DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol
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Topic: DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol
Posted By: Tiggeriffic1
Subject: DH doesn’t feel like it!! Lol
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:05pm
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Has anyone else had this problem? Lol all in good humor, but we've been bd-ing so much over the last few days in the hope that I ovulated, now I have yesterday and today according to opk and we both so just want a break, it's our second month of ttc but it's rather important to get utd now as my job finishes in June so we'd like to give it a really good shot... Aww man really can't be bothered tonight!
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Posted By: Tiggeriffic1
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:08pm
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And if yes what did you do to inspire yourselves?! Haha ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Flutterby
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:24pm
Often felt like that. Mainly it was me rather then him. To tell absolute truth watching a dirty movie often helped  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:37pm
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I often find if I spend the day thinking about it I'm ready to jump DP's bones as soon as I get home.
So maybe, just spend the day remembering that day when you were ...... and he did ....... and how you....... pretty much thinking about all the extra fab times. Also I find if I'm quite tired then I will make sure BDing happens before bedtime, as by that stage I just want to go to sleep (although do make sure you turn the stove off otherwise dinner does get a tad overdone). -------------  Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: Tiggeriffic1
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:38pm
Hehe I suggested that to him earlier but that didn't even get much of a reaction!! Poor dh  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Tiggeriffic1
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 1:39pm
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Good idea thanks didi will pass that good bit of info along too... ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: CarleyRose
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 2:05pm
Me and DH have 18 years difference between us, its usually him that can't be bothered ( i'm a tiger in the bed room, haha) We found dirty movies helped us aye. ------------- TTC Sept08 July10 FS APP ICSI#1 BFN-No frosties ICSI#2 BFN-2 Frosties FET-8th August - BFP 20/8/12 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Tiggeriffic1
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 2:22pm
| Cool thanks guys, looks like I will be stopping at the video store on the way home! :p |
Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 2:42pm
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Have you tried dress up?it always works when i'm in the mood & DF isnt
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Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 2:57pm
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OMG I'm glad I'm not the only one who has this problem lol.
My DH is 11yrs older than me so I'm like emma in that respect. He can definately take a bit more encouraging. To be honest until recently he hasn't really been on the ttc wagon as much as me so if he's not keen it just doesn't happen (which is also why i'm not pregnant I'd imagine!!) so probably can't help with suggestions. The ones above sound rather good ...might have to give them a try lol. |
Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 3:06pm
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We have this problem too and dirty movies work for us, I also find not getting into trakkies or yoga pants when I get home helps. I try to put on something nice/casual and low cut helps too ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: Brilee
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 3:10pm
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Have some bubbles and maby a bath together? Bubbles always gets me in the mood and will help to relax you too ;-) I also used to have a shower and go into the lounge where he was watching tv and put moistriser on my legs got his attention very quickly lol
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Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 3:26pm
OMG! I LOVE it, not TTC just yet but will be trying this out! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Brilee wrote:Posted By: Tiggeriffic1
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 3:28pm
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Oh awesome you guys are great, it's nice to know we aren't the only ones! :) I think it's partly the whole thing of planning it whereas before ttc it was just whenever :) we both have the very similar sex drives, I am 27 and he's 30 so age isn't too much if a problem tg!
Good idea or me reading a romance I love romances so that's a very good idea! A bath together is a nice idea too :) Thanks heaps guys, if we get utd this month it's all owing to you guys!! Haha ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 21 September 2010 at 8:08am
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hope you find some resolve, I might steal some of these ideas too... DF is 32 i'm 21 plus he works 6 days and 2 nights a week so getting his attention can be difficult. I often find that giving him wine works ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 21 September 2010 at 11:51am
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Gosh NeoshasMummy - thats ALOT of work time, and not much you time! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Brizzle
Date Posted: 21 September 2010 at 12:23pm
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I can definitely agree with all the things said above. I know that my DH feels like I only want to do it when it's 'the right time' and he feels under pressure. Also (sorry TMI) I like to use lube (semen-friendly of course) and he find that actually makes things more difficult so that can be a sticking (lol) point too. We've just cut down the amount though and that has helped. Haven't tried the dirty movies yet though - maybe if TTC goes on much longer, we'll be heading in that direction. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: KarenMae
Date Posted: 21 September 2010 at 12:55pm
Maybe try first thing in the morning...??? That works for us, plus the 'swimmers' are stronger in the morning apparently..... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 21 September 2010 at 1:06pm
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I've also heard that he should only *ahem* ejaculate every couple of days so that is more 'concentrated'????
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Posted By: Tiggeriffic1
Date Posted: 21 September 2010 at 1:42pm
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Haha lol it went well last night, thanks guys :) we went with the dirty porno and put a blanket in front of the fire :)
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 21 September 2010 at 2:34pm
LOL he's a car salesman  it's always been that way so I have adapted ... slowly. He DJ's at night...... that's the part that gets to me
Glad that things worked out for you Tiggeriffic1
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Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 22 September 2010 at 2:00pm
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Glad you got your wicked way Tiggeriffic will keep my fingers crossed for you.
NeoshasMummy - guess you would get used to it, makes quality time ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Vanillabean
Date Posted: 22 September 2010 at 5:11pm
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I recommend pacing yourself.
I hope you get pg really quickly but its likely it will take a few months at least. In my journey for ttc#1 I got pg five times (miscarried 4 x) and most of those times we only BD once or twice around my fertile time. A lot of the time if you don't get up the duff its because the egg wasn't up to scratch and it doesn't matter how much sperm you shower on it, it won't make any difference. I think guys often feel pressured to perform and I know my DH got really stressed and turned off by knowing he had to ejaculate or else miss another chance for a baby. I found the longer you ttc the harder it is to keep things fun and lusty (we ttc'd for almost two and a half years). We dealt with it by making sure we had fun, non-pressured sex at non-fertile times of the month. Good luck!! ------------- 5x mc, Jan 08, June 08, Nov 08, May 09, April 11 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 23 September 2010 at 8:34am
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Good Advice Vanillabean, I keep saying to DF that it'll happen straight away (only because everyone in my family is SUPER firtile).... he keeps reminding me it may not happen straight away. We'v just set a date for my IUD to come out and we'll just stop 'not trying', not sure how long we'll give it before we start charting etc.....
I know a bit about infertility as i'm adopted, to a couple that couldn't have their own children, i was super lucky that they adopted myself and my full blooded sister, and we kept in contact with my birth family which just means i have a HUGE family to contend with
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