Venting place for TTC’rs!
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Topic: Venting place for TTC’rs!
Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Subject: Venting place for TTC’rs!
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:04am
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We all are on the same journey to have a precious baby - but we all know there is definately HUGE down days to this whole TTC journey.
So vent away in here about it - because it is damn hard! This is NOT to turn into an ugly debate thread about anything, just people looking for support and bit of propping up after they get AF, have yet another friend have an unplanned pregnancy saying they dont want it, have terrible AF pains, another negative test after you were SURE you were pregnant etc - so many ups and downs! Vent away! ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:18am
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Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:28am
I have the period from hell and I have run out of tampons. I think it goes without saying that my DH's idea about designing one out of a pen and tissues did not go down too well this morning! 
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:30am
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good one Booboo those who are TTC need a place to say what they want without others who it is not aimed at getting upset...
So my vent is....4+ yrs later & still no BFP time to give up is nearing.. |
Posted By: KarenMae
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:42am
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LOL LR!!!!!!
Or should I say LR DH....  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: sweetpea
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:45am
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Definately Like.
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:53am
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LOL oh dear about your DH's idea! Classic. Sorry that your having a really bad AF! SHE SUCKS!
Yep for sure Jazzy - it definately has its ups and downs thats for sure - even if its a small journey its still up and down eh! Oh Jazzy, I didnt realise it was 4 years! Have you been to the doctor about it? My vent is - I know that its best to relax while TTC and all that - but seriously how on earth do you relax and not think about it?! Freaking impossible! Yah for likers! Wish there was a like post here! ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: _Lou_
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:53am
Awesome idea!! 
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Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:56am
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Oh and copy and paste from my other thread now that we are in the "safe" zone.......
I am so sick of people whinging about their pregnancies and babies on Facebook!!! Grrrrrrrrrrr I want to slap them and make them realize how lucky they are!!!  Jazzy and Booboo
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Posted By: KarenMae
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:58am
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I just thought of a vent.
FF is my vent. It said I had OV'd on CD13. I got all excited that my cycle had gone normal after late OV CD23 last time. Then temps dipped consistently. Now it says I have OV'd on CD23 again. So I went on the TWW wait thread, had to go off it, and now back on it. So my TWW will end up being close on a month. Bummer. And I'm all hormonal and kept crying watching the X Factor last night. Bummer (for DH) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 11:58am
And thanks Jazzy for suggesting this thread fantastic idea! Cant wait to look back in here once we all have BFPs and laugh about our struggles! Does that make sense?  ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: sweetpea
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 12:10pm
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why on earth is my cycle length changing all the time why can't it go back to being reliable like it used to be urghhh. I am sure its one of the many reasons as to why i am refusing to get off the fence that i currently have made a home on. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 12:16pm
ha ha LR your DH sure can invent & you can even use it to write on your shopping list MUST BUY TAMPONS...when I fell pg with DS1 I had just bought several packs so had 40 of them them I did not need & now I put of buying them just in case, ha ha
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Posted By: peaches21
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 12:43pm
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So am I allowed to vent about AF?
Here I was waiting for the arrival of the witch all happy when she turned up yesterday so we can start our 12th month of trying then all last night I was kept awake by flooding and clots. I think it must be a result of the colp I had but seriously I am already sick to death of AF!! Having to result to using a pad AND tampon now! GRRRRRRRRRRRRR  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: CarleyRose
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 12:57pm
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Awww hugs everyone!
I'm just frustrated that now just gone over 2 years and still no BFP!!
This was a real good idea! ------------- TTC Sept08 July10 FS APP ICSI#1 BFN-No frosties ICSI#2 BFN-2 Frosties FET-8th August - BFP 20/8/12 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Panda289
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:03pm
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i hate the questions re when are we going to have kids which started straight after our wedding in February. Been trying for 6 months with no results people!!
(not going to tell them that though.. would probably get a lot worse )
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:04pm
Of course you can! Thats what this thread is for to vent about TTC, the fact that its not happening, the fact that you have AF, how terrible AF is - anything you want! HUGE hugs too, having AF sux but its doubly worse when its painful! ETA - Yes! I know what you mean! Were coming up our 5th wedding anniversary and have gotten it so much of the years - I feel like saying we are bloody trying but its not happening OK! ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
peaches21 wrote:Posted By: astral_monkey
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:17pm
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I'm sick of waiting! I'm sick of thinking about it! I'm sick of feeling like the last 2 years were a waste because I wasn't even ovulating! I'm sick of worrying that we're never going to get a BFP, and even if we do we might lose the baby. I'm sick of wondering if there's more stuff wrong than just the PCOS, and why can't they test for everything instead of waiting all the time.
I'm sick of thinking about holding my baby, and knowing that it may never happen. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  |
Posted By: peaches21
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:17pm
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Hugs to everyone in here! To be honest I think the whole TTC thing SUCKS! Been trying for 2 years but actively (charting, tests etc) for 12 months now! GRRRRR now that AF is being a right royal cow today has put me in a terrible modd. I think if we don't get results this time round then might take a break and just see what happens. Just so sick of it all. I don't feel very good complaining about a year of actively trying though because there is many of you that have been trying a lot longer and I really feel what you are going through. Big hugs go out to everyone!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:18pm
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No vents (obviously )
just wanted to "like " the thread, great idea and sprinkle lots and lots and LOTS of baby dust for everyone . and send lots and lots of hugs to those of you having a hard time
I have my fingers and toes crossed for all of you xoxox ------------- 
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Posted By: Anja22
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:34pm
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Just wanted to say what a great idea this is Booboo
I will never forget how frustrating, devasating, emotionally exhausting and just plain unfair TTC is. So am sending you all lots of hugs and a sprinkling of baby dust for each and every one of you. GL and I'll be your cheerleader all the way ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2b4a60 - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:36pm
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And just because I knew you were all sitting there worrying......I now have tampons! YUUSSS!!
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:36pm
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:36pm
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Thanks cant really claim it though cause it was Jazzy's idea - but thanks anyway I thought it was a super good idea too!
LR - Oh we are so glad you have tampons now and dont have to revert to your DH's amazing new idea hahaha Sometimes it helps just to vent it out there and know that everyone is in the same position type thing. So heres a question for you guys - what do you do when AF arrives? Do you deal with it in chocolate? I use to but now I want to deal with it in other ways! Last month I had a facial - it was bliss and definately took away the gutted feeling I had about AF! Thats very rude Fleur - people have no right saying that sort of stuff! ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:39pm
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I'm a dirty lurker, too.
It took me 18 months to get pregnant with Hannah, so I can completely sympathise with you all! LR, I hear ya on the facebook stuff. I'm glad I wasn't on FB while trying to get pregnant with Hannah, or I'd have lost my mind
Although, I have to say, having two kids now and seeing posts like that kinda irks me, too. I'm damn lucky to have my kids, so seeing constant whining makes me sad 
Anyway. I wish you all luck. it's a tough road sometimes, but it's worth the perserverance.  ------------- 
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:41pm
Awww Charly your so lovely thanks for the hope to us all! And its awesome to see people like you that took a while for the 1st - but BANG for the second - I hope we are like that!
ETA - 162 views already?! ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: peaches21
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:47pm
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My way of dealing with AF: chocolate, cleaning and very loud rock music!!! I'm sure the neighbours are going to complain shortly lol ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:47pm
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:51pm
*lurker in * you will, haha cos your'e gonna have twins ;-) -------------
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Posted By: astral_monkey
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 1:56pm
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Oh my god, a woman at work just announced she is UTD with #2 (via email, thankfully she's not in the office today.)
There are not many people in our office, and very few woman, so I imagine I will be hearing a lot about pregnancy/babies for the foreseeable future. Sarcastic Yay. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> |
Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 2:02pm
To warn her away 
and... 
 
Baby Dust and
ETA added more baby dust... -------------   
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Posted By: sweetpea
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 2:02pm
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i too hate the comments i seem to get regarding when are you having kids. Dh has developed a strategy for this he either says to the people asking " are you paying for them" or his latest one is "some people can't have children you know" the last one definately shuts them up and makes them really uncomfortable. People should just mind their own business what you choose to do with your life is your business not theirs.
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 2:04pm
I LIKE those answers! Babe - awesome love the pictures thanks! Very cool ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: KarenMae
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 2:07pm
LR - I'm glad the pen didn't end up having to go where it wasn't meant to be...   ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: sweetpea
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 2:13pm
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hmm i don't think a pen would be that absorbant let alone uncomfy. i'm shuddering at that thought now. ------------- http://daisypath.com">
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 2:50pm
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Hahaha.
My vent is about myself - why cant I remember to take my temperature?! IDIOT! ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 2:58pm
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LOL LOL LOL LOVE this thread already!!!
My vent for the day ........Having a nurse in training doing my internal scan today  Ugh Uncomfortable much ! and when the she says push on her stomach "a little" dont push down hard it fricken hurts !!------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Panda289
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 3:16pm
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i am a little ashamed to say this thread made me a little teary, its a hard journey but we are all supporting each other which is so great because i would not know what to do with out OB,
Plus when i read about some of you getting BFPs after a very long wait (CaliandJack and MamaPickle) it gives me hope. Booboo, i always forget to temp too!! FF gets annoyed at me with this i think.. thats why its decided to get me to freak out and show that i ovulated on CD12 ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 5:44pm
i like those answers as well! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 5:47pm
I agree i dont know what i would do without OB TMI- I cant believe DP wouldnt go for his test! his doesnt want to cum into a jar doesnt he know that females have to do WAY worse then that!!!!!!!!!! oh but he does want a baby he just needs to get over himself ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 6:49pm
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[QUOTE=Booboo]Awww Charly your so lovely thanks for the hope to us all! And its awesome to see people like you that took a while for the 1st - but BANG for the second - I hope we are like that! That was us Booboo...ages for Clodagh and a oncer for this one -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 7:01pm
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ladies I hope it happens for you all soon! TTC is so so hard as it's something you want so bad but have absolutley no control over! That was one of the hardest things I found during our 1st journey, well that the hope, up's and coming crashing down and it just not happening.
I'm lucky enough to be on the other end of it now and can I say it is totally worth it once you get that bundle in your arms although I know it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel sometimes I know all you ladies will get your miracles, I'm keeping my fingers crossed it's sometime soon for you all!
On the note of people asking...I got asked all the time when I was having kids and after years of it I just ended up telling people we couldn't have them so are going to try mixing them up in the lab...they didn't ask again after that That was until we had DS and then they started asking when we were having number 2...I kid you not and these were people who knew what we went through to get pregnant with DS!!
so after that novel I will appoligise for it lol as I just came in here to offer hugs and sympathy and sprinkle baby dust on my way out ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: balcy1
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 9:31pm
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When people ask me when we are having kids, Im just straight up with them and say.. "We are on the IVF waiting list" Its the best way to get them to shut up and not ask anymore questions.
As for when I get AF - I usually hang out by myself for the day and cry! As I dont work, its easy for me to do this. Then by day 2, Im ready to look at it as yet another chance, and hope for the new cycle. And my vent - I hate TTCing, I hate AF, I hate cramps, I hate Clomid, I hate taking temps... But I love my partner and I love my son, and just have to remember that I am blessed to have them both. Ahhhh... that feels better... LOL ------------- http://lilyslim.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 03 September 2010 at 9:58pm
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What a great idea! Wish someone had thought of it ages ago!!!!!!! -------------   
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Posted By: JaneW
Date Posted: 05 September 2010 at 11:13am
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Hey guys,
Gteat idea for a thread! I usually post on the infertility thread but every now and then have a lurk over here lol. LittleRed I just read through all of the posts on your Grrr thread and just wanted to give you a , I can't believe it turned into such a huge thing! Obviously you weren't trying to offend anyone but merely having a good old vent as we all need to sometimes.And I for one have days where I'm over seeing all the FB updates too!
Oh and LMAO about your Dh's entreprenuerial idea involving the pen and tissues hehe, I'm dreadful for never being prepared when AF arrives. Anyway don't have any specific vent at the moment but just wanted to say good on you for starting this thread where ttc'ers can vent away without offending/being judged by anyone! I shall be back if i have a crap day hehe... |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 05 September 2010 at 12:53pm
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Am I allowed to come vent sometimes too? Took 18 months to concieve DS so I know how crappy it can be but I feel bad trying for number2 when lots of ladies who were there when I was trying still have not gotten their bfp. I do love seeing long term ttc get them tho, makes me smile :-)
My vent is at those silly men out there who won't get a test done to check their swimmers...stoopid heads..I know one lady who has been trying for ages but her hubby just got checked now . must be frustrating. ------------- 
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 05 September 2010 at 2:02pm
it is! mine got tested but has to do another and i dont think that he is very going to do it!!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 05 September 2010 at 5:20pm
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GREAT thread idea!!!
I don't think I have anything to vent right now but I have to say it is nice or maybe comforting is a better word to come across people who have been trying to get pregnant for a long period and know what that feels like. Its nearly 12mths for us and its be quite a roller coaster ride. When AF arrives I am usually quite hormonal so tears can be expected - not necessarily because she's arrived just cos I can't actually help it lol! I tend to just expect her to arrive now so don't get as disappointed will just be a major shock if she finally decided not to arrive for a change! As for people's questions...my DH usually pulls out some sort of line which involves him firing blanks...(not that he's been tested yet). Happy venting everyone! |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 05 September 2010 at 8:25pm
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Grr at him _H_. silly males huh.
It is a real roller coaster ride, and so not fair that it can take so long for some people. -------------
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Posted By: trouble06
Date Posted: 05 September 2010 at 9:19pm
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Hi - hope you ladies dont mind me joining in there - I am in aussie but prefer this site compared to aussie sites. What I am venting about is that in NZ we tried for about 2.5 years to get pregnant - doctors just said keep on trying blah blah blah and didnt take me seriously now in aussie went to doctor and did usual tests including swimmers and referred us onto specialist who said we do need IVF - if only we had known then ... luckily still only 35 so we are taking action. At least there is no waiting list over here for IVF but you do need to pay upfront and get majority of $$ back thank goodness.
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Posted By: trouble06
Date Posted: 05 September 2010 at 9:21pm
| Also ... the other thing that really vents me is people that ask dont leave it too late to have children ... you should really think about having a family .... gosh you have been married for 4 years dont you want children ... we just alugh it off and say at some stage ... I should really try the quote about the lab which I think noodle said ... it would have been priceless ... |
Posted By: KarenMae
Date Posted: 07 September 2010 at 9:46am
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My friend just had her second baby...
Vent = super fertile people - both times she conceived first time trying.... I want to be super fertile
Vent over!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: CarleyRose
Date Posted: 07 September 2010 at 11:58am
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Am really anoyed that any time i test it comes out BFN!!! Bloody BFP where are you!!!! ------------- TTC Sept08 July10 FS APP ICSI#1 BFN-No frosties ICSI#2 BFN-2 Frosties FET-8th August - BFP 20/8/12 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 07 September 2010 at 3:06pm
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Not TTC at the moment..but my vent is......people who fall pregnant and have babies......even though they are not at all fit to be parents. Totally sucks especially when there are other family members of that person who desperately want to be pregnant...and who genuinely would be awesome parents.... Give them their break already!!
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Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 07 September 2010 at 4:23pm
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Hi all!
Ok so today I have a vent.....the 2ww SUCKS!! On the one hand I'm excited to think this could be it..you know surely after nearly a year we must get a lucky break..but then I curse myself for getting excited because then the let down will be so much harder. Am trying to keep a good frame mind but I so just want next week to arrive! K that's all thanks for letting me vent! |
Posted By: Shine
Date Posted: 07 September 2010 at 7:37pm
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I also get asked all the time when we are going to have a baby.
A few months ago an old work mate asked if I was pregnant yet and when I replied that I wasn't she said I'm sure you are trying through!!! ummmm no not trying but thanks for asking !!!!!! I would never ask someone when they are going to have a baby. It would never cross my mind unless it was my sister or a really close friend. |
Posted By: astral_monkey
Date Posted: 08 September 2010 at 2:17pm
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DH's cousin just had her baby (number 2). When DH told me I paused then said "bitch", DH laughed, made me feel better.
Also, a woman at work just announced her accidental UTDness, I text DH about it "Sally* just announced she's up the duff". DH text me back "as in your aunt?" It wasn't until then I realised Sally* has the same name as my aunt (a 55yr old, about to go in for a heart bypass, who ripped off my family for thousands of dollars and who we all hate). DH is terrible at saying the right thing, but in that instant, completely unintentionally he cheered me up. The mental image of my old psycho aunt being UTD made me want to laugh out loud. * Names have been changed to protect the innocent. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> |
Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 08 September 2010 at 3:32pm
| Astral - thats a friggin crack up! Your DH sounds like just the man you need in your life. |
Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 08 September 2010 at 6:10pm
AF is due in the next couple of days  i cant handle this ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: CarleyRose
Date Posted: 08 September 2010 at 7:01pm
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Hugs H!
[>:D ------------- TTC Sept08 July10 FS APP ICSI#1 BFN-No frosties ICSI#2 BFN-2 Frosties FET-8th August - BFP 20/8/12 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Bobsta
Date Posted: 08 September 2010 at 7:49pm
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..and some more hugs coming your way H
and this is for stupid bloody AF ------------- Me 34 Him 35 DD almost 2 years old and... Baby #2 on it's way! http://www.babygaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Brizzle
Date Posted: 09 September 2010 at 8:05am
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Great thread all. My vent today (although I think I have lots) is my stupid mental state..... I just don't know how to feel and it's exhausting.
One minute I feel all positive and 'this will happen for us', next minute I'm so down and negative and cursing myself and DH for not trying as soon as I'd had my laparoscopy (there's 18 months wasted!); one minute I'm hating all my friends/relations who get pregnant by accident or first time and the next minute I remember I love them and shouldn't be so mean. One minute I'm terrified everytime the phone rings that it's someone else ringing to say they're pregnant and the next I want to talk to people because I'm sad about not being utd yet and need my friends. Oh dear....this ttc thing is hard and we haven't been at it that long. Much respect to all you long term ttc-ers ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 09 September 2010 at 8:42am
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Totally get how that is Brizzle.
How long have you guys been ttc? |
Posted By: _Lou_
Date Posted: 09 September 2010 at 9:16pm
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Awww Brizzle, you're in the right place to vent, vent away! Its a tough ride huh. I had a wee break down earlier cos I got AF yesterday... think I just felt like crying cos hormonal and it felt better to let it out. We all have to stay positive and believe it will happen for us. I'm gonna focus on exciting things for me and DH that don't involve babies to give us something fun to focus on.
Hope you get your BFP very soon
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Posted By: KarenMae
Date Posted: 10 September 2010 at 2:32pm
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Vent - at myself!!!!
Stop over analyzing and looking for early pregnancy symptoms!!!!! You will get more disappointed!!!!! Vent over ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: monkeys
Date Posted: 10 September 2010 at 2:43pm
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Oh Karen I hear you!!! Thy shalt not get consumed by getting UTD, that was my motto when we talked about starting to try again and that lasted...oh I think one night!! Then everything that goes on in my body I am analyzing but I am worse than you I analayse what my body is doing even before the TWW!! ------------- 3 little Angels July 10, May 11, Apr 13
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Posted By: JoNe81
Date Posted: 12 September 2010 at 8:18am
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Hi,
In some ways its nice to hear that Im not the only one who is going crazy - evey little twinge I think oh that a pregnancy symptom and then I get so upset when AF arrives. We have been trying for 8 months I went to the Dr when we first started trying and he did do some blood tests and said everything was fine - go forth and multiply!!grrr. Vent over
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 12 September 2010 at 9:45am
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GRRRRRRRR i wish people would stop asking when DP and i are having kids! drives me crazy beucase i just have to smile and say some day (we are still young enough to use that one) but all i want to do is shout at the top of my voice WE ARE F**KING TRYING OK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Bobsta
Date Posted: 12 September 2010 at 11:56am
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Oh I know what you mean H!!! Don't you hate it? It just reminds you (like we need reminding ) that you're not pg even though you so desperately want to be.
A few months back I even had a few people that know I mc ask me when we are going to try again. Are you frickin kidding me? I mean it was only in May it happened and they ask me this in July!!! YOU NEVER ASK SOMEONE THAT HAD A MC WHEN THEY WILL TRY AGAIN. A BIG NO NO!!!
Man that felt good! ------------- Me 34 Him 35 DD almost 2 years old and... Baby #2 on it's way! http://www.babygaga.com/" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 12 September 2010 at 12:25pm
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H - we used to get asked that all the time, and in the end just turned around and said "well, we're doing our best but keeping them in there seems to be an issue" (I had recurrent m/c). Never got asked again - the peace was bliss.
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 13 September 2010 at 12:09pm
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ARGGGGGHHHHH I HATE this!
I wasnt too bad when I got AF this month - but now its getting to me! Its my birthday next month and ages ago DH said to me that I'll be pregnant by my birthday (hes so cute) and now that time has just come so quickly! And then yesterday at a family do, everyone was like oh come on you 2 be good for you to finally have a baby - so I just rubbed it off type thing and that made it worse! I just want a baby - NOW! Thank you, that is all. HUGS to all xx ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 13 September 2010 at 2:07pm
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Posted By: astral_monkey
Date Posted: 13 September 2010 at 2:12pm
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My vent for today - NOTHING IS HAPPENING!!!
Still got another week before I will most likely ovulate (hopefully, fingers crossed) and I'm sick of sitting, waiting for stuff to happen. I'm also sick of thinking how perfect it will be if I get my BFP this month. - The hockey season just ended so I don't have to worry about letting my team down. - DH & I will be in Melbourne around testing time (would totally make our holiday if we get a BFP). - Christmas is about 3 months away (we're not announcing anything until the 12 week mark, so great pressie for the hopeful grandparents). - I should be starting to show around DH's cousins wedding (will make DH happy as he thinks he'll upstage his cousin if I'm showing - she won't care, but it'll bug DH's aunt and that will make DH & his mum happy). - and EDD will be June which is my sisters b'day (we can totally steal her b'day from her and she'll think it's awesome cause she gets a lil niece or nephew). I know it sounds silly, but it all fits - which is why I know it isn't going to happen. *Sigh* ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> |
Posted By: thyme
Date Posted: 13 September 2010 at 4:24pm
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Hi everyone.Love this thread!! I almost started crying at work today when AF arrived.(actually I did start crying but sucked it up pretty promptly)
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Posted By: thyme
Date Posted: 13 September 2010 at 4:27pm
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Oh..and the way that EVERYONE has an opinion on how to get pregnant even though you didn't ask.
AND.. People asking "how's things?" and then staring at you with sympathetic eyes so you have no doubt about what they're really asking. Yep,love this thread!
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Posted By: _Lou_
Date Posted: 13 September 2010 at 5:41pm
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Lol, I couldn't agree more with this! I had a 3 year old tell me I was going to have babies soon! Not only adults asking, but now kids too! Oh and the man trying to sell me some blinds couldn't help telling me how great they are for babies...and I'm sure I caught him looking at my tummy... like WTF!!!!
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Posted By: peaches21
Date Posted: 15 September 2010 at 7:24pm
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two more friends got a BFP today
**SIGH**
don't get me wrong am sooo happy for them but when is it our turn ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: first
Date Posted: 16 September 2010 at 2:06pm
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Peaches I hear you. It is such an awful feeling feeling so upset when you really want to be happy for them.
I am just so grumpy at the fact that when we were on contraception we got pregnant and had our beautiful boy whom we think is the neatest kid in the world. Now that we are ready to have another its not happening. So not far. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Birdie
Date Posted: 16 September 2010 at 5:36pm
This happened after I had my mc Bobsta and its horrible. Then when I got UTD again those same people said "it took you long enough", WTF People have no idea...------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: mum2ollie
Date Posted: 16 September 2010 at 6:24pm
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After I had my m/c... as in the DAY after, a girl I consider a very closed friend said to me, Oh well, you can't really miss what you never had. You can try again. When will you start trying??
I just about died from the pain she managed to deliver me then. Anyway. I just wanted to have a little vent. f**k EVAP LINES. Thank you :) -------------   
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Posted By: Bobsta
Date Posted: 16 September 2010 at 6:33pm
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OMG Birdie, I think I would have actually slapped the person if that was me!
mum2ollie, vent away...your close friend needs a wake up call about what we go through and how hurtful that comment is. Grrrrr to stupid people that have no compassion or even a clue about what it's like to loose something so precious. ------------- Me 34 Him 35 DD almost 2 years old and... Baby #2 on it's way! http://www.babygaga.com/" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 16 September 2010 at 6:34pm
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Far out Mum2Ollie, I would of slapped her !!!
Hugs Grrrrrrrrrrr, Im so annoyed. Stupid body not doing what its designed to do!! ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: mum2ollie
Date Posted: 16 September 2010 at 6:36pm
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LadyBee, I feel like my body is failing big time!
All through school you get told that you can get pregnant so fricking easily. What a load of crap. -------------
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Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 16 September 2010 at 6:39pm
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Far out some people have no tact!
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Posted By: mum2ollie
Date Posted: 16 September 2010 at 6:49pm
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You never know how common M/c is until you get to join the crowd. And as much as I love the girls in the m/c thread (even though I mainly lurk), I'd be thrilled to not be in there.
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Posted By: mum2ollie
Date Posted: 16 September 2010 at 10:04pm
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One of my closet friends just told me she is UTD...
She wasn't even trying! I love her to bits and I'm so excited for her. But a little piece of me just breaks inside. -------------
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Posted By: babycrazy
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 7:19am
| mum2ollie - safe to say I feel your pain. Thinking of you :) |
Posted By: mum2ollie
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 8:22am
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Thanks babycrazy :) I had a good moan last night to DP which was lovely -------------
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 8:03pm
Lurker .... Im sorry , im just blown away by your friend's comment, what a cruel and heartless thing to say....I haven't been through a miscarriage but i've experienced loss and...omg , what an awful thing for her to say , like it just meant nothing....im so sorry
also, evap lines, I had one of those, although a few people said it was a chemical pregnancy, I've been reading your evap thread tho, and it all sounds very strange, I have my FX for you that your body is just doing some strange things and that your blood tests will have some good news for you -------------
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Posted By: mum2ollie
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 8:27pm
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Did you see the photo of the evap line? no one else has had one on the thread so they didn't know what it looked like.
It really hurt what that girl, Laura, said to me. I still haven't spoken to her. I just can't. -------------
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Posted By: Bobsta
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 9:17pm
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I was going to post this in 2WW but then thought this thread might be more appropriate...
I AM SICK OF ALL THIS BLOODY WAITING
I AM SICK OF SITTING HERE STARING AT MY CHARTING WILLING IT TO MAGICALLY TELL ME I AM UTD
I HATE THAT I CAN'T THINK ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE BUT TTC
I FEEL STUPID FOR DOING A HPT AT 8DPO ------------- Me 34 Him 35 DD almost 2 years old and... Baby #2 on it's way! http://www.babygaga.com/" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 9:26pm
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Grrrrrrrr im so mad im not UTD. I know we have only been trying a few cycles but still. I got pregnant 1st cycle last time but had a m/c. Bet it will be my luck it will take ages.
I want a baby now. It sucks having to wait so long to get pregnant, then its 9 long months until you finally get a baby lol. Its so hard. Sorry for my moan when i know you ladies have it harder
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Posted By: mum2ollie
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 9:53pm
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Bobsta - Gosh waiting sucks! It is so fricking horrible. Everyone says Relax! It'll happen. THEY HAVE NO FRICKING IDEA
Sabrina- moan all you want! TTC SUCKS. it is heartache and pain. I wish we all could get UTD as easily as a 16 year old teenage girl (I may have been that girl...) -------------
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Posted By: Bobsta
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 10:08pm
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Sabrina doesn't matter whether you are trying 3 months or 3 years. It's hard not getting UTD month after month. We all know how hard it is to go through the waiting for ov, the testing for ov, then more waiting for AF or BFP, then more testing hoping for a BFP but getting AF instead. Everyone single one of us deserves to have a whinge about when we need to. Don't ever think that you shouldn't whinge just because someone else has been trying for longer.
M2O - Relax? What is that? That word is no longer in my vocabulary ------------- Me 34 Him 35 DD almost 2 years old and... Baby #2 on it's way! http://www.babygaga.com/" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: mum2ollie
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 10:25pm
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! lol :)
One thing I love about TTC is getting to talk to everyone on here who knows every feeling you have and has been there. -------------
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 10:33pm
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omg mumtoOllie, what a horrible 'friend'! I had one that asked me when i got preg 2nd cycle after my first mc if I was 'really' preg this time... what, like I'd LIE about something so fricken painful as losing a baby we had planned and tried for! She wonders why I had nothing to say to her when she lost a baby she didnt even want the following year (again, she had the nerve to tell me she was preg, but didnt want to be... seriously?! Would you tell someone who had lost 2 much wanted pregnancies that you were UTD but didnt want it!?!) She is lucky i was finally preg and past the 12 weeks mark at that stage or I'd have ripped into her something fierce!
Needless to say... we arent friends anymore. ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 10:34pm
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M2O, I just had a look and I don't know how that can be an evap ...is it one of those tests with the plastic over the test window?
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Posted By: mum2ollie
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 10:35pm
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Yep. Cover on the window and a cap.
I tested the next day with a FR that has a cap and BFN. Checked it hours later and it had no evaps. -------------
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Posted By: mum2ollie
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 10:38pm
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Ohmygosh! Lisa I just read what you said! What a horrible person. Some people are so impossible it's not even funny. -------------
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 17 September 2010 at 10:39pm
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ohhh I never got an early BFP on FR with the caps til much later, only with the strip thingy ones ....I had heard that its less likely for evaps to come up if they have the plastic cover over the test window, i've read that in a few places .....
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