Scared....
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Topic: Scared....
Posted By: BeLoved
Subject: Scared....
Date Posted: 05 July 2010 at 8:38am
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Am I being irrational and abnormal? We have finally decided when we will start to TTC number 2 and I really really want another baby but I am so scared of the whole process. It took us nearly a year to fall PG with DD (while everyone else around us fell PG) then I had a pretty hard pregnancy with contractions and hospitalisation at 28 weeks, then gestational diabetes (which is 99% guaranteed to comeback next pregnancy) then induced early due to GD and then DD had terrible silent reflux and screamed non stop for the first few months.....these things freak me out, but then I think of all the things I was so lucky with no MS, quick easy straightforward birth (minus the induction of course) DD slept through early once reflux was under control and has been a easy chilled out baby/toddler so far.
Is what I am feeling normal? If it was not for certain circumstances we would probably have started TTC by now but when DH is away so much it does have to be planned in more ways than one, and I think because I have had so much time to think about it, I am freaking myself out. My biggest fear I think is that it will take a year which we don't even have as DH won't even be around. Sorry for the long post I think I just needed to get that off my chest. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: mollymoo
Date Posted: 05 July 2010 at 8:44am
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Heidi's mum- best of luck with ttc #2. just remember the enormous reward you get once your little bubba is born. and i think the reality is if you don't get some of those things happening again, you'll probably end up with something else going on. maybe try as hard as it is to look at the positives and think well you'll be able to pick up on any of things early cos you've had them before and will know what to do about it. best of luck hun. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 05 July 2010 at 9:09am
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Each time is so different. Remember the pregnancy is only for 9 months so while it sucks to be in that time it is only for a short period, all the thing except the GD may not happen again.
Have you considered charting? So you are more aware & in "control" of the whole process? ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 05 July 2010 at 9:09am
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Being scared re #2....hell yes, it's a logical feeling. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 05 July 2010 at 9:30am
Hi Heidismum, I think the feelings you have are normal, and as AandCsmum said Charting will help you get you timing right with TTC#2 and give you a better overall look at how your cycles are, its really easy and all the girls in the charting thread are there to help 
GL ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: MrsMJD
Date Posted: 05 July 2010 at 11:06am
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GD might not happen again. A friend of mine had GD with her first pregnancy (as well as a truckload of other problems) but her 2nd time round she was much more aware and careful with the risk of GD and had a fairly easy pregnancy compared to her first. Her midwife was so pleased with her cause as soon as she got pregnant she started following the info the diabetes nurses gave her the first time round and was totally fine no sign of GD AT ALL! Knowledge is power! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 05 July 2010 at 11:30am
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Thanks for the kind words everyone, I think just writing it down helped me realise I am being silly.
With the GD mine is not caused by weight just most likely genetics so I have been advised by the GD team at Auckland hospital that it will be back as I cannot do anything to actually stop it like lose weight, but at least I will be mentally prepared for it next time around.  ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 05 July 2010 at 2:04pm
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I had 3 difficult pregnancy's & births but the desire to have a baby outweighed any previous problems.
My last 2 were both GD pg & the amount of times I had to stab myself with needles a day still did not put me off from having one more go. At least you know what can happen & not every pg is the same so mentally you will be prepared. The result is totally worth it & I think no matter how many kids you have it is still a scary process. |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 05 July 2010 at 2:11pm
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I should be an expert at the scared thing. Daniel was really a breeze in that it didn't take much (one time) to get preg and I didn't have complications or anything... then...
I had an ectopic so every pregnancy I freak out wondering if its gonna be another ectopic since I still have my tube.. One that freak out is over with I get to freak out about fetal abnormalities.. And now my freak out is currently any time I hear mention of chicken pox since I've not had them *sigh* I think its normal to be scared but I will say this is it for me! Had enough of being scared and wanna get on with my boys. |
Posted By: Nextbub
Date Posted: 05 July 2010 at 2:46pm
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HeidisMum, try turning your thinking into something positive eg You have been through it all before so at least this time you are not going into unknown territory.
You can mentally prepare yourself for it. You now know about GD and how to deal with it and what it involves. (And there is a positive to having an earlish bubs as they are smaller for longer  )
You now know the signs of reflux and how to help a baby that has it and you'll be able to get onto treatment a lot sooner. I can't offer advice with the time it took you to get pregnant as thats my biggest fear too. With my first two I fell pregnant straight away and I'm scared that that won't happen when we start trying next month. I'm trying not to build my hopes up that it will happen straight away but thats hard to do and I know I'll be really disappointed if it doesn't. For me with my second I wasn't scared with the whole thing as I'd already experienced it and therefore I had more confidence to do it again. |
Posted By: CaitlinsMummy
Date Posted: 04 August 2010 at 9:33pm
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Hey Aimee, I have to say ive been having exactly the same thoughts!
I never had a tough pregnancy by any means! but because when I got pregnant with Caitlin it was a massive shock, we weren't even trying, let alone even considering having children. Now that we are about to start TTC #2 im finding it really hard to get my head around and actually say right we are going to try and have another baby.. it scares me making the decision! Although im excited about possibly having another one as i'm loving having caitlin and she's sooo much fun. Its a weird feeling to describe I guess. But I hope for you that this time it will all go alot easier for you! just remember we'll be here for you right through again, and possibly both in the same city at the same time too hehe! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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