Do YOU get slightly jealous ?
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Topic: Do YOU get slightly jealous ?
Posted By: peaches21
Subject: Do YOU get slightly jealous ?
Date Posted: 28 July 2010 at 4:20pm
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Does anyone tend to get slightly jealous when someone you know announces their pregnany? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: astral_monkey
Date Posted: 28 July 2010 at 4:21pm
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Yes! Found out today a friend from high school is UTD. Bitch. Lol. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  |
Posted By: peaches21
Date Posted: 28 July 2010 at 4:22pm
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it's a little heartbreaking really. Maybe I am just too competitive. I know 3 people in labour right now and another 4 that are UTD ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 28 July 2010 at 5:22pm
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slightly jealous, no. Hugely jealous yes! Everytime someone says they are UTD another little bit of my heart breaks ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 28 July 2010 at 5:49pm
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Yes yes yes and yes especially when they say oh it only took one time! Or oh it was a mistake! Lol.
But I dont ever get jealous of the girls on here that get their BFPs weither its been a long time for them or short I just never get jealous off here! Wish that it could be me yes but never jealous. ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: peaches21
Date Posted: 28 July 2010 at 6:09pm
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yes especially the ones who aren't trying ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 28 July 2010 at 6:11pm
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Yep i hard out get jealous.
I also have a few friends that are trying but havent had a baby yet and i will feel stink if i get pregnant first -------------  
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Posted By: Leahsmummy
Date Posted: 28 July 2010 at 7:26pm
Yep one of my close friends told us a couple of months ago and i cried!!!  Jealous much!!! -------------   
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Posted By: snugglebug
Date Posted: 28 July 2010 at 8:31pm
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I used to, I couldn't help it it's like H said every time I heard someone got pregnant my heart broke a little, not because I didn't want it for them but because I wanted it for myself so so badly. It is so tough. ------------- Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Brizzle
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 7:25am
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Yep yep yep. Know what ya mean ladies! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peaches21
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 9:57am
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two of my friends had baby boys last night, haven't back about the other one yet though. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: heaf3
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 10:14am
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yes totally. and i think its very normal to feel that way.
SIL announced that she was preg again about 7 weeks ago and ive hardly spoken to her since, and we were really close too. it hurts. but im like booboo, not jealous when someone on here gets a bfp, just more wishing it was me. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 10:18am
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Yes, didn't you know becoming a mother and being a mother is a competitive sport. Well at least I didn't until I started TTC. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: CarleyRose
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 10:26am
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Yes, its started to get harder after 2 years of trying!!
I just found out the other day that my good friend got pregnant (she goes out with my Husbands brother, she has one child and he has three, both to different people) and she had an abortion. It really really crushed me, to know ive been trying foe ages and yet someone can just get UTD by mistake and have an abortion  ------------- TTC Sept08 July10 FS APP ICSI#1 BFN-No frosties ICSI#2 BFN-2 Frosties FET-8th August - BFP 20/8/12 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 10:26am
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I was sooo jealous of people getting UTD, I hated how bitter it made me. I was also really jealous of people on here getting there BFPs, still happy for them, but definitely jealous too... I felt peed off spending so long in the charting thread and seeing so many people come and go and wondering why it wouldn't happen for me.... TTC is horrid! ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 10:35am
yip that's how I feel |
freckle wrote:Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 10:57am
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I feel like everyone I know is preggers right now lol. I get so clucky but not neccesarly jealous. I guess since I already have the girls I feel pretty blessed. Give it 6 months though if I'm not preggers by then I may start getting a little jealous hehe -------------  
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 11:11am
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Yup, totally! Especially after my mc.... I even was jealous of my bf who announced her first pg a few months before this pg... I already had a baby and had only just started TTC number 2 but I was so upset...
Sad thing is I am jealous of people who get pg first go (both her and my sil did) and who never had a mc.... I wouldnt wish the pain on anyone but am jealous that pg is innocent and wonderful for them and that I had to suffer such pain. I am such a cow  -------------   
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 11:16am
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Mel - that doesn't make you a cow at all!!! being jealous doesn't mean you're wishing bad things on them, it means you wish you had it that way ? I would think that's perfectly natural.... and wow nearly 30 weeks!! ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 11:32am
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Yup jealousy is an ugly beast, I remember when I was charting and was getting jealous of those TTC #2 when I was TTC #1, thinking well at least they've got a baby already. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: TwinnyBump
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 11:36am
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Yip I think we all feel that way! I don't get jealous of the girls on OB, it more in RL!!! I get jealous of people that have 'accidents'... why can't it be that easy for all of us!!!
And having suffered a mc I know the innocence has gone and I will worry until that 12week scan... it sucks!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 11:39am
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Yeah I used to be jealous of people who had one baby and were trying for another and they were getting cross after a couple of months with not getting BFP...I was like what have you got to complain about!! I cried a few times when people got their BFPs...nothing wrong with that, better to get the emotion out than bottle it in if you ask me.
Now I am one of those people with a baby ttc and feel really stink sometimes coming on here!! I always love seeing tickers for people who have been ttc for ages  ------------- 
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Posted By: KarenMae
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 12:12pm
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Totally jealous - another friend announced they were expecting last night!!!
I'm even kinda jealous of my husband.... he has a lovely 9 yo daughter and she was an accident - conceived while on the pill..... no fair!!!! |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 12:26pm
I am a cow too then. I only had a threatened MC so not for that reason, but I find a little bit of me gets mad when people have lovely births. I don't wish my kind of birth on anyone, but still... I guess its kinda how come they were so lucky and I wasn't------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: shadowfeet
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 12:53pm
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I get jealous, and we're waiting to TTC. But am always happy to see tickers from long-term TTC or waiting to TTC'ers ------------- 
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Posted By: peaches21
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 1:56pm
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In all fairness I do have 3 kids (from a previous relationship) but since being with my new DH and with nothing happening it is a little heart breaking with all these people around me getting UTD. DH loves the kids to bits but I know he would absolutely love one of his own that's why we are trying so hard. But yet nothing happens. I even get a little upset when people I know but don't really talk to much get UTD. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: ooligator
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 5:03pm
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Yes, and the longer it takes to conceive, the harder it hurts every time you hear of another person. I don't begruge anyone their BFP's if they're wanted, but it just reminds me that I haven't got one, and why does my body have to be the one that isn't working properly, when "everyone else" seems to conceive quickly.
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 5:06pm
I was exactly the same first time around and believe me I felt SOOOO guilty when I got my bfp with number 2 and there were and still are people still in there..some who have been trying since I was TTC Jake! -------------
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 5:11pm
Ditto to this too, I wouldnt wish my labour/birth on anyone either but man it really gets to me when I hear of all these lovely easy births... Just cant do anything right 
Oh and thanks Frecks... but I do sometimes wish it had happened to them and not me... hence feeling like a cow (though at the same time I would never want it to iygwim)... jealousy is ugly business! -------------
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 8:22pm
I MC'd at 13 weeks in 2009 and it was my mums big 50th birthday bash and I had to go. Nobody knew I was pregnant or having an MC and my cousin announced her pregnancy. I was shattered. My DP is wonderful though and he just kept me together while I acted happy and congratulated them then he held me all night while I grieved. It was the second time it had happened - I'd MC'd in 2008 and 2 days afterwards my best friend told me she was pregnant  I was only 9 weeks along that time and again only DP and I knew, but still sucked.
Other than that I wasn't jealous of people getting BFPs but I can understand why you'd feel that way. -------------   
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Posted By: snugglebug
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 8:36pm
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This jealousy thing is so weird... since I've been pregnant and heard other people are pregnant Ive felt a bit jealous and I couldn't for the life of me tell you why! It's almost like you get programmed to feel that! ------------- Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 8:53pm
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OMG Lisa I'm the same, and I totally don't get it.... I think it must be the excitment of when ya first find out kinda thing... or yeah we're just programmed like that now ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 9:55pm
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I get VERY jealous. -------------  Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 10:12pm
| I'm going to go against the grain with this one. I can honestly say that I never get jealous and I have friends popping out babies all over the place. I'm not sure why that is, I just know I'm happy with everything right now. I know I will have a baby one day but I try to live in the 'right now' and enjoy the moment and the things I have rather than focussing on what I don't have. Sorry, rambling now..... |
Posted By: peaches21
Date Posted: 29 July 2010 at 11:03pm
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Thats really sad Babe - oh my you must have gone through a really tough time. I'm so sorry ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: KarenMae
Date Posted: 30 July 2010 at 9:01am
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I'm very sad for your loss Babe - that is about the worst thing you can go through.
My mum had the same thing happen to her - went away with a group of friends right after MC and her best friend announced she was preggers - tried to keep away from her for the whole weekend.... it still is a painful memory even now, 35 years later. Big hugs to you!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: cruzychic
Date Posted: 01 August 2010 at 8:16am
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I'm ashamed to say that I to get jealous. Lately everytime I run into someone from high school they have a baby under six months or are due to pop and none of them are planned. I find myself avoiding the topic of ttc lately as it makes me angry jealous and hurt I even get jealous of some of the lovely ladies on here sometimes who all fully deserve their BFP'S ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2af0d8" rel="nofollow">  TTC since October 2009 Diagnosed with PCOS June 2010 |
Posted By: snugglebug
Date Posted: 01 August 2010 at 9:30am
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I don't think anyone should feel guilty about feeling jealous. When you want something soooooo badly more than anything you've ever wanted, you can't help but feel that way. It's not like you're feeling jealous because you don't want others to get pregnant, you just really want that to be you and thats so natural. Jealousy is not a nice emotion but it's one we have, so I don't think you need to feel bad. It's all just part of this difficult journey. ------------- Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 01 August 2010 at 11:46am
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Lisa and Frecks I am the same.. DH SIL is about 3 months behind me and when I found out instead of being excited I was really upset about it.. I dont know why!!!!!!
I keep forcing myself to be happy for them, reminding myself its a new little cousin for Jake and Thumper.. I wish I didnt feel this way! -------------
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Posted By: snugglebug
Date Posted: 01 August 2010 at 3:16pm
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Mel Ive got 2 cousins who are both 12 weeks, and I should be happy for them but it annoyed me they had to go and pregnant when it was my 'turn' lol I don't know why it annoyed me, it doesn't really affect me we aren't close. Us females can be so irrational. It sucks. ------------- Me 28, DH 29 DS born 20 Nov 2010 (4 years old) #2 due October 7 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 01 August 2010 at 9:13pm
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When I was pregnant with C , my best and oldest friend got pregnant when I was about 7 months pregnant , and I was sooooo jealous, I was convinced she had done it on purpose because she was jealous of me getting the attention and now that she was pregnant , everyone would forget about me , and only care about her .
That didn't happen tho , and C and her daughter are bestest friends, so it worked out well ... But at the time, oooh yeah , I was jealous ! ------------- 
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Posted By: rachb
Date Posted: 07 August 2010 at 7:14pm
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I thought that it was just weird that I was envious/jealous of others round me that were getting pregnant, we have just had 2 girls at work that have left to have babies and now there are another 2 who have just found out they are pregnant.
Babies are just everywhere at the moment, oh well I will have my turn soon ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 07 August 2010 at 8:17pm
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CC i think we are the age where a lot of people are getting UTD. Everytime i look on facebook someone new is UTD (and that isnt counting the OB girls)
my boss is pregnant and everytime she complains about being fat i want to scream at her that she is actually pregnant and should enjoy the miracle of her baby growing inside her! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: cruzychic
Date Posted: 07 August 2010 at 8:25pm
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i know what you mean H it just seems unfair sometimes how all the other people I know are falling pg just like that or by accident and we can't. I have a cynical friend who has said The "good things that come to those who wait" are really just leftovers from people who got there first, sorry. Sometimes it feels that way ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2af0d8" rel="nofollow"> TTC since October 2009 Diagnosed with PCOS June 2010 |
Posted By: balcy1
Date Posted: 17 August 2010 at 10:56pm
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Jealous is an understatement.
I cry everytime I hear of someone getting pregnant, and then again when their babies are born. I cant help thinking, "why cant it be my turn?" My BFF has just had baby #2, and we both starting trying for #1 at the same time. I know I am blessed to have a son already. But when he was a "Surprise" pregnancy, I never would have thought it would take this long TTC for #2. ------------- http://lilyslim.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 11:15am
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Yup know how you all feel! We have just had 1 baby born to a mate (They werent trying & she drank during the pregnancy) and we have another 5 due before March.
DF kept saying we need to do this, or we need to do that before we start trying. I've finally put my foot down & set a date, otherwise we'll never be 'ready' ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: BabyRixon
Date Posted: 20 September 2010 at 12:31pm
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Yeah everyone around me seems to be UTD. You know - the couples not trying. My single friend who is "not sure" with whom she conceived! And DP numerous cousins
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Posted By: CrazyCass
Date Posted: 22 September 2010 at 12:09pm
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Yup it certainly seams to be the people that aren't trying that its happening for - and then they dont appreciate it.
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