Jealous Toddler...
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Topic: Jealous Toddler...
Posted By: chelles
Subject: Jealous Toddler...
Date Posted: 09 December 2010 at 3:28pm
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My DD1 is 2.5 years old and DD2 is 5 weeks old. DD1 is lashing out at DD2 every chance she gets and it is only getting worse.
She says she loves her sister and then kisses her, then hugs her, then the hugs get tighter and tighter till we have to pull her off, then she lashes out by hitting her or grabbing and pulling her arm or leg. The other day she threw the remote at her head - I was mortified! Would love some advice and suggestions to what I can do to stop this behaviour. It is always worse when I am BFing so I think it is just an attention thing... ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 09 December 2010 at 3:35pm
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My guess would be an attention seeking as well which is perfectly normal.
Can you do some sort of activity with DD1 while you bf? Read a book, play a game, watch tv? Where do you bf? I always bf on the couch so there is planty of room for Jack to sit beside me. I used to always make up a snack box the night before as well so I could whip it out if Jack was hungry while I bf Ben Good luck ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 09 December 2010 at 5:49pm
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Mine did exactly that the other day too
Sounds like you have the same age gap as me, I explained to my eldest if she gave me a moment to feed and put the baby to bed that we could do something special together, and I made a point of doing it We pick all the flowers of the lawn or bake or read a book or I play with her in the bath Also have put on her fav tele - dora! or let her play with something of mine - she likes to draw in my shopping list book I was in tears for the first little while, my girl was soo mean to me, which is probably better than being mean to bubba, but she came right, I promise you it does get easier, especially once the baby can respond to your toddler Best of luck hun, its a tough time for you and your big girl ------------- http://lilypie.com] 
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Posted By: JoJames
Date Posted: 09 December 2010 at 6:38pm
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I think they get overwhelmed with excitment, I don't think it is a meanness as such, my boy does the exact same thing, when you try to remove him, he will go for the final grab. It does settle down as they make the adjustment. If it is particually mean I will put him in his bedroom even stop BFing to do it.
I'n the beginning I had a playpen so that the baby could have some time out, pinning a duvet to the bottom so DS1 couldn't get in, and I could go do some stuff knowing that the baby isn't going to be sat on. And planning BFing helps, turning on Tv, playing a DVD setting up drawing is good, because they soon learn that when you are BFing they can get into mischief ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: chelles
Date Posted: 09 December 2010 at 9:42pm
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Thanks for your replies. Think I'll try starting her off with an activity like a tv programme or colouring etc before I feed DD2 and see how that goes...
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 09 December 2010 at 9:53pm
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Today was my first solo day so I'm certainly not an expert! Strategies I've used - DVD, having a water table just outside with cups and brushes so he can wash the house, chalk - draw pics on the drive while I feed on the back doorstep, playdough on the coffee table in front of me ....
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 10 December 2010 at 8:21pm
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hugs:)
it's hard isnt it..fortuntely we only got a few incidents but mostly i think cause DH managed to hurt his knee so we were VERY lucky he was home the first month..normally would have been two days:( I made a point of letting him watch wiggles/dora when i was bfing and also feeding him beforehand..i felt sorry for him cause he was coming second for a while..but i kept telling myself it's not forever and to make the most of special time when Liam was in bed(but hard as he only did 45min sleeps) but eventually we got through it and he loves him and is generally good with him now.. so yeah no real advice except special things she can do during feeding but i just learnt to talk to him as well at the same time.. it must be hard for them eh:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |