The name you chose and the reaction to it
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Topic: The name you chose and the reaction to it
Posted By: Plushie
Subject: The name you chose and the reaction to it
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 7:54pm
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Having a bit of an issue with my mother.
She's being a total menace in regards to the babys name and i want to slap her! It started off all fun, and we actually had a great time looking through books and she'd ring me with names she'd thought of etc which was nice but may have given her the idea it was her decision to make as well...but can't be helped now. Anyway, she's decided that the name will either be Mitchell or Harrison and whatever new name comes up she tests with the middle name Gregory (my dads name) which i never said i was going to use, she's assumed it all on her own! My dad died a few years back and i WAS thinking of using it but i don't like it being assumed or forced on me. Its gotten to the point i've told her i refuse to discuss names with her at all because its my decision and she had her chance to name babies and she gets no say - but in her head its because i AM going to call him Mitchell or Harrison but want to suprise her with it! I had settled on a name (Archer Gregory) but the babys father HATES it with a passion so i am back to a long long list of names - she just walked past and saw the name Julian and immedietly said that i could never name the baby that, she knows a guy called Julian and he's not a nice guy etc etc. Yeah, SHE knows a Julian, i don't, and seriously get the hell out of my space, woman!! I mentioned the name Oscar about a month ago, in passing, as a name that was in the paper that i didnt think was too bad and she hasnt shut up about it since - she has told all my relatives thats the name i want to use and how terrible is that etc, then has a big joke about my 'terrible taste in names' with them. And she has said that if i use a name she doesnt like then she won't call the baby that at all, she'll refer to him by a name SHE likes. She's the type to meet her grandson for the first time and hear his name and tell me exactly what she thinks of it, she won't hold back and pretend to like it, she'll make fun of it to my face. I am putting so much freaking effort (maybe too much!) into finding a name and she's just being making me want to tear my hair out. Anyone else have this issue? Any idea on how to resolve it? Or does it just sound like she'll be too smitten with her gorgeous new grandchild to care about what name i pick? Am i overreacting? She doesnt help by asking me every day if i've got a name for the baby yet and when i say no reminding me how fantastic the Mitchell/Harrison combo is or if i say i have she won't shut up about me telling her what they are! I can't win! |
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 8:11pm
I can't think of any advice... but 
You poor thing..! -------------   
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Posted By: pekay
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 8:20pm
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That's exactly why I don't tell people the names I am thinking/choosing. Or I give a large list, so they don't know which ones you are really serious about.
And I totally agree with the whole expectation of middle name. I always knew I was going to use my late fathers name as DD2's middle name, but never told anyone as I thought it would be a nice surprise for everyone. After she was born, my mum suggested on the phone I should use my dad's name...wtf lady....let me tell you when I decide on MY babies name!! ANyway....good luck with that! |
Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 8:25pm
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Right!? IF i decide to include my fathers name, i will, i don't need to be TOLD that i am.
I am just clinging to hope that when the bubs eventually appears then she will be so overwhelmed with joy then i could have named him Carrot and she'll be happy. But for now....argh! Shhh up about baby names already, woman! |
Posted By: pekay
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 8:30pm
Did you want me to egg her car? 
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Posted By: Mucky_Tiger
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 8:34pm
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tell her that your son will be called pegasus taupo (last name) and the reason is it is your choice as he's your son not hers, and you love the meaning of the names.
and if he hates his name when he's older he's more than welcome to become a mitchell or harrison if he desperately wants to be one. PS: i do like harrison as a name and i would totally use it but could you imagine the sh*t my kid would get at school being Harrison James Paterson...too many 'sons' in his name. instead he will be a Leonard |
Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 8:38pm
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Could you sit her down and (nicely) talk to her? let her know this is your son and she should sit back&enjoy being a grandma? I know its probably not that easy but maybe it could help
Sounds like you are getting a lot of pressure from everyone about babies name and thats not what you need!!!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 8:48pm
Noooo, mine is out there as well
I have actually told everyone the baby will be named Hemmingway Griffen just to stop people asking (and see how many go "oh, how lovely!" in a fake sincere way) but doesnt fool mother, considering i live with her and i can't browse my name books while watching coro without her noticing. Yep, i'm cool alright! I love having a big family, they all seem to want to ring and tell me about their second cousin [....] and remind me that i should honor them. *sigh* Anyway, i feel better for the vent, i think, thanks for the space to do it. Next time she makes a comment i am going to have to make a serious face and tell her off big time. I tell her now that its not her business and she will like and respect whatever i chose. That'll be fun... |
pekay wrote:Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 8:49pm
Hahaha, yes, throw out some wild ones to put her off track 
I'm thinking Cuthbert... or Murgatroyd... something nice and unusual  -------------
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 8:55pm
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I saw an add for "Rootblast" before, i was thinking thats a nice name
Whats more ridiculous is she named my brother Rowan which got her pretty much the same speech from HER mother, you'd think she'd be more understanding considering all the flack she got for her name choices back in the day. Surely someone else has had a bad reaction to a name, right? Go on, someone else share a story! |
Posted By: UpsyDaisy
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 9:30pm
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Mum thought I said Michael and was all excited. I had to correct her and tell her that it was Micah and she was visibly disappointed and goes 'thats not a real name its a made up name?' me - um no its a real name and is actually one of the books in the bible. With Ilysa she didn't say anything negative about it but couldn't manage to say it correctly for weeks 
But it was our decision we didn't give any extended family the option of having any input - your Mum is sounding a bit full. My twins have a cousin called Oscar and his younger brother is Griffin. |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 9:34pm
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I have mentioned a few names that we have been talking about to family with mixed reactions. At the end of the day who cares what anyone else thinks? Everyone has different tastes, there are lots of names I would never consider but others love.
Your baby, your decision! |
Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 9:58pm
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Yikes!
I referred to Callum as "Richie" during my first pregnancy. My mum kept telling me people would call him Richie Rich, I said ah no, not everyone's as old as you and anyway it was after Richie McCaw we didn't tell anyone our shortlist till after C was born. One of the first things MIL said when we told her we were having a boy was "as long as you don't call him Michael or Patrick!" and Patrick Michael was our top name at the time so that put us off talking about names with anyone.
We referred to Daniel as Wolfgang before he was born. Some people thought we were serious about it, it was quite funny seeing their reaction
I would like to think you're right, that once the baby is here your mum will be so smitten that she won't make fun of your baby's name. It's a bit harder to make fun of someone's name to their face, even if they don't understand what you're saying
------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: Alice77
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 10:39pm
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Tell her straight up its inappropriate for her to be commenting to others AND you about the choice of name!!! Its your choice not hers and if she doesnt like the name tough bickies he will still be her grandson and thats all that should matter... his name will fit him and whether its Harrison, Mitchell or even Bob its the person he will be that matters and she will (or have to) grow to see that his name will be perfect for who he is! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 30 December 2010 at 10:50pm
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That sucks, poor you!
When we told Dh's grandparents our daughter's name they said "What's that short for?" and seemed quite surprised that that was her whole name. (Ella) They don't like Jack's name either, but they're nice and discreet about their feelings! We had an older woman at a party the other night ask Jack's name and she said "No! What's his real name?" when Dh told her. She thought it was terrible and didn't hold back about saying so, it was quite funny. She later told us how awful, unnecessary and damaging dummies are too, hehehe. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 12:08am
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Ok, as nice and sweet as it is that grandma is excited about meeting her grandson.....she is going overboard and needs to remember that this is YOUR baby.
HER babies she already had, and already had the chance to name them,this, is your time to make that special choice. If she doesn't like the name you choose, too bad, if she wants to make snide remarks, let her, its her that looks stupid. Just make sure that YOU love the name you choose. Oh, as for my babies names, no one has ever said anything to my face regarding their names (Caitlyn Rhianna , Tyler Brin and Amelia Charlotte ) but who knows what they say behind my back...they can say what they like, I love their names  ------------- 
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Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 4:11am
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lurker,
I love their names too ------------- susie |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 4:35am
| Engelbert Applesauce? We've had a few reactions from people who've said "but that's a boy's name" (dds- Eliot, Tait) or "Different" (Xander, Greta) or "did you invent that yourself?" (Alyssa), doesn't matter because WE like it, you'll never please everyone. Stop discussing it seriously & just tell her you've decided to give him a girls name & name him after her. Tbh she sounds as though she may be too busy telling you how to raise him once he's born to care about his name, Sorry! |
Posted By: Bexta
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 8:50am
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Crikey bowie!!
DP and I are keeping the name secret until she is born. The names themselves are pretty common but we're going with uncommon spellings (poor girl she'll be forever correcting people's spellilng). My family were cool with not knowing the name but DP's parents keep going on and on about it! His mother keeps asking is it this or that? What does the name mean? I told her that we made the name up so she won't guess it. but ffs please respect our wishes and wait until she's born... When we told them that we were pregnant his dad said oh if it's a boy you can call him Andre and if it's a girl you can call her Amy. OK I have nothing against either of those two names but I don't want them for my child. The problem is he'll probably call her that because it's the name he likes - using the argument that we call her (whatever nickname we may have) and so he can call her what he likes. Yes but ours is a nickname, not another first name!!! I told him that if he wants to name something then get a pet!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 9:09am
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wow that does sound a bit full on!! Funny how everyone has an opinion on everything when you are pregnant ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 9:18am
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You poor thing having such a controlling mother! My MIL was like that with our first baby, heard that if it was a boy (we didn't know the sex) that he'd be called Rico. She did not like it and gave us all these other hidious suggestions and said outright "I don't like that name, I don't like that name!" Haha, so I was REALLY stoked when baby was born, was a boy and we proudly called him Rico!!! As soon as she saw him though I don't think the name mattered and she of course says now she likes it
Anyhow, I'd put her in her place and ask her if she was there the night (or day) baby was conceived.... (I'd like to think she wasn't ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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.Posted By: RBsMama
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 9:21am
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Naming your baby is such a personal thing, but everyone does seem to have an opinion about it. A friend of mine asked what names we liked when we were just pregnant with DS and when I told her, she goes aw I don't like that name. I can't stand her son's name, but I have never said anything, I just don't think it's approriate. After her reaction, I just told people we had a list of names and hadn't made up our minds, this time around with a little girl on the way, I haven't told anyone what names we like. Mainly coz we don't have a clue yet, lol, but also I don't want people to stick their beaks in. Bowie, I think with your mum, you do need to tell her she's had her turn naming her children and this is your time , best of luck. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 11:29am
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Ahhh, so pleased i'm not the only one thats had people putting their opinions in there. My friend had her IL's first boy grandchild and had to suffer her FIL proudly announcing that his namesake was on the way, told all his friends and bowls club, must have been uncomfortable when the baby arrived and had a totally different name!
I think i am going to keep up the "not telling" business until its too late...and accept then i have no one to 'test' names off! |
Posted By: julz85
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 11:39am
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i could have written that post bowie - My mum was exactly the same when i was choosing my daughters name when i was pregnant with her . I had said i "liked" the name Mackenzie (which was actually my mums maiden name ) and she didnt shut up about it , told everyone i was calling the baby mackenzie and then when i started to go off it and explore other names she had a real nut and made me feel bad for not naming the baby after her . I also had the added issue in that my mum is a numeroligist ( studdies the numbers in names and birthdates ) so she would analize every single name i chose and go on about what personality traits my baby would have and why i couldnt name her 'this' or 'that' . i also had babies dad in the background ( who i wasent with and didnt support me but thought he had control about what 'we' named her ) I loved the name Avalon but he HATED it and so in the end i chose Amelia which was a name i did really like and am happy with but its also a name my mum was happy with and my ex was happy with . my advice- go with what YOU want , by the sounds of things you will be raising this child primarily so YOU choose the name , if you like Archer then go for it . After all mother knows best ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 11:48am
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Lmao, my DD is Lily Anne Maria. Lily - DP bought me Lillies weekly for the first year we dated, Anne (traditional first girls middle name in my family for every 2nd gen (inbetween it's Annette iygwim) and Maria is my MIL middle name.
Well! My gran (yes gran not mother!) through an absolute fit when I said DD was going to be called that. For a start her name is Anne and she thought that I would name baby after her... (why??) and got really offended that I was going to have MIL middle name there and that I was naming my child after 'A bloody Samoan' and she'd 'have nothing to do with her or us!' ... DD s 1/4 Samoan. In short, she got over it once DD was born and she met her. - it's just to do with how she was bought up and her generation where elders got to help name the new babies and she didn't get to name my mum (her MIL did) but she got to name me.
No real advice, perhaps, like I did, just tell her you'll take her suggestions on board, but it's your baby and you and baby's dad get the final say in the end but that you appreciate her help! It's quite hard trying to find the perfect name! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 11:53am
hehe you should have given her a traditional Samoan name!!!!!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 11:59am
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Oh my god, Grandmothers getting their oar in as well...one of mine kindly fowarded me a list of every male in my family tree because i asked her too, the other rings and says "i just remembered a very good friend i had back in the war, his name was Roger, i would like to honor him in some way.....its a great name" hint hint
Julz, you are 100% correct, i'm not *with* the father but yes, he feels like he should have a say in the name. He doesnt, but i did tell him if he really, really, really hated a name i wouldnt use it and he apparently hates it that much. If he doesnt find something better i'm doing it anyway! Lil_Nic that is a gorgeous reason for using 'Lily' , thats the sweetest thing i've heard today! |
Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 1:30pm
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bowie you poor thing! I imagine if she's like this with the name she is going to be a nightmare with every parenting decision you make.
I suggest you have a stern talk with her now because if baby arrives, you give him a name you love and then she gives you hell about it after the birth you may be hormonal and take it a lot worse than you would now. My mother hates DS's name. We gave him FIL's name as a second name (Declan) but my partner's sister's name is Emma so when we called him Emmett Declan she assumed incorrectly that we had named him after SIL AND FIL. She was awful about it. She had decided that he would be called Eli and referred to him as that through the pregnancy. I dont care one bit now but I remember crying about it after the birth when she voiced her opinion. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 1:44pm
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Wow, Azza thats wretched...i'm pleased it all got resolved though (and within the first 6 months even!) so i have hope.
I took everyones advice and told her i'd picked a name, i love it, she has to love it too and that i'm only telling her now so she doesnt cause a scene later and she immediatly started going aww, aww, i love it etc. She asked about middle names and i said possibly Riordon but wasnt decided and she got to "suggest" Gregory and is now no doubt pleased as punch because she got to "chose" the middle name even though i'd already chosen it. Pressure OFF! See the good that comes from an OhBaby rant thread
(Oh, and shes totally going to be a nightmare about every parenting decision as well, don't get me started on the cloth nappy debate....) |
Posted By: Bexee
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 2:11pm
| Argh, DH family keep calling my son Zandy. His name is Alex. I guess that is a given that if you have a name that can be shortened, people will chose their own thing to shorten it but still!!! Drives me nuts! |
Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 2:18pm
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what a relief that its all sorted and she loves the name! battle 1 done and dusted... now on to the next ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 2:46pm
lol Bexee... my sons name is Brandon, and thats what i call him... but for some reason his father insists on using the nickname 'Brandysnap' I mean seriously...wtf!! Why make the nickname something longer... and food?! Idiot. (Can you tell I hold his father in such 'high' regards!?  )
I had the same dilemna where I LOVED a particular name, but he hated it, so Brandon was the compromise. Ironically I hear the name I liked every fricken day via a friend, a cousin and on TV... gah! Glad you managed to finally get your mother onside about the name Bowie! ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 2:54pm
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I'm not sure she's convinced but she's been put in her place enough to pretend to like it which i will settle for!
Brandysnap? LOL, give him another year or two and he'll be told to cut that out, i bet! Theres only so long a boy will put up with that kind of thing, after all! Bexee, i assume your son is Alexander but everyone calls him Alex while they've chosen....Zandy? Thats a bit odd
Just reminded me that my gran hates my cousins name so much she has refered to him as "the wee man" for as long as i can remember and still does, even though he's in his 20's now. Crazy old people. |
Posted By: Bexee
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 3:22pm
| Yep he's Alexander or Alex... I don't mind which of those people call him. But Zandy just drive me up the wall. |
Posted By: Happy lady
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 3:44pm
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Bowie, glad to see the dilema is resolved..... no need for nosey mothers getting their fingers in everyones pies......
Although I would have to agree that Harrison is incredibly lovely name....... ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 31 December 2010 at 3:48pm
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 8:50am
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YAY glad it's sorted out with your mum!!!
My ILs HATE DD's name, they never refer to her as Chelsea, but call her "the baby". "How's the baby?" "Would the baby like a glass of coke?" (NO she would NOT! Lol oops better not get started on that one...) *sigh* oh well never mind, we love it and that's all that matters! I haven't seen them since we found out we're having a boy - just can't wait to hear what they want us to call this one ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:17am
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I don't want to get you started... so ignore me if you'd prefer!... but the cloth nappy debate? You mean she reckons she's got input into that?? Goodness -------------
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:39am
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hehe, she's my mother and all knowing in the ways of babies, obviously (sarcasm plus!) I wrote about it in the thread Azza started.
Rach, what on earth are they going to call her next, she's not going to be "the baby" for much longer
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 9:58am
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Meh until that baby is born people will have all sorts of opinions on what you should name him, however once he arrives and you name him they all shut up.
We had a couple of names for DD some of which my family had strong opinions about, I also felt weird naming her while I was preggers. She got named within minutes of being born Catherine Sheryl and the name really suits her and no one had dared make negative comments about it. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 10:30am
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glad you got it sorted
We never told anyone any names so did not have problems there. I thought DS1 was going to be a girl & had a girl name picked, he was a surprise so we decided on one in hospital The others had girl names picked till we found out they were boys. DS1 middle name is my family name. When DS3 was born we decided to give him a family name on FIL side & when we told him the name he said why that middle name as he had no relatives with that name ..& suggested others so we gave him DH's name as a middle...ha ha |
Posted By: naysgirl
Date Posted: 01 January 2011 at 11:27am
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Families ay!! The second thing my dad said to me, after congratulations, when he came to visit me in hospital the day after I had had DS was "i don't like the name". I was like what (kinda shocked) He then went on to say its too girly. My sons name is Cody (which I know can a be a girls name too). I said that its not a girly name and that I had never heard of any girls called Cody. His wife then looked at me after I said that and said "it is a girls name".
My dad then went onto say "I could handle the name Corey" (like I was going to change it because he wanted it changed!) I told him, too bad his name is Cody and you will just have to get used to it! You never tell a mother that you don't like their childs name (even if you can't stand it) and you especially don't say it to a new mum who has just had the first grandchild the day before!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Shelt
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 1:17pm
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I've never had any issues with people telling me they don't like Gabrielle's name but numerous people pronounce it wrong, including my own grandmother. I can't understand why but she thinks Gabrielle's name is Gabriel (the male version - said Gabe-ri-el instead of the female version which is Gab-ri-elle). I have several friends who seem to think her name is Gabriella and people also take it upon themselves to ask how "Gaby" is even though I've never called her that myself. She is Miss G to me and I always wonder who they are referring when they ask about Gaby... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 5:10pm
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I never thought about people picking nicknames for your kids but it seems it happens a lot. I know a Benjamin that people obviously call Ben but his mom hates it, would rather he was Benjie or BJ.
As an update, momma came home this morning and said "How about Harris? Thats a nice name! Harris..." and started off again. I nearly lost it, how is that any different from Harrison which i've already said no to many times!? I told her pretty sharply i've made my decision, she is to accept it, she is to pretend to like it and she is to keep her trap shut about it and not tell all the family yet. |
Posted By: Whateversville
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 6:31pm
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My mum was always pretty good with my name choices tho there were a few she wasn't too keen on lol and my dad didn't want to know his name til the birth.
Baby's dad (we're not together) wasn't any help I asked him for suggestions once and he came up with Caine & Campbell. And that was it. So when bubs was born and his dad came up to see him he asked what his name was and I said Tyler he seemed pretty ok with it. Too bad if he wasn't
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 7:47pm
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How could he be anything but ok? Tyler is a great name -------------
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Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 02 January 2011 at 7:56pm
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Second thread i've opened in the last 5min where you're promoting Tyler as a name, Kelly!
But you can, cuz its a cute name with a gorgeous wee bubba attatched
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Posted By: millymollymandy
Date Posted: 03 January 2011 at 7:56am
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Nobodies business what you call you kid but you own. I have come across what I think are some doozy names, from friends and family included but I shut up and once you get to know the kid you love them anyway.
TBH - I'm a total name snob...I hate anything that sounds too amercianised, think naming after celebs lacks class, and get a good chuckle from made up names. It just all reminds me of that Kath and Kim episode where they think of names the heard at the hospital "what about 'Cardioinfarction" or "Eiphaney- Rahe". And as someone who has a name that can be spelt in different ways, and not spelt in the most common spelling, I think that playing around with name spellings just gives your kid a headache. I got my degree and other important docs back with my name spelt wrong and it drives me balmy. I realise this is just my opinion, but when see someone doing this I sometimes wonder if the parent were a fellow dyslexia suffer? BUT...I do realise that my prejudices reflect my age, middle class prejudice etc. Some of my friends have a dog with the same name as DD and I bet they wondered why we her a dog's name (ha ha). And all the Blaydes, Jaxon's, Maddysyn's, and Paris' st DH's school think we gave DD an old ladies name - they still think she cute though! and I don't care. So even though I think "oh dear what an awlful name" I just smile and give bubs a big kiss! |
Posted By: Stephi
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 7:20pm
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I had an issue with my SO's younger sister about our baby names. This could be long rant haha
SO and I are having trouble picking a boys name so I suggested that I pick the first name and he picks the second name, as long as they both arent something too vulgar, and as long as we can actually agree on what the other has chosen, even if we dont really like it. So I want Cohen for the first name and SO wanted Hetfield to be his middle name (his idol is James Hetfield from Metallica lol). I said I didnt like Hetfield because its like a last name and not an actual name. We have actually now come to an agreement :) Cohen Jaymz So my SO's sister decided to put her 2cents in out of the blue (no-one actualy asked her opinion, nor were we even talking about baby names at all) and say things like "Well I think that you should do this, and I think that this should happen with the name" and all this sort of carry on (as if its any of her business anyway). Then she preceeded to start putting down my girls name i have chosen (I have Scartlett Doree, pronounced door ray, its my nanas middle name and I love my nan very much and its a tribute to her) saying things like "LOL and Doree just sounds like a dorsel fin, is your kid going to be whale or something" and she sat there laughing, and I was about to cry and hit her. Not only was she insulting me, she was insulting my grandmother and my unborn child (if shes a girl!). So I have come to the conclusion that other peoples opinions do NOT matter when it comes to mine and my SO's baby. No-one else can even have a say, and if they dont like a name we have chosen then tough sh*te! lol ------------- 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 7:51pm
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My goodness! Your SO's sister needs some learning in the 'things that are socially appropriate' area!!!! That just makes her sound like a cow - I hope she's not that bad all the time!! I love the name, and think the special story behind it makes it even better. -------------
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 04 January 2011 at 7:59pm
haha,I know....and as much as I love it,and love him....its not actually my favourite boys name
it used to be Luca,but I don't know now -------------
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Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 1:51am
| Oh I liked Luca for ds, but DH said it was "too girly". It was hard choosing a boy's name as DH was army at the time & everything I suggested was met with "nah I know a guy called that". So Xander it was, which despite not being in love with it, especially when he was about 6mths old & that Vin Diesel movie "XXX" came out & everyone thought we'd got the name from the movie, (nooo!), I now can't imagine him with any other name. Poppa said "people will call him Sandy", wtf?! |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 2:01am
| Nicknames- DH is a Nicholas, but everyone calls him Nick, he even introduces himself as Nick, so when he first took me home to meet his parents I kept referring to him as Nick, as far as I was aware it's his name, & his mum kept giving me dirty looks & I figured she must really not like me (which is partly true but another story), so I questioned DH about it after & he says casually "oh yeah, she hates people calling me Nick". Gee, thanks for the heads up buddy, =(. |
Posted By: tictacjunkie
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 2:22am
| But the odd thing is their other son is "Brendon" but they call him "Brendy", hmm. I don't like people shortening my name to Rose or Rosie, nothing against those names, they're just not MY name. & while I'm talking to myself at 2am- we've chosen the simplest spelling for all of them because my name's difficult, but it doesn't always work, e.g ds's storybook from school in Year 1 came home with big red crosses as the teacher said he'd spelt his sister's name wrong, he hadn't. Grr. |
Posted By: RachFizz
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 6:38am
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Don't have much to input into this conversation apart from: what the heck!? some ppl needa learn when to zip it! How can they be so blatantly rude about something so dear to people's hearts? Hope mine or DH's family members don't act like that when I'm UTD, but spose I should prepare myself now JIC lol ------------- TTC#1 since Apr11 On hold for study! |
Posted By: Flossie
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 5:54pm
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We knew we were having a girl and there was only one name we agreed on - Belle! We didnt tell anyone the name as we wanted to see if she suited it when she was born - when we did tell MIL her facial reaction was very ohhh you have to be kidding - screwed up kind of look and she said Belle? in a WTF kind of way! She never said it but she didnt like the name at all!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 6:37pm
2 dam right we watched that home Extreme Makeover with Ty Pennington & we loved the name Ty but was not sure what to lengthen it to & came up with Tyler
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Posted By: Mucky_Tiger
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 7:13pm
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Rach, get in early with the IF/WHEN we have children they will be called X, or Y...
but make them nothing like what you will really call you children and make them 'horrible' so they can just get used to it when the children do really arrive and then they can be born and have a 'nice' name and family/friends will be all "oh thats much better than X/Y" we've told everyone that our children will be hazel or leonard/angus. People think im joking, I'm not. Hazel is DP's nana who died when he was young, and i love leonard, len, lenny, and angus is my great uncle who is a very strong man. he very recently lost his wife to an aneurism then fell down some stairs and broke his neck and is taking it all in his stride (at 85)
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 8:31pm
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I love Hazel! It's such a pretty name, it would be up there on my list too. -------------
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Posted By: SquishysMum
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 9:54pm
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We had several names on our shortlist, but didn't tell anyone what they were (we figured seeing as everyone knew she was a girl, we'd keep something for a surprise). The shortlist changed a few times, and was re-written the night she was born with a new name added (that we'd previously discounted). By morning I "knew" what her name was, it was the new name added, the one not on the list until she was already born!
Reactions - My mum was surprised, she knew I'd always liked Lily and expected DD to be called that. Everyone else was really positive about it, a nice "normal" name that wasn't too popular. The only "negative" reaction I had was my grandmother telling me my cousin was upset - she was always going to name her first girl the same name! LOL she wasn't really upset, it's not like we ever talk or knew these things about each other, co-incidence entirely. |
Posted By: linda
Date Posted: 05 January 2011 at 10:30pm
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I really liked Oscar but our cat was called Oscar and everyone said that we couldn't name one of our kids Oscar even though Oscar the cat is quite old. But I really liked it and would have been ok with it! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Stephi
Date Posted: 06 January 2011 at 12:31am
Thank you :D Shes not that bad all of the time, but when she wants to put in her 2 cents (especially when no-one actually asks) she can come across as a bit of a bitch. It was during Christmas lunch that she said all these things, so that made it even worse for me :( I think what got me the most is that she was insulting my unborn child before shes even born :l That gets to me a lot. To know that if my bub is a girl, SO's sister has already said those things about her :( -------------
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 06 January 2011 at 9:16am
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My nanna didnt like Jake... too common for her liking and they were all toerags (which he is lol)
She passed before Ollie was born but I think she would like it, she would HATE that I have given him her surname as a middle name, she would deem it cruel. We have had nothing but compliments for our names, but DH and I trying to come up with them is another story!!!! -------------   
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Posted By: becsscolly
Date Posted: 06 January 2011 at 7:47pm
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Tell me about it melnel, we are so stuck on boys names... already have Bradley (pretty much always called Brad) and Nathan (called Nate and Nathan pretty equally). Not sure if we are finding out the gender of this one, but have a long girls name list and only lots of maybe's on the boys list!!
Any thoughts??? Got a surname that they will always have to spell and I tend to like no so popular and easy to spell names, also ones that aren't too long! Oh, and the middle name will most likely be Ian (both Grandad's are called Ian). So far we have: Dominic Oliver (but poss. a bit too popular atm) Nicholas (maybe, as have an aunty Nicola who is always Nic) Daniel Samuel (but surname starts with an 'S') Umm, thats about it! ETA: Opps, thought I was in another thread... so don't worry if you save your suggestions for there! ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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