Dummy - Help!
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Topic: Dummy - Help!
Posted By: NicNOC
Subject: Dummy - Help!
Date Posted: 16 October 2010 at 8:10pm
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Okay so I gave my wee boy (11Days) a dummy to get to sleep in the afternoon - he just seem to be so wired and wanted to suck his hand but of course he can't control them! So it worked really well. Now I don't know what to do, I don't want to use it for every sleep so that he does get to dependant on it, Do I take it out when he gets to sleep? I feel really guilty for some reason that I can't get him to go to sleep without it. So do I let him cry it out when he looses it? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Danda08
Date Posted: 16 October 2010 at 8:31pm
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I've been using a dummy a bit more lately with my girls and I have the same concerns. They only have it for day sleeps though and once they are settled I take it out. (I read that if you give it to them to settle them (especially newborn sucky babies) and take it out just before they fall asleep you shouldn't have problems.) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: pekay
Date Posted: 16 October 2010 at 8:32pm
| We have a dummy for Ella, 5 weeks. We put her down for every sleep without it. If she doesn't sleep we try to resettle her 2 or 3 times. If that still does not work, she gets the dummy. She probably gets it every 2-3 days. Although shedoesnt always take it when it is offered. You could have a go at that. There is no way she is dependent on it, but it does occasionally help when she needs a little help. |
Posted By: UpsyDaisy
Date Posted: 16 October 2010 at 8:50pm
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I really worried about it too and my advice is babies at that age have a need to suck a reflex and as long as you are certain they are not hungry it is fine for the first few months. Also think your wee one is too small to cry it out. Our two used dummies alot when they were wee but as they got older I did not offer everytime same as pekay and gradually used them less and less. Now I have not used at all for at least 6 wks. After 3-4 months though they can get more attached and a twin mum I met recently with twins same age has to constantly go in to replace dummy  I also saw baby whisperer say on good morning dummies are fine in first 3 months but may become more of an entrenched habit so wean them off it early and at the time they naturally find thumb anyways around 3 - 4 mths old.
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 16 October 2010 at 9:20pm
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We have used a dummy increasingly for the last 2ish months.. Im trying to wean her off it as I dont want her to get dependant on it (got her to go to sleep tonight with out feeding her to sleep or by using the dummy, first time in months!). I recommend taking it out as soon as hes settled so he learns to settle himself for the last part, and try to let him go to sleep by himself first. Have you tried swaddling? It helped a lot when trying to get DD to sleep during the day, and also putting her down happy awake, just before she got tired.. GL! ------------- 
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Posted By: mollycat
Date Posted: 16 October 2010 at 10:16pm
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I'm on the fence with this one. I sometimes feel that the dummy is one more thing for people to get uptight about. We use a dummy in this household - it started primarily cause Ryan had quite severe reflux and it helped with that but it has carried on from there. Ryan has his dummy for daysleeps but has to go to bed on his own at night but I put a dummy in his cot with him to find if he needs it at night.
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Posted By: sugarbaby
Date Posted: 16 October 2010 at 10:44pm
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Our Evie LOVES her dummy, we joke its crack for babies! Sometimes she wont be settled any other way but with a dummy. She is 3 months now, and my way of weaning her is not giving her the 3-6 month dummies. I try and only give her the newborn ones we started with, and increasingly she just gets fustrated with the little ones and spits them out. My theory is they make her happy and calm, you can teach self settling later. Now that Evie is a bit bigger i might let her cry for a bit, but i always go back to the dummy if she wont settle ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 17 October 2010 at 12:22am
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at his age, only a couple of weeks old (not even that ) he is still adjusting to the world and for the start may need help being comforted by way of dummies , cuddles etc , don't worry too much about it at this age, I definetly think its better that you let him have the dummy rather than him CIO atm, its scary, this business of being out into the big wide world....as he gets older and you want to wean him, try poking holes in the dummy, often they will self wean when they can't suck it anymore ------------- 
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Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 17 October 2010 at 9:03am
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R has been using a dummy since about 4 weeks old. hes a comfort sucker and also had bad reflux so it helped him sleep because the swallowing kept it all down.
he still uses it. tbh i wont really care til hes walking (no other reason than i just personally think that kids who can walk shouldnt need dummies lol. i dont know why) he uses it about 80% of the time and it without fail always gets spat out during his sleep and he doesnt care. and he can put it back in his own mouth so if he doesnt want it he just doesnt put it back in. i have noticed that he needs it less often now so looks to be self weaning now that he is getting older and more alert and aware and doesnt need it anymore. personally i dont see the problem. (im not looking for debate. its JMO) |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 17 October 2010 at 10:36am
| We just try and settle down without it but if hes just struggling to sleep or just wants to sit on my boob and not actually feed then he gets it. If it falls out and hes not bothered I just move it away. |
Posted By: Speck8
Date Posted: 17 October 2010 at 7:32pm
| We used a dummy from about 2 weeks onwards and as he got older, around 4 months or so, I found he didn't need it anymore (he probably didn't need it from perhaps even 3 months but just kept giving it out of habit). So yeah, now at 5 months we don't use the dummy at all but god was it a lifesaver in those early weeks!!!! I'll definitely be using it again if I have a sucky baby. |
Posted By: MrsMc
Date Posted: 17 October 2010 at 8:34pm
| i dont see the problem either. as others suggested use it as a last resort and always try to settle baby without it first |
Posted By: nannyabbey
Date Posted: 17 October 2010 at 8:39pm
| we used a dummy as well because our bubs was such a sucky baby! and sometimes it helped to settle him enough to burp - he'd get worked up every now and again! After having to get up to him about 4 times one night because he couldn't re settle himself we went cold turkey with controlled crying. (he was 3 months old) now the dummy is hardly ever used - used it the other day when driving to Te Puke and he couldn't settle in his car seat - and he sleeps thru the night now (a couple of stirs but puts himself to sleep) becuase he doesn't need us to pat his bum or a dummy to soothe to sleep. |
Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 18 October 2010 at 8:27am
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I say do whatever gets you through :) I was always very anti dummies but that was before I actually had children lol. Our twins had dummies from day 5 until they were one. However I still hated the look of them so they were only given them in bed. At one year we just threw the dummies out and went cold turkey and it only took a couple of days before they forgot about them. -------------  
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 18 October 2010 at 9:00am
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Gosh dont even worry about it If it helps him sleep then I say use the dummy. What ever gets you through!
I agree with mollycat, its just one more thing to get uptight about, when you dont need to. Its just a dummy, dont feel guilty! If he cries, just pop it back in. Most of the time my kids would spit it out once they were asleep, and if they partly woke and wanted it they would cry, and I never mined having to put it back in. Both my kids have used dummies, and my 2yr old still has one to go to sleep, though he can go to sleep without it, but for him its comfort, plus his little sister still has one so he would just steal her's lol But, its totally up to you, if you really really dont want to use a dummy, then I would stop now, as they do get hooked on them and then its tricky to wean them off them, but if you dont mind him settling with one, then go for it, I really think they are life savers!  ------------- |
Posted By: Nicola_1975
Date Posted: 18 October 2010 at 11:53am
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I had the same dilemma with my now 8 week old son. I always swore my kids wouldn't have dummies but I gave in last week and got one - now I wish I'd done it weeks ago! DS has reflux and it has made a huge difference in helping him settle. My older son never needed a dummy but he has a blankie he has to have to go to sleep - not much difference there I suppose. It's a comfort thing and if my kids are happy and settled then so am I and everyday life is a lot easier to deal with. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 18 October 2010 at 12:56pm
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Do what gets you through. DD had one from day 5 and still has it, although for her its just a comfort thing little toad! She can go to sleep without it and it only took one night for that to happen as she woke every hour because it had fallen out thats when I got hard on her and thought forget this your not having it to sleep.
She went through a stage of not wanting it at all and at one she found it and decided she wanted it again. I only use it when I need to like long car trips when she can't just run around. Now if she finds it she picks it up and walks around with it but if we take it off her she doesn't care. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: sugarbaby
Date Posted: 18 October 2010 at 1:19pm
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Ha, as i have following these posts the last few days, my DD has decided to wean herself off her dummies! Just started to slow less interest and them become annoyed when ever we offered them to her.
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 18 October 2010 at 8:27pm
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My theory is a dummy is far easier to remove than a thumb or a finger, I've had a lot of flack re Coopers dummy but for us & him it was a god send. Some babies are really sucky and need them some don't. A didn't have one but C does.
Am thinking of weaning him now, trying to get him off using it during the day. When he sleeps now it is spat out which is a great sign for us. I'm not going to push him as he's had severe reflux & is only just off meds. I found a dummy chain great as well cause then they can find the dummy & replace it instead of you. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Manda23
Date Posted: 19 October 2010 at 1:36pm
| I used a dummy with DD for a long time, and only weaned her off it about 4 months ago (she is 3 nest week). She didn't like the idea at first but got used to it pretty quickly. |
Posted By: sugarbaby
Date Posted: 19 October 2010 at 2:42pm
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Like most things to do with parenting, its surprising how everyone else thinks they have the right to tell you how to do it. Complete strangers told us not yto use the dummy with DD. Buger them, it made her happy :) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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