pm
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Also, both my Mum and FIL have been telling me that DD must be ready to toilet train by now and how I should be marching her to the potty. Absolutely nothing about her is ready to toilet train so I don't know where they think they get off telling me that. This same FIL keeps saying that DD must be coming up to 12 months soon, the latest at the weekend. She's been 1 for 3 weeks already -------------
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 3:24pm
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[QUOTE=AngieBabe] Hmmmmm... thankfully nothing too much yet from my family or friends though it is starting with the rolled eyes and grimaces everytime I mention Baby-led weaning to my mother (I'm interested in learning about BLW and doing that or in combo with purees, but, well, Mum thinks I'm a little to even think about it).QUOTE]
Oh, SNAP!! I am at least interested to learn about it though i'm obviously a long way away from doing it and had a book on it lying around, Mom is horrified and lectured me on the apple and liver purees i used to live on as a child. Why arent children allowed on couches? Is she an animal?! Like someone said, i understand if it was their italian leather sofa and she was sticky or something but your couch at home...?! I have a friend tell me every time i see her i'm stupid for wanting a natural birth and that the risks and side effects are a possibility but the pain is a definate so i should take the probable risk to avoid the definate. Course she's not pregnant, never has been so its almost worse! Shut up until you've done it, lady! |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 3:40pm
Yikes, my DD is the same age as yours and there is no way she's ready to toilet train! Especially considering he thinks she's not even 1 yet! Are they volunteering to clean up after her? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: JAFAjaffa
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 4:28pm
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Yeah I had piles of people tell me that there was no way I would be able to have a drug free birth and that'd I'd be begging for pain relief. It was more than a little satisfying to go back later and tell them that I had done what I had wanted, and had a big baby too (4.7kg) - so it isn't impossible!
My mother kept undoing Alex's swaddle when he was a newborn because she thought it was mean to strap him down like that. Once I figured out what was going on I told her if she did it again I'd break her fingers. Not really but I wanted to. Someone at my work told me that I was a martyr for still breastfeeding when Alex was 10 months old. I was expressing at work 2x per day because my husband was at home but since I hadn't actually said anything to her (she'd just seen me coming out of the parents room with the pump) I thought that was really off. And finally (wow, I'm a grump!), when I offered to send someone who was having twins a whole lot of information on cloth nappies if she was interested I had to put up with a load of people going on about how cloth isn't environmentally friendly and it's so difficult and so messy and blah blah blah. None of these people had used cloth nappies. I wasn't criticising their choice to use disposables, why did they feel like they had to go off about cloth?? ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 4:45pm
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Posted By: Mucky_Tiger
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 5:12pm
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two of our friends had wee boys in may,
one lot of parents went out and brought a complete birth to TT set of itti's and is planning to BF to 2yrs old. the other stocked up on disposibles and didnt produce any milk so couldnt BF. other friends who have never had babies (and claim they dont ever want them) was bitching to them about how cloth nappies are stupid and a waste of money as who spends $800 on nappies in one go, and why BF that long they only need it till they start on solids. she then was moaning to the other one about how she is a bad mum for not trying to BF and for giving him formula.
we were discussing it and i said i when we have kids we will BF until 2, use cloth naps adn extended rear face. she had opinions on all them too. and to top it off our other friend found out they were preg after 6months trying and she had the balls to tell them 'dont get too attached you might loose it still'
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 5:50pm
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Lol Kazper I read that first as your MIL took her OWN clothes off and stood naked, I thought, "crikey! you poor thing,that must have been awkward, looking at your husband's naked mum "
Hmm, cloth noone has really said anything to us, and if they have looked a bit ...bemused, by the time DH has finished explaining the benefits of cloth nappies and how we haven't had to buy nappies since Ty was 3 months as opposed to disposables a lot more often and all the other pluses, his audience is ready to go out and by some cloth nappies themselves. My big thing was certain people making me feel like I was lazy the first few weeks after having Ty because my house wasn't spotless and I would rest (which is what my MW told me to do ) when he was sleeping.....annoys me now all that time I wasted worrying about housework and that I must be a lazy mum when I should have just been enjoying my baby. THIS time Dh has demanded that I leave all the housework to him and that if he even sees me out of bed except to eat or use the toilet when Amelia is sleeping he will be "very cross " Funnily enough most of the "advice" or rather, negative comments/raised eyebrows/look of "I wouldn't do it that way " are from friends who have never been pregnant nor have children. Ha, let them, they will find out one day, ....I was a perfect parent too, until I actually had kids ------------- 
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Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 6:27pm
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OMG MT!!!!!! that is so rude!
hmmmm i have only had one 'real goer' and that was my mum about us doing BLW with R. but about a month or 2 after that, she was/is cool with it and now always offers him food when he is hungry (around bottles etc of course) tbh mum pushed the cloth nappies. I said i was interested in using them and looking at prices/pros/cons etc, and she made me 15 of them lol. oh but she likes the CC/CIO type method, but knows I don't so meets me halfway which is good. I know the difference between his 'no! there are still people here! i want to play! but im so tired! but i want to play!' cry and his 'muuuuuuuuuuuuum i need a cuddle! where did you go?! come back!' cry, and i dont mind leaving him to grizzle, but i always go to him when the grizzle turns into the scream cry. and she knows that and even when i leave him there, i know she will go to him, because thats how we are raising him. DPs folks just agree with everything we do because R is a happy healthy chubby little bubba and is right on track, if not slightly ahead of 'average' so they dont care. they have a grandchild so all is good lol.
ummm i seem to attract people while im out lol. i can easily stand and talk to someone i dont know for half an hour and make a friend, and often R is the subject of conversation lol. maybe i have one of those personalities that everyone agrees with? lol. so other than those few my-mum points, no 'bad advice' here. my aunty and nana love that we bedshared too. other aunty told me not too, she is a NICU nurse, so i guess may be used to babies in cots? and being in a hospital may hear the horror stories? but i explained that even if i had so much as a sip of a drink, a panadol for a headache or was extra tired, i would put him in his bassinet so was super cautoius about that. and all is good. no complaints about FF after trying to BF either. just lots of positive comments that I can try BFing again next time, and at least I know now what a good latch feels like and that I know even if it doesnt work, well R is a happy healthy boy on formula so no point beating myself up about it. Feeling really lucky after some of the comments you lovely ladies have gotten!!!!! |
Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 8:04pm
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 8:09pm
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Haha, I thought of another one. My (young!) brothers and sisters took a huge objection to the fact that Jacob has a couple of lilac nappies. Apparently they are much too girly, and he shouldn't wear them They tell me off when they 'catch' him wearing one -------------
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 8:49pm
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Haha my brother (21) is the same, he's terribly judgemental of my taste in clothes. Especially since a bit of the newborn stuff is on the girly side since i brought it before i found out what flavour i had!
Speaking of which, my gran is always muttering about having gowns for the baby...i dont know wtf a gown is exactly but i'm picturing those big white dress things?! |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 8:53pm
Hehe, that reminds me of a saying along the lines of "once I had several theories and no children, now I have several children and no theories" True, isn't it? My sister also told me when I was pregnant, that labour doesn't actually hurt, women just make a big deal out of it if they are sooks. Umm yeah. A couple of months ago I got a text from her "OMG contractions hurt" followed by another one later on "so the midwife says they are just braxton hincks and I'm not in labour afterall". I laughed rather hard but didn't remind her of her comment to me. Lol at the lilac nappies Hopes. If I have a boy next, he's going to have quite a collection of girly nappies, but heck, he's only going to poo in them!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 8:54pm
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Yep bowie, those big white dress things - although they come in much less frilly versions too. The idea is they are easier for changing nappies in, which you have to do a lot of in a newborn. I had a couple but found I didn't actually like them much and hardly used them anyway. But other people swear by them. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 8:56pm
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:12pm
Like these, Bowie?
My brothers and sisters also gave me a lot of stick about dressing Jacob in these! FAR too girly for them (They were ones that my brothers wore when they were babies, that I borrowed off Mum. She had frillier ones for us girls).
I agree, T_Rex, I didn't like them as much as onesies. They were easy for changing, but they tended to ride up and bunch round his waist. -------------
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Posted By: Kazper
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:24pm
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[QUOTE=TheKelly] Lol Kazper I read that first as your MIL took her OWN clothes off and stood naked, I thought, "crikey! you poor thing,that must have been awkward, looking at your husband's naked mum "
Hahahaha that made my day. Man that would be horrific alright. Last week a friend told me that her husband hates DD's amber necklace and thinks its ugly  - umm ok. Great you thought it necessary to tell me that. And then she continued to say that she had to explain to him that its medicinal and had a smirk on her face while saying it. - Gee just cause you don't believe in them doesn't give ya permission to bag my choice in having one.------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/545141" rel="nofollow"> |
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:38pm
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Cloth nappies - I got a lot of support, I was a cloth nappy baby until I was about 9 months old (my gran would use the white squares on me but my mum would use sposies and always packed them for my gran to use who never did) but one day my gran decided to test the sposie and never looked back!
But when I said I wanted to use cloth, I said reusable nappy and I got a ' ' look. They had NO idea what I was talking about so I bought some to show them and they were like 'Oh what's wrong with the old cloth nappies, you'll never get the right fit, they'll leak, you'll stain them, have to bleach them, soak them - blah!' I got them and caught my mum soaking them lmao she said it wasn't right other wise...
We now use sposies because she out grew the nappies I got and couldn't afford the big spend on cloth in one go - wish I'd know about osfa! Hmm cosleeping is a HUGE one! My family are supportive, dp not so much, and all my friends go 'Oh you'll want to cut that out, wait til she's older, you'll have so many attachment problems, oh but you want your own space surely??????' but hey she sleeps better so I ain't going to kick it in the butt + I coslept until I was about 7 - didn't do me any harm and I have no attachment issues, in fact I value my alone time as a result if you ask me! BFing... Family are supportive 100%, friends are like 'When are you stopping?' - surely you'll stop at 12mo, formula is so much easier (rofl really?!)... BLW - family are supportive, dp coming around to it, friends - 'doesn't she choke?' 'she has no teeth!' ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:42pm
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Okay where to I actually start with this one. I had MIL telling me it is better to have such an early miscarriage as I can see it as a glorified period.
When I was pregnant with McKayla she told me I can go out and work after baby and she can look after her and even better I can drop her off on a Monday and fetch on Friday as we lived so far. (she later said it was a joke however). She insisted that milk might not be good enough and I might have to formula feed (might be the reason why I got so bloody stubborn about bf) She insisted that McKayla was hungry and while I was drugged up after an emergency op at 4 and a half months she got the porridge ready for McKayla to be fed. So that is all on tape with Daddy feeding and me being in pain next to them and McKayla landed up having like 3 bowls and me being told she must be so hungry. Still mad about that. I was told that Andrew should get circumsized. She wasnt too fond about the co-sleeping and that it creates too much dependance and she also didnt like me having them picked up the whole time and they should be on the floor (which they are but when they want to be upped they get upped). She took McKayla out of time outs when I put her in. She laughed a few times when I tried to discipline Andrew but then didnt think it is funny when he did things to her then and then called him very Naughty boy (which I dont like, rather say what he is doing is naughty but dont call him names.) So that is MIL. Friends just back off as such but mostly think we are too strict sometimes. My Dad is fantastic and my mother thinks the kids bibles the kids have is wrong and blah blah blah and being raised by a family where the Godparents are muslim and one parent half pagan half Christian and being open to religeon and all that is just insane and part of the underworld. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:57pm
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I thought of 2 more - carseats...
I was going to do extended rear facing with Lily and got all the 'Oh she'll be uncomfortable, she'll want to see what's going on, she'll hate facing the back of the seat (hey, doesn't she face the back of the seat front facing too??)' etc. Our carseat only rear faces to 9kg after being told if went longer (rang manufacturer and they said go with the smaller number to be on safe side) anyway... I then got 'is she forward facing?, have you seen what happens to young babies who are forward faced to early...' blah - can't win! At least I strap her in, some parents can't even manage that. And #2 - crying... DP can't stand her crying, even if it's just a grizzle 'I'm tired but want to stay up and play!' cry! I know the difference between her cries - pain, hungry, tired, tired but want to stay up, etc... And I can tell if she will nod off soon or if I should get her up for another 30 odd mins. My mum and dp will rush in the second she makes a peep - me I wait it out. Sleep gowns - MIL and Mum swore by them and they were great for nappy changes but they always rode up! Clothes - I tend to dress DD in a lot of aio or bodysuits as I hate her wearing a tshirt or top and it rides up revealing her back/tummy (me personally I hate the chill) and it annoys me when other mums who dress their babies like dolls say 'Aww, what' mummy dressing you in??' Labour - oh that reminds me! My friend (doesn't have kids) said so are you going to have a cesar or a vagina birth... I replied a vagina birth I hope... 'oh but you'll get so stretched down there! Have a cesar! So much more classier! All the celebs do it!' Then she asked what drugs I was going to use - I said maybe an epi but wanted to go as long as I could without and she said 'Oh but it'll hurt so much!' (How would she know??) And another BF one... Same girl asked if I was going to FF, I said no, wanted to try BF first but was open to FF if BFing didn't work out and she said to just FF because my boobs would get stretchmarks and sag to the floor by the time I was finished! lol... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 10:29pm
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Hmmm, where do I start? I've had negative input regarding a lot of my parenting decisions.
Cloth Nappies - MIL continued to tell me I wouldn't do it, it would be too much work and not worth it. BLW - most people freak out about what DS does and doesn't eat, that he isn't eating enough etc etc Baby Wearing - DS will become too attached if I wear him all the time and won't learn to walk or crawl properly. Not using products in the bath - I won't be able to clean him properly, he'll smell and be filthy. Co-Sleeping - again he'll be too attached and won't ever sleep on his own. Not letting him cry - he's manipulating me and I'm "giving in" to him by going to him straight away. Extended BF - he doesn't need it anymore. Rear Facing Carseat - he'll be uncomfortable and miserable because he's different. He'll get dizzy riding backwards. Its not fair. ETA - I don't drink at all because I'm BFing and the number of times I'm faced with people telling me "just one won't hurt", "go on, its more sociable", especially this time of year, I don't have any problem with those that have a couple now and then, but it is my choice not to and I really shouldn't have to justify that to anyone. There is probably actually more but that is all I can think of right now -------------  
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 7:12am
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Yup, there's another 2 from MamaT - babywearing - FIL laughs really hard everytime I wear Lily and always has some comment regarding my wrap or carrier... MIL bites her tongue and DP calls it hippyish and 'didn't know he dated a hippy with the way I parent and 'why can't we do it normally?' '
and the BFing and not drinking - 'Oh but I've seen other mums drink before!' - were they BFing? And I always say I'm allowed X amount whilst bfing but I choose not to because I am unsure on '1 standard drink' size as are others. Plus we demand feed, my pump is broken... Erm I like to occasionally co sleep and would not do it after drinking jic plus DP usually hates me drinking anyway. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nicandtyler
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 7:49am
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haha where do I even start?
*still* breastfeeding - the amount of times I have people asking me when i'm going to stop and switch to formula because "he doesn't need it anymore and won't be getting any nutrients from it anymore" wtf! my dads horrible gf who I loathe said to me the other day after our xmas dinner "oh nic why are you still bf" me: because he's not ready to stop" her: "well what happens when you want to go out and socialise" me: he comes. or i feed him to sleep before I go if its at night" and she was like "oh how awful for you!" grrrrr i hate that woman. co-sleeping is another biggie, apparently im building a rod for my own back and that i shouldn't do it as i'll never get him into his own cot, i'm letting him manipulate me etc etc not CC or CIO - he 'needs' to cry, im spoiling him, he needs to learn that I cant respond to all his cries and the list goes on and on and on haha extended rearfacing - it wasn't until recently I really became aware of how important it is so DS rearfaces now all the time in my car - but apparently he'll get bored, I can't see him, he can't see me, he needs to see me etc *sigh* that's not even the half of it lol! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:01am
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crikey, reading these makes you go ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
 
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Posted By: tiptoes
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 11:48am
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I got told my 6 month old must get car sick riding RF and it was mean. Of course that was by a friend without any kids.
I've been pretty lucky I think with a lot of the other things like babywearing, cloth nappies, BF and FF. My friends and family must know they'll get their heads bitten off if they try and tell me what to do hahaha!!! ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">  
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Posted By: amme_eilyk
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 12:19pm
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some of that is just ridiculous. My dad thought the same thing about rear facing long term, until I explained that it is safer, and that you can get mirrors so you can see them etc. he was impressed when he saw the carseats that we have now, especially the plunkett ones and how much they have improved (admittedly it has been 20 years since they last used one).
also my brothers gf was really cute about using cloth nappies and was printing out instructions for folding the old cloth nappies for us. until I showed her our ones and she was amazed. Apparently they have come a long way in the 11 years since her brother was born. |
Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 12:53pm
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a lot of criticism i've recieved has been because I DON'T babywear, I DON'T co sleep and I DON'T do extended rear facing ....well with the other two, will see what happens with this one.
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:44pm
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You can't win Kelly!
On days where I haven't co slept or worn Lily, I've had comments too! Like at our parents room there is a gate seperating the play area/bf area from the changing area and exit! I struggle to undo the gate, open it and push a pram through and once got told 'If you didn't splash out on a p&t and wore your baby instead - life would be so much simpler! Little did she know I do wear Lily just not 24/7. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 8:46pm
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Did you tell her "if you didn't decide to be a judgemental cow and helped me open the gate I wouldn't have any problems would I ?" -------------
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 9:07pm
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Lol nah, but it does amaze me that some people just watch you struggling, I always help... In fact I have helped someone and then when it was time to switch no help was offered back! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kandk
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 10:52pm
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My Mum is anothr generation altogether (almost 80!) and she was very scathing about the modern tendency to use disposables - she was delighted when I told her I was planning on using cloth. And then astonished when I showed her what I meant, rather than what she was envisaging Now she is really keen to go out and buy more for me! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: blossombaby
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 11:03pm
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haha yes i have had my fair share in 'advice' .... including friends now calling me the 'on of those new age mum' just because im still bf, i have a sling and a moby (for convinence), i buy baby lots of wooden toys and organic cotton clothes etc, i have a stack of ittis i use! (cos they are cute) and that i plain on bwl as to puree. one friend who has a 4yr old tryed to give my baby (3.5mnths) a potato chip the other day (WTFFFFF) oh and we are co sleeping atm
my dad is super laid back thinks we are doing a great job and think blw is a great idea!! my mum is ........ helpful i guess haha she changes babys clothes EVERYTIME she has her wetehr its adding socks, putting on a cardi or just simply changing the outfit for no reason?? MIL was full of ideas at the start but after a feel snap backs at her she doesnt do near as many now .. tho she rekons she should be giving baby boiled warm water (she DOESNT need it she if bf and I DONT want to introduce it until solids!) that we should be co sleeping we are amking it hard ... well you flipping get up 1 - 3 times per night and see how the flip you feel! plus i am working parttime its easy to feed baby this way! friends - are full of ideas that i should just go out and have a feel drinks and just give baby formula the next day ... the formula part doesnt bother me but the hard, leaking boobs in the middle of town at 3am does ......  ... oh and my daughter has to many clothes .. thats A because its easy to dress her so hard to find myself things theses days, B) i enjoy spending our $$ on her and not myself now days i have more then enough clothes and shoes and plus baby stuff is cheaper!!
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 12:26am
hahaha same
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 9:12am
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I was co-slept until I was a preschooler (I think I got kicked out when my brother came along 4 years later cos they'd only co-sleep 2 at a time), and let me assure you, I have no desire to go and hop back in with my parents now!! I've always been a pretty independent person as long as I can remember. I really don't know where some people get these ideas
The worst I've had recently was the nurse looking after DD when she had her grommets. They got done on her birthday because that was the day the hospital offered, and it was either accept it or wait until after christmas. Given she was in heaps of pain, I accepted it. She was only turning one after all, and we held a party for her another day. Anyway, the nurse went on and on about what a mean mum I was for bringing her in on her birthday. I wanted to rip her head off because it was so out of line and given I've patiently and lovingly sat up with my poor girl all night for months on end as she deals with ear infections, I'm nothing close to a mean mum, and in truth the grommets were the best birthday present she could have had. I bit my tongue cos I was scared she might be grumpy with DD when I was sent out of the room, but man, she made me mad ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 9:30am
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far out T_Rex if you were a mean mummy you wouldnt have taken her in at all....like you say why would you wait when your baby is already in so much pain and not like your daughter will even remember it being her birthday ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 9:39am
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apparently my husband and his brother were both dry at night by the age of 2..yes but their parents got them up each night to take them to the toilet..which they did for a number of years probably till they were about 3 or 4? now to me a child is not truly dry at night until they have gone to bed at their usual bedtime and then woke up at their usual time (with the parent getting them to go to the toilet) and wakes up dry. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 10:17am
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Hehe, NovMum, apparently I *decided* one day when I was about 18 months old that nappies were for babies and I didn't want to wear them anymore. This was just as mum was trying to dress me for bed and I hadn't even started day training. I put up one heck of a fight as she tried to put a night nappy on me, and in the end she couldn't get it on, so decided to negotiate with me that she'd let me go to bed without a nappy on just this once, but if I wet the bed I had to put one on again. She didn't think I stood a chance, but I never wet the bed or wore a nappy again. I'm hopeful DD will do the same, but somehow think I might be out of luck Especially as none of my many brothers or sisters were that easy to toilet train. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: snugglebug
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 8:47pm
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After having issues with breastfeeding because of DS having reflux, mother in law constantly tells me my milk is bad and he isnt getting enough from it, it's not reflux it's just your milk. Despite him having an awesome weight gain since he was born. She never breastfed her kids I may add.
I get told I overreact and he's just a normal baby, he doesn't have reflux and just relax. Hmm ok. You don't spend every day with him and watch him screaming in pain. Mother in law also thinks everything is fixed with a bottle of cooled boiled water. No matter what the problem. Ok sometimes it works but for reflux it is no help at all ------------- Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Kazper
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 9:00pm
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LOL LittleN similar situation here. DD had sever reflux and started losing weight and after trying so hard to keep bf my Plunket and Dr advised I needed to switch to formula. My MIL gave me soooo much flack about it. She was so horrible and said she doesn't believe in reflux and that even if her baby was sick she wouldn't give any medication and nothing would stop her from bf. Months later I find out from one of her relatives that she ff all four of her babies from a very young age. ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/545141" rel="nofollow"> |
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 10:09pm
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Yeah, I thought DD had reflux and my Dr told me that woman hear of other babies have reflux and often try diagnose their babies with reflux, and it's 'so over diagnosed' and often doctors just give the medication because the mothers plead. Needless to say I don't know if DD did or does have reflux, if she ever did it has improved but for a while there I did think she did!
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Posted By: scribe
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 10:53pm
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Yes the unhelpful advice I received all had to do with reflux too - people not believing (I reeeally got sick of being told it was 'wind'), or saying it was my milk, or my MIL suggesting maybe she was screaming because I was putting her down to sleep hungry
I wouldn't say it was overdiagnosed - I would say the opposite, I know of friends with clearly (IMHO) refluxy babies who battled on for months and months because they listened to all that rubbish advice and thought it must be colic, or they must be doing something wrong, or just plain hated the idea of medicating their baby (but again, IMO, why should a baby suffer through it when there are meds to make them feel better?) But interesting about your Mum KandK, I found my grandmother (just gone 80) often has a lot more similar ideas to me than my mother's generation does - cloth nappies, making things from scratch, choosing to be a SAHM, we seem to have 'swung back around' in some ways. |
Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 12:37am
My Nana is the same, she's totally into everything my cousin and I are doing with our bubs (cousin's DD is one day older than DS2) and was really impressed with the Moby we gave my cousin as a baby gift. GRRR my MIL, who is generally lovely and came over for 3 weeks to help out last month (so I shouldn't complain but I will) told me that her mum told her that crying is "just what babies do" .. this was after a couple of hours of Daniel being very unsettled/upset with reflux one night. One minute I'm not feeding him often enough and the next I should be limiting his time on the (.) because *I'm* causing his sore tummy. Which is actually reflux, rack off!! Also, DH works so I should look after the kids' 100% - I shouldn't be "forcing him" to get up in the night or do the odd late feed so I can sleep a few hours in a row. And she "doesn't understand our routine" but she does it coz she knows it's "what we want." i.e what we're doing is wrong, but she'll go along with it anyway
AND she kept going on about D needing to feed at 6,10,2,6 and 10. No matter how many times I said, actually that's not what we're doing and I am exclusively BF so if he's hungry he gets fed, he doesn't need to be "stretched out" to 4 hrly feeds just because that's what you did back in the day. Oh and when I was pumping to relieve crazy engorged boobs and so that DH could help with some feeds when DS was younger she said to DH, "I don't know why she's pumping, I never did that with you two" (DH and SIL) .. yep OK, whatever. Honestly if I keep going my head will explode! I get really pi$$ed off with random strangers at the playground that hover around Callum or "help" him up steps/ladders or down slides when he is clearly capable of doing it himself because he's already in the middle of doing it Today some helpful lady told me he was too young for the playground!------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 3:29pm
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I hate the IL at the moment....
They cut DS1 hair while he stayed with them for 2 days...it looks like they used a bowl & blunt scissors, uneven short fringe...they did not tell me they did it...looked me in the face & did not say a word. I have to take him to the hair dressers this week as he has a party to go to & will get laughed at...FCUK I HATE THEM... |
Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 4:04pm
grrr noone and I mean noone cuts my children's hair without my say so that would totally p*ss me right off!!! |
Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 4:08pm
I'd have been livid!!!!! How dare they cut your child's hair without permission! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 4:10pm
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Jazzy hoe rude! I'd be so annoyed! I would like to be informed first! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 4:21pm
thxs don't know what to do as am upset over it & other things thanks to them
If I was to say something (which I so want to) to them they will throw a tanty & then everything will be my fault...but I am so angry & they want him for the weekend with his cousin at end of month... DH says just get over it...grrr |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 4:34pm
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 5:25pm
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Oooh Jazzy I feel your anger!! My ex ILs gave B his first haircut and didnt even ASK me!! His lock of hair in his baby book is actually from when he was 3 and I had to get his haircut that summer..
Mum knows not to try giving me advice because I will turn around and just do the opposite, I'm a tad too sensitive/headstrong/pig-headed (take your pick lol) to listen to advice I didnt ask for... used to get it from the ex ILs alll the freaking time... heaps of 'advice' but no actual help! The winning piece of advice wasnt so much about parenting as it was my 'housewifely duties' I caught my ex out over some extremely dodgy email conversations with some other woman... I rang the ex MIL and told her about it, only to be informed that maybe it was partly MY fault as I wasnt providing a happy enough home for him (Lets see... living in a town with no friends, no family, battling undiagnosed PND, married for all of 5 months, with a 7 month old... how happy a home am i supposed to provide when he's already attempting to cheat on me!?). Her advice was to write a letter and leave it for him to read outlining how hurt I was and blah blah blah....but only after he'd come home from work, had a nice dinner and time to relax... yeah I dont think so! DP's family have SFA to do with us, although BILs wife (the one that does actually talk to us!) keeps trying to treat me like one of her kids who need to be told what to do etc... I will send my son to whatever school I choose to... not private just because its what YOU did lady! I went to public school and I got a good enough education, so dont knock it! I could never do co-sleeping long-term... I never had B in my bed once, had Jae in with us a few times out of sheer desperation cos she wouldnt sleep, and we were worried about pi$$ing FIL off in the next room with a crying baby in the middle of the night... but those nights I couldnt sleep because i was worried about either of us rolling over etc... and I like my sleep too much to do that again! ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 7:22pm
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this was a few years before we even started TTC....one thing my husband and I had always agreed on was we wanted to buy a house before starting a family.
I was about 29/30 and we were still renting. I had a couple of people say to me taht I should start trying now as it could take a few years. well when we did start trying I got pregnant that month. I always said I would rather it take a year or 2 after we have bought a house rather than us try while were were still renting and it happens right away resulting in not being able to buy a house for a long time as it would mean moving into a bigger house hence paying less rent and becaus I would not be working less money (so less money to put towards a deposit)(the place we were renting wasnt suitable for children nor was it big enough was cramped enough with just the 2 of us). oh and I was almost 32 when #1 was born and almost 34 when #2 was born (he took 3 months to concieve) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Shelt
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 9:42pm
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Some of the best (worst lol) comments made to me about my decisions re parenting choices:
- G at 3 months screaming with reflux while I was trying to eat my (cold) lunch at a cafe and being told by the lady at the table next to mine that she was just hungry and I should feed her more - being told by a lady at plunket coffee group that my "poor child" would freeze to death because I had put a 2 month old in a t-shirt and shorts as it was 30 degrees out side. - several comments from mums my age (late 20's/early 30's) at work when I went back after 5 months that I was crazy to still be BFing/using cloth nappies/making my own baby food because surely I had better things to do with my time - helpful comments by the nurses at the hospital the 4 times G was in between 6 - 10 months that it was my own fault she kept getting sick and ending up in hospital coz I sent her to daycare 2.5 days a week (possibly true but extremely unhelpful to a scared/worried parent of a very sick child) - comments by a lady at work about how I must carry G around too much as she didn't start crawling till 13 months and walking till 17 months. WTF - if the child can't move by herself how is she supposed to get somewhere if I don't carry her
- comments from friends about how they don't believe little kids should wear jeans coz they are difficult to move around in and this must be why G likes sitting on the floor playing instead of tearing around like a "normal" toddler. While my child was sitting happily at my feet wearing jeans and a hoodie she also told me that kids should wear clothes that make them look like kids and not like a little hoodlum. I was particularly mad at this one coz I put G in jeans because they are hard wearing and stand up to a lot of wear and tear in the knee area from a child that falls and skins her knees all the time. ETA to fix spelling ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 9:53pm
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Posted By: Shelt
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 9:57pm
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Oh yeah and the number of people who think I've abandoned my 2 year old in a shop when she is just looking at the toys on the bottom shelves nice and quietly and I'm only half an aisle away. An old lady came up to her today and asked her where her mummy was and why her mummy had left her there by herself - I was only just down the aisle and had my eye on her. Its just that looking at the stuff at her level keeps her occupied while I try and look at other things. G told her she "no liked you lady" and then pointed at me and said mummy over there. The lady looked over at me and said I should keep my eye on her then walked off. Well I was till you interferred lady
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 10:07pm
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Oh Shelt I had the carry comment about S. I had picked him up out of a swing and was holding him talking to a lady who was putting her kid on the swing when she asked if he was walking yet, I said no and she turned to him and said "is it cos your mummy carries you everywhere" And at my 20 week scan with K, S was crawling around the floor of the waiting area and this nurse asked how old he was and then told us "oh he should be walking by now". Oh well really, don't tell me tell him! ------------- 
 
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 10:14pm
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ah you see 2boys,that is because some people believe that babies follow this manual,that tells them exactly when they should be crawling and walking, unfortunately,the majority of babies haven't actually read it and prefer to do things at their own individual pace.
...Which reminds me,last night at the inlaws,one of their friends kept trying to get Ty to talk, which he doesn't and wont, and she said "he'll talk soon,don't worry " I said "I'm not worried, he understands perfectly and once he talks,he wont ever shut up " That shut her trap for awhile. -------------
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 10:25pm
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Kelly, that's a good one! late talking runs on my side of the family! Out of 3 generations (my grandfather, my mum and me) I was the only one who talked early, my mum was about 2.5 and my grandfather was about 3 (but he had extra large tonsils and something else and had to have an op to fix it) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 10:28pm
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C talked really early...and it was fun for 5minutes lol, Im not concerned about Ty but so many people (older usually ) seem to think I should be *rolls eyes* -------------
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 10:41pm
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Oooh I had the comments about mine not walking either, B was a bum shuffler, and refused to walk until 18 months, Jae didnt crawl until a week before she turned 1, then 5 months later she suddenly took her first steps (PAFT got up my nose a bit, they were telling me her feet were too 'tactile sensitive' and needed to be checked out just cos she kept curling her feet on the carpet while standing)... now shes walking everywhere and noone would know she started 'late'. One of my cousins bragged (after I had posted on FB saying my baby was finally walking) that HER kid was already walking and wasnt even one yet. Little did she realise that I was in NO hurry for Jae to walk, I knew she'd do it in her own time, and the longer she took, the longer I had to rearrange the house after FIL moved out!
As for talking... Jae has a couple of easily understood words, but shes no performing seal, and will only say them at home with us... I know she understands a LOT more than she will say, and I'm quite happy with how she is tracking along... B was a 'late' talker, his first word was 'bird' at 16 months old... yet by the time he turned 2 he was able to string several words together, and by the time he turned 3 was easily able to hold his own in a conversation with adults. All in their own time ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 7:33am
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Oh, I had that too, crawling bit!
Lily crawled Xmas day about 10 months old and before than, the moment she could roll everyone was going 'She'll be crawling soon!' and would constantly go on about it! And it got to the point where she was really close but not quite there and everyone was telling me it wasn't normal for a baby to not crawl and she would and she NEEDED to do X hours before X age or it would affect her schooling... (wtf? althought something about using the whole brain). Lily was a bum shuffler until Xmas, and until New Years she still preferring it to crawling, now she finds crawling faster! But back to the topic, people were telling me I wasn't doing enough to help her crawl and it was just weird if she walked then crawled (which is what I did). I'm now being told I should invest in a walker to get her walking, but I am perfectly fine with her not walking yet and would not waste $$ on a walker when she'll outgrow it rather quickly. Plus she hates being restrained in things like that. JJ included. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 8:22am
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FIL (who hacked my son's hair always went on about toilet training, it was a big thing for him. Every time he saw him he asked is he TT yet...cousin ^*%$ is 3mths younger & he is (well if you call wetting the bed & daily accidents TT). It really did my head in as TT was not an issue for me. So when he was I made a big song & dance about it say how he was fully TT with no accidents or wet nights & what a shame it was that his cousin still was not TT like DS1....
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Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 10:03am
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We've had a couple of TT questions on my side too, mainly because my Grandfathers mum had him TT at 9 months, same with my mum and so they're wondering when I am going to start Lily! Tbh I can tell all her signs, but haven't read much about TT and will probably wait until she has a bit better balance and can stand or walk at least. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 10:45am
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I prefer the "wait till their ready " method Nic,once you can see that they recognise its THEM making that wet puddle on the ground, you aren't far off,C TT like a dream,was very easy ....Ty Im not so sure how to TT a boy ,mind you it was only recently that I discovered boys CAN actually sit down when they pee .... -------------
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 10:55am
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I worked with this woman, can not remember what country she was from but she told me she sat her kids in the bath at just over 1yr & made them clean their own nappies & that was how she TT them...she was giving me advise I don't get what the big deal is with TT, when they are ready they will do it. Push them then you have problems.
When DS2 had his B4 school check he did not like doing #2 during the day & they made a big fuss of it. I spoke to the kindy & found it was due to no door on the toilets which they had been trying to get for ages so they used him as an example & got a little door on one, which is the most popular toilet, lol....but the B4 school check people wrote a horrible report about it so I had a go at them & will not take DS3 for one..idiots, oh & we have never had an more issues about toileting since. People just stick their big fat noses into what does not concert them... |
Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 11:31am
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I was still breastfeeding miss 3 at 16 months when MIL told me she was surprised I wa still breastfeeding her as over in the netherlands they wean babies when they are 9 months old.
well things might ahve changed sicne then and she hasnt had any contact with any breastfeeding mothers in the netherlands for over 30 years. and why would I wean my child at 9 months when I hav a good milk supply and well prefer not to put my child onto formula unelss I really have to. just like my daugher I will let my son wean when he is ready to..within reason I think if I am still breastfeeding at 3 I would look at encouraging him to wean ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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